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need to want to break it off.
i know i need to end the relationship. he didn't do anything wrong, we're just not as crazy about eachother as we used to be. in fact, i feel absolutely no spark from his side of this relatioship. not anymore. i just don't think he cares enough to try anymore, so i give up.
the only problem is, i'm not the dumping type. and i can't find the strength to dump him. he's not a bad guy! everytime i find a flaw with him, i just find something good to replace it. for instance: he rarely calls me anymore. plus side: when we do talk, he really listens and and understands. he sometimes forgets we made plans. plus side: when we're together, he makes me feel like nothing else matters to him except that i'm with him.
can you guys see my problem here? let me dig down deeper. not only is he a good listener and i can talk to him about anything, but he's just the sweetest person i've ever met. i've never known anybody that would be so concerned with my feelings or emotions as he is. or was. he hasn't been lately because A) i've been grounded B) he rarely calls (like i've said) and C) last 3 times we've hung out, his friends have stopped by, and nobody is going to be all "lovey dovey" when their guyfriends are in the same room, right?
my question is, how the hell do i find the want to dump him? i know i need to, i just really don't want to. and i wanna fix that. its too late to fix our relationship. unless you guys have any ideas about that, i'm up for anything.
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when a relationship is dead it is dead...if you try to make things work they may work for a while but you will always end up back at square one...their is no point in a relationship if you have doubts i am saying this from personal experience.
dumping by text is not good...a phone call can be hard...face to face is worse i think because when i dumped my ex i kind of froze up he started cryingi felt sorry for him so we got back together...if i was in your shoes i would write a really long letter telling him how you feel and leave it somewhere he will find it...
you never know he might be thinking and feeling exactly the same as you....so he could agree with what you are saying and could thank you for it...
dont be scared just go for it and remember this YOU LIVE ONLY ONCE..go for it dont be in a relationshop that you dont want to be in...good luck xx
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hey, it's never really too late to fix a relationship. although to me you two sound better off as good friends. if you're not into him like you used to be, why bother? did you talk to him about it yet? maybe there's a reason why he isn't calling. you say he's a good listener and he makes you feel like nothing else matters to him when you're with him, so that's good if you decide to stay with him, but again, if you're not crazy about someone why waste your time? before making the decision to dump him, make sure that's really what you want. if you've already talked to him and he continues to not change then you know what needs to be done. make sure he understands your reasoning.
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