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hi! i have the habit of biting my nails, and it sometimes gets so bad that they hurt. i'd like to stop, but most of the time i don't even realize i'm doing it until someone points it out. i heard about this stuff you can paint on your nails, and it taste bad, so when you bite, you stop. what's it called? and what exactly does it taste like? does it work? does anyone else know anything i can do to stop?
thanks! (link)
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Hello,
My boyfriend is a nail biter big time! I just put clear finger nail polish on his nails, nothing real special.
Whenever he bit his nails it would taste funny, not to bad, but enough to make him realize he was doing it, so he could redirect his attention to something else. (ex. chew a piece of gum)
After awhile, he stopped.
I hope that helped!
Good luck!
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This guy I use to be with on and off started to IM me again and wants to catch up well I think he might want to be friends and the thing is I want to be his girlfriend I've been waiting for him to be mine being on and off isn't good enough I want him to stay and not go anywhere so I told him I can't just be his friend I want a relationship with you I told him if we do catch up I don't want it to be we catch up as friends we have been doing that already I'm tired of that I want him to be mine. How do I show him I really want to be his girlfriend by the way I emailed him what I wanted only because we don't see each other in person as much now and usually when he says lets catch up or meet up it doesnt happen for a week hes a busy guy I couldn't wait so I hope I didn't mess anything up I just want to be honest with how I feel. I think he does like me too I just wish I could show him and make him mine not force him to be mine but I want him to fall in love with me since I adore him. (link)
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You should NOT be friends with an ex lover if you still love him.
Break away for awhile, enjoy being single, and work on you.
If you still have feelings for him, and you talk to him, it is only going to create more drama for yourself!
As far as wanting to make him fall in love with you, it will only frustrate you because you can't control other people's emotion. (but wouldn't that be awesome if you could!)
I also recommend looking up facts about love addiction.
here is a link to some useful info.
http://www.allaboutlove.org/love-addiction.htm
Good Luck! And Move on sweety!
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My husband has this meeting he has to go to this weekend and I thought it would be sweet to tie his tie up for him like you see in the movies. I never told him I didn't know how but I've seen him do it a couple of times and it looks kind of confusing. I did look up some diagrams online and I'm still really lost.
Can somebody explain to me how to tie a tie right so I don't embarrass myself? Please? (link)
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Here is a link to a picture diagram!
http://swansoninc.com/images/half-windsor.jpg
Good luck!
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I have read tons of "Don't commit suicide" pages, and I fully understand how "wrong" it may be to commit suicide, but what you people don't understand is how much of a failure I am. All this, "It's going to be ok" Or "I love you" Or "You'll make it!" is nothing but a load of crap. I'm not going to make it, I'm going to continue to mess up, and be a failure, there is no hope, and there is no reason for living. If I am going to live, it's going to be for me, not for my family or some random friend. There is no point in living if I can't be happy, do what I want, or eventually get what I want. Basically, my life is worthless, and I was wondering if anyone who has been suicidal in the past has any experience to share. "See a doctor" and "Take medication" are on my to do list, but I don't see how they can fix my crazy. And even still, I don't think they can fix my constant aptitude for failing. (link)
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I have personal experience with suicide and depression.
To be honest with you, it is not just depression.
You need to mature. that is how it worked for me.
When you mature you will realize, that pitying yourself does nothing.
If you think you are a failure, change it.
YOU are in control of your life.
You will also learn not feed into drama, and how to not let things get you down.
Go pick up some psychology books and start reading. You will be amazed at what you learn and you will mature.
keep this is mind,
2 yrs ago you probably thought you knew everything and that you were mature, now look at yourself now. how much have you grown? think about yourself 2 years from now.
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2 years ago, my high school sweet heart was murdered my senior year of high school.
I became terribly depressed, and life was pointless.
After a terrible downward spiral and wasted time being sad I realized this.
I had two options, to either die or live.
I decided to live, and if I was going to live I was going to be happy because living depressed sucks.
I changed my life, I changed my out look, and I matured.
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You also need to become comfortable with yourself, and like yourself.
Stop putting yourself down.
Make a list of things about yourself that you like.
Good luck!
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I dont want to live.bcz of my personal problums.i want to know easy ways to die.plz tell me. (link)
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Hello, I realize you are asking this question because you really do need help, but in life. You obviously known easy ways to die, everyone does.
Since you are aware of easy ways to die, but are asking anyway, this really is to get attention.
