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i am always chewing gum, i only chew like mint flavors like dentin ice, orbit and sometimes a few others. I was wondering if it would have an effect on my teeth?
Hi,
Yes, chewing gum can be harmful to your teeth if you don't take the precautions. Gum leaves a sugary residue on your teeth and may also have additives that will make your teeth rot over a long period of time. If you don't want to harm your teeth, you can always just switch to a sugarfree gum or make sure you brush your teeth three times a day.
Don't get me wrong, there are many health benefits as well :) If you would like to know more, check out this site: http://www.ehow.com/list_6002840_benefits-disadvantages-chewing-gum.html
Okay, so I have been in the best relationship I've ever been with, with my boy friend Lou. We have been dating for 11 months now, and I love him very much. Now my ex's older sister told me today that when he gets into high school ( he's an 8th grader, im 9th) he's going to try to get me back. x.x Now, his sister told him to move on, because I'm in a relationship, he won't listen. Now, I dated him last year when he was in 7th and when I was in 8th, he was a good boyfriend in the beginning, he was my first kiss. He was very funny, nice and cute. We dated for 6-7 months before I broke up with him for my recent bf now. Well, everything went good until Christmas break. He didn't call, he didn't text me, I called him once, he hanged up. His sister told me, he hates his phone >.> so thats why he never called me, texted me. So, I was depressed, and lonely..and than I met Lou, he was so funny and sweet, one night his after his ex broke up with him..he was very upset and I helped him feel better, my friend started this all for me..by introducing him to me..and when they 3 wayed me on the phone..he said..sense that day when he heard my voice, he said he knew I was the one for him. After awhile, we started to date..after I broke up with my ex of course, it hurt me really bad to break up with him..but the next day he had someone else..so I said, oh well he will be ok. Than after a situation a rised when ppl were trying to break my bf and I up..he tried to be my bf again..and I turned him down..than hurt him again:/ I don't want to HURT him anymore. I just want him to find someone better than me, so he can be happy.His girl friend now doesn't kiss, hug or tell him she loves him..he needs to find someone else..but what I want to know is..what will I do next year? Avoid him? Tell him were just friends? Should I tell my bf about this?
Hey,
Did you tell him that you don't want to hurt him anymore? and that he deserves someone much better, even if he doesn't know it now.. he will in time..? You have to make sure he understands this. Only then will he be able to move on. Don't ignore your ex, just try not to have long conversations with him. If you avoid him, it will only make him feel worse. Let your ex know you can still be friends for a long time and tell him you will still give him the occasional hug.
I wouldn't tell your boyfriend about this, unless he brings it up. If he does, let him know that this guy is just an ex who has a crush on you, but you aren't making anything of it. If your boyfriend loves you, he should trust your word and believe you. For now, stay friends with your ex and continue to let him know he will find someone better. In time he will
I was molested by my dad when I was 3 by my dad and I dont know who to beiieve anymore becouse my dad's side of the family says that my mom's liying ad my mom says they are lying and I can't even ask my dad about it becouse he died when I was 12 and he probally wouldn't tell me the truth anyway. Iam still having nightmares about a little girl who was eating supper on a man's lap and the police coming and the cops arresting him and putting her in a different cop car and I wake up screaming every time I have that dream.
Hey,
I would think that your mom would tell you the truth. Your dad's side of the family could just be trying to save your dads reputation and dignity if he did do it. I know it is hard, but I think you should ask your mom what exactly happened. She should be able to get the facts out since she was the one who was married to him and had to deal with it, if it happened. Tell her about the dream. Mom's are suppose to be there to comfort you and support you. If you find out the truth about this, and understand that it was a mistake if he did.. your dreams should start going away
There was this guy i met my freshmen yr of college. I'd like to think that we hit it off. when we met we spent that whole day together. i was living in providence at the time and he in Boston. he was only suppose to be down there for the day so when he invited me to go back with him i was pleasantly surprised and i accepted. that night we did engage in some sexual activity but i stopped it before we could go all the way, it was more like four [lay. anyway i spent the entire next day with him and left that night because of school. i was suppose to get in touch with him the following week because i was suppose to return the following week but unfortunately my phone broke erasing all of my contacts including his. i haven't see or spoken to him since, it's been about a year and a half. But i recently found out some information that would give me the opportunity to get in touch with him. My question is should i use it?Considering he was my first for a lot of things. I am debating with myself on whether i should reach out or not because it seem like i kind of blew him off. HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi,
That is bad if he thinks you blew him off! If you still have feelings for him, try to get in contact with him and let him know that you weren't ignoring him, you lost all your contacts. I would definately use the information if you think he is worth it. If you tell him what happened and he doesn't believe you, you shouldn't give him another thought. But, if he understands the situation, then you should keep in contact and see if it will work out :) There is no harm in trying.
