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Hi,i'm a 14 year old girl and my best friends boyfriend loves me and i love him! Help Me!
you need to just respect the fact that he's your best friends boyfriend and stay away. how much could he love you if he's with her? if he breaks up with her then you can do whatever but i definetly wouldn't advise it unless you want to lose your best friend...
Hi latly me and my bestfriend havnt been talking that much i feel like we are drifting apart how can i make things better?
thanks s
ask her if she wants to get coffee or something. that brings back alot of time to talk and its worked for me so why not give it a try? :)
Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good?
tampons are 20x better. they're more comfortable and you don't feel anything. i don't know how i've ever lived without them haha. i use tampax pearl they're probably the easiest to put in and i've never had a leak or anything. definetly recommended!
so im a 19/f and i was talking to this guy. it all started at school one day in the lunch line. after that i added him on faceboook. and we didn't really talk til he messaged me and asked me about my name. well we were talking & then he asked me for my number but i didn't give it to him because i didn't really know him that well. well we started talking more & then i finally gave my number to him. & we started talking on the phone and texting. but our conversations always seemed to be about sex. like how many times he masturbated, & we had phone sex. after that he blocked me on facebook & stopped texting/caling me. and then last night he texted me randomly & i didn't know who it was. he said no one, but i told him to tell me who he was and then said who didn't want to tell me because he thought i would get mad, but i wasn't. then he started telling me how he got nervous to be in a relationship with me so thats why he ignored me. & then he told me it was because he onl wanted to have sex with me. he told me how sorry he was etc. and i asked him if he still wanted to be with me & he told me he wasn't sure. and i told him that im not going to pressure him to be with me. he said he felt bad for just talking to me about sex & then ignoring me all these months. & i told him that i thought he was sweet but im not sure if talking to him still is a good idea. help?
if you want a sex buddy then yeah. it doesn't seem like he wants a relationship since all you talk about is sex. he made it pretty clear that he only talked to you because he wanted to have sex with you. if you're going to just talk about sex then he will start to expect it from you. there are a lot of red flags about him so if you don't want sex then i would just stop talking to him.
ive never used a tampon before but id like to try it, but im worried about puting it in and take it out. has anyone got any advice about tampons ?
its not bad, there should be directions in the box on how to put it in. you shouldn't feel it at all. if you do, then it isn't in right. the first few times you use them it might feel weird or uncomfortable putting them in/taking them out but you'll get the hang of it quick. oh and obviously don't forget to change them at the most every 4-8 hours.
I have really bd skin.
Like in the winter it gets all dry and stuff.
Currently, I have three very dry, very cracked fingers.
I read someone there were some time of gloves you could wear at night that would sofen them up?
What are those gloves and where can I find them?
i used to wear gloves at night in the winter and they worked soo good haha i couldn't stop feeling my hands..haha but yeah burts bees has a little hand kit and it comes with cuticle cream and all that good stuff but you put the lotion on then put the gloves on and your hands will be so soft the next day. you can always just use lotion too but you might need to put it on multiple times throughout the day.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we haven't had sex yet. We get along GREAT and I'm so happy to be with him. The problem is that when we first met I told him that I was a virgin. I'm sad to say that I cheated on my boyfriend with another guy for about a month and the other guy took my virginity. My boyfriend still has no idea it happened.
I've recently told my boyfriend that I really, really want to have sex and he said that we can start doing it. He told me how excited he was to be with me since we're both virgins. :(
How do I tell him that I'm not a virgin anymore? I really want to tell him so he knows but I don't know how to without really hurting his feelings. I can't just pretend I'm not because I had sex with the other guy A LOT so I know I don't even feel like a virgin any more and I'm not going to bleed. What do I do?
you need to tell him flat out. there's a good chance of him dumping you but you owe him that much. if you don't tell him you're just going to dig yourself deeper and deeper into a huge lie.
okay, ive had this for as long as i can remember. kind of embarrassing but i have this leaking of the vagina. i think it might be a yeast infection? but i have no idea because it doesnt itch at all...i was wondering if maybe its normal? it isnt alot but it is this kinda white stuff. that just comes out..not when im turned on. i dont know. any ideas before i make a trip to the doctor?
it's probably just discharge or something. some girls get it before their period. you're normal.