If you need attention this way though, you really do need help, not to die, but with depression.
We all go through hard times, and I suggest you seek therapy, try talking to your school social worker. (my high school social worker helped me out so much)
Try seeking out aid through a parent or friend.
And GO TO THERAPY! It helps everyone.
I assure you, you do not have to live this way, there is happiness out there, but you really do need to get help.
Good luck, and remember YOU ARE WORTH IT.
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Okay me and my boyfriend were making out today on the bed and things got a little hot and heavy and he got an erection. So he was "hard" and i was on top of him and we were kissing and i was wearing shorts like really short and a pad just in case anything came out of my vagina and underwear. He was wearing gym shorts you know the baggy ones and there like flannel and like cloth and he had a wet spot by his penis so im guessing that was semen and i backed off a bit because i was getting a little paranoid. My lower body half didn't touch there but i might have noticed a little late and if i was on top of him and the dot was there is it possible for it to get into my vagina? it didn't get on my shorts or anything. anyway he left and now i feel queasy and tingly and clear jelly like substances are coming out of my vagina and i keep wetting my underwear during the whole situation and when i think about it to.. what does that mean? And my tummy is rumbling and i don't feel like eating really anything and i pooped and im having alot of gas but i don't feel nauseas or anything its just my tummy feels so queasy and unsettled so i feel like i'm pregnant? is it possible i don't have any money to buy a pregnancy test so i want to know if it possible and some symptoms. I am only 13 years old and i have never been sexually active before. this is the closest ive ever gotten to being active. i'm so scared and i really need some help. I just had my period before this whole thing happened so.. does that mean its more likely for me to be pregnant? (link)
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What came out of his penis was most likely pre-cum not sperm. Calm down, you have nothing to worry about! I suggest cooling off and some of the sex stuff because you are young though, and I would educate yourself about it before you go any further.
kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/
check out this site and read up!
Good luck!
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well me and my boyfriend tried having sex a few weeks ago but it hurt so he pulled out but then i had to leave. so we're gonna try again tomorrow but i want to get some questions answered just so i kinda know whats goin on haha
1. who usually cums first?
2.if the guy comes first is that when you stop? or do you wait till you both do?
3.what are some kinky things i can do that he will love?
thanks!! (link)
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Normally males reach orgasm first.
Typically females do not reach orgasm through penetration alone. They need clitoral stimulation.
You can try foreplay first, have him help you reach orgasm through oral (typically this is how most females are able to reach orgasm) and then lead into the intercourse.
The intercourse is where he will most likely reach orgasm, and then you can have some good old cuddle time.
I recommend getting a book called I HEART female orgasms. It should answer any questions you have, and it is a fun read!
As far as trying kinky things go, I would talk to your partner first see what he is comfortable with. Also keep in mind turn ons vary greatly!
basic kinky things are handcuff him and tease him, don't let him touch you but have your way with him.
Or use falvored edible oils.
Good luck! Have fun! and be SAFE!
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well my fiance was arrested when i was five months pregnant with our child ,,he has been for one and a half year now i have currently been talking to someone for about three months now and i really am feeling for him should i try a relationship out with him? i still love my fiance but i have needs,emotionally and physically what should i do? (link)
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First I would ask yourself, is your fiance going to be a good father for your child? Is he going to be in and out of the child's life because he is going to be in and out of jail? what kind of role model would your fiance be for your child? Does your child deserve someone better? If not, I would worry about your situation with no one else at the moment. Worry about you and getting ready for your baby. Then when you are ready start talking to some people.
If your fiance is right for you, I wouldn't stray.
Good luck!
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Crap. I was going through my mom's drawers because she use to put money in there when I was a kid and I ran into this thing. I didn't know what it was at first so I picked it up and examined it.
It's her vibrator. It isn't like a dildo though so you can't blame me for not knowing what it was at first! But still! Eww!
What do I do? Should I tell her I found it? I feel weird around her now! (link)
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I would keep in mind that your mom is a person too, even though its weird to find your parents "stuff" its normal natural and healthy "stuff" for everyone. I wouldn't worry about it too much. I found some of my mother's toys and I had a good laugh about it with her but she isn't the type to be shy. Depending upon what kind of mom she is I may or may not talk to her about it.
oh and that ooky feeling you get around her should go away eventually lol
its always awkward at first.
Good luck!
