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Leaving your past....in your past
The summer before my freshman year in college I began dating one of my best friends. This was my first relationship with a woman, and to my knowledge at the time, it was her first as well. We dated for 11 months. I was scared, confused, vulnerable.. She went to school two hours away and we saw each other once a month. It seemed as much as I put her first in my life, I was always a side show to her life. The breakup was awful.
She is now dating my ex-best friend, and they recently moved to Florida to live together. We talk very occassionally, and the conversation consists of her telling me I've changed so much, whereas my other friends tell me I've grown up but not for the worse. She asks if I would date her again if things fell through with the new girlfriend.
How can I let go.. she is no good for me and only brings me down. She is manipulative and is a burden in my life but I am too attached, we have been 'friends' for 7 years. Help...
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you have to shine. dont let anyone(especially her)bring you down and rain on your parade. you have to let go. find someone else that will get her off your mind. dont date her again. if she treated you like a sideshow before, who's to say she won't do it again?
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Don't fall for it. Be a royal bastard.
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She seems completely unreasonable when you two talk on the phone. She has the guts to ask you if you would date her if she didn't have a girlfriend now. Does she expect you to wait around until it's a good time for her? You should not have to put up with that. You know that she is no good for you. You need to get rid of the "friendship".
The next time you talk to her you need to tell her that you can't take it. If she cares at all th then she needs to back off. Perhaps in the future you two can be friends again, but until you've gotten over things and until she cares about you as much as you care about her, then there can be NO friendship.
If you don't think you can do that, then you could always avoid her phone calls. Don't call her and if she calls you, then make up an excuse to leave.
But, I do think that you will need to talk to her and get things straight in order to really get her out of your life. If you don't then she will still always be on your mind.
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If you feel you dont need her in your life you dont have to take her back. If she wants to get back with you and you dont want her back just say "no im sry i cant"or "no im not avalible" something like that. If she is just brining you down, you might not be able to study for school (if your the kind of person who gets upset easily). Just tell her you dont want to your you cant.
good luck!!
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