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Break-Up?
this is the third time me and my bf have gone out (13/F BTW, hes 13 too) and so usually everythings good, till he says somthing wierd and makes me not like him anymore. Like he says that We shuld hav sleep overs or somthing and i am like really wanting to ask him if hes on drugs or somthing. we go to a religious school and serously, 13 year old girls do not have sleepovers with boys!! and so i call him out on it and he goes like "i didnt mean anything bad just so we can hang out! i want to spend time with you!" and he tries to coveer for it but i dont buy it so he goes "oh im so horiable i mess everything up" and like, gosh is that a reason to break up with sombody?? like, im so not like that. i have madeout with him and like yeah but now im a new person, and no more of that and im a good girl now and looking back at stuff hes said, im really not okay with it. but when i call him out on it, he just ratiionolizes and then does the whole "i suck im horiable im so bad i mess everything up" thing and i dont know what to do. i need your honest opinion. do i break up with him or not?!?
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I agree with AskJr. If you feel the need to break up
do it. Listen to your instincts.
Hes may not be on drugs, hes just the result of surging hormones. Some guys just control it a little better than he does. Find yourself one of those guys. You're much to young for all the emotional upheaval this relationship is causing.
Don't be made to feel guilty by that "I suck I'm so horrible" line, he kind of does and kind of is...just tell him your not ready for that kind of relationship yet. :)
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At 13, you certainly don't need the headaches of "to break up or not to break up."
If he has made (and makes) you feel uncomfortable and he "rationalizes" everything he says and does, then he is not the type of boy to ever accept responsibility for his actions. What if he ever got a girl pregnant? He'd be the guy that runs and denies it's his type boy!
Dump him. Find a boyfriend that makes you feel comfortable without all the drama and one that respects you for who you are. Remain true to yourself first and foremost, the rest wil follow.
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