soon i am going to the psychiologist for medication for anxiety.. i used zoloft before, and i think if anyting it made it worse. i have anxiety and panic attacks here and there, btu a lot more recently. any gooood anxiety medication you've taken that doesn't have weird side effects or makes it worse?
well, I can tell you to eliminate seroquil too. that shit is no joke. I'm heading to a combat stress group in a few days, hit me up sometime later this week and I'll try to get you the scoop on these head meds. our docs have about ten years of experience dealing with batshit-crazy dudes with anxiety issues, so their insight should prove helpful. you could also chat with your doc about your concerns, there's about a million studies performed on each drug per FDA regulation, so I'm sure you're probably not the first person to run into problems with the damn things.
good luck
-Gunner
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I recently had a dream that I can't seem to get out of my head for some reason. I've already looked up some of the symbols, but this is what happened.
I was in some sort of an attic room and there was a bathroom and closet. In the closet, there were two side doors, one on the left and one on the right. I opened the door on the left to see one of my male classmates, whom I do find attractive and respectable, dead. There was blood everywhere. He had committed suicide. I was PETRIFIED. I then opened the left closet to find, in the dream, his girlfriend who had also committed suicide; she was also covered in blood. I turned out of the closet to the bathroom to find a tub filled with blood and a dead baby.
I NEVER have violent or scary dreams, and this really freaked me out. I am not friends with this guy, and he's actually single right now.
What could it possibly mean? I am not sexually active either, so this can't symbolize my fear of pregnancy/abortion.
Symbols:
To see someone commit suicide in you dream, highlights your concerns for that person. Consider what characteristics and qualities in that person you may be trying to "kill" and annihilate in your own self. Perhaps you hope that you are not like this person and are making attempts to get rid of those traits within your own self.
- I respect this guy a lot, and I can't see any aspect of him that I'd want to kill. Also, I didn't see him commit suicide.
The blood symbol doesn't offer much in terms of this dream. I am not a depressed person; in fact, I've never been happier in life, so why did I have such a violent and gruesome dream about someone I care about who does not seem depressed/suicidal when I seem him everyday?
oh my god...
this, in literary terms, is what is referred to as foreshadowing....
seriously though, as a person who has horrible violent dreams on a regular basis, I can postulate that this may be an embodiment of your fears, or, as the previous columnist stated, an indicator that you should sever emotional ties. the subconscious mind is a strange dimension, I advise you to look up in psychiatry papers, a possible interpretation. Sigmund freud did a lot of work in that area, though his conclusions usually wind up somewhere in a crackpot direction, his logic is usually sound.
to give you some amusement, I will attach a wonderful segment I wrote up last week at a FOB in Afghanistan- it is called "The Passing of The Ferret"
Dream sequence setting: I had apparently knocked a chick up, much to my surprise in my dream, and coincidentally, (friend) had also undone his vascectomy and was now expecting a son with his wife, (friend's wife). flash forward to a sort of bachelor party-coming of age-masculine baby shower ceremony on Navarre Beach. a Festive atmosphere filled with Barbeque, bonfires and beer. soon, the Master of Ceremony, a grizzled Biker dude complete with pony tail and beer gut, ordered the festivities come to a close and the ceremonial "Passing of The Ferret" begin. The men expecting their firstborn then lined up on the beach in the fashion of the coming of age ceremony in "ROOTS", minus the circumscision. (friend) then Joined the Master of Ceremony with a pail full of milk and a small paint brush. the Master of Ceremony himself, was cradling a rather large Blackfooted Ferret. As they moved down the line, (friend) dipped the small paintbrush into the milkpail, and slathered the man's right nipple with milk. At this, The Master of Ceremony made a speech about the sanctity of childbirth and how the Father must share in the pain of his woman to prepare him for blah blah blah I stopped paying attention blah. At the end of his drawn out speech, he handed the ferret to the first dude, who then enticed the ferret to suckle. The ferret then proceeded to do so, and showed no hesitation in the usage of his sharp weasel-teeth. When the ferret reached me, and bit down, I woke up to find a bedspring busted through my mattress and was poking my right nipple. Hilarious.
I'm sure your dream means nothing too serious, you should just relax and enjoy them from now on. its like having somebody take clips of your memory and make a hollywood production of them.
