Hey my names Chrissabelle and I love giving advice. I always have. Most of my friends call me Chrissie but really like to be called anything. Well... :p I really would like to be a psycologist when I get older. I love listening to other people, I've always been a good listener and I love to help people to the best of my abilities. I love being with family, hanging out with friends, ice skating, and tennis. I also love to laugh and have fun. Who doesn't? Honestly I just am a really happy person although I can come off really serious to people who don't know me which really sucks. I haven't been answering advice for a few weeks because of numerous reasons but now I'm back and so glad to be able to help everyone again. I really hope I can guys =) That's about it so ask me anything, anytime you need advice and I'll try to help you as best I can!
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How do you sign up for charity? Does anybody know how i could get involved into that. because i really need to get some work done for charity, because i like giving back to my community, but i can't seem to find out a way how to voluenteer for it! (link)
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Hey. A lot of times churches will have charity events that you can sign up for. I know my church does and I love it. Also, a lot of times hospitals love to get volenteers and I know a lot of kids who volenteer there too. Also, nursing homes always like volenteers so try going to one of them too. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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I'm switching schools, because I can't stand my friends. There so stuck up & fake. & I just can't put up with it anymore. Anyways, this will be my last week there. So, I really wanna make an impression they won't forget. I wanna show them I'm so much more then what they expected. & that they can't treat me like that.
Any ideas on payback? (link)
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Hey. A lot of people are like this and that's their own problem. In the long run they may get back what they gave and being mean will hurt them in thel longrun. As you know just being nice is the key. I would honestly just tell them how you felt because payback won't get you anywhere, it will make you the same as them. You'll be happier in the longrun if you just talk to them about all of the mean things they did and say how much you pity them. You'll feel much better about them in the end. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Im in grade eight and well you know how everyone is like "being yourself is the best way to be" or whatever? well... i think i may be, like, too much myself or something. Because i just wear what i think is comfortable and stuff, and i try to act how i really am, but then i think- if im TRYING to act who i really am, doesnt that defeat the point in the first place? trying to be something? Well im sorry if you dont understand. but at the beginning of the year i just decided to not worry at ALL what people thought and it would help me make more friends. But all it has seemed to do is make people mean to me and stuff. I know i shouldnt worry about that kind of stuff but I just do. So im just wondering can you be TOO laid back and "yourself" at school and stuff? (link)
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Hey. Well no, you can never be too much like yourself. That's good your trying to be yourself because it does take work. You're not defeating the whole purpose. I mean of course there's some limits in any public place (as you know) such as burping or wearing clothing with stains. Like you didn't know this :p. But anyways, that's showing that you really don't care what anyone thinks about you and people obviously will be turned off by this. But if you're just being the way you are and wearing clothing You like than that's completely alright. If they don't understand this than they're mean. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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What's a good way of overcoming 'shyness'?
