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I'm psychic and a sociologist, and combined with the many different professions I've had, husbands, friends and family, and my share of bad neighbors too, gives me the knowledge and experience to cast new light on many old problems that we all face. Ask questions about anything you want and need answers to: Boyfriend or husband, school, sex, decorating, careers and career changes, family and friends, pets, diets and health and illnesses, finances, moving and relocating, divorce or marriage, and the nosey problem neighbor. -- Ask JR
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I have literally CONSTANT back pain. A majority of which is in my lower back, but depending on the activity, my upper back bothers me sometimes too. Don't worry, I've talked to a doctor.
Since my back pain started, about a year ago, I haven't been able to much exercise because of my back pain. I don't want to gain weight because I think that might be part of the reason my back bothers me so much. The only exercise I've been doing is on my gazelle, but I'm not seeing any results.
Does anyone know any exercises I can do for my stomach and thighs that won't hurt my back?
First of all, you didn't tell us what the doctor said about your lumbar pain and now your upper back either.
Is it degenerative disk disease of the spine? Is it a slipped disk, herniated disk? Fracture of a vertabrea? What?
These factors are important before beginning any exercise as it could aggrevate the problem(s).
As far as you stomach and thighs goes:
Thighs: Walking, squats and knee bends, lowering down and raising up. Hang onto the back of a chair or sofa standing and kick a leg out behind you and bring knee in toward you and repeat and do with other leg. Lying on floor and air bicycling is good too.
Stomach: sit ups: lay on a pad, fold arms across chest and sit up partially only until your stomach feels the stress, not completely up as that is a waste of energy and strain on back. Just lift neck and head up until chin touches chest. Twists: stand and put hands on hips, twist one direction and back to frontal. Repeat other side and do reps. Side bends: Same posture as above but bend to one side downward and up and repeat on both sides.
See a doctor. Only a MRI can tell what is wrong with your back.
I text my best friend (Jane)for two hours last night about nothing. okay she was over at a friends place and she was bord. so i entertained her, i like to keep her company and make her life. and i felt happy that she weather go over my place. (she just couldnt that night cause i work the next day) next week she came by my place and i ask her what she did over her so called friends place(sandy), she said "nothing but watch tv." and that moaring Sandy said "sorry that I made you bord" but i ask Jane if she going to go over there again when Sandy invents her. Jane said "yeah cause i dont want to be a mean friend" but i said "she was rude to your company" but i cant could her life. just wondering what u all think?
Just sounds like they are friends and you are Jane's friend and she was bored but didn't want to leave.
Yet, maybe there was something going on that neither wants you to know about too. Who knows? There are many possibilities and then there is the simplest answer and you're making a mountain out of a mole hill.
If Jane was so bored over at Sandy's house, she is under no obligation to go back over there for any reason. Why would she want to?
Ask Jane that question? No one is so "nice" that they would subject themselves to boredom and an uncomfortable time to be "nice."
Just talk to her about the evening.
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ok so me and my boyfriend have really good sex. he last for a really long time but hes never cum. am i doing something wrong? ive tried different positions that feel awesome for the both of us but thats not working. ive also tried giving head to but that doesnt work either. does anyone no why this is happening and what i can do to fix it?
Are you serious? Never? Ever?
Can he? Does he when he masturbates? Has he ever with another girl?
Maybe he is just trying to impress you with his stamina and olding back.
Have you discussed this with him?
No man can not climax-- it's a natural physical reaction. Something else is going on. He is withholding to impress you or has a mental problem with it.
It's not you.
What are biometric exercises and can any one give me a couple?How do theybenifit my health as well?
Biometric exercises do not exist. Biometric is a combination of dieting and exercising and logging the two.
Google it and you will see that it is a log program of eating healthy, dieting, counting calories, exercise reps and routines, logging everything.
The skin under my arms/arm pits is way darker then ,y normal skin color, is there any way to make this go away or keep it from happening so the skin will be the same color. Anything I can put on them?
Do you shave your underarms or use Nair or something like that?
It's actually normal for some people to have darker skin in some areas.
You really shouldn't be all that concerned, but there are "bleaching" products out there.
