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I dont know what to do anymore
Ok so heres the story, me n my bf broke up like over 7 months ago. I know its sad but I'm still in love with him and cant come over the fact that I'm not the love of his life anymore. See we dated for over 9 months and he even asked me to marry him and gave me a ring...this guy had me believe we actually were gonna spend the rest of our lives together. I went away for the summer and we still talked none-stop and then he started talking to his ex gf and he started having feelings for her again and so we "took a break" then somehow it turned into a break up. I dont know what I did wrong, and now we barly talk and he says hes in love with someother girl who already has a bf and doesnt love him back...I dont understand, he knows I still love him , or I least I hope he does, so he knows that if he ever feels alone I'll be here. But she doesnt love him so why cant he just stop trying so hard on here and give me another chance. I'm a different person now I have friends now and I do everything with them, not like when we dated I only had him and so we did everything together, but now I just want another chance. Is this bad for me thinking that I'm still in love with a guy that treats me like crap? Is it bad I cry about 3 times a day and probably cry about 4 out of the 7 days? Should I like see a shrink or somthing? Please help
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Ooo, this is tough. I know what you are going through because I'm kind of going through the same thing. But I know that we aren't ever going to get back together because we've been broken up for 7 months also but we've both changed & don't have the same interests anymore. I think since you guys haven't been together for 7 months, it would be hard to get back together because you both have changed & maybe have different interests than you did when you guys were still going out. You definitely shouldn't see a shrink but maybe you could try being friends with him again. Maybe you guys could pick up where you left off because he's not magically going to fall in love with you right away.
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dont worry so much.. there's a saying.. "never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you love may leave for the one they like." so you need to let him go, really because he treats you like crap. You might love him, but you're still holding on beacause you probably only remember the good times you had.
But you have to let him go. hope I helped
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alriqhty first off i wanna start out by sayinq this . i know if i ever lost sean i would cry everyniqht for hoursz on end . and im sure many qirlsz feel the same way you do riqht now . i know some of my friendsz that fiqht day after day and qo home cryinq because they still dont have the quy they love . but i want you to know your normal, theresz nothinq about cryinq thatsz wronq . dont even think somethinqsz wronq with you because your cryinq alriqht sweetheart ? there aint anythinq wronq with you . and esp if he proposed and ask your to um marry him ? and qave you a rinq . id cry my eyesz out every niqht . try talkinq to him and makinq him understnad how your feelinq . i know i cant help much because itsz never happened to me but if you ever need anythinq . hit me up on aim and talk to me and i`ll be there for you to cry to and talk to .
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the lovely kristin!
"You might wanna get help from a therapist or something. Trust me, they do help if u let them. I know. But as for him. Keep trying. If you cry that much, then your obviously still deeply in love with him and you shouldnt give up. Keep letting him know your there for him, and keep trying to get him to do something with you, like hang out, or watch a movie together. Dont give up. But seeing a therapist may help. So dont hesitate there. Keep tryingg. Crying aint wrong or bad. Dont ever think that. Goodluckk with him. I honestly hope it works out for you. Me n kristin are here for you if u need anything elsee. Just let us know! Goodluckk.."
-Sean
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Well i dont think you really need a shrink.. but if you feel you do then i would go see one..And no hun its not bad to still love somebody that treats you like that..you had good memorys with this guy and you though you was goin to spend the rest of your lives together..and you jus are showing your emotions when you cry..im really sorry this has gon on wit you..its really shitty and i could imagine what your going through... but if you need anybody to talk to or have anymore questions drop it in my inbox okay hun...~*DEZ*~
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Aww, hunni, I am so sorry...there's nothing wrong with you at all. It's totally normal to still be crying - you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with this guy!!
I think all you can really do is hang on. If this relationship he's in/wants to be in doesn't work out, he might come back to you, but you've got to ask yourself if you really want that? I mean, what happens if he does it again? And you say you've got friends now - that's great! You just have hold onto that, and decide whether to hang on to this relationship for the rest of your life and miss out on some great chances with love, or let go (you don't have to do it instantly, gradually is fine) and possibly miss out on something great. Tthe only thing is...if I was you, I'd try to let go. I mean, he can't be that great if he's off with other people now can he?
Go out with your friends, have some fun, date some other guys (it doesn't have to be serious until you're ready) and just live your life until you know what you want to do.
I really, really hope things turn out OK for you :) *Hugs* Hang on in there.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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