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ok so i like this one guy
and when i talk to him online and on the phone and stuff
hes always so cute
hes like i wanna cuddle with you
or give you kisses
or like whenever i talk to you i cant stop smiling
and he gets speechless when he talks to me
and then he says i love you
but idk if he just saying that to lead me on?
or just a flirty kind of way?
or a liking kind of way?
because before we got like this he said he likes this other girl
and i asked him about her the other day and hes like yeah i still like her but she likes someone else
so im like oh?
and then one day i asked him what he was doing and hes like nothing on my trampoline with some girls
and he was kinda being an ass
its like on and off.
one day he will be all gay and wont say any cute stuff
but then all of a sudden i get butterflies in my stomach
hes the type of guy that will makeout for fun
and is always horny
some people say its really cute and that he likes me
and others are like hes a waste of your time
but its hard just to stop liking someone you really like!
so i really dont know whta to do!!!
help!

To me it sounds like he may like you, but he's just leading you on. It doesn't sound like he's interested in an actual relationship with you. It sounds like he's a player, unreliable, egotistical and scared of commitment. Or maybe he's just bi-polar, but I wouldn't get involved with him.

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I am 16 years old and I just got this new boyfriend. He is super nice and a really talented musician. I dont find him physically attractive at all actually. But his personality, humour, and talent make up for it. I like him, I really do. But I feel really akward being around him when it is just the two of us. I am trying to cope with it but it doesnt seem to be working. I dont want to break up with him because people are telling me that he really likes me. They tell me that me going out with him is the best thing ever for him because he is sobering up. He used to be into drugs and alcohol and smoking but now that he is going out with me...he has stopped doing all of that. I like how much he has changed but I still feel akward being with him. I dont want to break up with him! Is there anything else I can do? If so then please help me. I would really appriciate it. Thx in advance.

If you don't really like him then breaking up with him is the only thing you can do. Staying in a relationship with someone, just because you think they need you isn't fair to you. Explain to him why you want to break up, but tell him you can still be friends and that you'll still be there for him and support him.

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ive been going out with this guy for about 5 days now i think? he is one of my best guy friends so i mean i know him well and all but hes very shy when you first meet him. and hes very shy in terms of physical relationships. i really want to just give him a hug because that hasnt really happened yet. what is a good way to get him to hug me or to make it less awkward to hug him just out of the blue?

You don't have to get him to hug you, just hug him. It won't be awkward at all, it'll be fine.

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to get this question you kind of need some backstory. . .

last friday we were at her house with a few friends. after we all watched a movie, my girlfriend and i went into another room and talked for a while, then started making out really passionately . . and i kinda would've preferred what happened next didn't: one of her best friends started trying to spy on us. . . . and she told my brother (the other person there *we're twins*) all the details

so essentially, they already knew what was going on but they came and screwed with us anyway.


anyway. now this friday night the same group of people are coming to my house. how can the two of us get away from everyone else for a little while. . .

it just gets annoying (and kinda embarassing) when your twin brother knows that kind of stuff. . .

If you lock the door then nobody will be able to spy on you. If you don't have a lock, buy one. And as for getting away, try when people are the most busy or caught up in a conversation. Just slip away and don't tell them where you're going, you'll probably be safe for at least ten minutes, but after that, that's where the locks come in.

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Mmmk, so I'm going to college in a few weeks' time(I live in a tropical country so summer is officially over here).... My question is, what do I expect in college? I have no idea how it really is to be a college student, especially as I'm the first one in our family to go the the best-est university in our country;). They say it's 'sweet torture' there but I really do not know what I should do, say on the first day, how to deal with terror professors, etc.
So pleeeeeaaaase.... Give me an idea of the goins-on in college and perhaps, some tips on how to "survive" in college.

Thanks!

I can't really tell you what to expect in college since I haven't been to college yet...but read these:

http://www.gwc.maricopa.edu/home_pages/crimando/jcsurviv5.htm

http://www.math.ohio-state.edu/counseling/college_survival_tips.html

http://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/College_Survival_Guide

Looks like they will help. If they don't, sorry.