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is it strange for a girl's stomach to have hair on it? i'm not sure if i should shave it because then it will grow back darker right? (link)
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It is not strange for a girl to have hair on here stomach. This is quite common. If it really bothers you, you can shave it or wax it off. Hair growing back darker and thicker is a myth. When you shave hair the blade cuts the hair in a certain way so it grows back with a blunt edge on the top and not a point, sometimes giving the illusion of fuller or darker hair.
keep in mind you are beautiful as is though! good luck!
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Okay, so my boyfriend came over and we were making out on the bed. it got a little hot and heavy and he got an erection. He was wearing gym shorts and underwear and i myself was wearing shorts, underwear and a pad. but i am not on my period it was just in case something would come out. so there was a wet spot on his shorts and i think the semen went through his pants so i backed off a bit and didn't even touch my loweerr body to his. My underwear feels a little wet and when he left i went to the bathroom and my pee was alot darker then usual i feel a little queasy but i think that is just from how nervous i am. my tummy is doing some irregular rumbling and i pooped but i think it's doing that because i might be pregnant. White jelly like substances are coming out of my vagina and everytime i think of the wholee situation and what we did my underwear gets a little wet. I washed my blankets and now i feel like im pregnant. He told me it was not possible but im not so sure. It is possible for me to be pregnant? Im not feeling nausaus or throwing up or anything like that im not really in the mood to eat so are those signs of pregnancy? by the way im 13. && i have never been sexually active the closest i have ever got to being sexually active was doing this with my boyfriend. Please help mee!!! im so scared! (link)
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I would say you are not pregnant, what was on his pants is called pre-cum. Pre-cum comes out of a penis when a male is aroused to lubricate the canal for sperm to come out of when he ejaculates.
Now that does not mean you cannot get preganant from pre-cum. If there is penetration of the vagina and pre-cum comes out it can sometimes get you pregnant if sperm is left over and carried out in the pre-cum. (So always use protection!!!)
Anyways the discharge from your vagina is also natural. When a woman gets aroused her vagina becomes wet as a natural lubricant for intercourse. It is also normal to have a small amount of clear to white discharge throughout the day.
Your urine could be darker do to not drinking enough water and stomach ache do to nerves.
I would read up on sexual health though.
kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/
i would check out this website.
good luck!
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i think im bipolar or something, my mom is in complete denial of it but i need help. what do i do now, is there a pill or something to fix me? please. haha (link)
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I have a friend who is bi polar and takes no medication, although there is plenty medication out there. I would talk to your mom about going to a therapist, try talking to your school social worker about it as well. (my school's social worker helped me out so much!) You can also find many good books about bi polar disorders and living with them. Bi polar can be managed without meds sometimes, sometimes it cannot but the first step is seeing a therapist! Good luck!
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I was at my boyfriend's house and I heard his father yelling at his mother. He got really loud and then I heard him hitting her. I wasn't 100% sure until she said "Stop! That hurts!"
I haven't talked about it with my boyfriend but I really do not know what to do. I had suspected something was going on but never actually seen/heard it until today.
I have no idea what to do. Please help. (link)
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I would talk to your boyfriend and school social worker about it. Problems like this need to be brought out into the light or they will never get fixed. I hope everything turns out ok! Good luck!
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Do guys get turned on by different things? I was talking to my boyfriend about sex and what turns him on and he sounded really weird. He said that most "normal" things don't turn him on like seeing boobs or something. He said he really didn't find porn interesting either and likes to get off on other stuff. I don't know what he might be talking about. What other stuff? Is he weird? (link)
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All people have different turns on. This is common and normal. I would just ask him about the "other stuff" he likes. He also might just be shy to talk about the things he likes.
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I am 17 year old boy. I have been through my naive days and honestly have a completely different, more real mind set. I actually believe I'm in love with this girl. I don't ever use that word either, 'love' that is. I never thought a person can have this sort of perplexing feeling. She's not the average/typical girl, if ya know what I mean. I won't bore you any further because I can go on and on. I don't know how she feels about me. I don't know how to confront her about it either. (link)
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I recommend looking up "love addiction" Many high schoolers go through this. However if you look this up and it is not you, then just try talking to her. Good luck!
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17/f
i am sexual active with my boyfriend and for about a month or two now my vagina has been very irritated.. i thought it was a yeast infection so i used the yeast infection kit and it worked for a little bit but then i continued to be irritated.
i haven't really had any changes in my discharge and i don't smell any different down there.
what are some vaginal infections that this could be?
thanks for the help (link)
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It is extremely hard to say without seeing. Look up pearly papules maybe? However it would still be best to go to a doctor. Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. We have had sex for 6 months now with protection (condoms AND birth control pills). We're both 20 years old so we're out of high school and we live together in his mom's basement right now.