Check with pharmacies about a bleaching cream. Black people use it to lighten areas, and some people use it to lighten upper lip area too.
A pharmacist would know, but in the meantime, use vitamin E cream regiliously to help.
i uploaded some videos last night and when i checked my myspace there are comments. I dont know how to view them!! its like they dissapeared! & when i look at my video it says there are 3 comments but i cant find it
help?
I don't use videos on MySpace but would suggest emailing their support. They are fairly quick to answer you.
this is the third time me and my bf have gone out (13/F BTW, hes 13 too) and so usually everythings good, till he says somthing wierd and makes me not like him anymore. Like he says that We shuld hav sleep overs or somthing and i am like really wanting to ask him if hes on drugs or somthing. we go to a religious school and serously, 13 year old girls do not have sleepovers with boys!! and so i call him out on it and he goes like "i didnt mean anything bad just so we can hang out! i want to spend time with you!" and he tries to coveer for it but i dont buy it so he goes "oh im so horiable i mess everything up" and like, gosh is that a reason to break up with sombody?? like, im so not like that. i have madeout with him and like yeah but now im a new person, and no more of that and im a good girl now and looking back at stuff hes said, im really not okay with it. but when i call him out on it, he just ratiionolizes and then does the whole "i suck im horiable im so bad i mess everything up" thing and i dont know what to do. i need your honest opinion. do i break up with him or not?!?
At 13, you certainly don't need the headaches of "to break up or not to break up."
If he has made (and makes) you feel uncomfortable and he "rationalizes" everything he says and does, then he is not the type of boy to ever accept responsibility for his actions. What if he ever got a girl pregnant? He'd be the guy that runs and denies it's his type boy!
Dump him. Find a boyfriend that makes you feel comfortable without all the drama and one that respects you for who you are. Remain true to yourself first and foremost, the rest wil follow.
Does anyone know the name of the shade of light pink gwen steffani was wearing in her "4 In The Morning" video or a shade close to it?
It's lip gloss right? thanks That's my favourite shade of pink and I've always been searching for it but I wear lip gloss because they taste good when I lick my lips (unlike lip stick)
She usually wears a burgundy red
http://lumana.com/archivearticles/Celebrity/Celeb_makeup_tricks/gwensteffani.htm
But, the pink is not revealed anywhere other than being a frosted pink.
You'll have to do your best with a good magazine picture of her and matching it to a shade at the store.
I imagine it easier than you think, but remember all shades looks different on different skin tones.
I've been trying to figure this out for the longest time but I'll come here for help.
1) Sometimes people have their comments in a scrolling box. HOW do you do that?
2) Somehow they customized the top where it says "_____'s page" and put it in like a box in the center with a cool font and color. How do you do this?
3) How do you make the thing when the page is loading, and instead of it saying loading, it says whatever you want to put there?
4) I noticed one page, where the person got the comments, about me, wishlist panels to show up. The rest of the panels weren't there. I dont mean like when you click hide this panel, and it shows the top but not the content inside of it. I mean those panels just didn't show up at all. How do you get them to not show up?
Thanks in advance!!
Go to HTML Goodies:
http://www.htmlgoodies.com/
For all those tricks
There is a Search box to search for a question.
I know they teach the code for a srolling box and menu, and html for page loading.
But if you have your website and a website builder, usually the page elements that have title and author and tag codes is where you put what you want-- like page title, instead of title say anthing you want and it'll read out.
I'd have to know what you are using and referring to in order to help with coding.
I really want to wear it yet at the same time I don't want others laugh at me. Individuality is very important to me, but I want to be accepted too. What can I do?
Hey, there is no such thing as "fashion" today-- it's do your own thing, and what looks good-- looks good and then someone will want to copy that.
Wear your "out of fashion" clothes you like and maybe add something to it to update it or jewerly to accessorize it for an updated look, and shoes too.
Be yourself and set the trend to be sought after. Fads and fashions come ful-circle anyway!
uhhhhhhh about the designing, its fashion designing.
I can't think of any free software for fashion designing off hand, but try googling "free fashion design software" and "free fashion design downloads"
Whatever sites you come up with that offers software, check them out for trial downloads.