I have liked this girl for since 6th grade I am in 9th now and I think she likes me to she say she does. I would ask her out but in the past when I have asked her out she has had a boyfriend ever time. We text all the time in school we have text so much I can tell if its not her but this time it was. So I am at my brothers basketball game and we are texting like usual and she say I really like you. I say I really like you to but you already have a boyfriend so I called her and talked to for about an hour. I was wondering if I should back off or ask her out. I'm 15 and she is 14
OK what if she talk to me more then she talks to her boy frend after we get off the phone we i love you baby should i just make it offeicel
If she talks to you more than her boyfriend, she obviously likes you more. But if she is still dating him, she has to know to let him go first before she should date you. If you mean you tell her that you love her after a convo on the phone and then she says it too; tell her that she should be with the person that makes her more happy. Be aware, she may not choose you, but by the sounds of it you two really hit it off (get along). So let her know you really care for her and try to make it official. Ultimately it is up to her, but it sounds like she already knows who she should pick (you!)
All of my friends are really enemies. But how can they stop doing this to me? They do really mean things. How can I stop them?
Hey,
The only way your frenemies are going to stop is if someone tries to stop them. It will take a few tries, but if you let them know it isn't right to hurt people and tell them to back off, they may begin to believe you. They will only change their actions if they believe what they are doing is wrong. You can stop them by telling them to stop (say it loud and clear), by telling them to back off, by ignoring them, or by having someone you trust defend you.
I have a lot of guy friends and they like to feel me up. At lunch time they usually do things like grab my breasts and jiggle them or just touch them a little bit. I don't really mind but I think it looks bad if there are five or six guys doing it. How do I explain to them that they can still do it but not all at once?
Hi,
Just tell them to back off a bit and let them know (by saying slightly loud) "one at a time!" or "wait your turn!" jokingly. They will hopefully get the hint and take turns. If not, let them know seriously that it bothers you when there is a crowd. If they respect you, they will do what you say
I've liked the same guy for months and decided to tell him. He told me that he didn't feel the same but that he didn't want it to affect our friendship. Neither of us has since mentioned the incident. It's like it never happened. That was two weeks ago. Today we were talking with my other friend during class and after class when i was alone with my friend, she said something about the crush. I laughed it off, but it started to hit me. I felt so stupid. How can I still like someone who doesn't care about me? I mean what is the point? I'd like to think I'm so mature about this and that I'm handling it well, but now I'm crying and the fact that I still like him frustrates me. I just want to be friends with him without these silly feelings. What should I do?
Hey there,
You shouldn't feel stupid about the way you feel for someone. You were attracted and nothing is wrong with that. The point is that your heart was telling you something and you listened to it. You should always listen to your heart. Just because one incident didn't work out doesn't mean you should ever give up on love or life. It frustrates you because you haven't got over the thought of him as more than a friend yet. It is alright to have feelings for him and alright to think about him. When you are with him, let him know he gives you butterflies. I'm sure he will be more comforting if he knows how you are feeling right now. The more time you spend with him and be yourself without thinking too much, the more you will be able to get rid of the silly feelings. You won't always be able to brush them off, but those feelings can be what will keep you friends longer
I have liked this girl for since 6th grade I am in 9th now and I think she likes me to she say she does. I would ask her out but in the past when I have asked her out she has had a boyfriend ever time. We text all the time in school we have text so much I can tell if its not her but this time it was. So I am at my brothers basketball game and we are texting like usual and she say I really like you. I say I really like you to but you already have a boyfriend so I called her and talked to for about an hour. I was wondering if I should back off or ask her out. I'm 15 and she is 14
Hi,
If she isn't in a relationship with another guy right now, go ahead and ask her out :) There is no harm in asking someone as long as they are single. See if she would like to hang out with you and then just go for it! I hope it works out for you. I hope it works out for you. What else did you want to know??
