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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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well me and my boyfriend are both virgins. and well hes 18 and im 17 going to be 18 in september. well he says i have to wait til i turn 18 to have sex or a baby. cuz he dusnt wnt to hear crap from my mom. and if im an dult then i can do it. well also that way we can both make sure we are ready. we both love eachother very much. and we have been together for over a year already. well i really dont have a question but im scared that once we do have a baby that something will happen and i wont be able to have one. is there any way that i can make sure everything inside my body will work right once i get to 18 cause i want a baby..his baby more then anything. and i dotn want something to happen and like we cant have a baby. you know?! like for example i eat hot cheetos like all the time. is there any way that can ruin my things on the inside that will keep me from getting pregnant.? someone please answer this i know i have time but if theres any adviceid really like to start watching out for it now. that way there is no problems when i get there. so please and thankyou soo much!! xoxo

If you want to know if you are able to have kids, you need to go to the doctor. They are the only ones that can tell you for sure. Drinking, drugs & the like will definitely be able to lower your fertility, and is not something you should take part in if you would like to have children.

However, don't just have children because you want to and are able to. Many people take that gift for granted and have children they cannot support when there are a lot of people out there that cannot have children. If you're going to have kids, have them because you're in a serious committed relationship with someone you truly love & care for an d make sure that you're financially stable and very much responsible enough to support them. Children cost a lot of money and are very tiring. Do not make a mistake or try to get pregnant on purpose if you cannot support a child.

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Hannah is my bro's feiance. She is a bad situation at her house and when she turns 18 wants to move in with me. Im ok with her living with me but I will expect certain things from her like going to school and having a job. Do you think expections would be a bad thing and if not what should I expect out of her?

I don't think it's okay for you to expect school out of her because not every 18 year old goes to college right after high school ends. I would say that school is a personal decision that she should be able to make on her own - not something you should expect out of her.

As far as having a job, I think that's a reasonable expectation. It wouldn't be right of her to live with you at no expense. Just tell her to try and have a job before she comes to stay with you so that way she's already sort of supporting herself and doesn't have to laze around looking for work.

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I'm having an issue.
Whenever I go shopping for pants/jeans, I have a hard time finding my size. I'm 5 feet, size 3 around the waist, and I have to look in the petite section whenever I go shopping.
The problem is, not every store I go to even as a petite section... and the ones that DO never have a great selection. They always have jeans like the ones I already have.

My question is (and it may be a weird one), but are there any online stores that I can order pants by entering my height or something? So it'd definite that they won't be too long or too short for me?

Anyone else have this issue? Pants are either too long or two short for me and I'm getting sick of having to hem them :/

thanks.

Have you tried Wet Seal? They vary in a lot of sizes, and even have different hemlines for different types of people. I'm 5'3ish but the 'regular' hem is too long for me, so I buy the short kind. They have a lot of different jean types too, so they'll definitely have what you're looking for, and for a good price. I haven't seen pants there that are more than $25.

If you're willing to pay more for your jeans, you can try American Eagle or Hollister. Abercrombie is another place you could check out as well because a lot of the people that shop at those places are real petite. :)

I hope that helps.

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16/F living in Ontario, Canada

Alright well in school this week we learned about doner donations and how you sign it when you get your liciense, or something like that if you want to donate your organs when you die(I'm already aware of it). But what I learned is that many students in my class (including me) will be a doner but almost 100% of us didn't tell our parents. And we have to because of noone knows, then there's be a huge argument abut it when I die.

And I told my parents but they completely disagree and said no! And they're Buddists (I'm not) but we learn about other religions in school and that religion is totally okay with it so it's just them.

I just don't see why you would not when your body could potentially save 8 lives (unless your religion has something to do with it but I'm saying if it doesn't). It's not like my parents would want my dead body int he house or anything. And most likely, they'll be dead when I die anyways. I don't want to take it to court or anything so is there anything I can do?

We got into a big argument and my parents even wentfar enough to the point where they said they'd disown me! I know that many people my age might already have moved out. I'm an excellent student, on the honour roll, etc and I have many clubs/meetings to go to so I don't have the time for a job so to manage verything on my own would just be awful!

If you want your organs to be donated after you die, that is 100% your decision. Your parents cannot control what you decide to do with your body after you are deceased. So, if you would like to be an organ donor (even against your parents will), then so be it. You don't have to tell them about it.

I honestly think it's great that you are willing to help save a life after yours is over. It's a very generous action.

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I hard that you some how can play your ds in to the wii?

You heard wrong. I'm pretty positive that you cannot play DS games on the Wii.

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im 14 and my girlfriend is 15. we have been going out for about 2 years now and we think it is time we have sex. i plan on using a condom but, she is still kinds nervos about her getting prego. what should we do?

You probably should not engage in sex. Sex comes with a lot of consequences that 14 & 15 year olds cannot handle.