I mean, I have trouble talking to new people, especially ones I don't know. I would really like to be more confident, or what ever will help me with approaching someone. Any ideas or relations to this? (link)
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Hey. I would honestly watch a video of yourself that you have or look at pictures of all of the great and things you did in your life. This may sound a little corney but it will probably make you feel much more confident and this way you can approach people and just remember to be friendly. You know you're a great person that's done a lot of cool stuff in your life and remember this when approaching people. You'll make a lot of new friends this way once you have more confidence. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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13/f
hey everyone! i have a problem. I pretty sure that some girls in my school think im a slut. I DO NOT do any slutty things at ALL...but these girls are kindof immature like that. I mean, i was at a birthday party and we went to the movies. My friend whom i kind of like, put his arm around me and i put my head on his shouldler. Then later i danced with him a bit. THAT WAS ALL!! i do not see whats so slutty about that. I dont know how im sopposed convince my friends that im not a slut! Its not even me, its them! I really dont want them to think of me as a slut because im not. I did talk to them about it, but im sure that there is doubt in thweir minds. Please, how do i convince them? (link)
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Hey. If they don't call you one they probably don't think so and are just jealous. They're not your friends if they are calling you this. Don't confront them again or they'll just think you're paranoid or stuck up about thinking you're one. Just be yourself and it's okay to do what you did so don't even think about it. Just be yourself and they won't think anything of it. I hope this helped and good luck! =)
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For a long time I have not been the typical friend happy wild and crazy party person a lot of people are I am quite boring at times actually but I am a good friend and I can be fun with the right person doing the right things. It is just that sometimes I think that I don't want a lot of friends any way because a lot of times they can cause drama or it's just another person that knows dirt about you that you have to be reminded of everytime you look at them Right now I have associates but no close friends and sometimes I feel lonely. Is it okay to be a loner or not? (link)
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Hey. It's totally okay to be a loner but if you feel lonely than that's not healthy. Also, if you have close friends than that's great and I'm the same way. They're the people I feel most comfortable with and I'm happy I have them. If you're happy the way you are that's great and maybe if you don't have close friends now you'll find one eventually and be happy too. Just be friendly to everyone and be yourself but it doesn't mean you have to hang out with them. If they want to though, that's good too and you might make some new friends that you never knew were the same as you. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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over the weekend my best friend and i had the hugest fight we ever had, and weve been friends for 7 years now and i love her to death, but im tired of her taking advantage of me and taking me for granted. if im her BEST friend she should treat me the BEST. and she doesnt, so we made up at school today, but over the phone shes blowing me off again.. how do i get her to understand how selfish she is with out upsetting her *she upsets real easily* (link)
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Hey, I had/have a friend just like this. We were friends for the same amount of time but she was never truly a "best friend" especially comparing to all my new friends. If she doesn't understand that she's taking advantage of you than that's wrong and you two need a break. It's not right that you're probably the one to always apologize. I'm not saying you'll never be friends again but you have to take a break because it sounds like you got too close. She will see how much she needs you and your friendship, which should then be back to normal. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Background information: i've been with my b/f for over 6 months, my best friend HATED it cuz she liked him too.. but shes the one who set us up.
Now shes been dating this guy for about 3 months, and hes kind of controlling. She doesn't understand why her friends think this. He got mad at her because she and I went out on a day that she was supposed to be with him.. but she tried calling him for like 2 hours before we left and he never answered or called her back until after we had already left. We offered to meet up with him and hang out (though i dont like him) but he got mad at her and went out with his ex.
I also told her that this really sweet guy she likes also likes her. And she told her boyfriend i was trying to set her up. I NEVER said i wanted her to date the other guy, i told her he liked her.
Also, the guy she is with was telling us hes been with numerous girls (he doesnt know how many, he was on drugs when he was with most of them)
Am i being over protective of my friend? She can't even hang out with me or her other friends without him. He also comes to see her at lunch and gets mad if she has other things to do and cant spend time with her (we have open campus for lunch)
Am i right in telling her she can do better than this guy? I'm really concerned because when i was in a relationship like that, it turned into an abusive relationship and was really hard to get out of (link)
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Hey. This guy does sound like an ultra control freak and your friend has fallen into his spell. Now this is going to sound silly but she's probably "brainwashed" which is why she told him what you said about the other guy. You're not wrong at all for wanting to get her out of this relationship and I would try talking to her or get help from someone else to show her what this guy's doing to her. I would also get help from a higher source because this guy sounds a little dangerous especially when he's on drugs (although he may be a completely harmless control freak). I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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i went out with this guy a few months ago and after we broke up we stayed friends. i mean we aren't as close as we once were but we are friends still. i still care about him (of course i do! i care about all of my friends) the thing is, he is going to formal with this girl who is a HUGE sl*t. no joke. there is only literally three girls in my grade that like her. my friend doesn't even know this girl (they met at a party and she was all over him) and thats the only time they have been together. she is known for hookig up and getting all over all these guys. i don't want my friend to get hurt but i dont know if i should tell him about this girl and her reputation. or maybe i should? please help me! i dont want him to get hurt! (link)
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Hey. I wouldn't tell him, for he can find out for himself. He sounds like he knows how to handle himself and he'll just be mad at you and think you're jealous. Maybe when he sees the type of girl she is he'll see how much he really valued having you as a girlfriend. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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SHORT VERSION: how do you make friends that you can hang with outside of school?
