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I'm female, and 15 from the UK.
I live in the South and the guy I really love (like I've never met anyone as amazing as him) lives in the North.
We've been talking for a year and a bit, and when we're on an up (as it were) it would be like we've known each other our whole lives.
He's been at college (he's the year above me in school) since January but he's had his laptop and mobile, so i guess that's been OK.
But I got told the other day by my best friend that you shouldn't just let feelings waste away, you should let them out and show them. So I texted the guy saying that and he said that it he didn't want this at this point in his life. I guess I should respect him for that because he needs to get on and do what he has to do - like I do - even though we live 200-300 miles apart.
But I just cannot stop thinking about him and how I would love to just text him and talk to him all the time. I texted him since but there's been no reply. I just figured he was busy, ya'know?
but it occurs to me that, why should I waste my time on him if he won't waste his time on me?
I'm just generally confused about whether long distance is worth it when we're both still in education :/ I want to talk to him so bad, but I'm at the point where he thinks I am really annoying.
Thank you in advance for any help! XX

Long distance relationships usually don't work out
it's better to see someone face to face & in person
especially when two people are dating i don't think
it's worth it for the both of you to continue things
weren't meant to be between you two everything happens for a reason you should accept what he's told you & move on you can't change what he said to
you what's done is done i would focus on your education that's more important then relationships &
boys it would be ashame if you started slacking in college because boys got in the way he isn't worth your time you deserve to be treated better & not the
way he's been treating you there's other boys out there who are way better(:

I'm 17 and have had little flings with guys but never had a real relationship until my most recent one.My boyfriend of 3-4 months broke up with me because he said he didnt feel he liked me as much at that point as he should.I was his first real gf and i did everything for him (even his friends said i did more than any other girl has) and he admitted that i was the most amazing girl he's ever met.I guess after we broke up,we became close friends and hungout quite alot (people thought we were still together!) but he confronted me and said the friends thing isnt working because he feels as though I want more from him and i always bring up past times and he feels bad and doesn't want to hurt me anymore.I want to either get him back or move on...suggestions? I haven't done much ignoring him and all his friends are my friends so its hard to avoid him completely.Has anyone had this issue before?

Moving on would probably best for you to seeing as
he feels that the two of you being friends isn't working out you can't force him to become more then
friends again if he doesn't feel it would work out between you two iv'e never experienced your situation but there's no reason for you to feel discouraged seeing as their's plenty of different boys out there once you do decide to date again things weren't meant to be between you two everything happens for a reason you can't make something that isn't meant to be work try keeping yourself busy that way you'll have less time to think about it & your mind will be focused on other things(:

M/18. I suffer from deep depression everyday of my life, nothing makes me happy and everyday I think about suicide. What should I do about this?

You need tell your parents about the depression and your sucidal thoughts it's not normal to be thinking that you should consider visiting a therapist talking is better then not saying anything all at & keeping what your feeling bottled up to yourself inside isn't healthy once you talk to someone you'll feel as if everything has been lifted off your shoulders and you'll feel relieved you should go to your doctor & tell them what's happening they could give you some anti depressants if they feel you need them they'll be able to give you a more knowledgeable answer another thing you could do is write your thoughts on paper that might help as well this isn't something to be taken lightly it's very serious if you were to harm yourself think about all the people you'd be hurting that love & care about you it's not worth it just when you think you've got it bad there's always another person
out there who's worse off then you are remember that(:

13/f

I have written so many stories abot this guy I like. So If u wunna know about him just look at my other stories. Anyways, I have liked him for a long time but has started REALLY liking him about a year ago. He has asked me out and I wasn't aloud. So I said no that I wasn't aloud. But I am actually thinking about defyin my mom and lying to her. And going out win him. I knew he wouldn't ask me out again. So I kept on wondering how to ask him out. My frend txted me (she is also his ex) and she asked who i liked. I said david (that's his name) and she said that we look like a good couple. Then the next day she toldme that she had asked him out for me. I was like /WAT!!!!!!! / and she replied /is that ok???/ and I was like /it depends, watd he say/ and she told me that he said no. And I thought that he really liked me. So maybe it's jut her saying no because she still likes him. But then he txted me asking /were u too chiken to ask urself/ i said /about wat/ and he said /nvm/ so now I'm REALLY confused. Wat should I do. I think I might be IN LOVE with him. So pleas help me. Thankyou in advance.