So i've had a thing for this guy since we hooked up awhile ago. we didnt talk much but we met again at another party.. we ended up hooking up a few times all weekend. and talked about how much we liked eachother. all this.. then monday comes and we're sober. He says he doesn't know how he feels.. that he feels different when he's drunk rather than sober.. what do I do? I really like him..
Hi,
I would ask him if he feels anything for you. If he says no... it was just the alcohol talking (which sucks). See if he will hang out with you, get to know him sober, then see if he is still who you thought he was. People tend to be completely different when they drink; find out who he is without the partying and alcohol. If you still feel something for him after that, flirt, and see how he reacts. If he isn't feeling the same, don't push it, he's not worth your time. If he does, then take another step forward. Everyone feels different when they are drunk. Your judgement is much better when you are sober... decide when you both are
12, almost 13/a girl
Today my class was going to the school's library. I guy I have a huge crush on was WAY behind me in the line, like I was the first one & he was the last one, and while I was talking 2 my friend, he pops up out of nowhere right next 2 me & stays there till we got 2 the library. He kept brushing up next 2 me & touching my shoulder. Are those clues if a guy likes you?
Thanks 2 every 1 who answers!
Hey there,
Yes, I would say he likes you :) Him wanting to be near you and then him brushing up against you are signs that he really wanted your attention. He could definately be attracted. Sit near him, walk beside him, talk to him, make eye contact, and/or put your hand on his knee when he is near.. this will let him know you are interested too
so, i had a boyfriend of a year. we broke up in december 09. i went out with someone else immediately and when we broke up, he was interested in someone else.
basically, we began to be on separate teams. we hated each other. we started rumors, and his new girlfriend absolutely hated me. we would say shit out loud in the hallways at school. it was bad and literally a war. some adults got involved.
in july, it was his birthday. i said happy birthday and he told me off.
in august, we hung out with a group. he seemed fine & we talked okay. he hugged me hello & goodbye. i havent talked to him since, because he goes to a boarding school now.
then on oct 30, mischief night, we all hung out in the same group again when he came back to our town from his school. we didnt even acknowledge each other's existence, but that could be because he was with his own friend.
it's november now, and i feel like we still havent gotten closure. i think about him every day and i still love him because of who he was to me. i'm tired of comparing other guys to him. could it be that i need closure? should i try to talk to him? i have a 50/50 chance of him replying like a normal person, or just telling me off again. im so scared because i dont want to know he doesnt care about me anymore if that's true.
should i talk to him? its been months since we have, about 8 months. i feel as if the timing might be wrong, or maybe its just right. i dont know. advice? what do you think i should do?
Hey there,
It sounds as if this relationship had a really bad break-up. If he broke up with you for another girl, then that just shows how easy you were to give up for him. Sure he was nice to you a few times, but you've talked about more bad then good. He could of just hugged you to see if you would hug back, not because he missed you. It also sounds as if who he was, was a long time ago. I think you should let him be, for he is hurting you more than helping you.
I believe you do need closure from him. If you want, go ahead and talk to him. As you said though, he may treat you badly.. so do you want to feel that pain again? Be prepared for a very honest answer. If he treats you alright, do not think of it as "he is back to being nice". If he treats you like crap, hold your head up and say "I am not going through this anymore" and move on. There are many other guys that will come around and treat you twice as good as this guy has; stick with those guys. Trust your instincts, if you are still scared for the next time... there shouldn't be a next time
heey so there's this guy and lets call him j and i met j in a very weird way... i was at my sister's boyfriend's hockey game and j is on the team and after he asked for my number and i gave it to him. But later that night i heard bad stuff about him that he is a player and hes a jerk to girls buut i didnt really listen to that and i talked to other people and they say hes really nice.
