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OK me and my boyfriend have known each other for a very very very long time and have always been best friends. We started going steady this year and it is working out very well... and we love each other VERY MUCH! But we are only in the 7th grade and we are only 13 and i dont know if we will be able to last for a long time..
DO yall think we will be able to last???????

*Sighs*
In the seventh grade I got caught up
in the feeling of "love." Or so we thought.
Love to us, was actually a huge crush.
I'm not going to say love doesn't exist
in seventh grade, because in some cases it can.
I'm just saying most kids mistake crushes
and lust just for love. So keep that in mind.

In the words of Lauren Conrad: "Love isn't
a maybe thing."

If you're having doubts about how long
you two will last or how strong your 'love'
is, then most likley you haven't quite reached
the full love stage. You're just on your way.
You two have to trust each other,
be willing to compromise for each other's
futures, and be willing to meet each other's
emotional needs. This is difficult in a
young age.

Good Luck

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What excactly is friends with benifits?

Urban Dictionary describes it as:
Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment

So basiclly its two people who
kiss, makeout, and engage in sex activities
without being in a relationship.

Good Luck

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well my boyfriend is in 8th grade and i'm in 7th. but were both thirteen. we've been dating for almost 4 months now but i've been getting kinda bored with him. i don't know. lately everything just seems sort of dull. like before, when ever i would get a text message i would stop wat i was doing and look right away to see who it is and what it say. but lately i've been just like kay whatever, i'm going to finish what i was doing before i look at it. and also before i was always excited and anxious to make plans with him but lately i couldnt care less if we made plans or not. i'm always just like kay, whatever. don't really matter.. and its not that i met someone new or anything, i just also feel like i'm loosing patience with him and some of my feelings for him. my best friend yesterday told me he went out and bought condoms recently so last night when me and him were texting i didn't let him know that i knew but i told him that i wanted to start over with him and slow things down even though we weren't moving fast, i just wanted to move a few notches slower and start over. and kept asking me why and stuff and i didn't want to tell him that i knew so i lied and came up with the excuse that i didn't want to do anything that would ruin me and him or become part of our relationship no matter what it was besides hugs and kisses. and he was like asking me a billion questions about it and the one answer i can come up with, i don't want to tell him and that is that i don't want to start to do something and then have it lead farther on because i know that it always leads up to sex and i don't want to have sex at 13. i want to keep my virginity for awhile. and i already told him that once and he said he was okay with that and he would wait until i'm ready, but the truth is is i want to just act as boyfriend and girlfriend all the time with him like holding hands and him putting his arms around me like he always does but not do anything more than that. if you know what i mean. please, any advice would be helpful!

Hi there.

The reason you're feeling less crazy about
him is most likley cause the 'heat' is wearing
off. This is totally normal, this is when
you find out if you truly love each other.
In the beginning, you're excited with your
new boyfriend. The kissing and hugs are new
and exciting, but then when they become
old news, so does your guy. So this is when
you rely on things you both share in common
to keep your love going strong. Try doing
something new with him, play paintball, go
on a walk through town, play DDR until you
both topple over. Just try something new.

Now for the sex part.
In my opinion, you can have sex whenever
you want. There is really no rule that says
you need to wait until a certain age. Now if
you're close to God, you know you should wait.
However, if its your thing go for it. I'm not
going to stop you. But since you said you
didn't want to, just be honest with your
boyfriend. Tell him you heard about the condoms
and quite frankly you aren't ready for that.
If he breaks up with you, then you KNOW
he wasn't right. Although, it might now be what
you want right away, it'll be good in the long
run. (Not exactly what you want to hear,
but its the truth) Remember, you have
your reputation, your morals, your
parent's trust, and your life at risk
with a descision as big as that. So think
it through. If you don't have the guts to
tell him no, then get out of the relationship
as soon as you can.

Now to get him to be all boyfriend like.
Hold HIS hand, put your arm around HIM.
Let him know that you like being touched.
Kiss him when you want, don't wait for him.
Sometimes you have to step up and be
the 'guy' in the relationship.

Good Luck

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ok, i have a major problem. i had sex the other day with my boyfriend... we didnt use a condom because he said he can control himself from coming. it was only for like 3 minutes and i said that we needed to stop and we did. i am scared now because i had my period on the 23 of december and its the 21 of january!! i am really scared and dont know what to do!!

Not to be rude, but this question isn't
worth answering. You could of easily searched
a questions of this exact sort and gotten
the same answers you will get now.

