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Turning 17 next week, and wanna have a party, during mid term.
The only thing is, I can't have it at my place cos all my family will be there, and they'll get in the way, our house is tiny.
That, and there's definitely be drinking (spare any lectures please).. I was thinking we could camp or something, but we kinda want loud music, so it's preferable that it's inside, and the weather could be terrible so..
PLEASE give me some ideas, getting desperate here!
thanks. (link)
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Get some money together from the party guests and put it together to rent a cheap place out for the night.
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So Im 20 and female. I am a model for a popular company in my state but I am a little bigger than the rest of the girls. Not by much, I am a sixe 10 and most of the other girls are a size 2 or 4. I can suck in my stomach but my love handles and look skinny but Ive recently gained some big love handles and my butt and thighs are getting bigger and uglier daily. It really sucks being the biggest girl and feeling like the ugliest. I had knee surgery in December because of an accident that happened in August so working out is pretty hard but I do physical therapy and sit ups so thats about all the exercise I can do.
My main focus needs to be my diet, my problem is I am addicted to food. If there is food near by then I will eat it. Especially late at night. I work at a place with the best cheesy fries ever and I cant help but eat them every time I work. Sometimes I try to eat healthy but I still eat more than I should.
I was promoted to team lead in one of the modeling groups, meaning all focus and attention will be on me when it comes to that particular group. Right now we are working on auditions and getting the new teams situated then we will begin modeling again in March. I really want to lose the excess inches and be toned by then. ANY advice will be great. Thanks (link)
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I was about to say everything Melody was. Weeeelll another option is those filling foods and drinks they make. They really work and you won't feel the need to eat food so much.
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im 14 and my girlfriend is 15. we have been going out for about 2 years now and we think it is time we have sex. i plan on using a condom but, she is still kinds nervos about her getting prego. what should we do?
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Personally boy, I think you are waaaaaaaaay too young and out of your league.
Get a really good condom like trojan and get her on the pill.
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16/F
Okay, so i've had sex a few times recently and now thats all I want to do. I'd rather do it with a guy i'm NOT dating, I know thats bad but its just how I feel. Please don't tell me "I'm too young to be having sex" because its my business, not yours. I'm asking for help, not for you input on my decisions.
So, is there anything I can do to not be so sex-crazy?
Thank you! :) (link)
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Get some sex toys and distract yourself with activities and friends. If it's really bothering you, see someone about it.
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So I was with a guy for 10 months then I seen an old friend. We knew each other for 5 years and have always liked each other then we exchanged numbers. Well I fell for him and he did me so we broke up with who we were dating and hung out.We had been kinda dating for the last month like saying how we felt having sex and kissing. Well yesterday we went to the movies with some friends and then we got into a fight because I bought the popcorn and he said he should of and I told him that it was fine. Well we got over that then on out ride home I got a text from my ex asking me back out I realized it would have been our anniversary and got a little sad because I still liked him. Well we got back to his place and he said he still loved his ex as well so we agreed that on valentines day we would pick who we wanted and we were both sure it would be the ex. Then he said he was never going back to her cause he loved me and I said that I would make up my mind the 13 and tell him who I pick.I wanted to surprise him when I picked him. Well today he told his ex he was going to be with her on valentines day and we stared fighting and crying now he wont talk to me and I feel like crying. I feel like I love him he has been my friend for 5 years and now he is just leaving without a good bye or anything... Is there something I can do? I don't even care if we date I just love him enough that being friends and seeing him happy would be good enough. (link)
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Tell him the last sentence of what you told us.
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So I’ll admit- I’m straight edge
Never tried alcohol cause I’m under 21.
Never tried pot
Never experimented.
And neither had my best friend, but recently she’s been hanging around this girl who is her “New school best friend” cause we go to different schools. But I’ve always been her regular best friend. This girl she’s hanging out with wants her to smoke pot with her next weekend, and my friend is trying to play it cool like she doesn’t care. But I know she does. I told her she shouldn’t do it and she was like “it’s only one time, and plus it’s already been decided.”
