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Marriage on the verge of divorce she said she is not in love with me
I have messed up seriously because of my temper and mouth and my wife said she is not in love with me anymore and doesnt even want me to touch her. How can I save my marriage and get her to be in love with me again like she was before?
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You may never be able to save your marriage. That's the risk you take when you don't keep your temper under control. People with anger problems always have mouth problems. They don't care what they say, no matter how hurtful, they have to blurt it out. Like a 5 yr. old, they say whatever comes into their minds, and let the chips fall where they may. Well, the chips have fallen and your wife is so wounded from the battle that she doesn't trust you, period. How can you love someone who verbally destroys you? You probably tell her how sorry you are and you'll change, etc., but you don't. She's thinking..."How much could he love me to say such awful things to me? To be so belligerent to me?" THAT is not love. THAT is abuse and emotional bullying. I'll guarantee, she knows you need psychological help for some deep seated problems from the past.
You can try to get her back only by getting counseling and actually changing and not just talking about it. The change must be permanent or it's useless and a complete waste of time. The change has to be for you and not for her. You have to want the change in yourself or you won't change.
Even if she decides she's had it and the marriage is over, you would be wise to take this advice for the next relationship you get involved in, otherwise, you may find yourself very alone.
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You need to show her that you are trying to change to save your marriage.If its your temper and mouth go to some anger management classes. Show her that your trying to make it work. Romance her, show her that she matters to you as much as she did when you first met.
Lillian
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