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Being "me".....?
14/f
Im in grade eight and well you know how everyone is like "being yourself is the best way to be" or whatever? well... i think i may be, like, too much myself or something. Because i just wear what i think is comfortable and stuff, and i try to act how i really am, but then i think- if im TRYING to act who i really am, doesnt that defeat the point in the first place? trying to be something? Well im sorry if you dont understand. but at the beginning of the year i just decided to not worry at ALL what people thought and it would help me make more friends. But all it has seemed to do is make people mean to me and stuff. I know i shouldnt worry about that kind of stuff but I just do. So im just wondering can you be TOO laid back and "yourself" at school and stuff?
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"Being Yourself" isn't the same as making no effort to do anything. You must define what you want "yourself" to be, and pursue that. Think of what sort of person you want to be, and become that person.
What you don't want to do is pretend to be someone you're not in order to get something that seems like a good thing - for instance, it's not a good idea to pretend to be fascinated with football in order to attract the star quarterback.
As far as worrying about what other people think, sometimes that's a good thing. For instance, if your doctor thinks you're overweight, it would probably be a good idea to worry about that and take steps to change it. A wise person is one who makes good decisions about whose opinion to hold in value, and who you should blow off as unimportant.
It's not as easy as saying, "I don't care what anyone thinks." Sometimes you SHOULD care. If everyone you know is being mean and nasty to you, then in some way you're probably bringing it on yourself and need to re-evaluate your behavior (as you are obviously doing, or you wouldn't be asking this question). The difficult part is learning when to care and when not to. What it boils down to is that you have to use your head and your instincts, evaluate people's character, and figure out who's worth listening to and who isn't.
The only absolute rule I can think of in dealing with people is the one that Shakespeare told us: "This above all things - to thine own self be true." (Hamlet, act I, scene 3). Think about what that means, because it's what "being yourself" is all about.
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Hey. Well no, you can never be too much like yourself. That's good your trying to be yourself because it does take work. You're not defeating the whole purpose. I mean of course there's some limits in any public place (as you know) such as burping or wearing clothing with stains. Like you didn't know this :p. But anyways, that's showing that you really don't care what anyone thinks about you and people obviously will be turned off by this. But if you're just being the way you are and wearing clothing You like than that's completely alright. If they don't understand this than they're mean. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Gee, younggrandma could probably tell you how familiar that sounds to her, because you sound like me back in the day.
I tried to act who I really am, because I went out of my way to prove how different I was from all of the look-a-like/act-a-like people I went to school with. Sometimes it's harder to be yourself. Sometimes it takes work to not be a follower.
I don't think there is such a thing as being too laid back at school, if you are a laid back person. Is this who you really are? Be who you really are. If others act mean to you about it, then they are jerks not worth your time and friendship to begin with. Their opinions don't matter, anyway.
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