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ok so there is this guy and we used 2 be like bestest best frendz!! like we told each other everything and called each other everyday and when i wuz like scared er sumpin i would call him and he would tell me everything would be ok but over summer brake we didnt hang out once and he didnt call me at all but when we went bak 2 skool he started talkinn 2 me and jokein around with me again n stuff but then he met these other kids and started 2 hang with them and toatally forgot about me i want 2 get over him but i cant i cry over him sumtimes because i miss are frendship and im tierd of crying over him i dont think he is werth it but i cant stop!!! plz plz help me
sighned ~~**upset\confused**~~

oh,i know what you're going through.think like this:"you KNOW he isn't worth it." Find someone else who'll take your mind off of him, then focus on something else.(I focused on school:)
You should also try writing your feelings down.
Hope I helped at all.

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I work at a restaurant and there are some really nice guys there that are about 20-25 years old. a lot of them have been kinda flirtin with me and i told my mom! my mom said that i'm not dating them! should i obey or not? i'm 17 and I'm a female and she said i should only date 17, 18, or 19 no men over 20!

men over 20 usually try to take advantage of girls your age(I guess) So i think you should listen to mother dear. Or, she'll tell you one day, "I told you so."

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ok.... so there's this boy who i THINK fancies me. We hang out in the same group of friends and i've been to a few sleepovers with him, but the problem is he's in year 9 - 2 years younger than me. i'm a really youg in year 11 though so the age thing shouldn't be a problem. I'm not sure how i feel about him, but i'm thinking that i might like him... Argh i don't know what to do! if i do go out with him then people at school will start talking... i dont even know if i like him like that but im sooooo confused
help!

Don't worry about what other people say. They will be jealous a 9th go to go out w/ a 11th anyway.
But talk to him more and see how you feel when you're around him. It will come to you if you feel something. Just don't worry about the talkers.Hope I helped any.

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hey..

I'm a 15 year old girl and I have this big crush on my big brother's best friend.....this guy liked me last year but gave up on me because I didn't want to be more then friends....but since we havent bin talking all that much I'v realised that I really like him alot but I dont think he wants me because I didn't want him last year....how would I go about trying to get him?
thx in advance!

Sorry, but if he gave up on you because you didn't want to be more than friends, and he couldn't wait for you, then why would you wait for him?

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I have a friend that sleeps with a lot of people, I tell her it's bad but she still does it. Well one day during lunch she took a pregnancy test (she never uses protection, and she's been pregnant before but had a miscarriage) and well it came out positive. She got home and somehow her mom found out, and was like "How many times are you going to do this, you act like a ho, stop sleeping with people" and stuff like that. And then she told me she took another test and it came out negative saying that she wasn't pregnant. So that's what she belives, she thinks she isn't pregnant. Is she pregnant? I heard that the only time pregnancy tests can possible lie is if it comes out negative, and that if it comes out positive then she's defninitley pregnant. Which is true? Is she pregnant?

Sorry to say, but I am almost certain she is because pregnancy tests give an answer based on if they detect the special hormone that is only produced when you're pregnant. So since the 1st test did find the hormone, she is.
The second test is most likely wrong. It probably didn't pick up the hormone that time.
So, she should watch out for more signs like morning sickness and such. Hope I helped.

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i have always had issues about the way i look..i worry to much about what people think because i think I look horrible in a bathingsuit. i told my boyfriend i didnt want to go swimming with him because of it. im not fat or anything i weigh 100 pounds...but i have to freckles on my stomach (i know its weird) but they are the only two on my body and I hate them! also I have hair on my back(it sucks) and I dont want anyone to see. please help me ...you have given me excellent advice before.
dont wry bout the hair thing...lol im not a beast or anything

that really sucks. you can't help the way you are made, so i think you should always be happy with what you have. i know we all have things we don't like. don't worry about the freckles on your stomach. they make you unique and i know it might be hard to get used to showing them off, but you can't hide your body forever!
As for the hair, its easy if you have at least 2 days out of every week devoted to shaving. or you can get it waxed. i wouldnt worry about that either. lots of girls have hair in places where they dont like. you never see because they get it taken care of. thats why you're completely normal, girl!Hope you find happiness! Dont worry! Thanx for coming to me. I hope i helped at all. Love ya!

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Friday was my last day at school. And every thing was going ok till. A friend came up and just started to have a emotional brake down. and she has had this before but not at school. See last time she had one of these was last year when she was at home and she staped herself with a knife. And it was all about a guy cause this guy thaough she was mad at him but she isn't. So she came to me to talk.i am use to there kind of thing cause a lot of my friends get them. But a lot of times i am not around them. So then was like i am happy that this didn't happened at home cause she would of killed herself. and she lives in Rapid City and i live in Sturgis. And i can't always be there for here when she needs someone to be there. And i can't cause i don't live in the same town as her. And i am oging to the High School so really doesn't have much ppl to talk to I am afaid that when she is at home or at school and no one is around her she will kill herself. if anyone here knows what i can do. Write back. Michy

this is no joke. you have to talk to a counselor about this. if she does that over boys like that, she needs some immeadiate help because someone may make her fall in love then break her heart or something worse. so hurry and find someone(your mom, her mom, her family, not her friends, someone professional could help the best)Good luck! Hope i helped any.

