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I dont know about us.
Hey im 18 male, just started seeing a girl (19 y'o')
So iv been seeing this girl, our freinds sort of set us up kind of as a joke. (like they said "wouldnt it be funny if you both hit it off") its an inside joke. but anyways we kinda did at first i thought hey she seems pretty cool. we saw eachother quite a bit afterwards, im shy as hell around pretty girls and even more so if i like them so im kinda having trouble with this.
She's really pretty and sweet in a "im not sweet im ferocious raaawr >:3 " kind of way lol but since we started seeing eachother a week and a few days ago i havent really felt anything more for her than just being a really awesome freind. i dont know how she feels about me, she's huggy and we kiss an all that but i have a really horrible feeling i could be leading her on. am i?? i dont really feel for her in that way like i did my ex. but on the other hand its early days i mean its been a week right? thats no were near enough time to get to know some one, but if i was to keep on like this and no change i do not want to break her heart and tell her i dont feel the sam way after all that time. its confusing the hell outa me because this is what i would call my first propper dating relationship. Before my ex i havent had a gf for 7 years but me and her lasted a month before she moved away. (I fell for my ex really hard, right to the point i her i loved her, i think she thought i was crazy and confused but iv really missed her since the day she left... its hard to not text her every second and tell her how much she meant to me. i guess i still miss her now but shes at university some were else in the country and has found some one else so moving on is the only option i have)
saying that i dont want me and the girl im seeing now to be a rebound relationship. me and my ex broke up just before the school year kicked in last september so its been a fair bit of time since i last saw and spoke to her.
but im so confused and i feel horrid that i could be doing somthing only one of those total ass holes do to girl's. iv told her i want to slow things down a bit before we go further, i want to get to know her but im new to this dating stuff. do i wait? do i tell her straight away?
i see her freind (rach) and her boyfriend who is my freind (Matt) alot as well, im seeing matt tommorow to go skating but ill be seeing rach a bit later on through the day. Emma (the girl im seeing) may not be able to make it to a get together we planned tommorow night so she may not be there. should i talk to rach about it? (rach is very dependable and wont tell her anything if i ask her not to untill iv talked to her) should i chat it with her, she knows emma way better than i do or matt does.
sorry its big chunk of writing hopfully you can help me in some way even if its a simple "talk to emma"
thanks everyone.
Dobb's
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Sounds like to me you have awnserd your own question. But with that, life will never put you through anything you can't handle. You need to have a long talk with this girl your friends set you up with. For one thing how you two hooked up was really second rate. You must consider her feelings when you speak to her. She need to know how you got together and tell her that aside the joke from your friends you have devoloped feelings for her, but the fact that you want to slow down has nothing to do with your friends crappy advice, or the prank!! Its the fact that you are still hurting from a prior relationship. You must respect her and give her the information she needs. Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if you found out down the road that you were a crappy dare? Aside finding new friends you need to man up and be honest to her. "from the heart". You sound like a really good person, and she seems to be kind hearted...give urself some time so that you can think with your head and not your...well... ya know.
For one thing you are still very young, and at this age you can be very emotional. Its gonna suck, there's no other way to put it, but you have to talk to her. As far as the one that got away...there will be others... And if this makes her happy, then let her be happy. If she wants you she will get ahold of you. But!!! Don't ever get into a relationship under the wrong pretences!!!!! That's what destroyed my first marrage. If your with this one girl and all you can think about is the one that got away, it wouldn't be fair to her and it can hurt her... Talk to her, let her know how you feel. Just make sure it comes ...from the heart.
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heeyyy!ok im just going to get straight into it...your problem is pretty obvious.your not over your ex.youv been comparing your ex to this girl that your with and you see your ex to be better than her so your not liking her because she isnt better than your ex.you need to stop looking for someone thats going to treat you like your ex or someone that looks like your ex or anything like that because your not going to find someone like that.
you need to fully get over your ex or else its not fair to emma.your not giving emma a fair chance because you still have feelings for your ex.
You can do two things.give emma a chance to show you that you can fall for her.For this to happen you need to stop thinking about your ex and just move on and live your life.trust emma and give her the attention she deserves from her new bf and if it doesnt work out let her know because its normal for a relationship to not work out.just as long as your being honest with her.
the other option is that you can break up with Emma.be fair to her from the start and wait until you find a girl that does make you feel the way you did when you were with your ex.once you find her it will show that your ovver ur ex and ready to move on.
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