Anyways we started texting and at first i wasnt attracted to him and he was trying really really hard to get me and he complimented me every single text and it growed on me and i started liking him too and one day things were great and then the next day i texted him and he didnt reply and we didnt talk for a week.
So at this point i liked him alot and was really hurt by him not talking to him but i wanted to tell him off, so i texted him and said "thanks for showing me that everyone was right about you" and he replyed and asked what i was talking about and i told him that one day he was all sweet and the next he didnt reply and he told me that he didnt get it and the reason why he didnt text me was because he thought i didnt wanna talk and i told him that i did. I never did tell him i liked him but i told him that i did wanna talk to him and we talked for a fewdays, he was pretty sweet but not at all like he was before we stopped talking. but the one night after he said goodnight he never texted me the next day and i havent talk to him since and its been about a week and a half
So what do you think i should do? should i just leave it? But i really was starting to like him... or should i text him? and if so what should i say?
Thanks sooo much! :)
kaaitlyn
Hey,
Everyone has a good side and a bad side. Maybe he was just having a bad day and didn't feel like talking to anybody and then the next day was alright and he felt like talking to you..?. you never know. Is it kids your age that say he is bad? and is it adults that say he is good? If so, he must have respect in him. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be a bit wary though. Until you really know him, I wouldn't judge him based solely on what people tell you.. there have to be some facts in place first.
I don't know why he thought you didn't want to talk to him. Maybe he was just wanting you to text him because he wanted to know if you were interested. Sometimes guys just hang out and wait to see if a girl will text them and ask how they are doing, they don't always want to be first. He could of been thinking "she hasn't texted me so she isn't interested". After this last time, he could of stopped talking, cuz he was busy. I would send him a text saying "where did you go?". If he doesn't respond, leave it. If he does respond, find out why he isn't talking to you. He obviously liked you if he asked for your number... but then again, he may be a jerk. Sometimes guys will ask for a girls number and not text them just cuz they wanted an ego boost. Its stupid and ignorant, but some guys do it.
If his reasons make no sense or you feel as if he is playing you, drop him immediately. There's no harm in finding out an honest answer, but there will be harm if he is just playing you. Know the facts, then decide
Hey! I'm a fifteen year old girl, sophomore. My boyfriend is a seventeen year old boy, junior. We've been dating for three months but we've been friends for years. Okay the thing is, I'm a girl that's extremely attracted to the athletic kind of guys, and really turned off by laziness... That's just my type I guess. My boyfriend is fit and active and plays football and baseball. Butttt... he's recently decided he wants to quit baseball. He says he just doesn't want to play this year. Is it bad that I WANT him to play?? Because I do... It's just thats part of why I'm attracted to him I thought that was part of who he was and I dunno I feel like it's really shallow but I just want him to play. And I don't know what to do because it's actually bothering me... I don't know how to get it across to him that I don't think he should quit but ugh I don't know what else to do... It's not completely shallow reasoning though. Two years ago I quit soccer (my reasons were a little different though I quit so I could join a more time consuming competitive cheer squad) but I really really miss soccer. I thought I didn't want to do it anymore but I still wish I could have done both. I've told him this but he sounds pretty set. My third reason is... I'm worried that when he has nothing to do and when I'm going to be really busy with cheerleading that he's going to get super demanding of my time. Baseball workouts are just about to start too so I can't put off this problem... What shoudl I do??
Hi there,
No, it is not bad that you want him to play. If that is the part of him you are attracted to, then why wouldn't you want him to? If its bothering you.. then you have to tell him. Look him in the eyes and say "It is a turn on when you play baseball". If you let him know, he should be more open to staying with it. But.. he should also be able to have the choice to decide what he would like to do in his life; just as you did when you decided to do cheering. Maybe baseball just isn't his thing anymore. Talk to him and see if he has other sport goals that he would like to get into besides football. Let him know that you really like that athletic side of him. So, baseball was a no go.. I am sure you can get him involved in another sport. Let him know you would like him too and if possible, get involved in it with him. Maybe football is his thing. All you can really do is tell him how much you enjoyed it when he played the sport, the rest is up to him. You may be able to convince him of more than football though with your attraction to him playing baseball.