That's going to be a hard freebie to find. You'll probably have to research them and buy one.
Okay its long so get ready.....
Okay So Im 16 have had this boyfriend for a year and almost a month now. Well I have a best fiend. Me nad her are really close and we always joke around about doing stuff but it never happened. Well last weekend it did. An d I know were just friends and thats cool and I mgood with that. Now I liked kissing her and I want to continue as does she (I think) but anyways well I didnt tell my bf because he wuldnt really care but I dont want him to know. But all this week idk Ive gotten jealous. Now yes she gay and I guess you cancall me bicurious. Well she has lots of make out buddies and I think shallow of her vbc of it and I finally told her but hey it wont stop her. So I dont know what to do I want to keep kissing her but Im tired of being jealous. I guess this isnt really a question more of a stress releiver bc I cant tell anyof my fiends. Oh and did I mention that one of her other make out buddies os outr other best fiend. The one Im really jealous of. Thats why weve all stopped staying the night together bc she wants her and so I get jealous. So i dont know what to do and I mgoing to spend the night at her house tomorrow and I dont know whats going to happen. So I need advice and fast!! Please!
Don't spend th night.
All it will end up doing is make things worse for you.
She has a make out buddy as you said and likes her and you are already jealous so this has screwed up your relationship/friendship already.
Stop being bicurious and go back to being straight and deal with the boys in their category and your girlfriends in their category.
This friend is using you.
ok, me and my used to be best friend were best friends for 2 years lets call her jess. I know that's not terribly long but it was for me because i never really had a BEST friend like her. She was like a sister to me. Anyway, i started being friends with this girl, lets call her Jill. Ok, anyway, me and jill would talk everyonce in a while, but then we started being better friends and she would sit with us at lunch.I was still very much friends with Jess. Anyway about a week later, i got a boyfriend. I was hanging out with him sometimes, Jill sometimes and then Jess sometimes. Jess has/had a lot of friends, and i've always had to deal with her hanging out with other people i'm not completely fond of, which was ok, i didn't really care that much. Through the whole thing i really tried hard to keep jess from feeling left out, but there still wasn't as much attention on her as normal. Then, she just stops talking to me alltogether. For about three days, then she talks to me and says do you still want to be friends? Like im feeling left out and stuff. and i told her that i really want to be friends with her, i'm just getting other friends too. So that was ok, and she started talking to me again, but still not as much as normal. Then one of her good friends went on a feild trip for this special class she takes. That day, we were like we used to be, best friends. Then, her friend gets back and she totally ignores me again. So, i tell her when we get off the bus that we need to talk and that i would call her. So i call her that night and say "i really need to know what is going on. it seems like you dont want to be friends with me anymore" she just says i dont know, then says she has to go. So, i get on messenger that night and finally just ask her friend what the heck is goin on. She is like, well she doesn't want to be friends anymore. Well five minutes later Jess gets on and i say, Why couldn't you just tell me? she is like idk. and then she says this girl kelsey is telling her all this stuff that me and Jill are doing on weekends and stuff (which i found out later she was lying) So like this whole week she's been totally ignoring me and i've just been hanging out with other people, but she pretty much took our whole little possy/clique thing withher, and sits there and talks crap about me with them all the time. I'm wondering if i should talk to her anymore (i tried to talk to her but i just got yelled at for asking her friend what was goin on) and try to work it out, or just find new friends and move on. I'm sooo mad at her and it seems like she is just a heartless coward.
She's not a friend. Friends don't treat friends that way.
You were a convenience when she didn't have anything else going on and wanted you exclusively thinking you didn't and couldn't have other friends.
Now that you've proved you have friends and a life too, she is jealous that she doesn't have you undivided attention-- more like devoted attention.
Ditch her and move on. You've made new friends and friends that understand you can have more than one friend.
i have green eyes, what are some good colors i can use, that dont need to match my outfit? thanks!!
I have green eyes too.
Mauves are great. Browns are good. And even greens, but light mint greens or darker deep greens.
The best for younger ages is mauve with mauve cheek color and lip color.