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ok, see there is this boy that i dated a while back and I really liked him until he broke up wit me, but now i am back with another guy and I am completely in love with him and our relationship couldnt be better. but everytime my friends like my ex...i get so jealous and mad...why is this? i really need some help

oh, dont worry!this is normal. you probably don't realize it, but a part of you might still feel that he belongs to you or you're still hurt over the fact that he broke up with you. You might even feel that way because your friends like him after what he did to you. but just remember that he's not your problem anymore. hope i helped you at all.

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ok ...i have this friend that has been my best frind for like seven years and she is so sweet but this year we arent on the same team at skool and she has gotten some new friends and i dont have a problem witht hat ...its just that she has this frind and she has been hanging out with her for a long time and every time im around ...she kinda ignores me .. i dont have a prbolem wiht her haning around her but i think she has a problem with me wen she is with both of us !! wut do i do >????

awww... she sucks!she might be "embarrassed" by you hanging around. her friend may have said something about you already, and your friend is going along with it. find you some new friends, baby, but you can still check up on her. Nothing's wrong w/that i think.

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Ok so heres the story, me n my bf broke up like over 7 months ago. I know its sad but I'm still in love with him and cant come over the fact that I'm not the love of his life anymore. See we dated for over 9 months and he even asked me to marry him and gave me a ring...this guy had me believe we actually were gonna spend the rest of our lives together. I went away for the summer and we still talked none-stop and then he started talking to his ex gf and he started having feelings for her again and so we "took a break" then somehow it turned into a break up. I dont know what I did wrong, and now we barly talk and he says hes in love with someother girl who already has a bf and doesnt love him back...I dont understand, he knows I still love him , or I least I hope he does, so he knows that if he ever feels alone I'll be here. But she doesnt love him so why cant he just stop trying so hard on here and give me another chance. I'm a different person now I have friends now and I do everything with them, not like when we dated I only had him and so we did everything together, but now I just want another chance. Is this bad for me thinking that I'm still in love with a guy that treats me like crap? Is it bad I cry about 3 times a day and probably cry about 4 out of the 7 days? Should I like see a shrink or somthing? Please help

dont worry so much.. there's a saying.. "never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you love may leave for the one they like." so you need to let him go, really because he treats you like crap. You might love him, but you're still holding on beacause you probably only remember the good times you had.
But you have to let him go. hope I helped

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ive going through alot of changes and i have new friends.. so yea but one firend, sarah, introduces me to alot of people in High school.. whateveer and i meet new people. I sometimes get the feeling that they dont liek me. and every guy ive ever liked likes her and gives her the attention, all of it. Id say shes loud and can be mean but i love her..advice?

If she's loud and mean, then they only want her for one thing, most probably. they don't see your potential as a good girlfriend because they're being blinded- if you know what i mean.
don't worry. youll soon find out who your best friends are.(or maybe boyfriend too)

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I really hate to sound stupid...but I'm new.


Anyways how do you rate somebody?


Thanks in advance!

when you see the answer, there's a box i think..
click it and pick the number 1-poor, 5-best
you can also include comments on your situation or anything too.

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I have a bit of a big decision here and I was hoping for opinions/advice about it if you'd be so kind. My parents split up a long time ago over the summer acutally and I had said I didnt want to be around her soon to be husband because of the fact he took mom away from us although it takes two. And his son got in trouble for molestation of his little sister so I said I didn't want to be around him either. So I live with my father. But lately, I've been seeing my mom after not seeing her for a long time. We've been getting close again. The other night she took me to her house to see my cat that she had taken but her boyfriend and his son were there. And my court I have said I don't want to be around them but it isn't official until March 28 when we go to court about it. Dad thinks that I want him to have custody of me and that I hate my moms boyfriend and his son. But I went to her house a lot this weekend with my friend, we walked. And moms boyfriend and his son are really nice. Her boyfriend cares about me and his son is really nice. He has couseling for what he did so he's better now with the molesation thing. And I keep thinking I'd be better off with my mom. Here at my dads we don't have money to just spend. A bunch of our bills are behind. Everything almost gets cut off or does before my dad pays it. And he gets good money so I don't know where it's all going to. And this weekend I didn't want to come home from my friends house at all. I'm not happy here that much. But the thing is, My dad says he'd have nothing if I left him. But at my moms they have money for things, the bills are payed, the house is clean and stuff. So my delimma is: Should I move in with my Mom, or stay with my dad? What do you think?

don't close the door on either place. even though your mom has more money, and you like everyone, people who do things like what his son did don't usually get over that too quickly, if at all. so if you stay w/your mom, you would have to constantly be on your guard. if you stay with your dad, even though money is somewhat short, you could probably help him out. you might be his motivation for getting on the right track w/things. this is a tough decision for someone your age to go through. so, don't make up your mind just yet. really think long and hard, cause it's not just our happiness at stake, it's how your life could turn out. hope i helped at all! Good luck...