Are you ready for a baby? Do you have a job to support you & your girlfriend if the contraceptives fail? If you get an STD, how will make sure it gets taken care of? How will you prevent getting an STD? How will you prevent pregnancy?

These are all questions you need to ask yourself before you engage in sexual activity. Sex is not something people do for fun, it's an intimate moment that is used for reproduction purposes.

I think your best bet is just to stay abstinent. You're both a little young to be having sex and there are a lot more ways you could show one another how much you care.

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So I’ll admit- I’m straight edge
Never tried alcohol cause I’m under 21.
Never tried pot
Never experimented.
And neither had my best friend, but recently she’s been hanging around this girl who is her “New school best friend” cause we go to different schools. But I’ve always been her regular best friend. This girl she’s hanging out with wants her to smoke pot with her next weekend, and my friend is trying to play it cool like she doesn’t care. But I know she does. I told her she shouldn’t do it and she was like “it’s only one time, and plus it’s already been decided.”
That’s what everyone who does pot says, that they’re only going to do it one time. But before she knows it she’s gonna get more comfortable with doing it and such… and I don’t know. I know I can’t change her mind for her. But is there any way I could talk her out of it or something? Cuz pot sort of ruined my life, even though I’ve never done it. I had a bad experience with a boyfriend who dumped me because I wouldn’t smoke pot with him and stuff. It just… pisses me off I guess that she would do something like that and not even talk to me about it.
"it's already been decided."
I don’t know.
Does anyone get it? I feel like an ass, but I’m really concerned.
What do I do?

I'm not sure how old you are because you didn't say, but I don't really think that there's much you can do to change her mind. You can always express your opinion & your concerns to her, but whether or not she'll listen or use your advice is unknown.

If you're really against her doing this & don't think it's for her best interest, tell her that. Don't tell her not to do it because you're not the boss of her, but do tell her that you don't think she should. It's not that you want to prevent her from having fun or fitting in with her new friend, but that you don't want her to have bad habits. If she doesn't listen & still plans to smoke weed, well then just tell yourself that you tried your best and that there wasn't really much you can do.

And by the way (not to be rude), but you're not straight edge; you're a law abiding citizen.

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I hate sleeping alone. Every night I just cant wait until the weekend where I can sleep with my boyfriend so I'm not alone. Most nights I just cry and can't sleep for hours, therefore making me moody in school the next day. I'm 16 and still sleep with the light on and door open, aswell as the tv, although when I'm sleeping with my boyfriend I can sleep no matter what. I dont think that it's just because he's my boyfriend because Ive had this problem nearly all my life, I remember always sleeping in my mums bed with her when I was little. I just don't know what's wrong! :( any help??

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I just think that you really like the comfort of being with another person. You like the cuddles and the kisses. You hate to be alone because you don't have that with you. Maybe you can fall asleep with your boyfriend on the phone at night so you don't feel so lonely. It might help you fall asleep better. :)

If not, try sleeping with a stuffed animal that you really love.

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My mom found all this pepsi she bought a long time ago in the back of her car, it could've been there over a year, maybe more. But I know sodas take a long time to expire. The bottom of the can says September 9, 2009. Is this the expiration date, there are other less clear numbers on it, but my dad drank one and he says he likes it better than the coke we have in our house, which isnt expired. Should I drink it?

If you don't feel good about drinking it or are unsure if you want to, then you probably shouldn't.

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I sleep around

More than likely.

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i really want to study abroad, but i don't know much about it. and does it cost more than college? and what do you get out of it. someone help please i'm so clueless

Studying abroad is really something you would ask your college about it. Ask them what your options are and make sure that it has something to do with your major. I'm sure they don't let just anyone go for any reason. Your college will have all the information about it like whether you're eligible to go, how much it'll cost, etc.

As far as what you get out of it - a lot. Well, you get to experience a new culture, a new way of life. You'll learn language differences, possibly a new language, try new foods, etc.

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im almost 18 and for my birthday i wanna get a tattoo on my wrist. however i have no clue what to get so i need some ideas. i dont want anybodys name. im all about having strength and courage so those could be some ideas you want to go off. i was going to get fear no man or trust no one or something kind of like that but they sound kinda dumb. sooo if you know any good quotes or have any ideas it would be greatfully appreciated. thanks!

If you're very much about strength or courage, you could get those words in another language. I think getting it in the language of your family is a great thing (like if you're German or Italian or something). Not only would it show your love for your heritage, but it would be really cute and have a special meaning.

I honestly don't think that "Fear No Man" is stupid. I actually think that it's something to live by. However, I don't like the idea of someone getting "Trust No One" tattooed on them. As you get older, your views on trust change a lot, and I think if you get something like that tattooed on you, you'll really regret it.

You should really do a lot of research online about tattoos and the procedure and ideas and everything. You want to be as prepared as possible when you go in because tattoos may seem like fun, but sometimes people forget that they're permanent and tattoo stupid things on themselves. If you second guess a tattoo, it probably isn't worth getting done. I hope this helps a little bit, and in the end, I hope you're happy with your tattoo. They're a great thing if you're positive it's what you want & that it's something you'll love for years to come.