-Gunner
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okay im 14 and last year i got fingered n da laundry room of my house n i gave da guy a hand job (the guy was my bestfriends ex n dey broke up on da day of, later on i stole anutha one of my friends boyfriends, next i lost my virginity to n da band room at skool to one of da snair drummers( da percussion section is full of players) im on da flag team by the way. also i gave da guy a blow job on da staircase at skool while three of his percussion bruthas watched, den i gave anutha one of the snair drummers a blow job n da bathroom at skool, den i had sex with one of the drill(dance) team girls boyfriend which is also a snair drummer... does that make me slutty???
short answer: yes.
long answer:
tracking the following sex acts performed-
1. reimbursed manual stimulation in the laundry room
2. sex in the band room at school with a snare drummer
3. oral sex on staircase at school with three voyeurs observing
4. oral sex in bathroom with yet another snare drummer
5. sex with another girl's boyfriend(snare drummer)
This doesn't sound like the sex life of a high-schooler, this reads like a porno.
in terms of societal norms, you would classify as "a slut".
question: are you happy with this? if you are, fine, do continue. if you don't want to be labelled by society in these terms, I'd highly reccomend you think before you act from now on. there's really not a problem with your behavior in a philisophical sense, but as my personal philosophy dictates, you should always consider the 2nd and 3rd order of effects for everything you do. I call it "the karmic enchilada". you will always reap the benefits, or consequences of your actions. I urge you to choose wisely from here on.
Best of luck to you.
-Gunner
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Me and other fans of a certain musician want to team together to do something for them, to show our support, but can't think of many ideas right now.
I wondered if you knew of anything fans have teamed together to do for their idols before? Just need inspiration!
Thank you x
Last I was tracking there were these dudes that walked around in a desert for a period of 40 years for their heathen idolatry. that may be a worthy option.
I fail to understand why you would want to do something for your "idol". they have money. whatever you seek to do, they have the funds to facilitate this act of yours tenfold.
Burn some incense and meditate over this, and your Idol will show the way.
-Gunner
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you should seriously consider including those kinds of details in your question. just copy and paste your whole venting session. for all we know, you're talking about that "Dancing with the stars" vixen Bristol Palin. and doing things for her would be wierd.
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24/F
So, I broke up with him so he could find himself ... He lost himself even before he went to Iraq and is looking for answers in me ... I dont have them and im in search of my own. I know I suck so much right now for breaking his heart so soon after he got home but, I felt I was doing him a favour He needs to find who he is Take care of his feelings for a change, he gives too much of himself and is running on empty ... what are the chances that I "broke" him ... just how evil am i?
with Sir Winston Churchill being a 1 and Josef Stalin a 10, to a soldier, you're an 11. I'm sorry. you have fulfilled every soldier's worst nightmare. Jody has struck again.
if things weren't working out, don't worry about it. its not like Iraq is busy nowadays. He'll recover from the breakup and you'll both get on with your lives. but on a side note- never break up with a soldier in the following time bracket:
2 months prior to a combat deployment until at least 30 days after the deployment. if you held off past that, then I take back the evil comment. its like breaking up with someone over the phone.
keep your chin up, kid, unless you're Boxing.
-Gunner
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you really should have included those details in your question. man-children have no breakup exemption window, especially if they're making you wake up at 1 am. the reverse should be happening. I would wake up at ass-odd hours to talk to my girl because I'm the asshole that chose to be in the army, not her. dude was a retard, you should feel no remorse for ridding yourself of him.
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Its not all girls just stupid ones who dont care about others so dont go around judging all girls by what the ones youv had have done.And thank you for defending our country im not all for the war but my cuzins are mariens and you guys work hard out there.
I see your statement and raise you a generalization.
all women are evil.
Just Kidding!
yeah, I may have generalized for that little statement in my profile, dealing with women when you're on the other side of the planet is challenging. still not going to change it though, its been grandfathered in.
Always a pleasure to fly to a far corner of the world and fight with my hands tied behind my back for you fine folks.
Have a great week, unless you've made other plans!
-Gunner
please accept my condolences for your lizard. it sounded like it was a charming creature
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So I'll try to make this short!!! :/ I've been looking through your column and it seems you give honest advice which I like. (Just in case you were thinking why the fuck is she asking me this?)
Background:
There is this girl in my school and she's one grade below me. I tried to be good friends with her but she's the type of person who is extremely needy and cannot direct attention to her friends if she is involved romantically with people. ( I say people because she has no sense of loyalty.)
