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major teen problems
I was so happy at one point,I had found my first boyfriend and we were so happy and had so much fun.He broke up with me over a month ago ,because he apparently just stopped liking me as much but told me im the first girl he's ever loved and first girl he's really had feelings for (all his friends told me this was true and he'd never been in a serious relationship either).Ofcourse since i had no idea he was going to do this,I was devastated. We began talking and hanging out all the time and stuff but he just doesn't want to get back together and told me that every time we're together he feels like he hurts me because he knows i want more than just a friendship with him and that i always talk about when we were dating etc.I lied to his face and told him that I don't want to get back together etc and he agreed we could continue being friends as long as i dont do that anymore.I agreed.I've been depressed and missing him and crying every single day for the past 4 weeks (i guess since its my first real breakup/relationship)On top of this,my parents used to be drug attics but stopped over a year ago and then just the other day they relapsed.So i cant even depend on them.All my best girl friends have boyfriends now ,so i cant spend much time with them and im so jealous of how perfect their lives are.We barely have enough money to keep our electricity and water on.My grades have been slipping terribly because I can't focus in class ,or because lack of sleep or because I'm always way to upset to do my school work. I want to overcome all of this and try and move on but i can't! it always takes me longer than other girls to get over guys but since this was my first bf,im worried about myself.I just have no one to rely on and i need someone and some help
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This is classic first heart break, well minus the parents and financial problems, when your first boyfriend breaks up with you it feels like the whole world is crumbling all around you. You feel like nothing will ever be any better and like you just can't go on, but there is one thing to remember, you don't need a man. Being in a great relationship with a man that you love is amazing, but it doesn't make you who you are. I know you hurt like hell right now, but things can only get better. I think the best thing that you can do about your heartbreak, is to stay away from him truthfully. Being around him is only going to open up some old wounds, and remind you of how things used to be. Also, it may make him realize that he does care about you, not saying he will just saying that there is a chance. Let your girlfriends now how you are feeling and I'm sure that they will take you out for a girls' night to take your mind off of it. Also get a hobby, find something that takes your mind off of the break-up, whether its writing(which can be very helpful is sorting out your emotions) or model cars just something to keep you busy.
As for the parents and money problems, this cannot be easy and although I didn't have a drug addict parent, I am close to someone who did and I know he struggles with it even to this day. The sad thing is that there is nothing that you can do about this, they have to help theirselves. As for the money, this could be the reason your parents relapsed stress paired with addiction can be totally a bad combination. They feel trapped and like they can't support their family, they don't want to feel helpless so they turn to their addiction. I do know what its like to be scared that you won't have enough money to pay the bills, wondering where your next meal is coming from, it is a very scary feeling and has made me uberly paranoid about my own finances, but really until you can work or want to work the only thing you can do is try and help your parents to realize that drugs aren't the answer and that no matter what you will make it through together.
Being a teenager is never easy, but add it these extra issues to being a teen girl and heartache, I can't even imagine how alone and helpless you must feel. Just remember that you control your future, remember that if he doesn't know how amazing and special you are then you deserve better, you can only depend on yourself and you can change how you and your children live.
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