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Witnessed an Abusive Relationship
16/F
I was at my boyfriend's house and I heard his father yelling at his mother. He got really loud and then I heard him hitting her. I wasn't 100% sure until she said "Stop! That hurts!"
I haven't talked about it with my boyfriend but I really do not know what to do. I had suspected something was going on but never actually seen/heard it until today.
I have no idea what to do. Please help.
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I think your boyfriend is allready informed with the situation and is scared him self it may push him away from you but this needs to be handled you can call in without any one haven to know your name or infomation .
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I would talk to your boyfriend and school social worker about it. Problems like this need to be brought out into the light or they will never get fixed. I hope everything turns out ok! Good luck!
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Dear Witnessed an Abusive Relationship,
Sometimes we hear things and think something is gong on, that really is not.
Did you actually SEE you BF's mom being abused?
This is a delicate situation that you have no control over. If you step in, you may be seen as interfering and resented to the point that you are not allowed to see your BF anymore.
On the other hand, if you do nothing, something much worse could happen.
There are two things that you can do:
ONE say nothing, ignore it and pretend you did not hear or see anything. Stop going to his house. If you do not see it, you cannot report it!
TWO Talk to your boyfriend about it. If you want to do something about it, and you have seen the abuse, report it to the police. If you do not want to get the police involved, but want to protect her, send an anonymous letter to the abuser, and make sure he gets it at work.
This letter should let him know that he has been witnessed violating his wife's basic human rights, and that he will be reported to the authorities if he does it ever again.
If he does it again, then call the police and report the violation of human rights. Make sure to press charges if she does not, and request a court of record under the Common Law Jurisdiction. If she does not press charges, he will see it as having power over her, and the abuse will get 10 times worse.
Tread very lightly here. This situation is sticky, as it is every good human's duty to protect life and liberty, regardless of who's it is. You want to protect her, and under natural law, it is the right thing to do. In today's society, legally, it is the wrong thing to do.
I hope that you can solve this situation without losing your boyfriend, or him losing his mom and dad.
Here is a link that I think will help you make informed and educated choices in this and all future matters.
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It is the advice of this Doktor that you educate yourself on the difference between legal and lawful. It is also the advice of this Doktor that you be careful when meddling in the affairs of others. It could backfire on you, even though you have the best of intentions.
For the good of your future and others around you, watch this video, and pass on the information to everyone you know.
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Good Luck!!
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Personally, I think you should tell a parent.
I also think you should bring it up to your boyfriend.
This woman could get hurt. You telling someone might save her from that happening.
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