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I need a boyfriend because not having one is giving me low self esteem!
I haven't had a boyfriend since the 6th grade and i want one now, i feel like its my turn especially since im a freshman in high school.it sucks to see other girls with guys and i feel like im the only one without a boyfriend i feel lonely my self esteem is low because i dont have a boyfriend im not as confident about myself what do i do
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Self esteem is about how you view yourself,not about how you view yourself with a boyfriend.
You are of value and worth all by yourself, and until you can appreciate that, you are not in position for a boyfriend.
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whoa, hold on for a minute there,"not having one is giving me low self esteem!" is not the right answer. Dudes hate baggage. and thats all you'll be bringing to the table if you're in a relationship to improve your self image. work on your issues, Don't burden some poor sap with them. if you don't, you're going to have a series of sad relationship stories beginning with "we looked so good together" and ending with "he told me I was crazy, and drove away!"
-Gunner
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You don't need a boyfriend to raise your confidence thats your own job to raise your confidence. That's like relying on someone else to make you happy and believe you me its not what it seems. For example there was a relationship in which I put the fate of my happiness in that guys hand when I wasn't with him I was completely upset. When I was with him, it would be up to him to make me happy and to make my frown turn upside down. That's not how it works...you'll learn sooner or later. Having a boyfriend may seem like the most important thing in your social circle but school is to learn to take the information you learn and go on to college. A boyfriend is not going to make you get a full scholarship to college!
Don't get me wrong having a boyfriend is great but it, isn't the most important thing and its definitely not going to boost your self-esteem. You're in charge of boosting your self-esteem no one else is and you have to find a way to do that yourself. I'm single and these when I see a couple I envy them because I wish I had someone in my life. At the same time though I'm worrying about myself and taking care of me which is the most important thing of all. So stop worrying about getting a boyfriend and maybe concentrate on your work and getting through school. When its meant to be its meant to be and for right now you need to work on you and be confident with yourself.
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Well dear, if it's self esteem you're lacking, a boy isn't going to help. Unless you can be happy with yourself without someone constantly telling you how pretty you are/ how great you are/etc. then you're not going to be happy in a relationship. Boys don't build your self esteem, you do. Realize what a great person you are, think of everything you like about yourself and allow those things to build your confidence. You should be in a relationship because you like the person, not because you need a confidence boost.
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