If you use a eye liner pencil, use browns, and use darker greens. That compliments the mauves.
okay so my friend..umm,bob[not really]tells me alot of things.if she tells me something about my friend fred[not really]thats like mean or something i tell fred what bob said.and i have no idea but i think bob is begining to know what im doing.i know its bad that im doing this:telling fred all the things that bob says nagitivly about her but i dont know,its just hard.we[me and fred]have been close for alot longing than me and bob have so i guess i just feel like i should tell her everything,including the things about her being mean or that bob just plain doesnt like her.and i want to agree with bob but at the same time i dont want to because of freds case.i know its gonna end bad.how do i change that from happening?.
Keep your mouth shut!!!!
Stop the gossiping!!!!
Stop hurting people by telling them what others say!!!
All you are doing is instigating trouble for everyone and making a loud-mouthed fool out of yourself to the point no one will ever tell you anything ever again in confidence and you will end up without any friends-- PERIOD!
People like you are the same people that start rumors and hurt and even damage people for life.
Keep your mouth shut and suck on a lollipop instead!
i used tweezers on my eyebrows now once a little bit higher than the other one! how can i fix this?
You have two choices until they grow back out.
1) tweeze the other to match
2) use a eyebrow pencil to match your eyebrow color and use it to "draw" on the one that is lower to make it higher like the other one temporarily until they grow out
And from now on, never, ever, tweeze your brows EXCEPT for the underneath section by your eye for those strays that accumulate there near the eyelid. Leave your brows as natural as possible because they will end up a mess for life. Never tweeze above unless it's a stray one that won't train to lay down (train your eyerows at night with vaseline)
Underneath only--remember that! (you don't want to end up drawing them on the rest of your life!)
okay, so im 15, ill be 16 june 6. and im not that girly, i mean, i wear skirts and such, but im not girly, and i would really like to be. ill be driving soon. and i want to always look cute in my car. so i have a couple things i need help on.
shirts-i sweat, a lot. i tryed that stuff you put on your armpits, but it doesnt work that well. your only suppose to put it on a couple days then after that, youll be good for about a week, well i have to put it on everyday, and i still sweat. so is there any shirts, or anyway i can look cute, without worrying about sweat marks. since summer is coming, i dont have to wear shirt shirts, you know?.. but i also have pretty big boobs, and im not comfortable exposing them. i wear 36C.
Pants-i dont like wearing tight pants, i feel fat in them(even tho im pretty skinny) it makes me feel fat, so i dont wear them. i like cute, but loose jeans. i mostly weat hollister jeans, bc most of them are like that.
shoes-i mostly wear flip flops. i guess if wearing high heels would improve my look, i will do it. but im trying to kinda avoid that. haha
and last hair- i have pretty long hair, middle of my back. i have the bangs off to the side look, but i guess im just getting sick of how MINE look. i see really cute bang hairdos, but i dont know if i want bangs again. so if anyone can find cute hair looks also it would be greatly thanked.
im sorry this is long, but down to the question. can anyone help me look more girly with the things i like to wear, and with my sweating problem. and again its pretty bad. i can be sitting in class doing NOTHING, and there will be a big sweat mark. please help me look more girly! =] im open to ANY ideas. and make up ideas too!.. please help!!
Addresing problem one: sweating. Try the crystalized salt ball and use antiperspirant only. A good corn starched based powder is good. Carry a trial size spray on antiperspirant in your purse.
Also there are pads to place under the armpits of t-shirts etc. but tanks are opened and then you need to rely on the corn starched powder and antiperspirant. See a doctor about that as there is medicines you can take to control this. Some people have overactive sweat glands. Wear tank tops without sleeves and lower cut under arm areas.
Your jeans and skirts are girly enough and fine. There are some really cute shorts out now that look kinda like skirts in a way. But great varieties.
High-heels are a pain in the foot. You can get various flip-flops in any color for any outfit and any design nowadays. Have fun with them and don't forget the nail (toe) polish to match your clothes or compliment your feet. Take care of your heels and skin on our feet to keep pretty. A cute toe ring sets off feet in flip-flops and consider sandals even!
Girl, ya gotta get the bangs if you keep the long hair. One length for it all doesn't do it.