You should text him back & say that when he asked you out a year ago you weren't allowed to date & that's the reason why you said no otherwise you probably would of said yes also say that your friend
asked him out for you without getting your permission to do so there's not much you can do seeing as he said no you can't force or convince him to like you if he doesn't already the best thing you can do is move on they'll be other boys out there things weren't meant to be between you two you can't make what's not meant to be work if it wasn't meant to be in the first place but that doesn't mean for you to become discouraged(:

My friend was in rehab for a few months and I was not allowed to have any contact with her. So, in that tine frame, I kind of have a new best friend. I got really close to this one girl, and she's probably a better bestie then theo ther ever was. My old bff was secretive, a liar, and ha horrible mood swings. She had a lot of great qualities too, but I'm just worried if anything will be remotely the same. She was my best friend, but I've kind of moved on. I still will befriends with her but not really bffs.. I'm also one of her only friends. She has like two others besides me. How do I handle this? Should I stick with her even though I don't really want to?

Yes i do think you should stick with her even though
you'd rather not your old best friend isn't perfect you shouldn't judge her just because of her imperfections you should try to look past them & focus on the great qualities she has nobody is
limited to only one best friend a person can have tons of different friends i don't think your old best friend would like it if you abandoned her after
she just came out of rehab if anything you should be supporting her she was your old best friend before you met your new one true friends don't abandon one another

So I went to prom with my friend and it was kind of just a let's go together thing. And so we went and we ended up dancing and grinding together the wholenight and during the last slow dance we kissed. Nothig major just a simple kiss but he's not a player or anything so it's not like he does that a lot. Then after the song ended we walked back to the table he kept his hand on my back and everything and the next day we like held hands and stuff. And like we've talked since then so it's not awkward or anything but I was just wondering if I seems like I could have a chance with him because I do like him but I don't know if it was just a whole prom thing.

It does seem like you could have a chance with him
i think if it was just the prom he wouldn't of did it the next day even though i could be wrong so just
keep talking to him & spending time with him and see
where it goes you two could possiblity become more
then just friends at some point the best thing to do
is just wait & see what happens and where everything
goes with the both of you(:

I just tried to get Boston Bruins tickets for my boyfriend...I ordered them but apparently my card got declined...so now I told him that it got declined and that I cancelled them. He told me not to worry about it...but I'm ready to freaking breakdown...I feel horrible! I feel like I've totally failed...I want to make him happy. I feel so horrible right now! So for the rant!

Your not awful everything happens for a reason you
had no control over your card getting declined it's
not like you knew before hand that it was going to get declined i'm sure your boyfriend knew you tried
and he understands what happened there's other ways
you can make him happy & make it up to him maybe once you get another credit card you can buy the tickets he's wanted you haven't failed it was just
one of those things that unexpectly happened you had
no control over it so don't be so hard on yourself(:

I just recently turned 16. lately I've been peeing a lot. like it's a good amount so it's not an infection. I was wondering if hormones are causing this and when it'll stop.

Hormones could cause that possiblity or it could be
that your drinking alot obviously if you drink alot
your bladder will become full if your curious you could try looking it up online & researching it or going to your doctor they will probably be able to give you a more knowledgeable answer another possiblity could be that you've got what's called
overactive bladder but i'm not positive seeing as i'm not a doctor myself if you continue to urinate alot you should consider visiting your doctor(:

Well me and my boyfriend have been datin for one year 2months and 2weeks and sum days and im am really in love ive met the family and he has met mines its kinda funny that he said he neva wanted to get married untill he met me and its like i neva saw myslf wanting to spend the rest of my life with anybody else he has told me my mother and his mother that he wants to spent the rest of his life with me numerous times his friends get mad at me because he rather hang with me than them all i wanna knw is do u guys think that he loves me and that this could possibly grow into a marriage type relationship

Who cares what his friends think your his girl friend & he needs to spend time with you as well
don't let them stop you from dating your boyfriend and spending time with him i don't know all the details of your relationship but from what you typed yes i do think that it could grow into a marriage type of relationship things could possiblity change also yes do think that he loves you seeing as he's said those things about you(:

i am a 19 year old virgin 4rm south africa,i'm a christian.my mom an sis think havin a b.f is wrong an i think not,so i have a b.f who's 24 an we'v been datin 4 2mnths nw,i love him an he loves me,he even told me in 5yrs tym he wants 2 marry me.so my question is,wat do u think?