But, I'll take the time
to answer anyways.
You need wait and see if you get
your period or not. If you don't,
buy three pregnancy tests. If you
are pregnant, you need to inform your
parents, your boyfriend, and your
boyfriend's parents. Go to the doctor
to double check if you wish.
He/she will fill you in from then on.

Usually, if you're pregnant, the
next morning you feel sick and throw
up. If this hasn't happened, there's
a good chance you're not pregnant.

If you we're truly worried about
getting pregnant, you should of thought
about that before enganging in unprotected
sex, dispite what your boyfriend said.

Good Luck.

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Ok well Im 13 & I have never kissed a guy. I really want my first kiss because I just want to know what its like. I had my chance to kiss a guy before because when I was going out with my boyfriend(i dumped him a couple days ago) he asked me for a kiss but I said no because there were to many people around.

Im not say that im ugly or a geek or something, because I have had plenty of boyfriends, we just have never been at the right place at the right time ya know?

But anyway is it weird that im 13 & I havent had my first kiss yet?

When I was 13, I wanted nothing
more then my first real kiss. Although
hardly anyone in my grade had theirs
yet, I wanted mine. So, I made a friend,
I lead him on and got my first kiss.
You'd think it'd all be fine and
dandy right? Totally wrong, it was so
akward and gross because I didn't actually
like him. Worst of all, he found out after
we had become great friends, and everything
went downhill.

I recommend waiting.
As much as that sucks,
its the only way to enjoy
your first real kiss.
The more you rush it,
the worse it'll be.

Just let things be.
I'm sorry, I know thats not what you
want to hear.

Good Luck

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how do you play "hard to get"

AH, I've tried to master this game
time and time again. Unfortunatley, I have
no paitence, so its very hard for me.

Playing hard to get baiscally means
you have to leave him wanting more. For example:
When he calls, let it ring several times.
When he asks you to hang out, you can
say you're busy. When he texts you, wait
several minutes before texting him.

Hang out with other guys infront
of him (Use this sparingly, if you do it
too much he'll give up) that way he'll
think you're not just falling for him at
his feet.

Always think about what you do before
you do it. Think to yourself "Will that
make me seem clingy, or a challenge"
After a while, if you really fall for him
let up a bit, and let yourself fall for him.

Good Luck

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14/f my best guy friend asked me out today, but i said no because i really don't like him like that (he's like a brother to me), plus he dumped his girlfriend so that he could ask me out! so even if i did go out with him, how do i know that he won't do that to me if he sees another girl that he likes better. i really want him the remain my best guy friend because, like i said he's like my brother and i don't know what i'd do without him, so how do i keep our friendship alive when it is bound to be akward?

You have to step up in this case.
I've been in this sitch. before, its not
easy.

First off, be brutually honest.
Let him know you have no feelings for
him in that way, he's simply a best friend.
Let him know he's free to ask his
old girlfriend out again since you're not
interested.

Here comes the hard part;
Act like everythings totally normal.
Go about talking to him as you normally
would, if you two hang out alot, keep doing
that. Soon enough he'll realize you're willing
to put this whole incident behind him and
you two will get back to being good friends
again. Be sure to keep acting normal
immediatley, the longer you wait the harder
and more awkward it will get.