That’s what everyone who does pot says, that they’re only going to do it one time. But before she knows it she’s gonna get more comfortable with doing it and such… and I don’t know. I know I can’t change her mind for her. But is there any way I could talk her out of it or something? Cuz pot sort of ruined my life, even though I’ve never done it. I had a bad experience with a boyfriend who dumped me because I wouldn’t smoke pot with him and stuff. It just… pisses me off I guess that she would do something like that and not even talk to me about it.
"it's already been decided."
I don’t know.
Does anyone get it? I feel like an ass, but I’m really concerned.
What do I do? (link)
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You need to just tell her what you just told us. Tell her it will ruin her life. If you feel comfortable, tell an adult. If you don't, tell someone without using names. But whatever you do, keep her away from drugs. No matter what.
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I hate sleeping alone. Every night I just cant wait until the weekend where I can sleep with my boyfriend so I'm not alone. Most nights I just cry and can't sleep for hours, therefore making me moody in school the next day. I'm 16 and still sleep with the light on and door open, aswell as the tv, although when I'm sleeping with my boyfriend I can sleep no matter what. I dont think that it's just because he's my boyfriend because Ive had this problem nearly all my life, I remember always sleeping in my mums bed with her when I was little. I just don't know what's wrong! :( any help?? (link)
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I know you're gonna feel too old for this, but you might want to sleep with a Teddy bear or something like that. Or if you have a pet, have him/her sleep with you.
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This may be long, and I do apoligize but it means alot and I thank anyone who gives me advice.
I am a 20/f who has dated her bf for over a year and 4 months. We were very much in love, and it was evident in the relationship that he was even more in love with me than I was with him. Soon though I began to love him just as much. We were trully happy. We planned a vacation together for January but due to conditions not under our control, he said he couldn't, and if we could go next year. I was upset because I was looking 4ward to relaxing and asked to go with friends, which he did not like saying "You're ditching me! You're just dropping me!" After feeling he controlled me, I gave him his promise ring back, & he gave me his back later. This hurt him alot. I never knew it would make such an impact. He took this as a breakup. In a few days he came back and we made up and everything was great. Later that week, he broke up with me (2 days after xmas). I was so upset. After that he didn't contact me on new years, and finally I did, saying I missed him. He wrote "I obviously miss you too!" So I called & asked why we cant be together, and he told me that I hurt him, and all the nasty things I said to him when we fought, he had enough of. So I cried, but we continued to txt each other every few days. He seemed to care when I was sick, or wished me a safe flight when I went on vacation. I then wrote him a 3 page letter telling him how much he means to me and how I'm sorry for hurting him, I gave him his ring back hoping this would bring him back. 2 days later he told me "we should stay the way we are, and that i really hurt him, and broke his heart. he also wrote "time 4 something new I guess" That killed me. When i told him I loved him he answered "I cant say something I don't mean." Recently Ive seen on fb he's talking to someone else, but he never deleted our default pictures together & deletes all her comments tht refer to them hanging out. I don't know what to do. I love him, and I know I hurt him but I can't be chasing after him, If I am receiving no love in return. He's my world and I'd do anything for him, but I feel he's just giving up on us. (link)
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Don't take this too harshly, but it's over. Don't waste your time going after him. He's made it clear that he wants to end the relationship, and there's no way to change that. Nothing lasts forever.
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I'm looking for books that talk about tough issues. At least 80pages.
