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My boyfriend and me have been dating for over 10 months now and everything has been great. Granted, there has been our ups and downs, as all good relationships do, but recently it seems as though he's been ignoring me. He won't answer my texts or calls. When we do talk its because I call him for the third time. I ask if I did something to upset him or if something is wrong and he says no and that everything is ok. He's been acting strange; when we talk he doesn't say much and it seems he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I'm very lost in what's going on with him. Please I need some serious advice (a guys opinion would be very helpful as well). Please answer soon. Thank you. We love each other and I want to make it work. I am 16 and he is 17. I know we are young and some people think people our age can't be in love but in this case we very much do, so please if you answer this let it be about our problem not based on just our age. Thank you (link)
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Its hard to say, there could be numerous awnsers to your question. I know u said not to make it about your age but when your young your hormones are effecting your daily life. Being a teenager is rough especically when in a relationship. It could be that your pushing him away with quedtions all the time, or it could be that he wants something more, just relax and let him come to you. Its very apparant that you have told him what you want, so let sleeping dogs lie so to speak. That's a very difficult question so please don't take anything I say to heart. If you love somthing let it go, if it comes back its yours if not it was never meant to be.
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I had sex with my girlfriend for the 6th time today, and she bleed a little.. and she just told me that i popped her cherry and it wasn't her period. but she's used tampons and she has already had sex with another guy before me... so is it possible that i really was the first to pop her cherry?? (link)
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You've already awnsered your question. Dude she was with someone else, the cherry is no more
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So I am dropping out of college for family reasons and have to move back home 15 hours away. The love of my life is staying there. I guess we are boyfriend/girlfriend without the titles. We have talked about relationships and decided against it because we don't want to endanger out friendship, we are best friends before anything else.
Well, now that I won't be seeing him, perhaps even never again, I am at a complete loss of what to do. Even if we don't end up married or something, I've always seen him as someone who will be in my life forever, and now I'm scared that won't happen. He is not someone I want to lose. We have been through so much, and we were able to overcome everything. I fear this is the one thing that will overthrow us.
I mean of course we are going to keep in touch, but the distance will cause us to drift apart anyways I fear.
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Well...The best advise to you would be to make sure that u finish your education. No matter what your relation ship may be. In this economy you can't afford not to get it. As for the love of ur life...things will fall into place, lay it on the line, if it works then great, if not then stay friends...the key is staying friends no matter what happens. If you love something let it go...if it comes back its yours. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be.
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16/f
ever since i could remember when i was little, ive always feared tidal waves. ive had reoccuring dreams about them, and i at least think of tidal waves 3 times a day. on top of that, i just worry about my family gettin hurt. i have a wonderful mom and a step-dad, and a beautiful baby girl. im ALWAYS worried about them dying, which scares me. whenever i take the baby somewhere with a hard corner around, i imagine her hitting her head on it and i die inside everytime i imagine it. i imagine my mom getting in a car wreck on the way home from work. i imagine my step dad sitting on the porch and a tidal wave coming and smacking him against the concrete. i always had these feelings, but during/after i was pregnant i got way worse. is this normal or should i seek professional help?
thank you. xoxo (link)
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Could be Post partum depression. Go talk to someone but don't get on any freakn meds to make you loopy unless you actually need them
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Ever since I was a little, I have always had vivid dreams. When I was a child I used to have dreams about dead people living in my basement, People chasing me. While I was sleeping I could feel the fear of me being kidnapped, stalked, chased..If I cried I could feel myself cry in my sleep. I am older now, I don't have dreams as often but I still to this day remember my child hood dreams and every so often I still have a vivid dream. I wake up, Sometimes I am upset throughout the day, I am depressed and I don't have the energy to do much and it will constantly be on my mind. I have seeked therapy over the years, It didn't do much. I was on medication, It only made me dream more often. I've had my medications switched several times, Dosed lowered and everything and I still have nightmares or vivid dreams. I often have dreams of people chasing me, I'm in the woods being chased by a lion or a pack of coyotes. I'm sick of it and I don't know how to make it all stop. To make matters worse, I remember them and every little detail. (link)
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This is exactly what you need to do.......(RUN). Do a shit load of cardio. Unless your 65 and have a heart condition. Or worse.
