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molestation?
when i was 15 i went out this guy who was 17 and we always hang out at this one placee where alot of people went and after awhile he wanted to be alone with just us and when i ddint wanna go hed get mad at me so i would go anywayy. we would always go to the same place and each time it got worse and worse. the first couple times we would just make out for like 2 hours and then after that he wanted to do more. she he made me take my shirt off and everytime i didnt wanna do anything hed tell me it was a "turnoff" and get mad at me. everytime i was so scared to go with him but i still went anyway. and each time hed make me take off my shirtt and hed touch me and stufff, and i felt reallly uncomfortable. ive only told one person and she said that it sounded like molestation, but im not sure so can you guys help mee outt?
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Yes I will help you out...stay the fuck away from him. I can't get any more blunt. No its not molestation. The law states that one of you must be an adult for a crime of "molestation" to occur. Now if he is forcing you to do this without your permission then that's rape. BUT and this I'd a really big (((BUT))) people would want to know "if you don't want those type of actions then why go back...again, and again...ect. Don't go near him. Its obvious that he is just a young teen with raging hormones.
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Not sure if its molestation but I can guaren damn tee that its rape whether there was penetration or not the secod you said no and he continued it becomes a situation where your making a decision under duress or fear talk to someone w authority ie teacher consouler or police officer parent or a simple adult. I would also recomend reading "Brittany" by jack weyland.
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Well, yeah, it's molestation. Molestation technically means unwanted or inappropriate sexual activity. What you did with him was definitely 'unwanted', but it probably wasn't illegal molestation. Molestation, legally, is only a word used to apply to behaving with minors. With people over the age of consent, the laws become more specific: Sexual assault, is a crime. Rape is a crime. But molestation is too general a term and isn't criminal among adults in most states and countries.
Of course what he did was still really wrong! But you might as well think of him as a jerk, an asshole and a bully. You made a mistake in hanging out with him, and he, very wrongly and very unfairly, took advantage of your mistake. What he did wasn't right, I just don't want you to call it molestation and think it was a 'crime', because it probably wasn't.
Try to take a deep breathe and let it go. The very best thing you can do now is to forgive yourself (not him!) and to give yourself permission to trust your instincts and stick to your own rules in the future. You should never feel forced to be with someone who scares you. If it ever happens agian, you have to ask for help, not give in to a bully.
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