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My mom doesnt fully trust me, yet i have nothing to hide. what do i do?
my mom doesnt fully trust me. she's always telling things about sex and other stuff i already know, and i dont blame her shes my mother of course shes going to. i never go through her stuff nor go out and do bad things that immature teens do. no sneeking out, or being "naughty" with boys. i hate when she compares me with every other teenager. i love keeping notes from friends from school noothing bad yet my mom is always questioning "oh why cant you show do you have something to hide?" its not that i do its just id at least like to have my own privacy and she has gone through my stuff before throwing a fit, what do i do? or what do i tell her without her being so suspicious about me
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Be up front and tell her exactly what you just told me. If that works fine if not...well, have a coke and a smile and deal with it. There's nothing u can do, you live there with her. Eventually she will trust you, she just seems overly protective which is ok, that's normal your her baby...unless....your not in your 30s ru? :)
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I'm going through the same thing now.
I think you should tell her you want to have an awesome relationship with her, but first she has to trust you, and you have to trust her. Explain to her you have a good head on your shoulders, and that you know she is trying to protect you, but everyone once in a while she should understand you know what you are doing.
Tell her that you would love her guidance, and if anything really big and dangerous came into your life, you would talk to her. But every once in a while you just need a little bit of privacy. Be clear and firm that you don't have to tell her things, but that you would like to share some of it with her.
I think a good way of gaining that trust is telling her stuff. For example, if you have a crush on a boy, tell her about it. Explain how awkward it is between you two and blah blah. And if you are having troubles with friends, try explaining that to her. MAybe she won't understand, but it's worth a shot.
It's not just that she wants to protect you, she honestly wants a good relationship with you, which is why she sneaks around on ya. Give her a shot, and let her in. Maybe she'll start giving you privacy once she sees for HERSELF you are okay.
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