Also, tell him that when you start cheerleading, you won't always be around to hang out whenever he wants; you will be busy. He should understand how you are feeling if you voice it to him. Ask him how much he loved baseball and then tell him how good he was at it. The more compliments he gets, the more he will want to do it. I hate to say this, but you cannot change his mind, you can only be supportive and guide him there. Tell him honestly how you feel and see how he responds. If he doesn't want to do baseball, don't force him. Ask him if he will at least consider it. I am sure he might get into another sport, for when a guy leaves one he is likely to start new with another or enhance what he has. Tell him you would like him to play sports and I am sure he will, even if its not baseball that is calling to him
i am 14 and my boyfriend is 18 about to be 19. he is a senior and i am a freshman..... my family does not aprove of the age diffrence.i do not no what to do ab out it. Because my mom wants me 2 break up with him. but i dont want 2..... i realy love him! should i listen 2 my mom or follow my heart?
Hey there,
All your parents see and disagree with is his age... I am sure there are a lot of things that they don't see in him though, things you see. You see the side of him that is loving, caring, supportive (I would hope) and if your parents don't see that, then they are basing this on their opinions alone; not by fact. If you love him and he loves you, you will stick by him even if he is a few years older. As long as he treats you right, I would not stop dating him. Your Mom is just worried for you and if you let her know he is safe to be around, she will be more likely to accept him. Have him over to your house for supper or an afternoon to let your Mom do her parental 'questioning'. It may be annoying, but having him tell them about himself will have your Mom's eyes opened a bit more.
Tell your Mom that you love him and as long as he is loving you/treating you right, you are going to stick by him. She will have no reason to break you two up if she gets to know him and is able to see the good in this relationship. Also, if you tell her how you feel for him and how he makes you feel inside, over time she will understand that he is making you happy and then let you two be. Listen to your mom when it comes to being safe, but listen to your heart when it comes to love
So basically I have been in love with this boy for two years before we finally started going out. Now we've been together for a while now, and he's a busy person. He spends a lot of time doing working, or visiting family, or whatever. I know he tries to spend time with me, but he just can't. I can't decide whether or not I'm making something out of nothing, but this something is starting to bother me. Do I end things and move on or just chill out and remember that he loves me?
Hi,
Ask yourself, where do you think this relationship will go? If he tries to be there for you and is, but only part time, is that enough for you? I think that if you are alright with him spending little hours with you, then it is alright to try and keep this moving. If you feel though, that this guy has too many other priorities that are not you, I don't think you should try to keep this relationship. It is different to be friends with someone and be able to see them once and a while, but when it is your boyfriend he should be able to devote an afternoon or so to you at least in a week.
It sounds as if you are wanting more and it is not happening. You are not having all your needs met by this guy. I am positive you will find someone who will make not just time, but extra time to come see you. If you feel the time he gives you is not enough, then I would just be friends with him. Let him know that you really care for him, but it isn't working out like you thought. If he does respect you, he should be alright with what you say. Don't just chill out, remember that he loves you and stick by him as a friend. Then, if he ever does open up some free space in his schedule... you could always try again
17/f
i feel like im the only girl in the world who doesnt like it.. like i cant orgasim from normal penetration.. it just frustrates me and my boyfriend.. whats wrong with me.
Hey there,
Nothing is wrong with you. Nothing at all. Over 80% of women cannot orgasm from penitration alone. What most girls/women need, is more foreplay and clitoral stimulation. If your boyfriend is willing to give you lots of foreplay and then stimulate you while you are having sex, I can almost guarantee that you will have better sex and be able to have an orgasm while doing it. If you still have trouble to orgasm though, I would reccommend doing it alone first and then once you are able to reach that point of climaxing, try having sex with your boyfriend again. Its all in the multi-tasking. Teach your boyfriend to do this and it should work wonders
Do i really need good grades in 10th standard to get admission in good colleges? Do i need good marks in college to get admission in good universities? Do i need good grades in university to get a good job? I mean, whether good marks are important or not?