Hello, I am 16, and i am so sick of my life i really am. So far i ahve llost alot of my close friends,well what i thought was my best friends. They all left because well im not sure really.But have you ever just wanted to give up? yeh thats what i want to do really.give up. not sure what to do anymore. this life that everyone is talkinga about,this great life,is nothing but a lie.
aw, come on don't be like that. if you're friends leave for no reason then what kind of friends are they anyway, that's only their problem. there are a tonnn of people out there that you're going to meet in college and down the road. you have your whole life ahead of you. teenage years are supposedly the hardest but we all go through this feeling at some point, just stay strong. you'll be glad you did later. if you ever need anything just inbox me :)
okay i'm 14/f and i already have my ear lobes pierced. today i asked my mom if i could get my cartilage pierced and she went off and said no. i was like wtf? the only reason she had was that ears aren't meant to be pierce their ears there. i even offered to pay to get it done but she still wont budge.. how can i get her to let me get it done? im about to just do it myself..
well why doesn't she want you to get it pierced? is it because she doesn't like the way it looks or because she thinks you're gonna get an infection? remind her that you'll take good care of it and explain and prove to her that you know how to do it. and if she doesn't like the way it looks try finding a friend, family member or celebrity that she likes who has it done and say that a lot of good people have it (worked with my mom ;) haha
17/f..naturally.
I've been with my boyfriend for about five months now, and just recently we became sexually active. We talked about sex quite some times before, and we were both ready and he uses a condom and everything.
My mom is totally ok with him, and she thinks I've been having sex with him for a lot longer than I actually have. But I know she's okay with it and everything, just tells me to be careful and to use a condom, seeing as she knows our relationship is serious and he's a responsible guy.
However, due to the irritating irregularity of my period, but also the fact that I'm now having sex, I'd like to go on the pill.
I know my mom will be okay with it...I just have no idea how to ask her this.
It's not like we have a very open and casual relationship, thus I am finding it hard to ask her about it. I'd rather not do it behind her back, because there's no need for it.
Just looking for any tips or ways on how I should approach her about this?
Thank you.
you said your mom knows you're having sex, and tells you to be careful and use a condom so i think by asking her to get on birth control she would be happy that you're being responsible about it. i would just come out and say it but if you find that too hard then maybe you can bring up something along the lines of "i haven't had my period in awhile, its always been irregular" and then just go from there.
Alright so.. I'm just gonna jump right into it I guess.
throughout highschool I was in a relationship with someone that caused me a lot of pain and stress. we dated for four years and then ended on really bad terms. at the time, I thought I loved him, but in retrospect I definately did not. But I stayed with him because inside I was terrified that if I ended things, no one else would ever want me.
But eventually we did break up and to my suprise, people did want me. Lots of people in fact. I've dated around since (we broke up last April so I guess for around 10 or 11 months now) and for the most part being single has treated me really good
so good in fact that I really, really haven't been seeking a relationship at all. I'm normally very straightforward with my partners, in fact most of them know from the day I meet them that I'm not interested in being somebodies girlfriend. Just the idea of it makes me feel.. honestly physically sick. I look back on my relationship and see how twisted and poisonus it was, and how much he manipulated and controlled me over the course of those four years. I was very cut off from my friends and loved ones and it made it so hard to get out. I didn't feel valuable and I was sad all the time.
This, on top of some abuses in my childhood that I won't delve too much into, has made me really wary about every putting myself in a similar situation. I've been treated so poorly by men throughout my life & I've really reached a point of feeling like I can't trust people.
Anyways, so that brings me to my current situation. Around two months ago I started texting this guy.. we have a lot of mutual friends, and his number was in my cellphone so I just kinda randomly decided to start chatting him up. I knew who he was and had always thought he was pretty attractive and whatnot but never really gave him any thought because he was out of my league, as far as I was concerned.
But we instantly hit it off and just had so much to talk about. I really liked him right from the second I 'met' him, if you could call it that. Anyways I won't detail the whole courtship because no one wants to read that, but basically we ended up meeting, and chilling, and hooking up. It all happened very quickly and came so easily. It really felt natural and at the time soo good.
