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threesome now a twosome
well i met this girl that i really like yes im bi sexiual we talked and she ask did i want to have a threesome with her and her ex i said yea we did and now me and her ex have been talking alone with out her and we ahve really come to care for one another and he wants to take her out the picture completly what should i do?
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First off, the fact that she asked and not you means that it's entirely possible she wanted to get back with her ex and basically did that to get back with him. Or that she's not at all over him yet.
Second off, there is no way in hell you can know if this guys just trying to get back at his ex by taking up with you and by taking you away from her. In fact, it's so likely that it would make you a complete and utter bitch for going through with it. Even if he likes you, he's a douchebag for being willing himself because he is her ex and he's going to know how much taking you away is going to piss her off.
Knowing that she still has some level of feelings for him, and that obviously there are feelings between her and you, how badly do you think you would be hurting her?
If you don't want to date her, don't date her. But don't do something that you know, without any doubt, will hurt the hell out of her.
This situation is not your fault. I want to make that clear. Not at all the best in judgment, but these two sat you down smack dab in the middle of their drama, they invited you and now you're attracted to this guy.
I get it. Hell, she's still into him enough to want a threesome and ask for it, I get you not being disgusted by him either.
But don't act on it. You've been handed one of life's harder choices, but honestly it would be better to walk away from both of them than to walk away from her.
There is another option, besides the above.
Probably even harder to deal with, overall. I have to warn you of that.
Be honest. To her. Tell her what's happened. Get her opinion. Apologize, even, and tell her that this isn't how you saw everything turning out.
Tell her that you don't want to hurt her, but you also don't want to hurt him, and you like him alot.
Understand this has like a 90% likelyhood of causing her to hate you without remorse, if she's in any way petty to cause her to actively try to screw with you in some way. I don't know anyone involved so I'm completely unable to make value judgments as to their likely reactions, their motivations, etc.
But real world experience tells me that more than likely he's not into you and is revenging himself, or that he's into you in some way but still enough of a manipulative unempathetic douchebag to be willing to put her through this and maybe even use you a little bit to accomplish it. Real world experience tells me that more than likely she's still in love with him, even if she was the one who ended things. The threesome came from her, remember.
More than likely, if you do this, you will end up hurting her, and getting hurt by him.
But I will admit that 1%, where he's a decent guy and they just didn't work well together, and now you're falling for him and him for you.
All I can do is tell you to use your best judgment. Too many unknowns, but I had to make you aware of the possibilities. If you think this is that 1%, consider honesty. Different issues, but I've been honest about fucked up situations before, and while going through the whole process was way harder than it would have been with any other choice, I think I was happier with the results than I could have otherwise possibly been. I just can't tell you with any level of certainty if this is worth being that honest. I don't know that you can, either.
And whatever happens, let's learn a lesson and no more threesomes with people who are exes, for Christs sake.
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Honestly if he did that to her when a third person comes in for yall what makes you think he won't do the same thing to you. Besides your betraying the other girl
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