Hi,
Most the time grades are very important, but it also depends on where you live to know how good your grades should be. What you wish to get into for a job/career in the future, all relies on your grades. Where I live (for example) they will look at someones high school record (from grade 10 up) and see if your marks are good. Good meaning: you have the adequate marks to meet the needs of that college/University. Every college is different. If your high school marks are low, you can still be accepted into college, you just have a tiny bit lower chance. Colleges tend to work as 'the sudents who apply first and have a good score will be accepted first'. Also, people with the better grades will get into the college positions and be accepted for jobs more easily than those who don't.
I would say, you should try and get good marks in 10th standard for when you go to get into colleges, you should try and have good marks in college to get admission in universities, and if you have good grades throughout those years you should be able to get a good job. You can be accepted for some jobs even if you have a low mark, for they don't always base it on your marks. Some job positions will ask you questions and base their judgement by your personality and quality of your answer alone. If you work your hardest in school/university and get the grades you are capable of, then you will be closer to your goal of whatever you wish to be/do in life. Yes good marks are very important, but they are not everything
so i dated a guy for about 3-4 months in the beginning of the year. everything was good but i felt him as more like a good friend than a boyfriend, so i ended it- i told him this, which is the complete truth. at first he was fine with it and said it was mutual. so we were on good terms, we still talked and were good friends still. then over the summer we hungout and he just randomly kissed me. i was shocked but i kinda just went along with it to see what would happen (just a kiss nothing else). then after that night we started hanging out more and went back to like we were dating again (hooking up, sexual stuff, etc) only not official. i figured it was just a casual friends with benefits relationship and it wasn't going to hurt anyone since he said the breakup was mutual. then after like a month or 2 i told him that i couldn't do it anymore because it didn't feel right to me. he accepted it and we were just friends again. then after another month or 2 he out of the random got mad at me and told me i was a bitch and that i screwed him over (randomly). i don't even know what i did that was wrong and he wouldn't tell me. he told me to delete his number(i did). and he deleted me off facebook and everything. it really bothers me that i don't know what i did to him. can you figure out what he might be thinking of from what i said? and i deleted his number but i can get it back. should i text him? its been like a month since he flipped out on me. what should i do? i've tried to just ignore it but i feel like an awful person because i really didn't mean to screw him over and if it was that bad i want to make it up to him. thanks.
Hi,
I believe he got mad for reasons that had nothing to do with you. It sounded like you two were on good terms and as if it was not anything you said. Maybe his friends said something or he just thought you two should of been more than just friends. He did kiss you, so that shows he wanted the potential to be more. Then, if he still had feelings for you, he wouldn't tell you to delete him off your phone and not contact you. He could be thinking about why you would want the relationship to be mutual. I think he was frustrated that nothing more happened, that was it after you two talked.
If you want to text him, I would just send him one text. One text saying 'I am sorry about what I did, I hope you will forgive me' even if you did nothing. This will let him know that you are still thinking about him and would like to still be friends. It really sounds as if it was something he felt that made him act like this. I don't think this is your fault at all, but I can see how you would like it to turn around again. Just send him one text saying that you are sorry, then you have to let him decide if he would like to respond. I think he will want to, for there is something he is feeling inside, something he would like to say, but hasn't. Give him time after you send the message. He will have to think about it and after he has thought about it, I am sure he will come around. Have faith in him. This was not your fault
Me and my best friend are both 15, and basically a couple of weeks ago we kind of just gave into each other. We have kinda liked each other for years just never done anything about it. He took my virginity and I took his, but the condom broke. I took a test 3 times and it came back positive all 3 times. I know I have to tell him
but I don't know how. :( I know he will stick by me.
How should I tell him I'm pregnant?
I'll be seeing him tommorow to study, and want to tell him then, but don't know how to bring up the conversation.
Help??
Hey there,
I think the best way to do it, is to wait until you two are in the room alone about to study and then talk about that night when the condom broke. Say "You know that one day we had sex?", wait for his response, then say "I really enjoyed it and I think our relationship is ready for another step". When he asks 'what is that?' tell him that he is a dad. There is no real blunt way to tell him, you just have to casually let him know. You say he will stick by you, so he must be a sweet guy. At first it may be awkward, but I am sure he will be shocked/happy all at once. If you make the setting comfortable, with just the two of you and then let him know.. it will be easier for the both of you. By the sounds of it, your baby will have a great dad :) Let him know how great he is/will be