I had the same problem, exercise did the trick. 3-5 miles 4 times a week, drink plenty of water and eat healthy.
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my mom doesnt fully trust me. she's always telling things about sex and other stuff i already know, and i dont blame her shes my mother of course shes going to. i never go through her stuff nor go out and do bad things that immature teens do. no sneeking out, or being "naughty" with boys. i hate when she compares me with every other teenager. i love keeping notes from friends from school noothing bad yet my mom is always questioning "oh why cant you show do you have something to hide?" its not that i do its just id at least like to have my own privacy and she has gone through my stuff before throwing a fit, what do i do? or what do i tell her without her being so suspicious about me (link)
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Be up front and tell her exactly what you just told me. If that works fine if not...well, have a coke and a smile and deal with it. There's nothing u can do, you live there with her. Eventually she will trust you, she just seems overly protective which is ok, that's normal your her baby...unless....your not in your 30s ru? :)
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I want to know that my cousin payam love me or not (link)
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I guess the question I should ask is what kind of relationship do you have with your cousin? If u mean a "family love," then yeah I guess. But if its the (creepy) love then I may have to say.....No. Its probabally just a phase...a very wrong phase, what the hell kind of question is that anyway :)
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i'm looking to go into cosmetology. i'd like to eventually get to the point where i was licenced to do hair, makeup, and nails. i'm wondering if i'd be able to learn ALL of that in one time of going to school, through out the whole time i'd be in beauty school. or would i have to go back for several years to get licenced in all of those? (link)
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Ask the school. They will point you in the right direction. I bet you anything they have heard that question before. Its probabally diffrent for each school I'd contact several hust in case. :)
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my face is getting chubby. does anyone know any ways to lose weight in your face? (link)
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There no fat in your head...unless you are a politician. :) but on a serious note, I don't think there's anyway of doing that. Losing wieght in gereral would thin your complextion a bit, but just the face...nope. I would see a doctor, cause it could be an underlining illness "if its really swollen" for example people with cushings syndrome look over weight in the face, but that's curable with drugs for your indoctrine "hormone" system.
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15/m
I go to boarding school and am decently good friends with a girl I like. I frequently ask her to spend time with me by watching a movie among other things, very little of which she agrees to. I don't feel that this reaction is a result of her not liking me, but rather a result of her being too busy and doing things with her friends. I imagine to her, I am just another friend and it doesn't really matter whom she spends time with. I am not hiding the fact that I like her, and it seems to me that it appears fairly obvious, although I can't tell if she realizes it or not, she probably does. I have known her for four months and have been stuck in the friend zone for quite some time. I am wondering how I can get out of this zone. Would doing more stuff with her as I have been trying help? Or should I take another approach? At this point I only really do stuff with her occasionally on the weekends as during the week she is always with her friends, and I am trying to stay clear of just joining her circle of friends. I am also wondering if I should continue just being her friend (and therefore her friends' friend) or make it clear I want to be more, and how fast should I move. If she had a choice between doing something with me or one of her "girlfriends" she would probably go with her other friend, although she still probably enjoys doing things with me. Any help on this matter would be appreciated. Thanks. (link)
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Ok here we go...you both are young and have more energy than a misquito on an expresso.:) She sounds like that she's the type of person who's everywhere all at once. And it may be hard to get a solid 5 minutes to speak. Just know, You have your entire life to find that one person...or two for that matter that will set everything in place. You don't need to get in her little circle of friends, or go that much out of your way to get her attention. I suggest that you get a game plan. First, go right up to her and ask her to talk, if you use your words right, "by that I mean respect her" and tell her straight up how you feel. There may be a chance.
