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why are some people sooooo popular?
how come there are some people that have everything? like theres this girl that used to be in my class.. shes practically perfect. she was blessed with really good looks (she was like one of the first people to start wearing make up and unlike most people, she looks really good in it), amazing hair (always a different hairstyle everyday, too!), and... jesus.. you like never see her wear the same outfit twice! and every outfit looks sooo trendy and cute. she has soo many accessories and etc.. she also has a ton of friends, and an older sister. she's also an amazing soccer and basketball player, and even though she doesnt get the best grades (shes in low literacy, too) shes pretty nice to everyone, so its hard to hate her! but i swear, I bet everyone is jealous, lol. I used to think that she lives in an apartment, but it turns out she lives in one of the gigantic mansions in my area! and her parents are still together and have alot of money (obviously). everything seems so perfect! and she doesnt get upset alot, but once in 6th grade she was like really upset that like.. gum got on her $40 dollar bra from victorias secret. omg.. who buys a bra for 40 dollars I ask you!?!?!? how is this possible! she also gets alot of her stuff from hollister, which isnt even in our nearby mall.. so she must go to those other real expensive malls where she gets all her glam stuff. jeez... some people have all the luck! me and my friend were talking about her.. i knew her last year, and she was nice and has a good personality, (though sometimes she can seem too overconfident.. if you know what I mean) but you couldnt help to be jealous! now when i look at my life.. my family is not all that rich, but we're not poor either. my dad is starting a company which probably will be big if it works out (hes still setting it up) but like.. I dunno. then i'd have to leave all my friends here.. and that would suck because its not the same when you meet new people and you havent known them since kindergarten.. or like it may, but its better to grow up with people... if you get what i mean. anyway, i'll probably wear an outfit and then mix it up a little the next week.. but basically still wear the same thing. i only have 1 pair of jeans that actually looks good (from american eagle) and well.. yeah. i cant really follow trends because now my parents arent all that rich. heck i couldnt even have a 13th bday party and i have to pay for me and my friends to see a movie instead. (I'm 13 today and my "movie party" is next week). I'm pretty, but my mom wont let me get make up.. i dont even have enough money to get my own make up, nor do i know how to apply it. i'm kinda shy unless you get to know me, and well i do good in schools, and i like to play soccer, basketball, and dance, but I'm not like an amazing athlete like that girl im talking about was. like i didnt make the soccer team (im in 7th grade) and she made the team, and its the A team! most of the A team is 8th graders, and most of the B team is 7th graders. wow.. just wow. she even gets to play soccer otherwise in a different county than ours like 30-40 mins away.. and its travel soccer! i only get to do rec.. and i've only played in 3 seasons. i wish i started soccer earlier.. basketball too, but im better at basketball than soccer. ugh.. i just.. dont know. i guess like.. everyone has something special about them.. im not saying that i dont like myself.. I think I'm a great person and all, but like.. its just kinda unfair that this girl has like everything! i dont even have an ipod, cellphone, etc. I have like.. gameboy color, and a gamecube, opposed to nintendo DS and playstation 3. and.. like etc. i know this was ridicuosly long, but its been in my head. i dunno if i just like have no self confidence.. sometimes i dont, but usually i do... well it depends if im in a good mood or not. or maybe its because im wacko, which some of y'all may say. or maybe im just a green jealousy-person. ugh.. well.. yeah thats pretty much it.
also, what do you think it takes to be popular? i dunno what i am.. i dont know anybody that hates, me and i have friends and junk (no boyfriend, too). i dont deliberately try to be mean to people, if i am, im probably just joking around, unless i really mean it, but thats rare. i wont be like "your such a bitch, amanda!" since i'm like a positive person and think everyone has a good thing about them (I know.. kinda retarded way of thinking. like theres this loser guy in my class and even though hes made fun of me before (it was really retarded, and this guy i liked stuck up for me, though i dont care what the loser guy says <33) but like.. I feel bad for him cause everyone picks on him. its just because... hes so weird!!! but i cant bring myself to really say mean things about him to his face, and like today i needed to get to my locker quick and i told him and hes like "sorry! i'll go fast!" and well.. he did. that was pretty nice but its probably cause i dont yell at him, and tell him hes an idiot, or like he should hurry up real loud like one of my friend does ^^; i dont wanna be friends with him cause of his weirdness.. but yah i cant be mean to him either.
