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I wanna stay a virgin!!!!!
15/f
i was talking to my boyfriend and we started talking about sex (we were sending dirty messages etc. no pix). a little while later we started talking about our future and he said that he wanted to have sex for real and asked how i felt about it. i told him i wanted to stay a virgin and he told me that hurt his feelings and he got mad. then i got mad at him for thinking i would actually just hop in bed with him and we got into a fight. he said he was sorry but im still mad. what do i do?
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if you whant to stay a virgin that is upto you not him he has no right to get mad at you, its good that you stood your grpund and didnt give into him only do it when you whant to and if he like you then he will stay with you untill you are ready and not when he is ready. it is your body and you are only 15 so you should wait till you feel that it is right for you.
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my boyfriend doing the same thing. Isn't it so annoying? i broke it off with him then took him back if he promised to stop. it worked
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Well first he had no right to get mad because that is your decision and his feelings shouldn't of got hurt not saying your boys not a good guy but him getting mad doesn't really make sense if you wanna stay a virgin he needs to respect that don't ever let him pressure you into it,and if he tells you that will show love don't listen because him waiting until you are ready will really show love.:) make your own decision
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Don't do anything you're not ready for. If he truly cared for you, he wouldn't pressure you or force you into anything that you are not comfortable with. You're still so young and have so much time ahead of you for sex and everything else under the sun. Sex is a big deal, and if you're not ready for it, don't feel like you have to do it, because you don't.
Stand by what you believe, and if he can't stand by your side and support you, he's definitely not worth it.
-Laura (18-f)
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That's not right at all! Your belief is your belief if you don't want to have sex you shouldn't have to. The reason your mad is because he isn't respecting your belief he's being inconsiderate of your feelings. You have all the right in the world and I think what you both should do is sit down and talk about it and what exactly you want. Don't ever let anyone tell you that its stupid...its NEVER stupid how you feel or what you want. And if he doesn't understand that then he's not worth your time at all!
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It's very clear that you and this guy do not share some core values. Time to end the relationship. You can not have an ongoing relationship when you both do not agree about important issue. This is an important issue. Stand your ground.
You might enjoy reading this essay -
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hes a jerk I am sorry to tell you but if cant respect your decision for wanting to stay a virgin then dump him. There are guys out there that will respect your descion and there are other stuff you can do other then sex with you want. dont be forcced into it.
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I am old enough to be your grandfather so my advice will be a little different than the other advisors, although I agree with the two before me.
If the boy you are seeing does not respect you enough to respect your wishes then he does not deserve you. Teenage boys of your same age are about 2 years younger than you in maturity. They also commonly mistake lust and love for the same thing, meaning if you love me you will have sex with me. Also boys need to have some form of sex, not necessarily intercourse, to release the pent up hormones raging through their bodies.
They can accomplish this through self-masturbation or a girlfriend can, if she is willing, give him a hand job or blow job. Either of which does not require either of you to undress. Once you let him talk you into undress, say for visual stimulation, you are starting down a dangerous road to loosing you virginity.
I am not recommending you do anything for him, this is entirely up to you. When it comes to sex, now or in the future both parties must be willing or it could be rape or not very satisfying for either partner. Always remember that no means no and impress than on you present and future boyfriends.
I'm including a web address for you to look at that I have recommended to other young ladies who have written us when they were ready to have sex for the first time. You may want to look at it and keep it bookmarked for when you are ready.
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if a guy tries to pressure you into having sex with him, and keeps trying to do so excessively, knowing you don't want to do it, then he is not the right guy for you. You are absolutely right to be angry with him.
you should tell him that you will have sex with him when you are ready, and not before then and that if he has a problem with that then he should just break up with you right now, because a guy who isn't willing to wait for you to be ready isn't worth your time.
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fuck that dude. if you're not comfortable with nailing him and he doesn't respect that, get rid of him. bottom line- relationships are supposed to be based on mutual respect. if a relationship is based on self interest and pressuring, then it's failed.
throw him away with yesterday's garbage.
-Gunner
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