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well, i've been having my period since i was 11 (i'm now 14) and i've skipped a month or two every now and then. But i haven't had a period in 4 or 5 months now. Any idea why that might be? I'm not sexually active at all, so that can't have anything to do with it.

suggestions??

It can take up to 3 years from the time a girl starts menstruating for her body to develop a regular cycle. Even then, what's regular varies from person to person. Girls' cycles can range from 21 to 45 days.

Changing hormone levels might make your period short one month (such as 2 or 3 days) and more drawn out (such as 7 days) the next. You might skip a few months, get two periods almost right after each other, have a really heavy period, or one so light you almost don't notice it.

If you want more information then visit this site:

http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/menstrual_problems.html

So don't worry about it.

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does anyone know the lyrics to india arie's new song beautiful flower?
Thanks!

From what I can tell no one has the lyrics posted on the internet yet.
All the websites only have her other songs.

http://www.lyricsmania.com/lyrics/india_arie_lyrics_775/

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[I am a highly spriritual person]
16/F
I had been in a relationship for two years. I really loved this guy. He was 18 and called Dan. For me though, the grass was always greener, and I kept leaving him for other people. It was awful. I always went back to him when I realised he was all I wanted, but then someone else came along.

We broke up about 2 months ago. For the last time we agreed. No more getting back together. It was long over due. I started seeing this guy, Matt. We went out a few times during mine and Dans break ups. We had previously been out a few times before me and Dan knew eachother.

Matt was going out with this girl, Liz, when me and Dan broke up. I told Matt that I liked him. I told him that I didnt want to break them up, I just wanted to let him know. He then broke up with Liz and invited me around his house. I went. I was really nervous and Matt told me we needed to talk about "us". I guess we really did but I avoided the issue and slept with him instead.

Now, everyone considers us "going out" even though he didnt ask me out. I would have said no, after Dan i realised I am not relationship material. Its not fair to mess people about.

Dan's friends never accepted me, and Matt's mates really get a long with me. It feels so good to be liked. I can just be myself.

But I dont love Matt. I love Dan. Last night Dan came around, and we made out. It started to lead on to sex but I didnt think getting caught up in the moment would do either of us any good. He still loves me.

I did a tarot card reading. But I got mixed messages. It told me that the basis of our relationship was, "A new phase or fresh start, having vision or faith in oneself. Enthusiam. PLayfulness. Trust. A sense of protection". But when it got to where are relationship is going, it said, "Conquest, defeat, destruction of others, Ememies seek your dishonour. Quarrels, Rivalry, no clear winner. Confused priorities, spitefullness".

Can anyone make sense of this for me? Should I be with him or not?

Cheers // Love xXx

I'm sorry but tarot card readings can not decide your future, only you can. It's up to you to decide who you want to be with.

If you think no one will ever measure up to Dan then you need to talk to him, tell him how you feel, and tell him that you still want a relationship. But you can't just leave him for other guys just because you think they're better. Because just like you said they're not, you just end up going back to Dan and that's not fair to him.

If you don't stop doing that then your relationship with him may actually turn out like the tarot card reading,(quarrels, confused priorties, spitefullness...) but it doesn't have to. It's 100% up to you how your relaionship turns out.

So if you do get back together with Dan, before you leave him for some other guy make sure you think of all the reasons you're with him to begin with and how you might regret it. Remember why you wanted to get back together with him every time you were apart.

::Jasmine::

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what does diy mean?

Do It Yourself.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=diy

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I have a huge crush on this guy. He is smart, athletic and cute. He is gonna move away to Florida. But he might come back when we are in 7th grade. I dont know if i should tell him. Or should i have a friend tell him. What should I do and should I be upset!??!

You have a right to be upset, I would if the guy I liked was moving away. But you shouldn't be upset with him, it's not his fault. You should tell him, don't have your friend tell him. Believe me, it would be better if you did it yourself. You can also keep in touch while he's gone. (e-mails, im, texting, phone calls) And if he does come back then maybe you can take your friendship to the next level. You can still get to know each other better while he's gone.

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13/f -ok. i like this boy.i mean i REALLY like him. well school just let out=,( and i wanted to add him on myspace. but would it be too awkward to add him if hes the only guy with only 6 other girls? i really want to add him, but i dunno what to do. please help.