I don't think it's wrong seeing as your both legal
it would be a different story if you were both minors but you aren't so technically your not doing anything wrong or breaking any laws your mother & sister are entitled to their own opinion's & they've got their own beliefs your age is simply a number nothing more so continue dating your boyfriend(:

I am a 20 year old female, and to give a better idea of myself, I go to school full time and work part time and would not describe myself as a huge partier. I was going out Saturday night, and my curfew is usually 2am (my mom is a big worrier). I was going to a party and asked my mom in advance if I could stay out a bit later, and we got into an argument and she refused. I ended up not getting a ride home until 3am, and my mom was up waiting for me and was furious. I didn't purposely do it out of spite, but nonetheless, it happened and she said my curfew was now 1am and if it happened again, it would keep getting earlier. How can I fix this situation? I admitted I was wrong, but I still felt that I deserved a yes to my request earier for a later curfew. Is there anyway I can get her to see my side? I just want some compromise.

You need to explain to your mother that you weren't able to get a ride home until 3 am & that you didn't do it on purpose it was just one of those things that just happened you had no control over not getting a ride otherwise you probably would of been home at the time you were supposed to be tell her your responsible seeing as you go to school full time and you also work part time & it's not easy to do both of those things you'd like it if she changed your curfew to a later time and maybe
once again admit what you did was wrong & aplogize to her hopefully then she'll give in be persistant
don't give up & stand up for yourself & for what you believe is right(:

Well, ive liked this guy ALOT for 4 months. he says he likes me back, but hes afraid to ask me out (by the way he told my friend hes afraid to ask me out not me). i cant ask him out because i asked him once and he ignored the question. people were telling him to ask me out but they finally stopped and now he only tells one of my friends these things. should i move on or not? hes a really sweet guy but i dont wanna have to wait on him FOREVER.

I think you should move on if he's afraid to ask you
out well then he's not ready you can't force him to do so if you don't want to wait forever then don't there's plenty of other boys out there so there's no reason to be discouraged things weren't meant to be between you two & everything happens for a reason you can't change the fact that he's afraid to ask you out save yourself the trouble of waiting & just move on(:

kinda long!!
Hey guys, im 18/f and the guy i like is 17. Okay well last year right after my birthday he texts me.. Of course i didnt know who it was and everything, but i knew who he was. I was a senior and he was a sophomore. Well we started texting and even hung out a few times.. I started to really like him. I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost three years when me and him started "talking." We had sex a few times and I just really liked him. Well i fell for my ex again and got back together. Me and my ex are now apart again and me and Ky started talking again.
I messed up; I wanted to hang out this past weekend and told him to text me if he wasnt gonna do anything. Well I find out he went to taco bell with his friend and a girl he use to talk too just a few months ago. I got mad and texted him and told him to have fun with her. Soo we're in a fight. Hes real short with me when texting and doesnt call me babe anymore. I just asked him "we're not talking anymore huh?" and he says "idk" and yesterday his guy friends asked him if we were and he said "a little."
I dont know what to even do. I said sorry for doing it, and he said its okay, but hes still acting like this. I only texted him once yesterday to tell him good luck at his baseball game, and he told me it was canceled so i said oh well i gotta go bye" im trying not to bug him, but im scared hes talking to someone else already.

Should I just end it? Or just wait and let him text me? please help :\

I don't think it's worth it you should end
it you shouldn't have to wait around for him to text you he should just do it if he's interested you don't deserve to be ignored or for him to give you one worded answers sorry to say with his short texts i don't think he'll be texting you back things weren't meant to be between you two everything happens for a reason you can't change the fact if he's already talking to another girl it's his choice even though you'd probably like to even though things didn't work out with this boy there's plenty of other boys out there so don't be discouraged(:

(19F)

Last night I stayed at my cousin's house with her and her boyfriend. I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years and just recently met another guy. This new guy is amazing. Well, last night he came over to where I was staying and we hung out. We ended up going to get some drinks and when we got back we fooled around in his truck. Later on, after my cousin and her boyfriend went to bed and we ended up having sex. He stayed with me almost all night and I thoroughly enjoyed what we did, but this morning when I woke up I was feeling regret.

I want to stay with my current boyfriend, should I tell him what happened or should I leave it alone and just move on?