In this case she has been dedicating her life to (and I mean dedicating) this girl in her year and her boyfriend. (She's bisexual.) She recently entered this relationship with this boy she met over the summer and constantly skypes him through out the day but it really bothers me that she says she loves him and she's thinking of getting his name tattooed onto her (she has three other guys names already) when she constantly talks about this girl.
I find it disgusting when she acts like her boyfriend is air and she can't live without him but then at the same time she always flirts with and tries to please this girl. (By using her friends faults as a way to bring herself closer to the girl) She does this because this girl is rather secluded and cynical and so she tries to make everyone in life seem bad except her in order to get close to her! It's ridiculous! How immature and disrespectful can you get. She treats her friends like their secret weapons to make that girl (who is not bisexual or a lesbian) someone fall in love with her! What an idiotic!
ANYWAYS. I stopped talking to her and now she's been spreading rumors about me and being a real bitch just because I don't feel like being around her anymore. I went up to her in front of the girl she's been trying to impress and basically called her out on all the stuff she's been saying to that girl about me and others and they're not talking anymore but still she continues to spread rumors. I don't really know what to do. It's getting to the point where I might just beat the shit out of her to be honest and I know people say ignore it but I find her so revolting (mostly because I think she's weak for being so needy and stupid) that I can't control my urge to punch her face in. Now that the girl is ignoring her for lying to her, she's been walking around all day looking depressed and feeling sorry for herself. I have no patience with girls that say "I'm going to marry him someday after THREE MONTHS and get their boyfriends names tattooed on them WHILST being "in love" with another person. I find her childish, hypocritical and basically a waste of space. I hate her so much I think things like "Just think of all the oxygen it takes to keep her alive and the carbon dioxide she's creating." LOL. I mean I know I seem all like "Oh I'm so mature and she's so weak emotionally whereas I'm strong," but if you knew her you'd understand why I feel the way I do. It's literally like if she's been dating someone for a week and they break up, she'll cut herself and not come to school for weeks. I really need some advice on, well basically, on how not to beat the living shit out of her the next time I see her. I can't help but feel this anger swell up in my guts and I just want to kick her ass for all the pain she's inflicted on all her friends and me and the problems she creates daily. Please help :(
hahaha, you would not believe how perfect your timing is.... I spent all last night lying awake in a bunk bed surrounded by Polish soldiers thinking about how good it would feel to stab a certain dude that's been pissing me off with a broken bottle of tabasco sauce. and you know what? it neither solved the problem of dealing with the douchebag, nor set me up for success for my guard shift... I was so tired I spent twenty minutes ranting about the dissolution of the post office.
Don't waste your time worrying about this bizarro bitch. no matter what you do, she's still going to talk shit, even if you shank her with a broken hot sauce bottle, she'll still try to spin her web of lies and make it look good for her. Feeding her ego is a bad idea. but if you do still feel like whaling the hell out of her- catch her as she goes into the latrine, when she sits down to do her thing, kick open the door, throw a towel over her head, and go to town. be sure to consider a few more things, first being to wear a mask, next- the second and third order of effects, or as I like to call them, "The Karmic Enchilada".... you will always reap what you sow, and I prefer to reap good shit.
good luck, and have fun
-Gunner
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would want to marry?
Title says it, really. Why would God, who knows all about us before He gives us life, let someone who will inevitably, truly, with all their heart want to raise a family be so ugly that no man would want them?
alright sunshine, turn that frown upside down.
so you're not a supermodel. Great, neither am I. once you learn to deal with your self-image, you'll do fine. go hang out with people in your church group or whatever social activity that you invest, let people know you for who you are, not what you look like. when you're confident, people pick up on that, and I promise that there's some dude out there in your general vicinity thats looking for a cool chick to share his life with, and his thought pattern is something along the lines of- "hot chicks are hot, but why the fuck would I want to wake up next to somebody every morning for the rest of my life, and have that somebody be completely incapable of carrying on good breakfast conversation!?"
sure, the hot chick may be able to cook an awesome omlet, but ten years down the road, all that boils down to is that I'm going to force myself to choke to death on an awesome omlet in an attempt to escape some awful, halting, annoying, valley-girl 'like' laced monstrosity of a declarative statement.
you'll find a nice boy, quit worrying.
