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Best friend and I have been apart,
My friend was in rehab for a few months and I was not allowed to have any contact with her. So, in that tine frame, I kind of have a new best friend. I got really close to this one girl, and she's probably a better bestie then theo ther ever was. My old bff was secretive, a liar, and ha horrible mood swings. She had a lot of great qualities too, but I'm just worried if anything will be remotely the same. She was my best friend, but I've kind of moved on. I still will befriends with her but not really bffs.. I'm also one of her only friends. She has like two others besides me. How do I handle this? Should I stick with her even though I don't really want to?
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you could try finding some people who understand her better. You could tell her (gently) that while she was away you kind of moved on. If she gets mad at you for it she's not the kind of friend you want anyway.
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In my opinion, coming out of rehab, she will expect you to be there for her and for someone to help her get her life back on track. i know she might have put you through a lot of pain, but i think you should help her. Yes! if you don't want to be her best friend, just tell her. tell her that at this point you can't trust her enough for her to be your best friend and that you should take things one at a time. But at the same time, tell her you guys can still be friends and that you will help her if she needs it. will she be hurt? probably. will she hate you? No! if she is good person, which i know she is, she will understand and she will appreciate all the help you can give considering her situation. who knows maybe in the long run, you might learn to trust her again. just maybe!
GOOD LUCK
BYE! HOPE I HELPED
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Considering that she went to rehab I'm assuming she had some mental or addiction problems. Either of these issues can effect a person's emotional well being and being in rehab may have helped her to find other ways to deal with situations that she may have been secretive or lied about as well as her mood swings. I definitely say give her another try, that doesn't mean that she has to be your best friend again but she was your friend for one reason or another even with her negatives so at least give her another chance. She probably needs healthy friends to be healthier herself. If things don't seem to be better with her after some time then decide what to do from there. No one expects you to surround yourself with an unhealthy person that might bring you down either. But definitely give her a shot.
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Yes i do think you should stick with her even though
you'd rather not your old best friend isn't perfect you shouldn't judge her just because of her imperfections you should try to look past them & focus on the great qualities she has nobody is
limited to only one best friend a person can have tons of different friends i don't think your old best friend would like it if you abandoned her after
she just came out of rehab if anything you should be supporting her she was your old best friend before you met your new one true friends don't abandon one another
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What are the reasons to why you don't want to stick with her? Is it because you found a new best friend?
A person can have more than one friend, Although your friend who was in rehab has some bad qualities remember that nobody is perfect and even the new girl is not perfect either. Nobody is, You can remain friends with her but maybe cut back on how much you two talk and hang out with one another. A new friend doesn't mean you have to ignore the old friends, Just keep the contact to a minimal.
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