Since then, we've been seeing eachother every couple days for about a month and a half. when I see him, I normally spend the night, then most of the following day with him. we have a lot of sex (often three times per visit) and he is by far the best lover I've ever had. Plus we connect really well intellectually and we make eachother laugh constantly and everything just.. flows. There is an obvious emotional attachment that has been building up, enough that we both comment about it. Anyways, lately he has been dropping hints like crazy that he wants to be my boyfriend, and I feel like.. I should want to. Because I do want him. I can picture a future with him and I like it. I enjoy every minute of my time with him and when he goes away I feel so depressed, despite knowing I'll see him again soon. I talk to him every day, every opportunity I get, and we're constantly seeking out eachothers company and trying to align our schedules.
But I feel angry, sick, and absolutely terrified every time he says anything about a relationship. I warned him from the day we met that I didn't want one and now here he is, pressing me to be with him, and I like everything about him and I don't have an excuse but.. I just wanna run in the opposite direction as fast as I possibly can. If it were anybody else, if he hadn't already developed into a close friend and if I thought I wouldn't be destroyed if I lost him, I would have already bolted.
But all I want is for things to stay the same. And I feel him pressing and I don't know if he's gonna wait for me. And I'm not sure if I should even make him wait because he has been so great in every way, and more than I deserve, and he's soo much more attractive than me (lol I know it's shallow that it's a factor, but honestly, I couldn't have imagined that a guy like him would ever look at me. He's just so beautiful and I'm completely addicted to every inch of him and it makes it soo much harder to differentiate affection from lust..), and who knows if I'll ever find anyone so compatible to me agian? I mean I really have been blessed to meet him, and I think that sincerely. He's perfect and I just wish I could make myself fit together with him but.. I don't know how.
When I think about a relationship I still get that sickening, dreadful weight in my stomach. And when he suggests it I just feel like somethings horribly wrong and he wants to manipulate and control me in just that same way. Even though from everything I've learned about him, he would never do that and doesn't even seem to have the capacity really. It wouldn't be in his nature. He's a better person than I am in every apparent way and yet.. I can't bring myself to trust him for even a second. It's so scary because.. if someone this perfect can't change my thinking, can anyone? Am I really gonna be alone forever?
I don't want to lose him but I also don't want to be with him. And I feel like at some point he is gonna offer an ultimatum. I don't know if I should just say.. fuck it, if he isn't willing to wait then he isn't worth it, or if I should reconsider? Because I mean seriously from his perspective, I wouldn't want to wait for someone with no promise of it ever changing either, who literally feels physically sick at the aspect of a relationship with me. It isn't fair to ask. He should have everything he wants but.. part of me feels like he expects too much or I'm too little or something along those lines. I just can't imagine the relationship being anything more than stress and pain and constant anxiety over losing him.
I'm so scared that something inside me is broken for good and that I'm never going to be able to offer someone more than casual sex.
I don't want to be that girl but.. I'm so sick of being alone and I can't force myself to be close to someone, and what else is there then? Physical intimacy is the only kind I can stand.. and it's better than none at all.
I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I should cut him loose and just forget all of this and continue as I was. If I should beg him to wait. Or if I should just jump.. Because I know he's a good person, who cares deeply about me and has no apparent intention of doing anything to hurt me. Because he's quickly becoming my best friend, and I don't want to use the word 'love' so early but.. I couldn't have imagined or fantasized a better partner if I tried. He really is among the best people I've ever met, and by far the best person that I've ever been sexually attracted to. I love his mind and his way of thinking and his strength and his sincerity and.. I just wish I were better somehow, and this came easier. But ever since it started getting serious it's been nothing but stress and late-night crying and watching shitty love movies, as far as I'm concerned. :P If a relationship is good, then why does the mere idea make me feel so very very bad? It's like someone puts a plastic bag over my head, and I just feel suffocated and blind and scared beyond explanation..
