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This is really long but I really need help on this
I have a bit of a big decision here and I was hoping for opinions/advice about it if you'd be so kind. My parents split up a long time ago over the summer acutally and I had said I didnt want to be around her soon to be husband because of the fact he took mom away from us although it takes two. And his son got in trouble for molestation of his little sister so I said I didn't want to be around him either. So I live with my father. But lately, I've been seeing my mom after not seeing her for a long time. We've been getting close again. The other night she took me to her house to see my cat that she had taken but her boyfriend and his son were there. And my court I have said I don't want to be around them but it isn't official until March 28 when we go to court about it. Dad thinks that I want him to have custody of me and that I hate my moms boyfriend and his son. But I went to her house a lot this weekend with my friend, we walked. And moms boyfriend and his son are really nice. Her boyfriend cares about me and his son is really nice. He has couseling for what he did so he's better now with the molesation thing. And I keep thinking I'd be better off with my mom. Here at my dads we don't have money to just spend. A bunch of our bills are behind. Everything almost gets cut off or does before my dad pays it. And he gets good money so I don't know where it's all going to. And this weekend I didn't want to come home from my friends house at all. I'm not happy here that much. But the thing is, My dad says he'd have nothing if I left him. But at my moms they have money for things, the bills are payed, the house is clean and stuff. So my delimma is: Should I move in with my Mom, or stay with my dad? What do you think?
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Wow. This is a huge life decision. However, I want to stress that you look to what is best for you in the future, and not what seems best now.
Think ahead to college, if you are planning to go to college. Who would you want to mainly support you your adult life?
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Well you could ask if you could take turns living with your parents!
Hope this was helpful!
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don't close the door on either place. even though your mom has more money, and you like everyone, people who do things like what his son did don't usually get over that too quickly, if at all. so if you stay w/your mom, you would have to constantly be on your guard. if you stay with your dad, even though money is somewhat short, you could probably help him out. you might be his motivation for getting on the right track w/things. this is a tough decision for someone your age to go through. so, don't make up your mind just yet. really think long and hard, cause it's not just our happiness at stake, it's how your life could turn out. hope i helped at all! Good luck...
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I would ask my assigned guardian if it is possible to have a temporary custody with your mom if you feel conflicted. There may be a way to spend some time with your mom, and change to your dad if you have too.It is a hard decision for a young person to make. Your dad is probably depressed, which is why he would say if you left he would have nothing. He really doesn't need to lay that stuff on you. You have enough. Do talk to your dad about how you are feeling, and maybe he will understand. This is a really difficult time for you all.
Best wishes.
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try a visitation or joint custody thing, but try and find out about the weed, cuz that's just bad...
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