Thank you

I think you should tell your current boyfriend even
though it will probably hurt him if your regretting then you'll start feeling bad & gulity he has
a right to know you've got to be truthful & honest with him i'm sure if he would of done the same thing
he would of told you i don't think you should leave it alone & move on you'll drive yourself crazy doing so part of being in a relationship is being able to trust one another & being truthful there's
a possiblity that if you don't tell him he could find out some other way or from another person that
isn't yourself i don't think you should keep this from him you've got to tell him the truth(:

19/f - I'll try to keep this short, but I don't want to leave things out!
I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now and we got very serious very fast (we talk about marriage, the future, etc), we are completely in love, which is what makes this so hard for me. There is just one issue that I can't get off my mind and I don't know if it is a red flag or if I should try to look past it because what we have is so special.

I was raised in a very strict and very loyal family and I was raised to believe that you always stand up for what you believe in and you fight for the people that you love. Because of this I am a very strong woman, and I expect men to be strong men.

What attracted me to my boyfriend was his maturity, he carried himself like a man should. However, in the past he hasn't stuck up for me when I felt he should. This didn't alarm me because I handle my own issues, and I really don't have many (I generally get along with everyone)but it was never as bad as now..

His roommate posted some sexual things on facebook about me and my boyfriend, and I am very private about my sex life and have made it a point not to sleep around so I was really uncomfortable with this.. especially because people I knew were commenting on it and laughing about it. So i explained to his roommate why I was upset and asked him to delete it, but he responded in a way that I don't even understand. he posted things like "you just want more attention" and "some one call the humane society to put this b***h down" and evern more sexual things about myself anf my boyfriend. Obviously, I got incresingly upset.. not mad, just embarassed and bullied really.

My boyfriend saw how this bothered me, and mentioned something to his roommate, but his roommate went off calling me names and he just backed down. His roommate continued to harass me via facebook and called me names that should have infuriated my boyfriend. But he never stuckl up for me. After I told my boyfriend I was dissapointed in him, because it would have been one thing if I were being rude back but I wasn't, and weeks later he stepped up to the plate and made his roommate apologize.

Now his roommate is blatantly rude to me, and him and his girlfriend talk trash, and my boyfriend does nothing to help. He says he tells him to stop, but I feel as if by now he should do more than politely say "stop" He tells me he doesn't want to have an issue because he's rooming with his roommate again next year..... I feel that if he handled it correctly his roommate would respect him and they would be friends soon after.

All in all, I lost respect for my boyfriend and am questioning whether or not I can compromise on something like this. I understand why he doesn't want conflict, but now I feel like the protector of the relationship and it's a big turn off. Is this something and can move on from (because I am in love with him, want it to work), and how do I do it? Or is this something that simply makes us incompatable and I should end it?

P.S. the problem isn't his roommate or any of that, it's how he handles conflicts vs. how I think a man should handle conflicts.

Thank you to all that answer, I know it's long.

I don't think you should end it even though with all
that has happened your boyfriend got his roommate to
delete the comment i think you need to sit your boyfriend down & tell him exactly how your feeling
about what happened that way he'll know everyone handles situations differently your boyfriend deserves a second chance you should try to look past
this even though he didn't handle the situation the
way you would of liked him to he stood up for you and did something & in the end got his roommate to delete the comment which is what truely counts i could see if he didn't do anything at all but he attempted & tried then you'd have a reason to end it but he did the opposite(:

so a week ago i had a nightmare that i walked to my boyfriends house and there was a for sale sign and i was crying hysterically and i ended up waking up crying. it was so realistic and like it really like shook me up. today, my boyfriend called me and told me that he just found out that hes moving and theres gonna be a for sale sign up tomorrow. how the HELLLL did that happen?!!! i just wanna know like if im psychic or something haha. or why that happened. and how. im freaked out lol

I don't think your psychic it could be one of those
things that just happened or if you were talking to
or hanging out with your boyfriend before you went to sleep that could of caused your dream iv'e been
told that we don't know why we dream the things we do you could also you could ask your family & friends why your dream happened maybe they've got the answer your looking for(:

okay i went to this awake-a-ton and meet this guy, hes 17 and im only 14. we got on great and were really open to each other. I only had known him for a day b4 he asked me for my home number msn, facebook ect. hes called several times and talks asthough he likes me.... the problem is he has a gf. he lives far away so im not sure what to do.... is it normal for a guy to call a girl/hug ect when he has a gf... how do i find out if he likes me .. without him thinking im a foulish teen ??