i need to make more friends that i can hang with outside of school..most of my friends are guys and i dont want them to think i like them, because i dont..and the girl im friends with in 3rd period shes really nice but when i asked her for her email to email her in 4th becuz she has that class right after me and its computers she got all shocked, but she seemed really surprised, but yet she was telling me how she has no more friends anymore and that all she hangs wtih is her boyfriend (link)
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Hey. Sometimes when people are so used to being with their boyfriend all the time, they're not used to people actually wanting to be friends with them too. She was probably just surprised that you asked. Just trying being friendly to everyone and nice. Also, you can join an activity like dance (just an example), where you're starting off on a clean slate. This way you can make a lot of new friends that you'll see every week and maybe after school too. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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my friend was over my house she acts like a stud we switched cell phones for 2 day during them 2 day i got over 15 messages from her girlfriend saying stuff i dont even want to mention should i ask her is she gay or play like i dont know
sinceraly "cluless" (link)
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huh? sorry i didn't understand what u put for the feedback thanks for the feedback though!
I wouldn't confront her about it because she may get really mad (or embaressed) that you heard that stuff. Although, she had to have known that you could've heard those messages so maybe this was her way of telling you, or hoping you'd find out. You may now see her as different (well obviously) but just try to be understanding, or a casual friend if you feel uncomfortable. She might need you at a time like this but just be friendly and nice. If it's really biting at you I would try asking her because you'll keep thinking about it. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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15/f
I can only count on myself for happiness. I have ONE friend and that's it. I used to be one of the stuck up, bitchy, ultra-popular girls but I decided I would rather be nice to people than look down on them.
Ever since I left them and tried to make friends, people have been looking down on ME and treating me horribly. I sit at home every weekend doing nothing.
I have exhausted my "new friend" options and am too involved with a select few sports and clubs to get any new hobbies.
Does this ever end? Any last advice? I know the easiest advice to give is "just be yourself", "make new friends" or "join a club" but really, it hasn't worked or is no longer possible at the this time. I am really looking for some deeper, more complex ideas.
Thanks! =) (link)
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Hey. I knew a girl where a similair situation happened, only she didn't try to be nice... they ditched her for being so mean. Anyways, maybe you said some things to hurt these new people and they still can't fully forgive you or trust you. You have to gain their trust by showing them that you really have changed. Even talk about it and maybe they'll understand. If your old friends don't like you for being nice than I definitely wouldn't go back to them (as I'm sure you know). I'm sure that once people know the new you you'll have many friends. Otherwise, don't join a club through your school (you may not have) but join one out of school so that you can start of new. Be friendly and nice and you're sure to make a lot of new friends. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Ok, well i have a friend who likes this guy. Two of my other friends were trying to get that guy to guess who liked him because they already knew. Well the girl who likes the guy (we can call her shelby) the guys name ( we can call him max). My two other friends named (cassie and katie) were talking to eachother about how shelby liked max. Well this guy came up to me and said "do you know who likes max?" i knew but i wasn't going to tell him. i said "yeah but i am not going to tell." He begged and begged and begged and i finally said "Joe i am not telling you!" Then he asked "Is it shelby?" I just looked down at my work and he said "It is is'nt it?" I still didnt say anything. Then he finally said "dont worry i wont tell anybody." I said "ok dont tell anybody and keep it a secret. Then shelby found out that i told him and was really mad at me and cassie becasuse when cassie was talking to katie about it she accidentaly slipped and said shelby's name so shelby forgave cassie because she knew it was an accident but she thinks i told joe but actually he guessed it and i know that i should of not gave it away but o well it's to late now. But i wrote her a letter telling her what happened and i dont know if she is mad at me or not. I know she thinks i should of said no when joe said shelbys name but i didnt really think. Sheould i be the one who she is mad at or did i do anything wrong? I dont know if i am the bad person in the situation or good. Please help! (link)
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Hey. Well you're definitely not the "bad person" in a situation like this that is so silly. But, when you told Shelby this she probably felt hurt that she couldn't trust you. That kind of stinks that she forgave your other friends but what you have to do is gain back her trust. Try talking to her again or making her something that shows how sorry you are. I know that probably sounds really corney but it might work, hey everyone likes when people makes things for them. I wouldn't say though, well... cassie and katie told too because that will just look like you're trying to get them on her bad side too (as if you didn't know this). I really hope this helped and good luck she'll forgive you soon, you can't get this mad over a silly crush forever =)
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Theres this girl and her mum and they come by our house when they need help with money, food, babysitting,etc. I don't mind but recently it's been often and they only come when they need help.