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I HATE MY MOMS BOYFRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Every one thinks hes soooooooooo nice but theres just something about him i dont like hes hespanic but my boyfriend is hespanic so im not against hespanics and he was my moms teenage love. I just dont get it i hate him and i told my mom but shes like o shut up u never do anything for me. And that really hurt me. Im crying every night and i cant live with my dad cuz he is always traveling and i feel like dieing. She doesnt get it and my mom was always nice to me but now since she has been dating this guy. She is totally agaisnt me. Its not fair. He claims to "care" for me and my brother but i dont think its true. He thinks that my mom is going to marry him and she said it isnt true but i dont trust her. PLEASE HELP!!! I will rate 5

your mom should never put some guy before her own child. and then he's not your dad. you have got to tell someone else, cause you most likely can't stop this yourself. and it sounds like she will marry him, so you dont have a bunch of time.
your mother's goal was suppposed to be to find someone the family likes, and you are immediate family. tell her this and if she doesnt get it, find someone who will do something. hope i helped any. good luck!

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Ok i have been with my boyfriend five months this past saturday.And lately he has been making comments about his ex girlfriend from monticello.It seems he has been talking to her more lately and to tell you the truth i think something is going on cuz he ain't acting like his self.Frankly he hasn't been treatin me rite to begin with so what i need to no is if you people think he should stay or get goin!! Cuz i don't feel like playing games!!!!

well, if he hasnt been treating you right to begin with, you should have left him long time ago. his incident here is just adding a reason for you to be extra suspicious or just leave and find someone you dont have to worry so much about.

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I hate getting new people in my life. My Aunt and Uncle got devorced and now they are both getting remarried and i hate both of they're fiancees. My other aunt got remarried and i dont get along with my new uncle. My grandma and grandpa got divorced and my grandpa got remarried. I feel like my new grandma is trying to buy my love because she always gives me stuff when I go to see them. How can i be more accepting?

Don't think so negative. They probably feel sort of the same. Your love-buying grandma is probably double-checking that you'll accept her into the family. Just think positively. But do keep an eye out.

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14/f Ok well I like this guy and I wanna tell him I like him but I dont wanna sound stupid and want him to think Im weird... we are friends i guess we talk on the phone sometimes but not that often I have 2 classes with him and lunch but I dont talk to him at all at school(hes shy also)... but when i do talk on the phone with him he makes me smile so much! I kinda wanna write him a note but I dont know if that would be a stupid thing to do...how did u tell a guy u liked them... Im not sure if I should even tell him... and If I should I dont know what to say... but another thing I know he doesnt like me cause he told me who he liked and that he was gonna ask her out(yea she has everything I want)... so yea does that mean I shouldnt even bother... I am confused I just have liked him for like ever... what Should I do... and if I should tell him... what should I say and how should i say it... I am lost and confused?!?!

a note would be best because you might jam up if you try face-to-face. don't pour all your heart out, just keep it kinda short(a paragraph) and eventually get to the part where you tell him you like him.

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Ok heres my question: I'm so sorry if it's confusing. Let's say your sister(if you have one) has a friend from school that's a guy and she sees him everyday when he's there and he calls her once in a while and talks to her on the phone. Well, what would you do if one night you and your sister's friend started talking on the phone and really started to like each other? Then what if he asked you out? Would you go out with him even though you have never seen what he looks like?

well if he's good enough for your sister he's good enough for you. but wouldn't you rather meet him to see what he's really about? I would not go out with him, but keep a close friendship with him.
If you dont see him, how can you know if this guy is cheating?

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Ok. My freind has a boyfriend and i suport them on that. But i feel like i am being used. like.. my friends boyfriend (who is my good friend) calls me and then we call her. and I ask if she is there. and when i have to hang up they still talk. But my friend didn`t tell her mom she had a boyfriend and so i always ask if she is there and they talk ..(but i tlak too.) i just feel like they are useing me to talk to eachother. this has been going on for...weeks..idk what to do..please help...i will rate high if ur good.

that is not technically being used. that is kinda you just helping their relationship out, i guess. if you dont wanna do it anymore, tell one of them(or both) and they might find another way. but if they still talk when you hang up, then whats wrong with her calling him?

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The summer before my freshman year in college I began dating one of my best friends. This was my first relationship with a woman, and to my knowledge at the time, it was her first as well. We dated for 11 months. I was scared, confused, vulnerable.. She went to school two hours away and we saw each other once a month. It seemed as much as I put her first in my life, I was always a side show to her life. The breakup was awful.

She is now dating my ex-best friend, and they recently moved to Florida to live together. We talk very occassionally, and the conversation consists of her telling me I've changed so much, whereas my other friends tell me I've grown up but not for the worse. She asks if I would date her again if things fell through with the new girlfriend.

How can I let go.. she is no good for me and only brings me down. She is manipulative and is a burden in my life but I am too attached, we have been 'friends' for 7 years. Help...

you have to shine. dont let anyone(especially her)bring you down and rain on your parade. you have to let go. find someone else that will get her off your mind. dont date her again. if she treated you like a sideshow before, who's to say she won't do it again?

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