Good Luck

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how come there are some people that have everything? like theres this girl that used to be in my class.. shes practically perfect. she was blessed with really good looks (she was like one of the first people to start wearing make up and unlike most people, she looks really good in it), amazing hair (always a different hairstyle everyday, too!), and... jesus.. you like never see her wear the same outfit twice! and every outfit looks sooo trendy and cute. she has soo many accessories and etc.. she also has a ton of friends, and an older sister. she's also an amazing soccer and basketball player, and even though she doesnt get the best grades (shes in low literacy, too) shes pretty nice to everyone, so its hard to hate her! but i swear, I bet everyone is jealous, lol. I used to think that she lives in an apartment, but it turns out she lives in one of the gigantic mansions in my area! and her parents are still together and have alot of money (obviously). everything seems so perfect! and she doesnt get upset alot, but once in 6th grade she was like really upset that like.. gum got on her $40 dollar bra from victorias secret. omg.. who buys a bra for 40 dollars I ask you!?!?!? how is this possible! she also gets alot of her stuff from hollister, which isnt even in our nearby mall.. so she must go to those other real expensive malls where she gets all her glam stuff. jeez... some people have all the luck! me and my friend were talking about her.. i knew her last year, and she was nice and has a good personality, (though sometimes she can seem too overconfident.. if you know what I mean) but you couldnt help to be jealous! now when i look at my life.. my family is not all that rich, but we're not poor either. my dad is starting a company which probably will be big if it works out (hes still setting it up) but like.. I dunno. then i'd have to leave all my friends here.. and that would suck because its not the same when you meet new people and you havent known them since kindergarten.. or like it may, but its better to grow up with people... if you get what i mean. anyway, i'll probably wear an outfit and then mix it up a little the next week.. but basically still wear the same thing. i only have 1 pair of jeans that actually looks good (from american eagle) and well.. yeah. i cant really follow trends because now my parents arent all that rich. heck i couldnt even have a 13th bday party and i have to pay for me and my friends to see a movie instead. (I'm 13 today and my "movie party" is next week). I'm pretty, but my mom wont let me get make up.. i dont even have enough money to get my own make up, nor do i know how to apply it. i'm kinda shy unless you get to know me, and well i do good in schools, and i like to play soccer, basketball, and dance, but I'm not like an amazing athlete like that girl im talking about was. like i didnt make the soccer team (im in 7th grade) and she made the team, and its the A team! most of the A team is 8th graders, and most of the B team is 7th graders. wow.. just wow. she even gets to play soccer otherwise in a different county than ours like 30-40 mins away.. and its travel soccer! i only get to do rec.. and i've only played in 3 seasons. i wish i started soccer earlier.. basketball too, but im better at basketball than soccer. ugh.. i just.. dont know. i guess like.. everyone has something special about them.. im not saying that i dont like myself.. I think I'm a great person and all, but like.. its just kinda unfair that this girl has like everything! i dont even have an ipod, cellphone, etc. I have like.. gameboy color, and a gamecube, opposed to nintendo DS and playstation 3. and.. like etc. i know this was ridicuosly long, but its been in my head. i dunno if i just like have no self confidence.. sometimes i dont, but usually i do... well it depends if im in a good mood or not. or maybe its because im wacko, which some of y'all may say. or maybe im just a green jealousy-person. ugh.. well.. yeah thats pretty much it.

also, what do you think it takes to be popular? i dunno what i am.. i dont know anybody that hates, me and i have friends and junk (no boyfriend, too). i dont deliberately try to be mean to people, if i am, im probably just joking around, unless i really mean it, but thats rare. i wont be like "your such a bitch, amanda!" since i'm like a positive person and think everyone has a good thing about them (I know.. kinda retarded way of thinking. like theres this loser guy in my class and even though hes made fun of me before (it was really retarded, and this guy i liked stuck up for me, though i dont care what the loser guy says

Ha I was actually terribly bored;
and yes, I read the whole question.

Do you want to know why she's so popular?
Because people like you MAKE her popular.
Do you think everyone would love her so much
if people didn't make such a great deal about
her?

As for the looks, money, and talent.
Some people are just born lucky, you have
to learn to accept that. Its a major lesson
in life.

She's gotten herself far in life
apparently by being nice to others
and working very hard at sports she
wishes to achieve high in.

As far as you know, her life is great.
However, you never really know if it is or
not, only she does. So just be thankful
of your friends and family, and what you have.



Now for your confidence issue.
The main reason you're feeling low is
because you're comparing yourself to someone
like 'her'. That isn't going to get you
anywhere. Forget about her, be friends with
her if you want, but don't gawk over her
day after day. That won't help.

Walk into school with a smile on your face,
shoulders back, gut sucked in, and ready
to face the day. Sincerly compliment others
regularly, try adding some spice to your
wardrobe, try expeirementing with your hairstyles, and put your heart into everything
you do. Keep a smile on your face at all
times. Confidence is the key in everything.

Say five good things about yourself
every night and work on enhancing your positives.
(IE: if you have great eyes, ask your mom
if you can try mascara just to lighten up
your face) As corny as it sounsd, this will
get your confidence up in no time. Never go
around complaining, just to fish for compliments.

Good Luck!

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hi i saw you answer someone else's question and i thought you would be great help :] well i guess im a prep like i shop at Hollister a&f American eagle and those kinda stores. i usually wear like a Henley or t-shirt jeans and flats with cute earrings. i wanna know how to update my wardrobe like i wanted cute boots but i dont know where to get ones that are flat and the ones that i like kinda look like horseriding boots?? lol are skinny pants nice or are they going to make my 8 1/2 size foot look huujoe granda do people wear skinny jeans with flats or what? some girls at my school look so cute and orginal and i feel like i dont look so generic lol
well any help at all would be so totally appreciated thanxxx alot

Well one thing you don't want to
do is wear what they wear, thats not
going to get you the original feel you're
looking for.