-Gunner
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15/f
i was talking to my boyfriend and we started talking about sex (we were sending dirty messages etc. no pix). a little while later we started talking about our future and he said that he wanted to have sex for real and asked how i felt about it. i told him i wanted to stay a virgin and he told me that hurt his feelings and he got mad. then i got mad at him for thinking i would actually just hop in bed with him and we got into a fight. he said he was sorry but im still mad. what do i do?
fuck that dude. if you're not comfortable with nailing him and he doesn't respect that, get rid of him. bottom line- relationships are supposed to be based on mutual respect. if a relationship is based on self interest and pressuring, then it's failed.
throw him away with yesterday's garbage.
-Gunner
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hi i know your probly 28 or older now but im 12 and my bf asnd i have been to gether for a while now and well we really love each other and he proposedd to me and well i dont know if i shoudl telll my parents cus i told him yes cus he\'s all i want abd everything and is it to young and well ive only told this to you and another person and i dnt know wat to do were engaged and all but how would i tell my parents and his parents were both engaged and i love him so much my heart skips a beat plz help me and im a female
I'd just like to point this out to you-
You're 12 years old.
when I was 12 years old, 13 years ago, I rode bikes and killed squirrels with my slingshot.
you are dealing with what is referred to as "puppy love". you know what your parents will do when you tell them of the engagement? Laugh to themselves for a little bit, say "thats lovely, dear" and go back to watching "JEOPARDY!". have fun while your engagement lasts, and stop trying to grow up too fast. trust me, life sucks after high school, especially if you go to war.
-Gunner
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I haven't had a boyfriend since the 6th grade and i want one now, i feel like its my turn especially since im a freshman in high school.it sucks to see other girls with guys and i feel like im the only one without a boyfriend i feel lonely my self esteem is low because i dont have a boyfriend im not as confident about myself what do i do
whoa, hold on for a minute there,"not having one is giving me low self esteem!" is not the right answer. Dudes hate baggage. and thats all you'll be bringing to the table if you're in a relationship to improve your self image. work on your issues, Don't burden some poor sap with them. if you don't, you're going to have a series of sad relationship stories beginning with "we looked so good together" and ending with "he told me I was crazy, and drove away!"
-Gunner
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I did something really stupid. I was talking to my ex online, and he was trying to make me mad, and it worked. So I said "you're a dead man". He said he was going to the police. I told him I didn't mean it, and he knows I didn't. I was just mad. Can I still get in trouble for it if I told him I didn't mean it, and does anyone have an idea of how much jail time I can get if he does turn it in?
its called The Baker Act. they can preemptively arrest you for shit like that.
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Ok I weigh 250 pounds 5'11 and im joining the Marine Corps. They gave me a diet and work out plan and ill be joining after about six months, but if can lose 50 pounds, more or less, in 3 months i could join earlier. My question is with proper diet and exercise is it possible to lose that much weight in 3 months?
a pound of fat is 3500 calories. you want to lose fifty pounds of fat(175,000 calories). if you starve yourself, this is easy. but you're going to gain it right back, and if you go to basic looking like an ethiopian, you will fail. take the time, lose the weight right. eat healthy, and build muscle mass. if you pass, you will be coming over here to afghanistan. and you will need to be in shape. because skinny unhealthy ethiopian fucks and fat fucks get good dudes killed. take a year to shed those pounds and you're looking at either cutting 500 calories a day from your intake, or burning those calories off by excercising. or, you could be retarded and do a crash plan and drop 1000 calories a day. but you'd have to be retarded to do that. I dropped 42 pounds and got in shape to join. it took a year, and I did a helluva lot better than those idiots that starved themselves for six months.
good luck.
-Gunner
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I have seen my fiance's pic in an adult website. He has a separate desktop & I figured out the password, he looks at porn most every time that I leave the house or will be away for a little bit. I find DVDs & naked pics in my home too. I asked him to stop looking at the movies, he said he likes to hear the noises people make. Said he would stop. I left things be for well over 1yr, we used to have sex daily,I thought I was being paranoid so I started to keep track, some months only 2 times. Then I find accounts opened in June & July at Fling.com, adultfriendfinder, sexinyourcity.com, getiton.com. I accessed his account in fling and utilized my credit card to open his previously sent messages. He has been giving out his number to women and telling them he wants a discreet 1 on 1 or threesome. I did tell him about 4months ago that I seen his birthdate & last name in an adult site...he said it wasnt him & must be an accident. The accounts that he does set up, he states very private info & even posted a pic of him,,,,taken in my fathers backyard on July 4th!! I am very worried about how to approach this with him.....your time & advice are much appreciated. I am reading a book about porn addicts...he seems to fit the bill. But he may just be an arrogant ass constantly needing acknowledgment from women.