I really want to have a baby and start a family with him. I want us to get married and have a nice little life, you know? Well, I heard that it's better to have kids when you're young and able to do things with them so I think 20 sounds reasonable.
I haven't talked to my boyfriend about having children. When we starting doing it together he said all kids scare the hell out of him so he wanted to make sure we were extra safe by always using 2 forms of birth control (hence the pill & condom). I didn't say anything about it because I do want children.
I feel like my body is screaming at me now to do it. I want to tell him to not put a condom on next time and I want to stop taking my pills. I want to have a baby so bad.
How do I tell him without freaking him out? I wouldn't do something stupid like "accidently forget" my pill or something so I NEED to tell him. I need him to say he wants to have kids with me because I love him but I'm afraid he's going to hate me. What do I do? How can I tell him I want a baby? (link)
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First I would ask yourself if you want to raise a child in a basement. Maybe look at your situation. How stable is it for a child? Talk to your boyfriend about it openly one night. Males mature slower than females, maybe he is not ready to be a dad. Read up on child health and development, maybe talk to some parents who had kids at the age of 20 and see what they say about it. I understand the overwhelming need to love and nurture, so if all else fails get a puppy to take care of but I would seriously look at your life and situation as part of the decision process of having a child. Good luck!
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17/f
So, me and this guy have been talking for quite awhile now. We hang out and act just like couples do. The problem is, he never texts me. Sometimes we go all day without texting and it urks me so bad! I text him and he will write back maybe once or twice and thats it, unless he askes me to hang out.I just hate how he dosent text me that much. I know we don't have to talk 24/7 but i dont wanna go all day without talking to him. Ive mentioned it to him 3 times and all he says is "im sorry." I really really like him but i dont know what to do. :/ Help! Should i text him first, not text until he texts me or what? (link)
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Have you asked him why he doesn't text you? Maybe he doesn't like to text, or maybe he can't afford to text that much? I would just try talking to him. Good luck!
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18f.
i met this new guy, i thought he was amazingly different then any other guy i've ever liked because he has treated me so different. we're not dating yet, but he treats me like a princess everytime we're together. he knows i have a trust problem, especially with guys, and he knows i've been hurt and afraid to fall again and he's promised he would never hurt me or give me a reason to never trust him.
everything was fine, until tonight. i texted him about something, and then he asked what i was doing tonight and i said i was somewhere an hr and a half away and then i didn't know, and he said we should hang out tonight and i said yeah we should :) and he was like ok, text me when you get home. so i text him when i get home, about an hr and a half later, and i say ok i'm home ..and he never texted back..
i'm so confused, i know it sent to him. i don't know if he didn't want to see me (even though he asked ME to hang out first) or what's going on .. i'm just really hurt ..because i never thought this would happen with him.
i'm frustrated, sad, confused all at the same time. if he texts me tomorrow saying something, do i say something about him not texting back? what if he acts like nothing happened? i don't know what to say, if i should say anything at all.. (link)
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Well, it is possible he fell asleep, his phone died, something extremely important came up, or he didn't have service. I would ask him about what happened and see what he says. To me it doesn't sound like he was trying to hurt you, but if it is a re-occurring problem I would confront him about how it hurts you when he doesn't respond. Good Luck!
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I am 15 years old and my sister seems to be having financial problems. As her brother I don't mind lending or giving her a little bit of money. My parents found a marijuana pipe and later meth pipe both used in her room. She seems to spend so much that she started stealing money from me and asking me to make counterfeits. Then like always she lies and makes up lame excuses. How should I deal with it, call the cops and file a theft charge try to "scare her straight"? She passed a drug test but it was at home her friends were over and it took her 2 hours. (link)
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I would say your sister needs to go to therapy, something may be troubling her that led her to that path. I would also say she needs to go to rehab and get on a program for recovery.
I would write your sister a letter telling her that you care about her, and poor your soul out and try to convince her to get help.
It is sad though because if someone falls off path, no matter what you do it is still up to them to get clean. I know how you feel because my father is an alcoholic, and it took me a very long time to get past it.
If your sister doesn't see the light I recommend looking up self-help books or articles about dealing with family members who are addicts.
Hope things get better!
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