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he wont cum?
19 f
ok so me and my boyfriend have really good sex. he last for a really long time but hes never cum. am i doing something wrong? ive tried different positions that feel awesome for the both of us but thats not working. ive also tried giving head to but that doesnt work either. does anyone no why this is happening and what i can do to fix it?
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No, you aren't doing anything wrong.
Not your fault.
Not your problem to 'fix'.
So before you get your self all stressed out. TALK to the boy.
Is this normal for him? Is he upset by it? Can he orgasm from masturbation? Does he masturbate often? Are there any health conditions he is aware of that might be effecting his physical ability to orgasm?
Don't assume it's you. You need to stop being the one who 'tries' and takes responsibility for his orgasm. This problem probably has next to nothing at all to do with you and he must take some responsibility for it as well. If he is a habitual masturbater, tell him to stop for a few days and see if that solves the problem, otherwise, it may be time to encourage him to see a doctor.
Of course he won’t want to go. He'll be embarrassed and scared, but it is important that he does go, because he needs to take some responsibility for this as well. It can't always be you feeling insufficient. He's got a share in this problem too, an even bigger share if you ask me, and he might have to do some things he isn't totally comfortable with in order to solve it.
Tell your guy to step up, be totally honest with you, and be ready to do what it takes he wants this to change. Be a supportive and loving girlfriend, but remember this is not your fault and not solely your responsibility.
Other then that, stop worrying about it so much when you are having sex. Stress and anxiety over orgasm are a great way to stop orgasm. Focus on the pleasure you are feelings and not the pleasure you or he aren’t. If you make orgasm the end goal, you’ll be disappointed. So make shared pleasure your goal instead.
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Are you serious? Never? Ever?
Can he? Does he when he masturbates? Has he ever with another girl?
Maybe he is just trying to impress you with his stamina and olding back.
Have you discussed this with him?
No man can not climax-- it's a natural physical reaction. Something else is going on. He is withholding to impress you or has a mental problem with it.
It's not you.
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