Today she came and asked us to keep her daughter..and I told mom enough is enough and not to keep her (she as=lso bothers me ALOT). And she owes us $240.
Should I change my mind/ (link)
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It does sound like they're taking advantage of you guys but maybe you're the only people they can turn to. What are they going through? Maybe they're very embarresed but they don't say anything and just keep coming. I would talk to your mom and tell her how much these people are hurting the both of you. Tell her that she really has to talk to these people and I'm sure she'll understand. If not I would take it upon yourself and talk to them nicely about thir situation. Although, I'm sure your mom will be understanding. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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he keeps staring at me! like in homeroom sometimes he'll be like "durene", or I just notice that someone is staring at me, and then I look and see him. He does it on purpose, and its kinda freaky because I dont even know how to respond! Im like.. "okay.. why do you keep doing that?" and then before I'd laugh or something but he'd still do it which is awkward. maybe hes making fun of me? or trying to be my friend? i dont like him like romantically, but maybe he things I might... but I dont really think he likes like that since hes more popular than I am. It doesnt seem like he's really like being mean to me because he's not like that to most people. but what do I do? and I've asked people, and they dont know why he does it too. I saw him do it to some other girl, too. what a weird guy, lol. (link)
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A lot of people have this habbit and don't even realize it. People find something about you they like and can't stop staring. He probably has this problem and now can't stop. He may even like you, it wouldn't matter if you feel he's more popular, he may think the same about you. If you want him to stop I would try staring back at him and he will probably get intimidated and stop or finally tell you what's up. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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All right, my friend and her boyfriend (they're both 16) have been going out for about 8 months now, and neither I nor my friends have seen much of her at all. Honestly, we get to talk to her for more than 5 minutes about once every couple weeks, and it's really getting us all down. We've tried talking to her, but it's practically impossible because she gets defensive and then drags us into an argument, instead of talking and understanding. I understand that now she's got a boyfriend who she cares about we're not going to see as much of her, but it's been taken to an extreme.
