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He flipped out on me and I don't know why!
so i dated a guy for about 3-4 months in the beginning of the year. everything was good but i felt him as more like a good friend than a boyfriend, so i ended it- i told him this, which is the complete truth. at first he was fine with it and said it was mutual. so we were on good terms, we still talked and were good friends still. then over the summer we hungout and he just randomly kissed me. i was shocked but i kinda just went along with it to see what would happen (just a kiss nothing else). then after that night we started hanging out more and went back to like we were dating again (hooking up, sexual stuff, etc) only not official. i figured it was just a casual friends with benefits relationship and it wasn't going to hurt anyone since he said the breakup was mutual. then after like a month or 2 i told him that i couldn't do it anymore because it didn't feel right to me. he accepted it and we were just friends again. then after another month or 2 he out of the random got mad at me and told me i was a bitch and that i screwed him over (randomly). i don't even know what i did that was wrong and he wouldn't tell me. he told me to delete his number(i did). and he deleted me off facebook and everything. it really bothers me that i don't know what i did to him. can you figure out what he might be thinking of from what i said? and i deleted his number but i can get it back. should i text him? its been like a month since he flipped out on me. what should i do? i've tried to just ignore it but i feel like an awful person because i really didn't mean to screw him over and if it was that bad i want to make it up to him. thanks.
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Well honestly, it doesn't sound like any of this is your fault. He said it was mutual and if he wanted to he could've said that he still wanted you so that you guys could watch what you do. So yeah, none of this is your fault. If he wants to talk to you again and try to fix whatever happen. Let him. Don't try to talk to him about it. You should just try to forget about it. You did nothing wrong so don't feel bad. Good luck!
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oh boy i know exactly where you're coming from... i used to know a guy like this. except he and i were friends w/ benefits and not dating. we were talking and randomly he yelled at me telling me i'm a horrible person and to never talk to him again.. i had no idea what i did wrong. i begged him to tell me what happened and why he all of a sudden thinks this.. he never gave me a reason.
my lesson learned from that experience is that you just have to let it go. let. it. go. he was a jerk to begin with and is still a jerk. i have learned that i was wasting my time with him because ever since we last talked, he's been a jerk to a lot of girls. i'm thankful now that he and i aren't speaking and it has made me strong in return. its made me realize that i shouldnt trust everyone i meet and that i have to be careful when selecting the right friends.
in your case, i'd just forget about him. if he really just got mad over this.. then chances are that he will probably react that way towards other issues/problems. you dont want to be with a guy who will act like that.
on the other hand, if you really feel like you must must must know what went wrong, you can send him a text. dont go overboard and sound obsessed. just simply say- hey i would like to have the chance to say i'm sorry about what happened between us. (saying sorry first can help, even if you dont mean it) and i would like to talk about what exactly happened.
if it was truly meant to be, then it will happen. everything happens for a reason <3
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Hi,
I believe he got mad for reasons that had nothing to do with you. It sounded like you two were on good terms and as if it was not anything you said. Maybe his friends said something or he just thought you two should of been more than just friends. He did kiss you, so that shows he wanted the potential to be more. Then, if he still had feelings for you, he wouldn't tell you to delete him off your phone and not contact you. He could be thinking about why you would want the relationship to be mutual. I think he was frustrated that nothing more happened, that was it after you two talked.
If you want to text him, I would just send him one text. One text saying 'I am sorry about what I did, I hope you will forgive me' even if you did nothing. This will let him know that you are still thinking about him and would like to still be friends. It really sounds as if it was something he felt that made him act like this. I don't think this is your fault at all, but I can see how you would like it to turn around again. Just send him one text saying that you are sorry, then you have to let him decide if he would like to respond. I think he will want to, for there is something he is feeling inside, something he would like to say, but hasn't. Give him time after you send the message. He will have to think about it and after he has thought about it, I am sure he will come around. Have faith in him. This was not your fault <3
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