Don't be afraid to get shot down, it happens a lot in life. Watch verbal and physical ques. You can tell if someone is intrested just by looking at them. If she appears to be trying to get the hell outta the conversation then don't prolong it. The last thing you need is 5 minutes of awkward silence. Be out going and don't appear to be afraid...they love confidence. They can sence it in your tone of voice and physical ques. Avoid using the phrase "Uhh" like uhh, I uhh was uhh wondering if uhh ect. Find out what she likes to do, go, listen to, get private eye on that ass. Don't rush her and make her feel like she needs to awnser you. And most of all don't be afraid of the fact that she will shoot you down, and tell her friends. Know this. One out of every ten women find you attractive. Thats a fact. For all you know its one of her friends. :)
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Hey im 18 male, just started seeing a girl (19 y'o')
So iv been seeing this girl, our freinds sort of set us up kind of as a joke. (like they said "wouldnt it be funny if you both hit it off") its an inside joke. but anyways we kinda did at first i thought hey she seems pretty cool. we saw eachother quite a bit afterwards, im shy as hell around pretty girls and even more so if i like them so im kinda having trouble with this.
She's really pretty and sweet in a "im not sweet im ferocious raaawr >:3 " kind of way lol but since we started seeing eachother a week and a few days ago i havent really felt anything more for her than just being a really awesome freind. i dont know how she feels about me, she's huggy and we kiss an all that but i have a really horrible feeling i could be leading her on. am i?? i dont really feel for her in that way like i did my ex. but on the other hand its early days i mean its been a week right? thats no were near enough time to get to know some one, but if i was to keep on like this and no change i do not want to break her heart and tell her i dont feel the sam way after all that time. its confusing the hell outa me because this is what i would call my first propper dating relationship. Before my ex i havent had a gf for 7 years but me and her lasted a month before she moved away. (I fell for my ex really hard, right to the point i her i loved her, i think she thought i was crazy and confused but iv really missed her since the day she left... its hard to not text her every second and tell her how much she meant to me. i guess i still miss her now but shes at university some were else in the country and has found some one else so moving on is the only option i have)
saying that i dont want me and the girl im seeing now to be a rebound relationship. me and my ex broke up just before the school year kicked in last september so its been a fair bit of time since i last saw and spoke to her.
but im so confused and i feel horrid that i could be doing somthing only one of those total ass holes do to girl's. iv told her i want to slow things down a bit before we go further, i want to get to know her but im new to this dating stuff. do i wait? do i tell her straight away?
i see her freind (rach) and her boyfriend who is my freind (Matt) alot as well, im seeing matt tommorow to go skating but ill be seeing rach a bit later on through the day. Emma (the girl im seeing) may not be able to make it to a get together we planned tommorow night so she may not be there. should i talk to rach about it? (rach is very dependable and wont tell her anything if i ask her not to untill iv talked to her) should i chat it with her, she knows emma way better than i do or matt does.
sorry its big chunk of writing hopfully you can help me in some way even if its a simple "talk to emma"
thanks everyone.
Dobb's (link)
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Sounds like to me you have awnserd your own question. But with that, life will never put you through anything you can't handle. You need to have a long talk with this girl your friends set you up with. For one thing how you two hooked up was really second rate. You must consider her feelings when you speak to her. She need to know how you got together and tell her that aside the joke from your friends you have devoloped feelings for her, but the fact that you want to slow down has nothing to do with your friends crappy advice, or the prank!! Its the fact that you are still hurting from a prior relationship. You must respect her and give her the information she needs. Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if you found out down the road that you were a crappy dare? Aside finding new friends you need to man up and be honest to her. "from the heart". You sound like a really good person, and she seems to be kind hearted...give urself some time so that you can think with your head and not your...well... ya know.
For one thing you are still very young, and at this age you can be very emotional. Its gonna suck, there's no other way to put it, but you have to talk to her. As far as the one that got away...there will be others... And if this makes her happy, then let her be happy. If she wants you she will get ahold of you. But!!! Don't ever get into a relationship under the wrong pretences!!!!! That's what destroyed my first marrage. If your with this one girl and all you can think about is the one that got away, it wouldn't be fair to her and it can hurt her... Talk to her, let her know how you feel. Just make sure it comes ...from the heart.