So uhh yea, what should I do? :P
you get sick everytime you think of a relationship because you had a bad last relationship. relationships aren't suppose to be like that and i'm glad you ended it. when you're in a relationship with someone it doesn't mean they have any right to control you. you're your completely own individual. it sounds like you're really into this guy so i say why not just chance it? you'll probably regret it more if you don't, cause then you'll never know what you could have gotten out of it. every relationship is different and also remember that you can call it off at any time if you feel you have to.
i know i need to end the relationship. he didn't do anything wrong, we're just not as crazy about eachother as we used to be. in fact, i feel absolutely no spark from his side of this relatioship. not anymore. i just don't think he cares enough to try anymore, so i give up.
the only problem is, i'm not the dumping type. and i can't find the strength to dump him. he's not a bad guy! everytime i find a flaw with him, i just find something good to replace it. for instance: he rarely calls me anymore. plus side: when we do talk, he really listens and and understands. he sometimes forgets we made plans. plus side: when we're together, he makes me feel like nothing else matters to him except that i'm with him.
can you guys see my problem here? let me dig down deeper. not only is he a good listener and i can talk to him about anything, but he's just the sweetest person i've ever met. i've never known anybody that would be so concerned with my feelings or emotions as he is. or was. he hasn't been lately because A) i've been grounded B) he rarely calls (like i've said) and C) last 3 times we've hung out, his friends have stopped by, and nobody is going to be all "lovey dovey" when their guyfriends are in the same room, right?
my question is, how the hell do i find the want to dump him? i know i need to, i just really don't want to. and i wanna fix that. its too late to fix our relationship. unless you guys have any ideas about that, i'm up for anything.
hey, it's never really too late to fix a relationship. although to me you two sound better off as good friends. if you're not into him like you used to be, why bother? did you talk to him about it yet? maybe there's a reason why he isn't calling. you say he's a good listener and he makes you feel like nothing else matters to him when you're with him, so that's good if you decide to stay with him, but again, if you're not crazy about someone why waste your time? before making the decision to dump him, make sure that's really what you want. if you've already talked to him and he continues to not change then you know what needs to be done. make sure he understands your reasoning.
Okay so basically my jaw clicks and gets out of place && it hurts A LOT!! I told my mom && she told me the same thing happened to my brother...it's been like this for a few months now...my question is DO I GO TO THE DOCTOR OR DENTIST OR BOTH??
hey, i had this last year. it's called TJM (i forget what it stands for) but whenever you open your mouth wide your jaw pops and it hurts. go get it checked out by a doctor...i had it for almost a year then it kind of just went away on its own. but going to the doctor/dentist is your best bet. it really doesn't matter which one, they're both doctors really. they could probably tell you alot more about it and might be able to prescribe you something for the pain.
Hi I'm 19 year old female and I'm in my second semester of college. I have a great boyfriend and I was talking to him today. And well he has a lot of friends and is very out going and I'm the complete opposite. And we were talking and I was trying to explain to him why I don't have hardly any friends. When I walk into a room I automatically think that people are judging me. I don't start talking to strangers unless I have known them for a while. I feel uncomfortable when I am around a bunch of people I don't know. I know it sounds like I'm just shy. But i don't understand why I get so scared and nervous and feel like people are practically out to get me. I was just wondering if maybe it was possible that I am just over reacting or if something is maybe wrong. Thank you for your time!
well nothings wrong with you there's a ton of people like this. when i was in elementary school i used to have this problem really bad, like i barely ever talked because i thought people would judge me. after awhile i just stopped caring and i figured out that the good people wouldn't judge and that's all i wanted in my life anyway. you shouldn't have to feel shy or nervous, when you don't know a person and they don't know you either, they could be feeling the same thing. try to start up a conversation on like a class you might have together or anything, give them a compliment maybe. i've figured out that more people actually judge you if you're quiet because they don't know what's up or if somethings wrong. soo be confident and try to start a conversation and you'll know if they're nice people or not :)
Do most guys like belly button rings? im 17 and i want a belly button ring but one of my guy friends said theyre trashy. im still getting it, i just want opinions haha. Thankss =]
i agree with everyone when they say if you wear like huge rings and make them stick out of your shirt it looks trashy, but other than that they're cutee, i have one and most guys i've talked to like it. as long as you only show it off when you're wearing like a bathing suit or something in the summer it looks good.
How do you get over someone you still love but you know you aren't right with?
i'm going through this right now actually. it's hard but what you need to do is surrond yourself in friends. go out all the time and have fun. don't mope around the house, try and always be out doing something. start a new hobby that you think you might like. change your room around. call up people that you haven't spoken to in awhile. its hard i know but what's meant to be will happen.
what are some signs that this girl, who i like and she likes me back, might give to let me know that she wants a kiss? im kinda worried about it cause i dont want to do it too soon or she might get creeped out by it or something, but she doesnt seem like the type of girl who would, but anyways what is some body language that she might do to let me know, like playing with her hair or something
thanks
most of the obvious signs are, she'll look you in the eyes for a long time, she'll try to get her face close to yours, and she'll look at your lips when you're talking to her.