I suggest going to some other stores.
You'll never find creativity at American
Eagle and Hollister. Trust me, been there
done that. Personally, I love Charlotte Russe
and Forever 21. Their clothes are gentle and
girly, very preppy if thats what you're looking
for. Also, their prices are way cheaper.

I avoid skinny jeans at all costs.
The closest I'll get to them are boot cut
jeans. I have size 9.5 feet, and the last
thing I need is to draw attention to them.
So if you're worried about your feet
looking to big, try some on at the store,
and bring along and honest friend (or mom)
to give you their opinion.

Try to step outside of your box.
Thats the only way you'll find out what you like.
Try skirts if you don't normally wear them,
try capris, or even bermuda shorts. You can
go for different shades of denim (dark, light)
and cuts to see what flatters your body.

[Most important rule of fashion: Just because its cute, expensive, or trendy doesn't mean you look cute, expensive, or trendy in it. Always try things on and make sure they fit your
body style properly before purchasing them.]


For the boots, try sweater boots!
{also known as crotched boots)
They're becoming bigger and bigger.
I don't recommend UGGS, (personally I hate them)
and if you're going for the one-of-a-kind look
you won't achieve that with UGGS.
Sweater boots can be bought at stores like
Nordstorms, and they come in many colors.

Here's a link to Delia's website.
I found some cute boots on there you might like.

http://store.delias.com/browse.do;jsessionid=8A1A873B6EEC337997EF6A053937491F.worker5?categoryID=556&sidenavTrack=shoes.boots


Now, when you go shopping.
Look for things that catch your eye,
also if you see something you might not
normally go for, try it! Never be afraid
to start a new trend! Always accessorize
accordingly, never over do it.
(For example: don't wear bracelets, necklaces,
earrings, and a headband at the same time)

Good Luck

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im in love with the summer boys series! and i love how hailey abbott writes,ive been starting to read more lately and i need some good books to read.I was wondering if anyone could recommend books that are similar to the summer boys series or have the same style of writing as hailey abbott thank you every much! :D

I've fallen in love with Sarah Dessen books.
They are written similar, they're contemporary
but all of her stories have amazing morals.
I'm not much of a reader, but I read
one book in two nights. My favorite by her
was Just Listen.
Some other titles are This Lullably, That Summer, Someone Like You, and Keeping the Moon.
I have read Summer Boys, I've found they
are similar. However, I love Sarah Dessen more.

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ok,well i have angled bangs that go off to the side. my hair grows suuuppeerr fast and i got my hair cut like two weeks ago,and my angled bangs got REALLY long! i dont know how to cut them so they are still angled, could you help? like in steps? if i mess up i dont care,because they'll grow back in a heartbeat. but could you give me steps so i know how to do it each time? also is it ok to use saftey sissors or regular sissors? cause i dont have hair dresser sissors.... thank you so much!! :]

Hi there, I do my own bangs all the time :)

I prefer to do them when they're dry.
That way I can know exactly how short to
cut them without having to worry about
them shrinking as they dry.
Now you can either use scissors or
a razor. I like to hold the hair I'm
cutting in between my middle and pointer
finger, and gently tug straight down leaving
some hair hanging out underneath my fingers.
(This is the hair you're going to cut,
so move your fingers up and down depending
how long or short you want them)

Now angle your scissors in the angle
you want the bangs to be, and gently
and slowly snip off at the bangs.
I like to randomly cut off some pieces
on top because the choppy look adds
deffition to my face. After I've cut them
I run a razor along the bottoms to
make them look less straight and precise.

Good Luck

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i know the basic font codes
how to make it bigger,colour,center,left whatever.
the only thing I dont know how to do, is chagne the style of the font.
like making it cursive?
anyone know the code?

Hi there:

The code for changing the font itself is:


blah blah blah, text you want here.


[Of course take out the *'s]
Now to make it cursive you just enter
a font name that is cursive. Ie: Adorable,
Amazone BT, Chaucer, Porcelain.
(Keep in mind, depending on whether the
program you're on supports that specific
font, will determine whether or not the
font shows up)

Good Luck

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Are piercings in or out right now? If so, what kinds? (Cartlidge, nose, lip, eyebrown, belly button, etc.)

It depends on your style these days.
I'm a bit more conservative when it comes
to this sort, I'm not a big fan of 20
holes in my ears, eyebrows, and lips.
Two in each ear and a belly button is
sufficent for me. I do have alot of friends
that still do the cartilidge piercings,
and thats good too. Just don't over do it.

However, if you want the more hardcore
look, industrial cartilidges and stretchings
can be good if thats what you want. Like I
said, I'm not big into things like that.