No, if you really want to add him then just add him. It's your myspace and it's not awkward at all.

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I'm a 19 year old Female and I am engaged to be married. I love my fiance so much and am thrilled to get married. The problem is my family is against my marriage. They keep telling me I'm screwing my life up, I'm making a mistake, and that I don't know what I am doing. I understand that I'm only 19 but I am positive I love him and he loves me. I just want them to be happy for me but they just seem to be angry and upset with me. I don't know what to do. I want to marry him but I want my family to stop being negative about everything. what do I do?

You shouldn't have to choose between your fiance and your family, so don't. Make sure your family knows you're not giving up anything to be with him. You can do anything you want to do still, you'll just have your husband by your side. Once your family see how happy you are and that you aren't throwing your life away, or giving up anything for marrige maybe they'll accept your decision. Maybe they're only worried because you're so young, they probably think you aren't ready to be married yet. They might be upset, but just give them time and explain to them that you love your fiance and that this is what you really want. And tell them it would mean a lot to you if they would accept your decision and support you.

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I just realized that the sight of pubes.. disgusts me.. Is that normal? I've never seemed to like pubic hair so I always shave mine..

It's perfectly normal, and so are you. Don't worry about it.

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When a guy puts his arm over your shoulder when ur walking, what do i do with my hands? should i put my arm around his waist or is that wierd?

There's nothing you could do that would really be wierd. You could fold your arms, hold the hand thats around your shoulder, put your arm around his waist... Anything that's comfortable.

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i bought this hair dye. but on it i didnt read it fully but its says this: treats and protects your hair while delivering rich long-lasting colour for 100% grey coverage.

but im jsut using it to dye my hair. is it still ok? im not using it to color up my grey hair.. im only 20

I've done that before by accident, it'll be fine.

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so theres this guy, lets call him "k"
so k and i have been bffs since elementry/middle school. then we went to diff highschools, hes in brooklyn and i go to school uptown, but last year we kept intouch alot. so we were like "fwb's" last year, but then i decided i wanted more, and he decided he didnt, and we kinda lost touch.
so last night he IMs me out of NO where like "OMG ITS BEEN SO LONG I MISS U" and so we were talking and then hes liek "yo for memorial day weekend my parents are going out of town, u should come over...mad beer"
and i was like "YAY PARTY" and he was like "oh uh actually, i was thinking just me and u..."
and i dont know if i should go or not, cause i dont kno if i really want to hook up with him (obv waht he wants) and im like too fat right now and i dont want him to seeme! ugh please help me!
i dont want him to think its like ok for him to just contact me when he wants ass! but i also do want to hook up with him!

Go hang out with, but make it clear if he wants a relationship with you then it's not just going to be when he wants a one night stand. Let him know it's not okay with you.

If you do want to hook up with, then hook up with him, but he's going to think it's okay from here on out. So I wouldn't suggest it.

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I have known this guy for a couple weeks, and he doesnt trust girls at all. He's gotten hurt in the past, and you can just see the hurt in his eyes. He acts tough just to try to forget about it. What can i do? I care about him.


Thanks

Take it slow, form a friendship with him and show him that he can trust you. You'll probably have to earn his trust before you consider any other type fo relationship. But he's the one that will have to take the chance, you'll just have to (When the timme comes) show him that it's worth it.

::Jasmine::

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can masturbation make breast bigger?

No, it's impossible to make your breasts bigger by masturbating.

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I think that I'm going to Germany with my school, and we've paid like a payment already. But all we need is money for lunch for 10 days (we're not going to be going to a nice restaurant every single day), and spending money. What would be a good amount of money to bring, do you think, so I know how much to save up? Because I have absolutely no idea how much money I should bring. If you have experience with a school trip to a different country that'd be great! xo

I would bring about $500-$700 for both food money for 10 days and spending money.(You would have to covert the money to euros) Plus emergency money, for if anything happens or goes wrong.

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is it bad to roast marshmallows over a scented candle? i know its a fire hazard, but are the chemicals from the candle bad?

The fumes from the candle would most likely be bad for you. I wouldn't suggest doing it.

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