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Alright so.. I'm just gonna start right from the beginning :P
In general, I'm normally attracted to men bigger and taller than myself. And as a rule (not always the case but in my experience, pretty much :P) taller men have larger penises. Soo just by default, I have always been with men who are reasonably well-endowed.
But this Halloween I ended up getting thoroughly intoxicated & hooking up with a guy that was totally not my type. Short, cute but in a very boybandish kind of way (lol), smaller penis than what I was used to.
& the sex was the best I've ever had!
We hooked up a few more time and he was consistently great, so it wasn't a matter of just being too high&drunk the first time to judge accurately.
Eventually we stopped seeing eachother and I was left wondering, was it coincidence that the sex was so great? Soo I chose a new target, hahah :P
Also shorter than me, asian (half chinese), super handsome, and predictably - not a very large penis.
And the sex was BETTER STILL with this guy! I'm like completely addicted to him, his body is absolutely perfect
I've found that guys with small ones try harder because they're insecure, which makes them more thoughtful lovers
they also have to hit it harder to get the same amount of sensation as a guy with a larger one might naturally get, and the fact that they go at it so hard is definately not something I'm complaining about :)
furthermore, the oral sex is much better - they're more proficient, and also it's more fun to preform in return because there's no gagging on my end!
On top of that, I really just find a smaller one more aethestically pleasing to look at. There is something so ugly to me about a large, swinging, veiny piece of meat, which is essentially what a large penis is :P It never really occured to me that a small one would look any better until I actually saw one.
And furthermore, with well endowed guys there was always pain upon them entering me, and I just always chalked it up as part of life. But now I'm discovering that you don't have to exchange pain for pleasure and it's amazingly liberating.
So my question is simply - is there anyone else out there who feels this way? Seriously? Because I even tried googling things like "I prefer a small penis" and there just seems to be absolutely NO ONE sharing my sentiments! :P I'm not concerned if it's normal, because frankly I couldn't care less, as long as we're both enjoying ourselves normality isn't a huge worry for me. But seriously though, just for curiousities sake, are there ANY women who sincerely prefer small penises? Because it quickly developed from an acquired taste, to an obsessionn, to a full-blown fetish in my case. Just would like to know if there's anyone in this wide world who shares my tastes :P thanks in advance for your answers! (link)
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Hello, I'm am positive that there are women that prefer that. It takes all kinds. It seems that you enjoy it so go get your groove on ;) my wife hates larger ones...ya know the ones that look like eguanas!!! HA!!! She prefers it because there's no pain...ect. Anyway you know what you want and like, who cares if other people do it. Your not wierd because of it. Its your preferance. Now go get yourself a midget and have a day at the fair!!! :)
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Hi i am confused torn and stuck in the middle, i am married to an american and am british i now reside in usa with hubby whom i love very much but all my family and kids and grandkids live in uk, i have a step daughter here she has a son, but i am finding it so hard now to be away from my family i miss them so much but i love my hubby loads as well, but my heart is torn i want to be here and over there,we only see his daughter and son about once a week even though they only live over the road but we never have her son because he only likes being with his mum or dad they spoil him a lot, i have been here just over four years and do not have one friend, i find it hard to make friends anyway but here harder, perhaps it me, but my head is so much in a whirl i cant afford to visit very much if i am lucky once a year but not enough my hubby wont move to england because he said no job there, i do not know there is so much going through my head i cant sleep cant consetrate no more i do talk to my husband he says he understands but he dont he has his daughter and grandson here i miss mine so much i feel they wont know me one i will just be the nana that lives abroad, beside leaving my hubby i do not know what to do very confused (link)
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Go be with your family, if it means that much to you then he should stand beside you no matter what. He will find work. He's not over there to look so how can he say for sure? The medical field is BOOMING! Any certifaction can get him a job anywhere! Plus they have free health care don't they? When there's a will there's a way. To ease the pain, maybe a web cam so you can see and talk to them. Its not the awnser but it could help. You sound like you are a very family orientated person and that's a good thing! Sit him down and have a serious heart to heart. Let him know that this is extremly important, after all your husband should be friend of friends in this type of situation. God bless.
