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This breakup has got me heartbroken..
This may be long, and I do apoligize but it means alot and I thank anyone who gives me advice.
I am a 20/f who has dated her bf for over a year and 4 months. We were very much in love, and it was evident in the relationship that he was even more in love with me than I was with him. Soon though I began to love him just as much. We were trully happy. We planned a vacation together for January but due to conditions not under our control, he said he couldn't, and if we could go next year. I was upset because I was looking 4ward to relaxing and asked to go with friends, which he did not like saying "You're ditching me! You're just dropping me!" After feeling he controlled me, I gave him his promise ring back, & he gave me his back later. This hurt him alot. I never knew it would make such an impact. He took this as a breakup. In a few days he came back and we made up and everything was great. Later that week, he broke up with me (2 days after xmas). I was so upset. After that he didn't contact me on new years, and finally I did, saying I missed him. He wrote "I obviously miss you too!" So I called & asked why we cant be together, and he told me that I hurt him, and all the nasty things I said to him when we fought, he had enough of. So I cried, but we continued to txt each other every few days. He seemed to care when I was sick, or wished me a safe flight when I went on vacation. I then wrote him a 3 page letter telling him how much he means to me and how I'm sorry for hurting him, I gave him his ring back hoping this would bring him back. 2 days later he told me "we should stay the way we are, and that i really hurt him, and broke his heart. he also wrote "time 4 something new I guess" That killed me. When i told him I loved him he answered "I cant say something I don't mean." Recently Ive seen on fb he's talking to someone else, but he never deleted our default pictures together & deletes all her comments tht refer to them hanging out. I don't know what to do. I love him, and I know I hurt him but I can't be chasing after him, If I am receiving no love in return. He's my world and I'd do anything for him, but I feel he's just giving up on us.
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I'm really sorry sweetie, but people heal at their own pace. If you stop contacting him, I'm sure he'll try contacting you. (That's just how men are~ if they're not being chased, they'll get worried and chase you back)
If he does have another girl, then the relationship is most likely done for now. Maybe he'll date her and realize that you're the only one for him~ or maybe not. You just need to let him live his life for now until he realizes that you and him are meant to be. If he doesn't come back, then you need to live your life and do your best to get through this. I know it's tough, trust me. This exact scenario happened to me and my ex boyfriend of 2 years, except I was in your ex boyfriend's position. The only difference is that our relationship was long-distance, so it's a lot different.
I'm sure this girl he is talking to is a means to get over you, that or maybe he really likes her and he's done fighting with you and feeling like you don't care. A lot of guys run from girls because of the fighting. Guys just don't want to hear it and they think relationships are supposed to be easy, but they're wrong. If he truly loved you, he'd try to work it out. So maybe you should just try to move on because you guys would be back together by now if he was IN love with you. Fighting causes people to drift apart, it sucks I know because some things you just need to let out and fight about, but guys tend to distance themselves from fighting.
If you do choose to move on and get over him it's not going to be easy. Some things you can try to do are drawing, painting, jewelry making, anything to stay busy and happy. Go see movies, keep your friends close (it really does help having your girlfriends around) spend quality time with your mom, dad, or sibling(s). Anything that makes you happy. If it makes you happy to find another guy~ then go out to a club with some friends and just have a good time.
I'm really sorry you're going through this, but I believe true love finds a way. Just don't think too much about it, once he thinks you don't care he'll start talking to you again.
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Don't take this too harshly, but it's over. Don't waste your time going after him. He's made it clear that he wants to end the relationship, and there's no way to change that. Nothing lasts forever.
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