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is this wrong
well my fiance was arrested when i was five months pregnant with our child ,,he has been for one and a half year now i have currently been talking to someone for about three months now and i really am feeling for him should i try a relationship out with him? i still love my fiance but i have needs,emotionally and physically what should i do?
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First I would ask yourself, is your fiance going to be a good father for your child? Is he going to be in and out of the child's life because he is going to be in and out of jail? what kind of role model would your fiance be for your child? Does your child deserve someone better? If not, I would worry about your situation with no one else at the moment. Worry about you and getting ready for your baby. Then when you are ready start talking to some people.
If your fiance is right for you, I wouldn't stray.
Good luck!
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Whoa. I'm going to disagree with pinkcherries there. If you're not supposed to talk to other guys when you're engaged, I'm doing it all wrong, and I wouldn't be able to talk to anyone that I go to school with!
Personally, I think that your fiance made a choice when he did something that would get him arrested. He knew you were pregnant, and that you were supposed to get married, and he still broke the law. I'm all for sticking out tough circumstances, but prison is something else entirely. I think that the emotional wellbeing of your child is at stake, because a man who will miss the first year of his child's life for the sake of breaking the law is very likely to do it again.
Keep in mind that you are bound to your fiance forever because you have his child. You'll have to maintain some sort of relationship with him for the rest of your life, no matter whether you stay with him or not.
For that reason, don't cheat on him. If you want to give things with this other guy a shot, break up with your guy. Be honest with him. He hasn't been there for you while you were raising his child.
It all boils down to how much you love and trust your fiance. Do you love him enough to wait for him for another year? Two years? Three years? What if it happens again? Do you love him enough to be faithful to him even when other opportunities arise? It's not a crime to feel otherwise. I know I certainly wouldn't be sticking with my fiance if he was in jail.
First and foremost, though, think of the safety and happiness of your baby. Baby comes first :)
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alright. so tough situation.
but not to offend you but if its your fiance, the minute you say you will marry them means that you do not want to see or talk to another guy. you should be 100% devoted to them. if you cant be then wait until you can talk to him face to face, end it, then continue talking to the guy you are talking to now.
technically its cheating if you do more than talk, and not many people think thats alright. i think the right thing would be to get your emotions in handle first (decide who you want to be with). then end it with the one you do not want to be DEVOTED to.
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