Okay, so I'm 19/f, my boyfriend is 17, going on 18.
We've been together for a couple of years now.
He's one of those "it's my way or the highway" type of people which can be really frustrating.
Over the past couple of years we've had good times but it seems like when I think about it, all I can remember is all the shit he's done to me..and I have always been a pushover about everything. He's just so inconsiderate in so many ways..
But, like I said there are good times too, so I don't want to make him out to be a complete jerk.
But anyway, lately I've been thinking a lot that I might be better off without him, because he basically controls every aspect of my life.
We've been fighting a lot more lately because I've started taking up for myself more and we've come really close to breaking up several times. But every time that we start talking about it I just get so scared because I guess he's just all I know anymore..I'm so used to him being around and it's hard to think about him not being there anymore. So, basically I just want to know what to do and if maybe it's possible for two people to be meant for each other, but just not right now?
I don't know, I'm just really confused..any advice would be great!
this is kind of a question i've been asking to myself recently...me and my boyfriend recently broke up because we're young (we're 17) and not ready to be fully comitted yet. we love being around each other and we still hang out alot. i believe that right now we need to focus on things people our age should be focusing on like school, work, etc. and deciding where we want to go in life.
after alot of thinking i think yes, it is definetly possible for two people to be together, but just not yet. people are constantly changing. it sounds like your boyfriend just needs some time to grow up and mature a little bit. when you're with someone for a long period of time its rare that feelings just go away. humans are only humans and sometimes time is the only cure.
16/f
So it started out as just a friendly thing, this kid named James commented on one of my statuses on facebook. He said that he liked the band i quoted, and we started talking about how awesome they are. A few minutes later, i get a facebook IM and we continued talking there. After a couple of hours, he asked for my number and i gave it to him. He used to go to my school, but when he was a senior i was a freshman so i didn't really know him that well. But i had friends who were good friends with him so it's all cool. He's 19 and i'm 16 so theres a bit of an age difference, but i don't really care about that part. He seemed a little taken aback when he found out my age but all in all, he didn't seem to really care. So we began texting everyday, and all day. He told me he thought I was cute, and i told him the same. After about a week or so, the little compliments progressed and stuff and we became really flirty. But aside from being flirty, we also got pretty close. I mean, i guess that's what happens when you talk to someone everyday. So then i guess you can say he started to get a little horny.... and he would send stuff like "If you were here, we wouldn't be bored ;)" or other stuff like that. Again, i really didn't care cause i kind of wanted him too. Aside from that, he's really sweet and we're definatley more than friends. We've had some pretty deep conversations, and he understands a lot of the things most people don't. He sort of gets me, and when we hung out, he was so sweet to me. But theres just one little problem...
I know that his main intention is to hook up with me, and that was my main intention too.... not gonna lie. But we've been talking for almost two months now and i can't help but notice that things are sort of different than they first were. He's not as horny anymore, and he doesn't say sexual things a lot anymore. From time to time he does, but he's being sweet a lot more.... and we're pretty good friends. We act like we're going out but he hasn't officially asked me out yet...
He told me he really likes me, and i told him i really like him but he hasn't asked me out yet. I don't know if his intention is to go our with me or hook up with me.... or both?
I mean, like i said... my first intention was to hook up with him and that's it. But i've developed intense feelings for him and i know that if we hook up it will mean something to me. I need to know if his feelings are the same, because he's showing it. But he also flirts with other girls....
So i guess i just need to know where our relationship stands and what other people think of this.
Oh and by "hooking up" i don't mean sex.... cuz i know it's illegal for a minor to have sexual relations with someone over 18.
What do you think?
Whats our relationship?
Should i ask if he feels the same way?
Help?
i think you should definetly talk to him. you're never going to know what he wants unless he tells you. you said you guys have been having heart to heart conversations and you talk everyday all day so hopefully it shouldn't really be a problem. he probably wants to know where you guys' relationship is going too but he may be afraid to say something. so i say you just ask him what his intentions are. if i was getting that close to a guy i would want to know what was going on too.