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He's going away!
19/F
I'm currently in a relationship with a great guy, and it's been about 8 months now. We're living together.
I have to go away to work for the summer, and so does he; he's in the army reserves. We'll be apart for 3 months, which I was okay with.
This morning, though, he dropped a bombshell on me. Apparently he was asked if he wants to go to Afghanistan to work as a duty officer (it's an on-base job, pretty much staff rotation). We talked it over, and we agreed that it might be a good idea for us. The money will allow us to start our lives together, and it's a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
I just can't get over my sadness at him being gone. He'll be gone for about a year and a half as of September. I'm willing to wait until the end of the earth for him, but I'm still really upset and worried for his safety.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? I guess I just need some words of inspiration to get me through this.
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i havent been in this position, but many other people have.
i dont know if youd be intrested but there is Å good called "Chicken Soup for the Military wifes soul" and its like all inspirational stories. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
maybe you could get together with other people who know men going into the army. you could make it like Å support group. if the people live far away you could email or call.
get busy with your work
and remember that he WILL be okay
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I've been in that position. Like Killerface, my boyfriend was also in the Marines. He went to Iraq for two 6 month periods. The first period isn't even up yet, and he should be home in July.
Although I'm not with him anymore, it was hard. I've had 2 friends go to Iraq & not come home because of death. I was concerned with his safety as well because I was very much untrusting of what has been happening over there.
There was a time when I actually thought he was dead because I didn't hear from him for months. However, he's okay & he'll be home soon. I realize you're worried, but your boyfriend has been trained for these things & he'll be alright. He's strong, well-trained & he knows what he's doing. They don't send them over there knowing nothing, so please don't worry. I'm sure if anything does happen [which I'm sure nothing will] he'll arm himself properly & do what he needs to do to stay alive.
Please also take into mind that you might not always get a phone call. I'm not sure what time zone you live in, but I'm in New York, so I'm in the Eastern Time. Iraq is 8 hours ahead of my time, so depending on where you live, they could be 9, 10 or 11 hours ahead. Because of such a drastic time difference, it'll be harder to call because he's going to forget what time it is where you live & he'll never know whether you're awake or not. But all in all, I'm sure he'll be fine. No worries. =)
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Oh god, honey. I can't say it from the girlfriend's pov, but my brother's in the marines. He's been to all over the place. Most recently, it's been Djbouti, Africa for 9 months and he's leaving for Iraq in September.
You will miss him like all hell, I assure you. There will be alot of crying, and several days spent just moping around, but when it all comes down to it-- if he signed up already, there's no turning back. You just have to assure yourself he'll be safe, and if you're a religious person, pray. I was worried as all get out when my brother left for Afria, because the country he was in was AIDs/HIV infested-- but he came back perfectly fine. And that's what I have to trust will happen this time. He's gotten his training; his shots; everything important-- now you've just gotta hope everything'll be alright. Best of luck.
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