ok most people will be like "wtf" when they read this, but thank you if you reply to like solve my problems and maybe help make me so unsure of myself and stuff. or perhaps if i split this into seperate questions, but like its easier to know how to solve this if you know a little bit about me.
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ok, before i start, you're REALLY mature for a 13 year old, and that is really good/awesome/cool. be nicenicenice, that is the main thing. when he said "sorry! i'll go fast! that made you feel good, right? because he was nice. smile at everyone, talk to everyone, bring up any conversation, be nice, ask people about themselves (to make them feel good) smile, laugh, etc. all of the popular girls in my grade are soooo nice and smart. be GOOD! good luck.
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umm... to tell u the truth i didn't read this all but just be yourself and dont strive to be perfect. it makes you...less [perfect. be yourself
-tat was corny-
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This is going to sound conceited, but I don't care.
I'm popular. I would say 80% of my grade, plus a couple hundred other kids know who I am.
I'm genuine, and unique, and I honestly think that it really sets me apart from everyone else. People know that I won't stab them in the back.
I smile and laugh a lot. I'm fun to be around.
I don't have a boyfriend either, but I just kind of stopped thinking about it so much, and I'm better friends with all of my guy friends now.
Your financial situation is pretty important in high school, but it really isn't everything. I have money. I'm not going to lie. I just use it well. American Eagle's prices drop every couple weeks as they get more stuff in. Right now, a bunch of designers are designing for Target. I wish I could buy the whole women's department.
According to my friends I have good hair. It looks pretty different every day. I don't wear that much makeup. I am okay at putting it on, but I don't feel the need to wear a mask each day.
You are superficial if you care about your reputation so much that you won't befriend someone. When I see people that are mean to others, I shy away from them.
I talk to everybody and have a lot of friends. I have friends that are just like me, and I have friends that are nothing like me, but I don't care. This sounds mean, but we aren't all models.
I think that you nened to open up more, and try to make a new friend every day. Two of my friends, Eddie and Dylan, introduced themselves to me. Both of them said something along the lines of, " You are so cute. What's your name?" We've been friends ever since.
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um okay wow that was long. haha.
alright so im just ganna like say the question and the answer under it.
a) how come there so some people that have everything?
alright well some people are born with it. born into a rich family and have good looks ect. but theres probably always something wrong with some family. whether if its you don't get along with your parents or your siblings or w.e. and no one is perfect- just remember that.
b)what does it take to be popular?
i would say confidence. you have to have confidence when you talk and speak. and if you don't just act like you have confidence until it really comes. you want to be funny i guess because everybody likes to have a laugh. seriously just be who you are. start talking to people more and try to go join teams and sports to meet people.
just keep being nice to people because people are always ganna look back and remember you being a nice person. and who knows, it could come in handy. about the whole needing money, try babysitting or get a part time job. maybe some lawn work?
any more questions? ask me and i'll answer anything else.
hope i helped
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Ha I was actually terribly bored;
and yes, I read the whole question.
Do you want to know why she's so popular?
Because people like you MAKE her popular.
Do you think everyone would love her so much
if people didn't make such a great deal about
her?
As for the looks, money, and talent.
Some people are just born lucky, you have
to learn to accept that. Its a major lesson
in life.
She's gotten herself far in life
apparently by being nice to others
and working very hard at sports she
wishes to achieve high in.
As far as you know, her life is great.
However, you never really know if it is or
not, only she does. So just be thankful
of your friends and family, and what you have.
Now for your confidence issue.
