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Things That Turn a Guy on
Do guys get turned on by different things? I was talking to my boyfriend about sex and what turns him on and he sounded really weird. He said that most "normal" things don't turn him on like seeing boobs or something. He said he really didn't find porn interesting either and likes to get off on other stuff. I don't know what he might be talking about. What other stuff? Is he weird?
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All people have different turns on. This is common and normal. I would just ask him about the "other stuff" he likes. He also might just be shy to talk about the things he likes.
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Well, he's not weird; not getting turn on by seeing breasts is definitely not weird at all, that's rather typical, in fact.
Do you get turn on by seeing penises? Most likely not, right? It's pretty much the same for us guys. Men are naturally attract to attractive women, but that doesn't mean we easily feel sexual arousal by those attractive features. Connection: some women might be attract to "cool" and handsome men, but that doesn't mean you feel sexual arousal toward them, right? Attraction toward someone is different from "turning on."
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About the porn part, there are five (5) possibilities:
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Possibility #1: He really doesn't like pornography.
Pornography is degrading; it makes women seem like object. It might leads to addictions--addition to porn and addition to masturbation--which might affect the person's life negatively. It might sexualize the viewer's mindset, which intensifies an individual's drive to serve oneself, rather than serve others (namely his significant other). Etc., etc., including but not limited religious matters as well.
He might have all of these drilled into his mind (or he might be a religious person) and thus stay away from pornography--a wise definition, I must say.
(**Note: I used "might," not "will." So to the pro-pornography out there, no need to kill me :-).)
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Possibility #2: He's either homosexual (gay) or asexual (no desire for sex).
He's going out with you so we should discard this possibility.
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Possibility #3: He likes only one of the two types of pornography
(**Note: Oh, and no, the followings didn't come from an in-depth porn knowledge, please don't misunderstand and get me fire from my current job [which pays pretty well], hahaha.)
1. Static non-action: the one where the women just shows their body and do nothing else.
2. In action: the one where the women actually having or performing sexual intercourse or oral sex.
He might be the type to get turn on only by the second type, assuming that the women in that in around his age. Believe it or not, most men (except the ones with the fetish) don't like to see older women in action.
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Possibility #4: He likes hentai!
In the USA (and other western countries), hentai refers to animated pornography (or anime porn, for short). Ever watch anime (Japanese animation)? What differentiate hentai from normal real-people porn are:
1. it doesn't involve real human, just animated drawn characters, and
2. it seeks to shoot straight into men's (should I say perverted men?) ideals of the perfect sex partner (some even attempt to fill the ideals of women); so there are all kind of hentai out there, for all types of people and fetishes.
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Possibility #5: He likes real action.
C'mon, self-explanatory here. Real sex is definitely better than pornography.
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Anyhow, I don't know which one he belongs to. You might as well ask him. My suggestion is . . . please, please, please don't "assume." Assume spells as "ass/u/me"--when you assume, you make an "ass" out of "u" and "me" (him and you, in this case, hehehe).
On the serious side, I hope that you won't judge him by what he likes and will openly accept some of his weirdness. Well, most of us are weird. Dig out your darkest secrets and let's see whether he or she is weirder.
Good luck!
:-)
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some people get turned on by different things. it's like some people liking apples and some oranges so i don't think he's weird. sometimes porn doesn't cut it for some people. he could like more hard core stuff i guess? you could ask him "what" turns him on exactly. but keep in mind, don't judge him for what he likes.
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