not so much of a porn addict as a sex addict. This dude sounds just like my Medic. he's just as bad, but whorehouses are legal in Germany, so he's a frequent patron. What I've learned in my 4 year friendship with him, is that you have three options: first is to have an intervention and try to get him some help. this didn't work on Doc. second, turn a blind eye. he's got one of those sexual appetites that cannot be sated, and he's gotten a little bored with you(doc's wife is a freak in bed, and he's still bored with her). Third option is to get out of his life. If you're that upset with his behavior, leave. Dudes like this are pretty big douchebags, and have no concept of social norms(ie: fucking artound on the girlfriend/wife is totally cool). I once asked my bigamist friend why he is staying married to his wife, even though he no longer has any kind of physical intimacy with her, and has sex with prostitutes at least once a week. his answer: "I'm staying with her, because one- if I divorce her, she'll take half of my army retirement pay and child support, two- I love my kids, and they need a reliable babysitter."
do you seriously want to have to deal with this kind of shit?
good luck
-Gunner
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What is the irony in the book called There will come soft rains by Ray Bradbury?
THankys
the irony is that the house, meant to protect its inhabitants from nuclear war, is the only thing that survived the nuclear war. hell, the owner's shadow is burned into the side of the house. And the house, caring for its long-dead residents, ended up setting itself on fire and burning down the last remnant of civilization. the dog part was pretty metal too.
-Gunner
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okay so i'm a smoker and the e-cig sounds really awesome, since its a lot healthier, i'll be able to smoke wherever, whenever, and there's no tarbuildup or anything. but EVERYTHING has some downside to it. does anyone know a downside to smoking the e-cig? there has to be one, there always is.
thanks.
here's the downside: THEY ARE NOT REGULATED BY THE FOOD AND DRUG ADMINISTRATION. thats pretty big. when I looked them up a while ago for going on long range patrols (no smoke/light, perfect for the combat environment), I found out that the Department of Defense was in the process of banning them.
think about that. the biggest group of self-destructive alcoholics in the United states thinks E-cigs are dangerous.
food for thought.
-Gunner
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16/female here!
My boyfriend(also 16) and I have our 200th day in the next 2 weeks and I'm very confused on what to do!
On our 100th day, I did the simple making cookies but I also added in my home-made stuffed bunny that I made him.. he LOVES it! XD hahaa I know it's kiddish but I knew that he'd like it because guys are little softies inside~ X3 and sooo i was just curious of what to get/give/make him this time~ :) Please help me~ :]
Thanks! :D
200th day? what is this, the gulf oil disaster!? celebrate six months, celebrate a year. something like that. anywho, sounds like you bagged a real caring guy. My Stomach demands cookies return to the lineup, as cookies are awesome. just make piles of cookies. If you wish to control a man, Bake him cookies. god I'm hungry for cookies now. the bunny is a lovely touch, but his magic has been used. might I suggest a set of those half heart necklaces (I assume since you're a girl you're tracking what they are), or, just more homemade, gooey, warm, delicious cookies....
god I love cookies.
-gunner
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Hello my husband is deploying on Halloween of this year. He's going to be in Afghanistan for a year and i don't want a plain yellow "support our troops" ribbon. I want to personalize it. I looked online a little bit and couldn't really find anything and what i found it was ridiculously priced. Thanks for all the help everyone, i really appreciate it!
hey, cool idea. there's this one website called stickerjunkie.com. they're nothing fancy, but they do the job. I know, they're not magnets, but when we needed to make a bunch of stickers that said "democracy has arrived" to put on our humvees, thats where we went. plus, if you make a ton of them saying "I support the (unit your husband is in)", you can sell them at FRG meetings to recoup the cost, and distribute them to family members. good luck with your search.
-Gunner
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my boyfriend keeps asking me to have sex with him but i havent gave him an answer yet so what do i do ? i'm 15
If you don't feel comfortable with having sex, then tell him so. if he persists, tell him to fuck off. simple as that. just wait, in a few years, the hormones will balance out, and they'll start acting normal.
-gunner
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how do i stop i dnt want to lose her out of my life cause i love her so much
turn off the phone, put it in a drawer, and find a hobby. preferrably one that is manly, like fishing. focus your energies elsewhere, and it may bear fruit. like having her call you for a change.
-gunner
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