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marriage: engaged at 12
hi i know your probly 28 or older now but im 12 and my bf asnd i have been to gether for a while now and well we really love each other and he proposedd to me and well i dont know if i shoudl telll my parents cus i told him yes cus he\'s all i want abd everything and is it to young and well ive only told this to you and another person and i dnt know wat to do were engaged and all but how would i tell my parents and his parents were both engaged and i love him so much my heart skips a beat plz help me and im a female
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I'm thirteen. by the way its freaky and obsessive if your only twelve to propose. and just plain wrong
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Aww thats sweet but 12,? lol yall cant tell whats gonna happen in the future yall can only hope for a good one together so ya can wait,your too young and wooo when i was younger i hated hearing that lol but its true people change i hope yall stay together and if yall do then in the future yall can get married:)but being engaged now? too young
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Wow, it seems 12 may be too young to be engaged hun. You haven't experienced life in all it's glory yet. I know it's hard to understand this right now, but you will understand when you're older.
Now, I'm not saying you're too young to have feelings for your boyfriend, so.. can I suggest something? If you love your boyfriend, why don't you get "promised".. think of it as a pre engagement.. and get promise rings for each other.
and if you're still together some years down the line, save the engagement for then. :)
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Ok well, I am 13, and have never experience love, right now I'm not thinking about love or wedding bells, just having fun. I can't tell you your not in love, cause I don't know, but don't tell your parents, a lot of drama can come from that. Engagment is stupid to me, nothing changes except you wear a shiny dimond ring on your finger, and even some people don't do that. I know I'm getting off point, just if this is true, don't waste your time on relationships, you need to live life, in all the ways it lets you. There is more to life then a little boy or girl. But mainly just so you know, Don't have sex until your older, and if you do, please use protection lol
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You can't get married in most states until 16 or 18 without a parent's consent. You won't be able to marry him, so there's really no point in telling your parents. Save this story for when you're in your 20s and you can laugh about it.
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seriously.. I'm 20, I think back to when I was 12... and I get what you are thinking. You think that you love this boy so much, and all this and everyone who says you are too young just doesn't understand what you have with this boy.
Honestly though, you are too young. I mean just keep dating and then maybe in 5 years then it'll be time to get engaged, if you are still together. I mean it's not like you can legally get married at 12 anyways.
The boy I had a thing for when I was 12.. well he seemed great then.. but he dropped out of school... and is into drugs now... and currently is working at stop and shop for his life career. Just goes to show, that things can change so much.
I mean your not even in high school yet, people change when they go to high school. trust me when I say this, you are not old enough. I'm sorry if this is not what you want to hear, but when your older you'll understand.
Think about this if you don't believe me... does he want kids? do you want kids? what does he want to do with his life path? where does he want to go to college? where do you want to go to college? do either of you even want to go to college? will you go to the same college? What about sex? I mean.. your 12, I bet you haven't thought about so much of that stuff that's important in real relationships.
So, I say you talk to him and maybe say that.. you want to keep dating but being engaged right now isn't right. And just because you like him doesn't mean you have to get engaged. Just tell him that you want to keep dating and then maybe when you two are older and maybe he has a job so he can buy you a nice ring, which i'm guessing he didn't get, then maybe you'll consider it.
I mean if you don't want to listen to my advice, that's fine, and I apologize if I sound rude, because I'm not trying to at all. I get how it feels when your 12 and you think your in love with a boy. Talk to him about what I've said before you go to your parents.. If you still insist on this whole engaged thing, then talk to them about it. I'm sure they'll say the right thing.
sorry that was so long, but just remember I'm not trying to be rude or patronizing or anything. Just.. realize that in this case people who are older and have been through this do know more about this kinda thing than you do. and even if you think your parents don't understand what your going through at all, they were your age once, they've been through it, they know what there talking about.
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I'd just like to point this out to you-
You're 12 years old.
when I was 12 years old, 13 years ago, I rode bikes and killed squirrels with my slingshot.
you are dealing with what is referred to as "puppy love". you know what your parents will do when you tell them of the engagement? Laugh to themselves for a little bit, say "thats lovely, dear" and go back to watching "JEOPARDY!". have fun while your engagement lasts, and stop trying to grow up too fast. trust me, life sucks after high school, especially if you go to war.
-Gunner
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