I just really don't know what to do about it. I'm really close to her, and it's getting me and my friends down. We don't want to lose her, but it's frustrating that she's dropped us for a boy. (link)
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Hey. I have had a similair situation and I understand how you guys feel. Your friend probably feels really happy right now about her and her new boyfriend. She knows that you guys will always be there for her and probably hopes you'll be understanding as I'm sure you have been. 8 months is a long time though and if she continues to ignore you guys than I wouldn't keep trying. Maybe once you stop trying she will see how much she needs you guys and hang out with you more often. Right now it sounds as if she's been "love struck" which may sound really corney but is probably true =). I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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my friend's dad is really abusive + she only trusted a few people to know. one of those people spilled the beans and told the school. she said she's being called down to the office alot to be quesioned. 5 times in two days. she said their guhna ask anyone whos been to her house how her dad acts i dont wanna be the reason she gets removed from her house, even though i know shes in a bad sitch + she already told them about how he's abusive. what should i say? (link)
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Hey. If your friend is being sexually abused than you definitely have to tell the school the truth. This man should be behind bars and your friend obviouslydoesn't deserve this and is in a lot of pain for her to be telling people. The fact that she's told a few people means she Does want help. Her being removed from her home is nothing compared to what she must go through every day. If you tell them the truth you'll be helping your friend and she will be so grateful in the long run. You'll still be able to talk to her and see her and plus she'll be in a better, safer place. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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He's one of my best friends and I love him so much. (as a friend) but ive secretly liked him the whole time and i can tell he's liked me back. =) but then today at school i heard from my friends that he was absent all week and it wasnt because he was sick. and he wasnt skipping either. he left. he left the school and transferred. i found out this morning and later today at recess i was crying so much i made a huge scene because i wont see him again. this happened with one of my other best friends. we lost touch because he left the school and nowhe just laughs at me and i dont wanna face that with someone i like even more. hes the SWEETEST guy ive ever met and he was always there for me. i need him by my side. i dont know what to do! i cant talk to him on the phone cuz i dont have his number, i cant IM him or email him cuz he doesnt have a computer, and i only RARELY see him at hockey games. he wont b able to sign my yearbook anymore. i cried 2day like 5 times about this and i cant stop! help! what can i do? (link)
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Hey. First of all, I'm really sorry and I know how much this must hurt. But everyone's been through it at least once in their life and I know you'll get through it =). I'm sure Someone knows where he is so I would keep asking around. He probably left without saying goodbye because he knew it would hurt too much to say goodbye to his best friend. You will find him and when you do talk to him and I'm sure he'll tell you what's going on. Something may have happened to him and he was too embaressed or upset to tell anyone. Eventually he may call you before you find him when he feels ready and you two can talk again. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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My best guy friend usually helps me through everything, he seems to understand and listen. But recently he hasn't seemed to care about me as much. He used to call a few times a week and ask how I was doing, and if I had a problem we'd talk it through.
It's been 11 days and he hasn't called once. I feel like he really doesn't care about me anymore. Today he helped me with a problem but only because I told him I had one, and I felt like he felt he HAD to help me. I only see him on the bus to school, and I never ask about it. I don't know, I've tried talking to him about the not caring thing and he says, "How am I supposed to know you have a problem if you don't tell me?" I mean yes, that is understandable, but he used to check in with me at least.
I don't know what to do. It's honestly really hurting me, I cry everynight, and have NO ONE to talk to. I feel like I'm losing my best friend, PLEASE help me. Anything is good!
He's 16/m, and I'm 16/f. (link)
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Hey. Maybe your friend is really stressed out about something and really is trying to get through it. He seems the type that likes to help other people more than helping himself and now that he has a problem of his own, he feels helpless and sad. He may not be the type to admit somethings wrong with him since his position is to be the "helper". I would talk to him and ask him if anything's the matter and if you can help him out since he always helped you. Then tell him you miss your relationship and really hope it can get back to the way it was. Maybe you got too close and needed a short break. I wouldn't worry because this happens to everyone and your relationship should be better in no time. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Me and my friend, lets call him chester, always fight. Like we are in fights every other week, or last year we where. The last time we had gotten into a fight was in august.
We are yet again in another fight. I dont think he cares about our friendship. I talked to him the other day and told him what was bothering me and all. Then he said he had to go.
The next day i asked him where that left us? if we where friends, not friends, or whatever. And he said "idk i dont have answers only ears"
I really dont know if i want to try to be friends anymore.
Im the one who always tries to fix our fights, im the one who starts to talk to him. It just feels like he doesnt care and i dont know what i should do.
Any ideas? (link)
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Hey. If you're always fighting that's definitely not a healthy relationship as I'm sure you know. If you're always the one apologizing than that's especially not healthy for you because it's making you feel like you're always the one who's wrong when you're probably not half the time. It sounds like he doesn't care or likes the attention that you give him when you apologize. I wouldn't stay around him anymore because he's just going to keep starting fights from the way it seems. I would stay friendly with him, but stay away. In other words be cordial (as I'm sure you already know) but I definitely wouldn't hang out with him anymore. I really hope this helped and good luck =)!
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