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Straight Edge
So I’ll admit- I’m straight edge
Never tried alcohol cause I’m under 21.
Never tried pot
Never experimented.
And neither had my best friend, but recently she’s been hanging around this girl who is her “New school best friend” cause we go to different schools. But I’ve always been her regular best friend. This girl she’s hanging out with wants her to smoke pot with her next weekend, and my friend is trying to play it cool like she doesn’t care. But I know she does. I told her she shouldn’t do it and she was like “it’s only one time, and plus it’s already been decided.”
That’s what everyone who does pot says, that they’re only going to do it one time. But before she knows it she’s gonna get more comfortable with doing it and such… and I don’t know. I know I can’t change her mind for her. But is there any way I could talk her out of it or something? Cuz pot sort of ruined my life, even though I’ve never done it. I had a bad experience with a boyfriend who dumped me because I wouldn’t smoke pot with him and stuff. It just… pisses me off I guess that she would do something like that and not even talk to me about it.
"it's already been decided."
I don’t know.
Does anyone get it? I feel like an ass, but I’m really concerned.
What do I do?
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I was straight edge before I became 21...I mean COMPLETE straight edge. I am now over 21 so I do drink but other then that...thats it! There is nothing wrong with being straight edge either! Yeah...I know quite a few people who smoke pot...and I don't necessarily agree with it but I can't stop them. Your ex-boyfriend dumped you because you wouldn't smoke pot? He sounds a bit dumb to me! There is not much you can do in this situation because she's going to do what she wants...its not like smoking pot is going to change the person she is. I'm sure you two will still remain friends...its normal to feel concerned and don't feel bad about it. You have to however let her do what she wants...you don't have control over her and it sounds she already made up her mind.
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I'm not sure how old you are because you didn't say, but I don't really think that there's much you can do to change her mind. You can always express your opinion & your concerns to her, but whether or not she'll listen or use your advice is unknown.
If you're really against her doing this & don't think it's for her best interest, tell her that. Don't tell her not to do it because you're not the boss of her, but do tell her that you don't think she should. It's not that you want to prevent her from having fun or fitting in with her new friend, but that you don't want her to have bad habits. If she doesn't listen & still plans to smoke weed, well then just tell yourself that you tried your best and that there wasn't really much you can do.
And by the way (not to be rude), but you're not straight edge; you're a law abiding citizen.
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I've been in similar situations. There's no real good way to talk someone out of it- they've made a decision and need to think for themselves regardless of how smart that decision is. You don't want to bombard them with anti-pot facts or anything, that will just push them away. I'd say just tell them that you hope they don't do anything stupid [driving, things they normally wouldn't do when sober], and say you're still there for them.
Plenty of people smoke pot, not saying it's right or wrong, but it happens. You have your stance on drugs, it is a personal decision. It's hard to see your best friend change like that but it's really not something you can prevent. Just hope that it doesn't change her drastically.
Nothing wrong with being straightedge by the way. I'm 21 and have been it all my life, never touched alcohol or drugs or cigs or any of that, and most of my friends are drinkers, smokers, etc. But it's all about mutual respect, they respect me, I respect them [although I do worry about them sometimes]. Hopefully your friend can continue to respect your distance from substances, even if she experiments with them.
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You need to just tell her what you just told us. Tell her it will ruin her life. If you feel comfortable, tell an adult. If you don't, tell someone without using names. But whatever you do, keep her away from drugs. No matter what.
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