Try to do piercings in moderation,
that way its less to take care of, less
to worry about, and if you have a less chance
of regretting it in later years.

So if you go for a nose ring, I'd
stick with one or two ear piercings. If
you do a tounge ring, I'd recommend no
nose ring or lip ring.

Keep it in moderation.
Good Luck

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does the EnV come with free unlimited texting??? because thats what everyone tells me. but it sounds too good to be true

You have to buy a certain plan to
get the unlimited texting. Even then,
the unlimited texts are only to
other Verizon users.

(You can get this plan
with any Verizon phone)

I have this plan, it includes
500 minutes, unlimited In-Texting,
and 500 texts to Non-Verizon users.

Good Luck

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i guess i can say im jelouse, of when my boyfreind is with this girl in his classes and inbetween classes alot, and occsaionaly sits with her at lunch, i mean i trust him by all means, but i hate bein jelouse cuz it hurts me and effects my mood. but i hate seein them laffing together and im pretty sure what i see is a form of flirting... what should i do i mean do i have a reason to be jelouse if there kinda flirting...? he reassures me its nothing like that but when he first met her he was al like shes mad cool, we have so much in common , and shes in a lotta classes with me, and we walk together to our classes. it hurts, sometimes i just feel like shes on his mind when i want to b the one on his mind, and knowign that hes with her in gym and what not = / idkk i need advice

Wow, I relate to this so much latley.

My past boyfriend of five months did the same thing with a girl he knew I hated. When I asked him about it, he just brushed it off saying it was 'nothing.' Now he used her to get back at me and I've had the biggest heartbreak of my life.

Don't worry about being jealous, one man once said "To be jealous is to be human"
As for your boyfriend let him know you're hurt.
And hint to the girl that you really like your boyfriend ALOT, maybe she'll get the hint.

But for me, I couldn't take the constant
worry because I have a stress disorder and
trying to be sure if I trusted him or not
so I dumped him. But like I said, he asked
her out to get back at me and now I'm totally
torn and heartbroken.

So, since you still have the chance
to stop it. Let him know how you feel.
I never got the chance to tell my boyfriend
how much he was hurting me, but now, I wish
I had.

Good Luck

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i'm 5"3 and 118 pounds.

is this too heavy? honesty, please.

also, im a bit lazy. but i want to start excersising and toning my arms, stomach, and thighs. does anyone know of any specific workouts or specific excersise plans that i can try at home

thanks!

For body weight
you should be 100lbs per
5ft. Then add 5lbs for
every inch after 5ft.
(If you're 5'3" then your
idea weight is 115lbs)

So you are in the range
for healthy weight, so no,
its not too heavy.
If you want to tone up
the best thing would be to
hit the gym.

Other then that, go running
three times a week, cut out soda,
always eat breakfast, drink 5-8 glasses
of water a day, do crunches, push ups,
leglifts, and other at home excerises.
Investing in a work-out tape or
even a yoga/pilates tape might be
sucessful.

Good Luck

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What are all the possible ways to form Smiley faces? Such as =] & so on..

Smiling:
:D
:]
:)
=]
=D
=)

Frowing:
D:
]:
):
:(
:[
=[
D=
=(
)=

Good Luck

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I'm 13 and almost a half. I really want to have my period are their any ways to get it?

No there aren't anyways to
get your period sooner. For one thing,
you're absolutley lucky.
(I'm sure thats not the answer you
wanted to hear, but its true)
Periods are annoying, nasty, and can
be painful from the cramps involved.
Just be thankful you don't have your yet.
Every girl gets theres at a different time.

I know that I always wanted to get
my period really badly, but once I got
it, it became more of a hassle then I expected.

Sorry. :(
Good Luck

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about how much is a 300 word essay?

300 Words is actually about two-three paragraphs depending on your sentence length.

Good Luck

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I'm sick of my short nails. I wanna try to grow them out. I can not stand seeing the white part of my nails which is why I bight or tear the tip of my nails off. I've tried painting my nails so that i can't see the white part but it just comes off after only a day. I've tried fake nails too, but the white part under them annoys me. How can I get over this and have longish nails?

How about trying a french manicure?
I'm not sure if you've already tried that
but it would hide the white tips and
you can get the french-style in any color.
Also, if you go to a salon and
get them done they will last longer then
when you might do them at home.

If you're still having trouble
dip a cotton ball in nail polish
remover and swipe them over your nails.
This way they will have that nasty
taste and smell and you should not
be tempted to bitting them.

Good Luck

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