The main reason you're feeling low is
because you're comparing yourself to someone
like 'her'. That isn't going to get you
anywhere. Forget about her, be friends with
her if you want, but don't gawk over her
day after day. That won't help.
Walk into school with a smile on your face,
shoulders back, gut sucked in, and ready
to face the day. Sincerly compliment others
regularly, try adding some spice to your
wardrobe, try expeirementing with your hairstyles, and put your heart into everything
you do. Keep a smile on your face at all
times. Confidence is the key in everything.
Say five good things about yourself
every night and work on enhancing your positives.
(IE: if you have great eyes, ask your mom
if you can try mascara just to lighten up
your face) As corny as it sounsd, this will
get your confidence up in no time. Never go
around complaining, just to fish for compliments.
Good Luck! <3
If you have anymore specific
questions about this, feel free to
inbox me.
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I didn't read all of this because it was pointless. BUT I will tell you that you need to appreciate what you got because some people don't even have that.
The Being popular thing, people like her because she has things. I bet she doesn't have a lot of real friends.. Stop being envious of her and live your own life. Besides envy is a sin.
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Im NOT going to be like "wtf" but I am going to say TWO words that pretty much sums up all of your problems here.
"MIDDLE SCHOOL"
You mentioned youre 13. Well, I was only 13 2 years ago, but something changed drastically when I became a freshman in high school last year. People cared less about popularity and more about their future and their own friends. Being popular isnt the best thing in the world. And DONT say she has a perfect life until youve actually spent a day BEING her. Maybe she seems perfect on the outside, but once in awhile she must have a problem or sadness in her life..everyone does at one point. No one is perfect no matter how well she covers up her flaws! I mean I know its harsh, but you dont know what her real life is. She could be dealing with an eating disorder or depression. Maybe her family & life looks "great" on the outside with their money and mansions, but inside the house could be a totally different story. Maybe one of her parents is a drug addict (some rich, suburban moms are.) Or maybe her parents fight a lot or abuse her. I hate to say that...Im just saying - I used to think this girl in my school was PERFECT. Really. She had everything. Money, guys, friends, everything you mentioned. And then I actually befriended her and found out that her parents were going through a nasty divorce and she was raped by her Uncle when she was 7 years old. Horrible, I know. But see, you cant judge a book by its cover.
Secondly, people who have lives that good and get everything that easy to them are learning how to live life the HARD WAY. I noticed you said shes not doing well academically? Well, academics is what gets you a job. And getting a job is what gets you all the glamorous things she has. What is she going to do when shes out of highschool and everyone is applying to colleges? Her parents ARENT going to financially support her forever, I can tell you that right now. People who are rich and get things easily, never learn the value of it. They take everything for granted like their objects, money and friendships.
This girl is obviously doing a HECK of a job of being someone everyone likes. Shes actually smart in a way - shes decoded the popularity code and totally found out the way to achieve it. She knows that being nice to people will always make you popular. And she obviously works hard on her looks - making sure she buys cute clothes and never wears the same outfits, etc. Truth is, theres ALWAYS going to be girls like her. And they ALWAYS end up in bad situations later in life because they wasted their school time thinking about "cute clothes" instead of their schoolwork. And therefore, cant get a college degree to get a job & support themselves. She might have to go back to school to get her credits to graduate high school with good grades...is popularity really worth it?
In my book, not really! You have friends, you are healthy. Youre alive. Youre not homeless or poor. Be thankful for what you have. Try convincing your mom to let you wear a little make-up and ask questions about HOW to put on make-up on this site! If you really want to be like her and have more clothes, work for it. Get a job (babysit, dog sit, do chores around the house for allowance.) And then forget about her..youre never going to be EXACTLY like her. So why spend your time trying?
The real way to become popular is to be yourself. Dont try to immitate her..but befriend her. Invite her over, talk to her in school. Be nice to everyone and have your own style. Be fun and outgoing and you will be popular. :]
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