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how to develop a relationship with a girl
15/m
I go to boarding school and am decently good friends with a girl I like. I frequently ask her to spend time with me by watching a movie among other things, very little of which she agrees to. I don't feel that this reaction is a result of her not liking me, but rather a result of her being too busy and doing things with her friends. I imagine to her, I am just another friend and it doesn't really matter whom she spends time with. I am not hiding the fact that I like her, and it seems to me that it appears fairly obvious, although I can't tell if she realizes it or not, she probably does. I have known her for four months and have been stuck in the friend zone for quite some time. I am wondering how I can get out of this zone. Would doing more stuff with her as I have been trying help? Or should I take another approach? At this point I only really do stuff with her occasionally on the weekends as during the week she is always with her friends, and I am trying to stay clear of just joining her circle of friends. I am also wondering if I should continue just being her friend (and therefore her friends' friend) or make it clear I want to be more, and how fast should I move. If she had a choice between doing something with me or one of her "girlfriends" she would probably go with her other friend, although she still probably enjoys doing things with me. Any help on this matter would be appreciated. Thanks.
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well this is just what i believe you could do.
i believe that you should have a one on one talk with her. tell her straight up how you feel(but try not to make it awkward). Sometimes its hard to tell someone that you like her, but sometimes you just gotta go for it and that she at least knows u feeling her.
try to get to know her better since you haven't known her that long. find out the things she likes. also try to think of a way to show you how she feels instead of just telling her. you shouldn't just talk the talk but also walk the walk. and hopefully if you show her how u feel, she could feel the same way. also try to spend time with her whenever you have the chance that could help to.
i hope this advice was helpful
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Ok here we go...you both are young and have more energy than a misquito on an expresso.:) She sounds like that she's the type of person who's everywhere all at once. And it may be hard to get a solid 5 minutes to speak. Just know, You have your entire life to find that one person...or two for that matter that will set everything in place. You don't need to get in her little circle of friends, or go that much out of your way to get her attention. I suggest that you get a game plan. First, go right up to her and ask her to talk, if you use your words right, "by that I mean respect her" and tell her straight up how you feel. There may be a chance.
Don't be afraid to get shot down, it happens a lot in life. Watch verbal and physical ques. You can tell if someone is intrested just by looking at them. If she appears to be trying to get the hell outta the conversation then don't prolong it. The last thing you need is 5 minutes of awkward silence. Be out going and don't appear to be afraid...they love confidence. They can sence it in your tone of voice and physical ques. Avoid using the phrase "Uhh" like uhh, I uhh was uhh wondering if uhh ect. Find out what she likes to do, go, listen to, get private eye on that ass. Don't rush her and make her feel like she needs to awnser you. And most of all don't be afraid of the fact that she will shoot you down, and tell her friends. Know this. One out of every ten women find you attractive. Thats a fact. For all you know its one of her friends. :)
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She's just not into you like that.
Sorry. It's sort of that simple.
She knows you like her. And when someone is really into someone else, 'too busy' isn't really an excuse. I've worked 60 hour weeks and still found time for guys I'm really interested in. If she was interested in 'more' with you, she'd blow off her friends with a giggle very happily. If she would reguarly, and does regularly, choose the company of others over your exclusive company, then she just wants to be friends, and is trying to avoid the uncomfortable conversation where she is forced to admit she just doesn't like you like that.
I doubt you are going to believe me, and of course, I could always be wrong. But that really is the most likely case given this situation: she knows you like her, and she doesn't feel the same, and she's hoping you'll get the hint rather than make her say it.
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Its obvious that there may be some i like you or i like you= as a friend tension going on. You are gonna have to tell her straight out how you feel if you dont want to end up as just another friend. you wont know what will happen unless you speak up. take her out on one of those days that she has free, prsent her with some roses or someother nice little gift, take her to a movie and just tell her dude.
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