Mainly:
Domestic Abuse
Bullying where the main girl commits suicide
etc (link)
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Domestic abuse
1. Torn From the Inside Out by Josephine Thompson
2. The Burning Bed by Faith McNulty
3. I, Tina by Tina Turner
4. White Oleander (Oprah's Book Club) by Jill Mansell
5. Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
5. Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
6. Religion and Domestic Violence in Early New England: The Memoirs of Abigail Abbot Bailey (Religion in North America) by Abigail Abbot Bailey
7. Whose Face Is in the Mirror?: The Story of One Woman's Journey from the Nightmare of Domestic Abuse to True Healing by Dianne Schwartz
8. A Woman Like You: The Face of Domestic Violence (New Leaf Series) by Vera Anderson
9. It's My Life Now : Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence by Meg Kennedy Dugan
10. The Color Purple by Christopher A. Hubert
Suicide
The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath
Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher
The Virgin Suicides by Jeffrey Eugenides
A Long Way Down by Nick Hornby
The Pact by Jodi Picoult
Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy
Veronika Decides to Die by Paulo Coelho
Looking for Alaska by John Green
Night Falls Fast: Understanding Suicide by Kay Redfield Jamison
The Hours by Michael Cunningham
The Awakening by Kate Chopin
Mrs Dalloway by Virginia Woolf
What Happened to Cass McBride? by Gail Giles
Norwegian Wood by Haruki Murakami
Impulse by Ellen Hopkins
The Savage God: A Study of Suicide by Al Alvarez
Survivor by Chuck Palahniuk
The Burn Journals by Brent Runyon
Twisted by Laurie Halse Anderson
Girl, Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen
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this boy in school that i like and have done for a while now i really wont to say something in school to him i only mean something like hi in the hall way. but the thing is my friends all ways use to embaris me infront of him by shouting things at him about me and everytime i get the perfect opatunity to say something i cant help but think of all the embarising things that happeded. how can i get the corige to say hi to him? help plaese (link)
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When you see him, try not to think. Ignore his friends; they don't mean anything. Then smile warmly and say a casual hi. If you've liked him for a while, it's time to take a step and say hi and ignore his friends and rverthing they've said about you.
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Ok so I think I might be pregnant. I was supposed to start my period today, and I guess I did kind of...I woke up to a very small amount of brown-ish red blood and I put a tampon in because I don't know if this was my period or spotting. I've always been pro-choice, so I want an abortion. I am not ready for a baby, but I'm not going to say I wasn't ready for sex. I just should have been a lot smarter about it. My boyfriend and I had JUST decided to stop having unprotected sex about a week ago (before I suspected any pregnancy) because we both just realized how important it was for me not to get pregnant and how unready we were for that kind of responsibiliy, whether I had the baby or not. I haven't told any one of my suspicions yet, I am not even entirely sure myself. I know there are 2 people that I have to tell if I am pregnant; my boyfriend and my mom. My mom will probably be upset because we have had the "sex talk" numerous times before. She basically told me that she didn't think sex was bad at all, she just didn't want me to get pregnant, so she asked me to wait until I was 18 so I could get birth control. I want to tell my mom really bad. I just hate this "I might be pregnant" feeling because if anything, I just want to find out if I am and get an abortion and just never be stupid about sex again. But I don't want ANYONE else to know. Not my stepdad, not my dad, not any family or friends. I think if I tell her, it is MY secret to tell, if I want to, not hers. But I'm not sure if she will do that for me because I've never been in this situation before. And I know I'd have to tell my boyfriend, but we've discussed this before and we both feel abortion would be the best option for our situations. So the basic questions I'm asking here are;
-How do I tell my mom and how do I keep her from telling anyone?
-How do I KNOW if I am pregnant? I haven't taken a pregnancy test yet because I don't have a car to go get one.
-I'm sure I'm going to lose trust from my mom if all this is as it appears and I am pregnant, but is there anyway to lessen the blow when I tell her? I really don't want to hurt her and I don't want her to think differently of me or my boyfriend.
Thanks a lot for any advice...
PS: Please don't give me the "if you're ready to have sex, you should be ready for the consequences" anti-abortion line...I know it was stupid, I really don't need anyone telling me that... (link)
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First off, you need to take a pregnancy test to see if you're pregnant or not. You could also get tested at the doctors. But if you said you spotted, you're probably not pregnant.
The way to go to your mother is easy. Tell her first about your affection for this boy. Then tell her that you made a very big mistake and that you didn't mean for it to happen, and then go out and tell her.
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