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is there ANY way to remove CLOTHING paint from clothes? i know that its meant to be permanent, but i accidentally spilled some on my pants, and i would like to know if these pants have any chance... (link)
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Try GOO GONE that shit removes tar! I would use a little on a inconspicuis area to see how it reacts to your fabric first. Have you called the cleaners they may use something for that. If not then you got a pair of "work pants" for outside.
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I'm having an issue.
Whenever I go shopping for pants/jeans, I have a hard time finding my size. I'm 5 feet, size 3 around the waist, and I have to look in the petite section whenever I go shopping.
The problem is, not every store I go to even as a petite section... and the ones that DO never have a great selection. They always have jeans like the ones I already have.
My question is (and it may be a weird one), but are there any online stores that I can order pants by entering my height or something? So it'd definite that they won't be too long or too short for me?
Anyone else have this issue? Pants are either too long or two short for me and I'm getting sick of having to hem them :/
thanks.
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I understand. My wife has the same prob. What she has to do is actually look in the kids section. Shoes, pants you name it. You may want to check out express, hollister, ambecrombie, ect. They don't carry anything for people that have a lot of junk in there trunk. I wear a size 34 ad I'm 6 foot 4. They didn't carry my size!
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i had a weird dream last night, and this girl I've like since 8th grade was in it. it wasn't sexual or anything like that, i cant remember it exactly, but I've had dreams similar to this before with her in it too, i definitely still like her, but i haven't hung out with her in awhile. i go to a different school and stuff now. I don't know why, if it was coincidence but her bf just broke up with her a few days ago too. How can we get reconnected again, without it being awkward? I really really wanna get back with her again (link)
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Well...this is intresting. There's a lot of diffrent theorys on dreams. Sigmund Froid believed that dreams were sexual wants and desires, nothing more. For example: If you drempt about a pencil inside a holder than the pencil was a penis and the holder was the vagina. Or a dream that you were putting books inside a box. His theorys were very falic. Also did you know that you can control your dreams? Not only did my psychology book confirm it but this is what happened. I had a dream that I was getting chased by 6 cop cars, and when I pulled over, I woke up just enough to know that it was a dream. I immeadatly closed my eyes and picked up where I started from...so I flipped them off and sped away laughing. During my dream I knew for a fact that I wasn't in realiaty. Now did I have that dream due to an under lined want to break the law...no.
My awnser is this, go after what you want regardless of what your dreams mean, or what you think they mean. During the day your mind is receiving millions of pictures, lights, colors, and information. Your eyes move so fast from one point to another that you are actually BLIND for 44 minutes every day. Your brain actually shuts its perception off between eye jerks, so...for 44 min your not seeing anything, cool eh. Its so it can save time and energy. Could you imagine looking at every little thing before you left a room, god no! During a dream, your mind is basically emptying the mental email-mail so to speak. There's just to much info during each day. When you wake up you see hundreds of things in your bedroom that you don't pay attention to. your brain sees it though. While you sleep your brain processes info. Have you ever studied so hard in math that you dream #s. Its its own way of arranging things to be stored so you can remember. If you sleep right after you study you are 40% more likely to do better on an exam, than studing in the morning. !FACT! Now let's cover DEJA VU. You mentioned the word "coiccidence". I believe that's what it is. For example. Your sitting in a chair...all of a sudden you get a bad feeling, and you think of your best friend,...then the phone rings... Your best friend just got killed in a car wreck......
