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i feel like im the only girl in the world who doesnt like it.. like i cant orgasim from normal penetration.. it just frustrates me and my boyfriend.. whats wrong with me.
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It's probably that you don't like it but more likely that you have a partner that doesn't turn you on. First question I have is can you orgasm on your own? If so, then you should use some of those same techniques when you're with your partner. Next, I would try more foreplay with your bf, which can include casual touching through the day and playful kissing. When you get ready to start, slowly take each others clothes off and kiss each other slowly and softly in between each layer. Now when you're ready for sex, your mind has already started. If you're still not turned on, let your mind wander off to something or someone that turns you on. Don't be afraid to talk to your partner and let him know things you like and things that you don't. If he cares enough about you, he'll be willing to go the extra mile to make sure you're turned on and if he doesn't, then it may be time to find a new partner. If you need more detailed help, please feel free to ask. Hope this helps a little and good luck.
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Most women don't orgasm through vaginal penetration. Try oral, manual stimulation and you can bring toys like vibrators into bed as well.
Every woman's genitalia is different. Some women have larger clitoris, some smaller, Some need deep penetration, others need external stimulation, some need heavy vibrations and others need precision.
You can experiment with various positions. Woman on top is often the best position for females to control the action and get what they need. But if that doesn't work, don't sweat it. It doesn't mean you're broken or defective in any way. And your boyfriend needs to know it's not a failing on either of you if the big O doesn't come along through intercourse alone.
Pornography tends to show women coming like crazy over nothing, over little effort or attention to her needs. Real sex with real women is a much different story. You're like a fine violin, and you need to relax and take the time to understand how you need to be played. Women can take years to do this. You're so early in the game.
Do what it takes to orgasm, whatever works, and then enjoy it. You don't have to box yourself into some notion of what you "should" be doing to orgasm.
And of course, use a condom :)
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Hey there,
Nothing is wrong with you. Nothing at all. Over 80% of women cannot orgasm from penitration alone. What most girls/women need, is more foreplay and clitoral stimulation. If your boyfriend is willing to give you lots of foreplay and then stimulate you while you are having sex, I can almost guarantee that you will have better sex and be able to have an orgasm while doing it. If you still have trouble to orgasm though, I would reccommend doing it alone first and then once you are able to reach that point of climaxing, try having sex with your boyfriend again. Its all in the multi-tasking. Teach your boyfriend to do this and it should work wonders <3
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Dont worry my sister is 22 and has only had once threw being ate out.You should go see a dr,they can help with stuff like this.I know its gonna be akward but you desirve to feel what an orgasim is like.Because it is amazing and this is coming froma girl whos been selibent for the last 3 months lol not by choice.If the dr cant help try switching up possitions or trying diffrent sexuall lubes you never know one might work.
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