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All these blank walls are bothering me in my room. What are some unique ways for a 14 year old to get them less boring??

If the walls are white, have your parents paint them a nice color for you. If you don't care to have them painted, rip out pages from magazines. Rip out pictures of your favorite bands, or of models from your favorite fashion magazine.

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I am lesbian and I've only had intercourse with a girl. Does that mean I'm a virgin? Today someone asked me if I was a virgin and I said "no" but really I don't know. Opinionated answers are fine with me. Just curious. Also when I have sexual intercourse with my girlfriend, we make it special. It's affectionate and we do it because we are in love. This is just so complex to get my mind around. Some define virginity as a penis going into a vagina, but isn't other forms of sex included for virginity? If people have oral sex and they never had a penis, are they a virgin? What defines sex?

I don't think you're a virgin. Because you're a lesbian, the qualifications of losing virginity are different. I think that since you have had intercourse with your girlfriend that you're not a virgin.

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so i got pulled over for going over the yellow center line while i was driving. since i have never been given a warning, and it was an incredibly minor offence, i was let off the hook. he just said, ok since you havent had a warning, you are free to go.
does this constitute as a warning?

I would say so.

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16/f
i went out with my ex for 2 years, i loved him ALOT. we broke up because he moved (bad relationship of him cheating) .. a year later i have a new boyfriend, on the 13th we will be together for 4 months. I know i like him but sometimes i have no desire to cuddle with him. he say's i have a wall blocked up for me to fall in love with him because im scared i'll be hurt again. i honestly dont know what it is. im very laid back

He told you what it is. You are scared of being hurt again so you're trying not to get too close with him so that it doesn't happen. You're afraid that if you fall in love, he'll break your heart and hurt you.

I know it's hard to trust again and let someone in after you've been hurt badly, but you need to realize that not everyone is bad and that some people do genuinely love you. I think if you come to terms with that, you can start healing and start giving your boyfriend the love he's giving you.

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ok. i am into Artists like A Day To Remember, Evanescence, Hawthorne Heights, Hollywood Undead, Paramore, and alotta other rock. i love fast melodies, sweet melodies or anything lol...as long as its some kinda genre close to rock n stuff. well i would like someone to give me some songs that have a deep meaning. a song that would make you smile on the spot because its sweet or makes you want to sing along. i just want a song with a deep meaning or a pure meaning...anything. help! ---->pretty plzzz =)

I'm not really good with naming songs, but I can definitely name some bands that you might like if you don't already.

All Time Low
The Rocket Summer
The Almost
Saosin
Blessthefall
Escape The Fate
Hey Monday
VersaEmerge
The Academy Is...
Acceptance
Alexisonfire
Emery
Anberlin
Armor For Sleep
Brand New
Boys Like Girls
Chiodos
Broadway
The Cab
Fireworks
Cartel
Circa Survive
Cobra Starship
The Dangerous Summer
Emarosa
Every Avenue
The Fall of Troy
Forever The Sickest Kids
Four Year Strong
The Friday Night Boys
This Providence
The Higher
Hit The Lights
We The Kings
Jimmy Eat World
Mae
The Maine
Matchbook Romance
Mayday Parade
Motion City Soundtrack
New Found Glory
Person L
Pierce The Veil
Rise Against
Say Anything
Set Your Goals
A Skylit Drive
Sing It Loud
Therefore I Am
There For Tomorrow

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If you have given and received oral sex does that mean you're not a virgin?

Depends who you ask. People have different opinions on what is sex and what is not.

I think that because you have not had vaginal intercourse, you're a virgin. Until a penis goes into your vagina, you're a virgin.

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im a senior and i went to school with this boy for all highschool.
hes extremly popular inside and outside my school and is just really cool.
i really wanted to get with him so i started flirting and whatever with him but just as i started doing that a sophmore girl did to and they were talking like 24/7 and they hooked up. i essentionaly "lost" even though he never really knew i wanted him.

this sophmore is really ugly (im not saying this out of spite- i would be honest, expecially here where no one even knows me) and just not in his leage and im just so angry that they are like togetherish now and i dont know what to do.


what you think?

how do i get him!

why was she chosen over me?

He just doesn't like you. That's not her fault and it's not his. He just doesn't see you that way. You can't make him like you, or be with you. Obviously he's interested in her so he chose her.

You just need to get over it. You're a senior in high school. Grow up.

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On facebook I get a lot of group invites saying "INVITE ALL YOUR FRIENDS TO THE GROUP AND YOU WILL BE ABLE TO SEE WHO VISITS YOUR PROFILE!!!!!"

I was just wondering if any of this crap actually WORKS or if it's some stupid spam that has gotten around because poeple believe it will work.

It's spam. I just ignore those when they're sent to me.

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