Go to a hair salon, look at all the magazines for the bang look regardless of hair length and style. I personally would have the stylist razor cut whispy bangs "barely" without getting too far into your hair. Just enough layered wildly, whisply, to break up the heavy long length, and if daring enough and hair thick--- razor cut it in layers without taking any length off-- but that would add style and volume and a whispy, feminine updated look without that heavy one-length flattened look. You want a wind blown natural look with your length.
Don't forget some make-up. Depending on eye color, a mauve is great for most eye colors for a natural look, mascara, (lightly) depending on skin tone, a natural mauve lip gloss and cheek brush on to match....and you're ready to go. Don't forget a summertime type perfume or body spray-- light, airy and flirty fragrance works. Nothing heavy.
so.. dance team try-outs are the 2nd week of may..and the try-out is a week long so we can learn the moves. im soo scared because, im NOT stiff..but i can be. how can i loosen up because i am so scared and really wanna make it into dance team..i can dance but i dont know how to loosen up when it comes to try-outs. ive had hip-hop dance class before and i know how to dance...please help.
Hey, you can dance. No problem.
As far as loosening up, you should know warm up exercises and stretches to limber your muscles up ahead of time. That in itself it mind relaxing.
Now speaking of your mind. It's mind over matter and the power of suggestion. Are you going to allow your mind to tell you that you can't do it? Are you gonna allow your mind to cause you to fail with false insecurities? No, you are not.
You are going to psche yourself up and know that you will kick ass just fine.
Try-outs are no more than dancing in lessons or in a production.
You are allowing the word "try-out" to freak you out for failure.
Try-out is the chance and opportunity to show your stuff and get your groove on--so do it. From this moment on, repeat the word "try-out" with the definition and word "show my stuf and moves"....use the word association to psche yourself into your best.
"Try-out" means "show my stuff and get my groove on"............not audition.
okay my best friend CR and i have been best friends since like 2nd grade and i tell her everything. Then in 8th grade i started taking seizure and i had good days and bad days and on a day bad i said alot of depressed stuff and she took it seriously and told my teacher and the whole school thouoght i was a wake job and i have to c a shrink now or i wont be let back in school. well ever since she told i didnt talk to her until like 2 weeks ago i said id try to look past it bc we have been friends forever. but how do i trust her again after what she did?
Hon, it sounds like she was really concerned for your welfare and went to the teacher for help, not knowing who to turn to or what to do to help you.
When you told her in confidence, you also placed a burden on her to do something to help you being your best friend-- she couldn't just stand by and know and do nothing at all.
Forgive her for breaking confidentiality then realize she did it in your best interest even if you feel it was wrong. It's hard to know what is right to do and what is wrong to do at your ages.
At least she loves you enough to have taken a chance to help you regardless.
You have a good friend for life sweetie. Realize that.
See the shrink and be honest with him/her and get a diagnosis and be glad it was a step you got to take. It is probably for the best in the long run.
okay,ive been homeschooled since i was like 2 and next semester which im afaird of.im totally the kind of person that you have to come up.im shy,at first atleast and im scared that everyone there[since its like a school where like doctors send their kids]will be stuck up and not think that im good enough.that im just some dumb homeschooler who totally is a loser[which i am,but not in the bad way]and doesnt know what all this stuff means and stuff.and when i go,i dont want it to be like totally life changing in a way that i turn away from God[which i do NOT want to do]and not be able to handle all the stuff out there.but i just found out that one of my friend's friend will be going to that school aswell which is a total thumbs up.but still.i dont wanna change and i dont wanna be an outcase.
help me.
I can understand your insecurities and this is one reason I personally am against home schooling.
There is no socialization. No interaction. No behavior example with others.
You do not have to turn away from God or sacrifice your religious beliefs to go to public school.
Be yourself. Be who you are. Be proud of who you are. You are an individual which is more than most kids in public school which become clones to one another wanting to be like the other kid. You are already unique and interesting. You have values and you know who you are. There is no compromise.
Since you have a friend that will be going too, that should help you feel more at ease. If in the same grade, have your parents ask the principal if you can have some of the same classes together due to the unusal circumstances. They might arrange it for the both of you to help you adapt to public school.