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How do you know if you're meant to be with someone?
Okay, so I'm 19/f, my boyfriend is 17, going on 18.
We've been together for a couple of years now.
He's one of those "it's my way or the highway" type of people which can be really frustrating.
Over the past couple of years we've had good times but it seems like when I think about it, all I can remember is all the shit he's done to me..and I have always been a pushover about everything. He's just so inconsiderate in so many ways..
But, like I said there are good times too, so I don't want to make him out to be a complete jerk.
But anyway, lately I've been thinking a lot that I might be better off without him, because he basically controls every aspect of my life.
We've been fighting a lot more lately because I've started taking up for myself more and we've come really close to breaking up several times. But every time that we start talking about it I just get so scared because I guess he's just all I know anymore..I'm so used to him being around and it's hard to think about him not being there anymore. So, basically I just want to know what to do and if maybe it's possible for two people to be meant for each other, but just not right now?
I don't know, I'm just really confused..any advice would be great!
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There is no meant to be ... for me it's bullshit.
You make it happen not fate.
Listen it seems like you care for this guy but he isn't the guy you want obviously. Every time he does something that upsets you and you talk to him about it, he flips out and you can't stand up for yourself because you are scared to loose him. I am not judging here, I am not saying he is a bad guy because i don't know him.
But My sister's ex husband was like that, she cared about him so much but he was so controlling, they met in highschool senor year and got married after college but then she realized it was mistake, she just didn't want to leave him because she was used to him and that was always her excuse when i warned her.
If your are questioning yourself, you don't love him enough to stay with him because you WILL explode one day and it's going to make drama.
But always one tip, if you are seriously ready to go with the flow than you wouldn't question yourself.
Make a wise decision but remember the decision is supposed to make you happy and it's okay to be selfish.
Good Luck =]=]
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Have you talked to him about this? This relationship doesn't seem healthy to me. If you don't feel good about yourself in a relationship, something needs to change, whether you need to take a break from him, or to break things off entirely. Breaking up does cause a lot of pain, but it wouldn't be the end of the world. If you haven't done so, talk to him.
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this is kind of a question i've been asking to myself recently...me and my boyfriend recently broke up because we're young (we're 17) and not ready to be fully comitted yet. we love being around each other and we still hang out alot. i believe that right now we need to focus on things people our age should be focusing on like school, work, etc. and deciding where we want to go in life.
after alot of thinking i think yes, it is definetly possible for two people to be together, but just not yet. people are constantly changing. it sounds like your boyfriend just needs some time to grow up and mature a little bit. when you're with someone for a long period of time its rare that feelings just go away. humans are only humans and sometimes time is the only cure.
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