This is just one example, there are hundreds of course. The explanation is fairly easy, you have theese feelings all the time, the ones you remember are the ones that "matter or come true" for example...I said to myself, "I think I may get off work early today." And when I did I said, "see I told ya I was !" But what I don't think about was every day for the past month I said that to my co-worker. Ok bad example, I'm rambeling, SO....yes go after your dreams...unless it has to do with getting run down by 6 state troopers of course. :)
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when i was 15 i went out this guy who was 17 and we always hang out at this one placee where alot of people went and after awhile he wanted to be alone with just us and when i ddint wanna go hed get mad at me so i would go anywayy. we would always go to the same place and each time it got worse and worse. the first couple times we would just make out for like 2 hours and then after that he wanted to do more. she he made me take my shirt off and everytime i didnt wanna do anything hed tell me it was a "turnoff" and get mad at me. everytime i was so scared to go with him but i still went anyway. and each time hed make me take off my shirtt and hed touch me and stufff, and i felt reallly uncomfortable. ive only told one person and she said that it sounded like molestation, but im not sure so can you guys help mee outt? (link)
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Yes I will help you out...stay the fuck away from him. I can't get any more blunt. No its not molestation. The law states that one of you must be an adult for a crime of "molestation" to occur. Now if he is forcing you to do this without your permission then that's rape. BUT and this I'd a really big (((BUT))) people would want to know "if you don't want those type of actions then why go back...again, and again...ect. Don't go near him. Its obvious that he is just a young teen with raging hormones.
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Me and this guy i've been talking to had unprotected sex on the 23rd of january, & unfortunately he came inside of me twice. I was really scared that i might be so i told my pediatrician and he made me take a pregnancy test but it had only been like 9 days after i had sex and it came out negative. i also haven't spotted or felt any different.. only thing is that my stomach hurts sometimes after i eat but its nothing drastic. i'm supposed to get my period on the 14th, but i dont want to wait that long to find out whether i really am or not ! what would be the chance that i'm pregnant ? (link)
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You usually ovulate after your period and the egg will stay in the fallopian tube for about 1-2 weeks, before your body breaks it down. During this time your body is getting ready for a pregnancy. The "Flow" builds up and provides for the egg. If nothing happens then your body cleans it out by manstration. My advice is to take a pregnancy test and cross your fingers, and wait. Take your test around the third week from the day of copulation "sex". Now if its a negative then your good to go, all you have to do now is find out when you ovulate. They have testing kits for that. I would talk to your doctor. He may want to do a blood test, that is the fastest way to get results. You could probabaly do that now.
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The other day I tried fingering myself. I can't seem to make my finger fit at all. Does this mean I'm way too tight? Or am I doing something wrong? I'm kind of concerned about it. I wanna be able to do something to relieve sexual feelings and I can't even do that. (link)
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You should probabally not do that to your penis. Kidding...I think...I don't know if you are a man or woman so anyway. BUT! If you are female then you don't need to even go inside, just use the outside " labia Majoria" that alone will trigger an orgazim...orgizm...how ever you spell it.
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so my girlfriend and i both drink well we have our ups and downs just like every couple but when we fight its always my fault she will say i always am in a bad mood or get upset about somethin everytime we drink and if we hanging with ppl she will be like it was cool hangin guys but ig otta go cuz shes(me) actin dumb. and it always my fault i do this or that or i want everything my way and i dont. and i always hurt her but she can never hurt me. what can i do? i dont wanna leave her because i do love her. (link)
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I had the same problem...first it seems that you do love her. Secondly, if you do want to take your relationship to an whole other level then sacrafices will have to be made.
I realized that, when my wife and I drank, it fuled deep seeded problems. It created distance, and made blaming easier. What worked for "me" was I said to myself "If I love her then I don't want anything to get in the way of that, if there's something that is causing a problem then it has to go. I'm in charge of what I come in contact with." So... Little by little, I cut my drinking way down, and things became easier. I wouldn't replace it with another vice because then you would be trying to cut back on drinking while putting something in your body that may cause a whole shlew of other problems. Take it one step at a time. You don't have to tell her what your doing, simply step up to the plate and do it. Over time, She will recoginize something is diffrent and she will see subtile ques in your behavior. Subconscienely she will begin to view you as the "responsible, motivated, ready to do anything for her and your relationship kind of guy". Now this goes for any problem not just drinking. I know you can do it. Or you can just do what my brother the psychologist did...give her non-alocholic drinks and watch her get drunk as hell for no reason, video tape it and play it at her birthday party. She was actually staggering and that morning she mentally gave herself a freakn hangover...seriously...she puked! Ok, that may be a bad idea. But God speed, you can do it!
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