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My friend is forgetting us all
All right, my friend and her boyfriend (they're both 16) have been going out for about 8 months now, and neither I nor my friends have seen much of her at all. Honestly, we get to talk to her for more than 5 minutes about once every couple weeks, and it's really getting us all down. We've tried talking to her, but it's practically impossible because she gets defensive and then drags us into an argument, instead of talking and understanding. I understand that now she's got a boyfriend who she cares about we're not going to see as much of her, but it's been taken to an extreme.
I just really don't know what to do about it. I'm really close to her, and it's getting me and my friends down. We don't want to lose her, but it's frustrating that she's dropped us for a boy.
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Hey. I have had a similair situation and I understand how you guys feel. Your friend probably feels really happy right now about her and her new boyfriend. She knows that you guys will always be there for her and probably hopes you'll be understanding as I'm sure you have been. 8 months is a long time though and if she continues to ignore you guys than I wouldn't keep trying. Maybe once you stop trying she will see how much she needs you guys and hang out with you more often. Right now it sounds as if she's been "love struck" which may sound really corney but is probably true =). I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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First of all ive seen this happen many times they get to attached to ther boyfriend then went its over they run back to you so just tell her that just say we dont want to you to get to attached we donbt want to see you upset and if he does hurt you your gonna run back to us and tell her you miss her you want to at least spend a few hours with use if she starts an argument leave what goes around comes around =]
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Ok, i have never been in a situation like this before but i have been close to one. What i would do is invite her with all your friends to go to the movies or something. If she acts like that again, then just dont worry about her. I'm sure they will end up breaking up because it's not like there going to get married. But when and if they do break up, she is going to try to be your friend again. Then you can explain that she has ditched you for her boyfriend and that you felt sad about it and let her know that you aren't going to sit around and wait for her. Thats why you should just let everything go and just go on without her. I know that sounds tough but if she want to treat you and your friends like that, then what good is she for? I hope i helped and please rate. Thanks!
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This is hard to hear but i have been there before and i have done this to my friends before and ive found that you just have to wait until they break up, then when she sees she is loosing her friends she will learn her lesson but dont be mean to her about it. try to include her boyfriend in your plans, like invite her to go do something and say "bring your boyfriend with you if you want to" so that she knows you dont dislike her boyfriend. if you make an effort to include him she is more likely to see that she can have both, friends and a boyfriend.
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Eh, it will wear down soon. Teenage girls can go without firneds for only so long.
You should make a list of how often she is with her boyfriend. This sounds stalkerish but just do it. Record how often they're together. Then make a list of how often she spent time wwith you and friends. Compare them and show her the big difference
Also, plan like a whole weekend dedicated just to you, her, and friends. No boyfriend! Say it's a girl's night out and if she says she's busy with her boyfriend, dramatically say "When are you not with your boyfriend!!"
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hey alot people go through the same situation your in..thats exactly what happened with me and my girlfreind...I lost alot of my friends because my main priority was my girlfriend...and that probably what she is thinking that she wants to spend as much time with her boyfriend there at that period where there really starting to connect on a different level..honestly you can't compete with her boyfriend so instead compromise hang out with her when she is with boyfriend or in advance be like can we hang out next tuesday...no matter how much you argue with her you wont win
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This is a pretty common occurence. When teens first start dating, they border on obsession. If it's been 8 whole months it will most likely wear down sometime soon and she will start spending more time with friends and what not. You can also start inviting her AND her boyfriend to go do different things like go to amusement parks and movies and what not. Good luck
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