Yes him asking you to the city could possiblity mean
something it could mean that he's starting to like you and no it's not normal for a boy to call or hug
a girl if he's got a girlfriend already you could casually ask him do you like me? So you catch him off guard he probably won't expect to get asked that
question make it obvious once you ask him see where
things go from there i don't think you'll make yourself seem foolish he's already making it seem like he likes you(:

Me and this guy AJ were dating for about a month and a week. In that month we spent everyday together, and if we weren't together we were talking to each other. He became my best friend, my confident, and so much more. He is the first one I've ever opened up fully to. He knew everything, and I never lied to him.
Well last week I found out he was talking to his ex, and that thursday they hung out, when we were supposed to hang out because I had had a rough day, well friday he broke up with me.
I gave him his stuff yesterday, sunday, and we talked a tiny bit, and then he was gone...
I've talked to his ex, she talks to me, and she knew that me and him were going out at the time...
but yet for some reason i cant hate either of them.. & i still love him to death..
I want so badly to talk to him just one more time to get some kinda answer, or let him know how i feel. He didnt respond to a text i sent him, and i havent tried calling. I dont know if hell answer, and i think the only reason we broke up is because of her and i think she won't let him talk to me now..
what do i do? we were attached at the hip, and now im left with no one to talk to really..
is there a way i can make him talk to me or something?
any advice is greatly appreciated. :)

I think you should try to text or call him again you deserve a explaination a answer to why he was
hanging out with his ex when he was clearly in a relationship and why he blew you off for his ex yes
now it may hurt but evenually the hurt your feeling will fade away and you'll move on there's plenty of
other boys out there try keeping yourself busy so you aren't constantly thinking about it even though
it's tough(:

so my best friend and i are going to be going to the same college in the fall. i never really wanted this to happen, but i got wait listed at my first choice so this was one of my only options. she had been switching back and forth between commuting and dorming, and she finally chose dorming. i was always set on dorming just because i want that experience. now...she says she wants to room with me. i love my best friend to death, but i don't know if this is a good idea. hopefully we would get a suite so i would share a room with her and then have 4 other girls in 2 other rooms in the suite, but still. she says she would go home a lot and everything.

i don't know what to do. part of me would love to room with her and other girls, but sometimes when we are together i feel like we are competing. i've always been shy so i was hoping that being on my own with ALL new people i would just be able to open up and everything. i dont want her rooming with me to hold me back from doing what i want to do. neither of us are big partiers/drinkers, but i would LOVE to attend lots of parties and maybe even join a sorority.

ive also heard lots of stories about best friends being roommates and it tearing them apart, and i definitely dont want that to happen.

i dont know what to do. should i room with her and hopefully end up with 4 other girls in a suite? or should i just tell her i don't want to room with her at all?

Even though your both best friends things could change if you were to dorm with one another just because your friends doesn't exactly mean that you two could be in the dorm together and get along anything can happen i think you should tell her that you don't want to room with her after all ultimately you've got to do what's best for you while your in college and make your experience as good as you can so i think you should do your own thing & tell her that you'd rather not dorm with her since you don't want your friendship to be torn apart(:

A while back, i was dating this guy exclusively, but we didn't call it a relationship. as time went on, he became more distant. he started bailing on plans multiple times a week, and basically only texted me to tell me he was too busy to hang out again, or to try to see me if it was friday or saturday night. i tried everything to deal with it, i suggested we study together if he was too busy to do anything else, i tried being more present in his life, then less, finally tried to detach myself completely. when that failed, i realized he didn't care about me and ended it. he said that after 4 months, he still couldn't be emotionally invested because i'm going abroad next year.

it's been a month, and i tried to move on. i met someone new who's wonderful, but we're taking it slow. last weekend, my ex saw us together and expressed to my roommate how upsetting it was for him. if i thought he cared enough to be jealous, i probably wouldn't have ended it in the first place. if we want to be together, it seems silly for my pride to get in the way, but i just don't know what to do. as of now, he's given me no reason to think he cares about me at all. should i wait for him to express it to me directly? should i initiate some conversation?

I don't think you should give him a second chance
your ex is the one who become distant and bailed on
you he didn't care about you i don't think he'll change seeing as you said he's given you no reason to think he cares about you he didn't care about you in the past and i don't think he'll care now why put yourself through being hurt again when you can prevent it from happening your probably better off with the new person you've met seeing as he's wonderful and not like your ex you'll probably be happier with him so i say forget your ex & move on(:

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