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roommates.
so my best friend and i are going to be going to the same college in the fall. i never really wanted this to happen, but i got wait listed at my first choice so this was one of my only options. she had been switching back and forth between commuting and dorming, and she finally chose dorming. i was always set on dorming just because i want that experience. now...she says she wants to room with me. i love my best friend to death, but i don't know if this is a good idea. hopefully we would get a suite so i would share a room with her and then have 4 other girls in 2 other rooms in the suite, but still. she says she would go home a lot and everything.
i don't know what to do. part of me would love to room with her and other girls, but sometimes when we are together i feel like we are competing. i've always been shy so i was hoping that being on my own with ALL new people i would just be able to open up and everything. i dont want her rooming with me to hold me back from doing what i want to do. neither of us are big partiers/drinkers, but i would LOVE to attend lots of parties and maybe even join a sorority.
ive also heard lots of stories about best friends being roommates and it tearing them apart, and i definitely dont want that to happen.
i dont know what to do. should i room with her and hopefully end up with 4 other girls in a suite? or should i just tell her i don't want to room with her at all?
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I have lived with my best friend, whom I've known since the 4rth grade for the past three years while in school! And we wouldn't have it any other way. Seriously, it's all about compromise. You all have been raised differently and probably have a lot of different routines. but just do what we did, make a pact to communicate effectively rather than getting mad and letting it all build up and then blowing up on one another. =] Seriously. If you all just talk about some ground rules and communicate, it will be perfect. Don't always listen to the bad you hear. Things work out differently for everyone. hope this helps.
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living in a small, cramped dorm room with someone is tough. it's even tougher if it's with your best friend. You will see them all the time, and because you are already comfortable with them, it's a lot easier to get mad and lash out. My advice would be definitely do not room with your best friend because yall will end up fighting, and probably often. and when you do fight, youll live in the same room, so you wont be able to get away.
Go potluck. More than likely, you will definitely have issues and get annoyed with your roommates. Especially by the end of the year. It's inevitable. Don't go into it thinking you're going to be best friends with your roommate, because the chances of that happening are low. You'll make tons of new friends, and still can hang out with your best friend. You will meet the all new people in classes and organizations and stuff, but probably not in your own room/suite. Maybe in the rest of the dorm though. It's just hard to become friends with the person who sleeps 8 feet away because they are the one keeping you up at night or leaving hair in the shower, and that will get to you.
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Even though your both best friends things could change if you were to dorm with one another just because your friends doesn't exactly mean that you two could be in the dorm together and get along anything can happen i think you should tell her that you don't want to room with her after all ultimately you've got to do what's best for you while your in college and make your experience as good as you can so i think you should do your own thing & tell her that you'd rather not dorm with her since you don't want your friendship to be torn apart(:
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