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okay so i dated a guy for a year, we broke up cause we lost the 'connection', then we started hanging out, got back together, then broke up cause we lost the 'connection' again. (he ended it both times)
i kinda like being single but i miss him a ton. he tells me he thinks about me more than he should. i didn't say anything like i miss him or anything, i'm kinda jsut playing it cool and being friends for now. i want to like be something like a kind of friends with benefits kinda deal though...i know some people think its stupid but since college is coming i wanna try and be single but if we hang out or something i just want to like jump on him and cuddle. do guys like the whole friends w benefits thing? and like, how should i bring it up? thank youu
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Hey there,
firstly im sorry its been so long since ive replied Ive been really busy.
Okay so friends with benefits.. its a risky one
Id advice you Not to get into it if you think your going to devolop old feelings and want the relationship to actually go somewhere again.
If you wanna go into it you have to make sure you both have the same intentions of it just being a fun kinda get with you when I see you thing then its okay as long as you both agree thats all it is a fun fling.
Personally I think its a bad idea,your only gonna find yourself opening up old wounds and growing even more attacthed and hes gonna start to think he can have you when he wants,And no girl wants that trust me. as long as your okay as being seen in that light but in my opinion you deserve better. Ive done the whole friends with benefits and from my experience it doesnt work it ends up ugly and the girl almost always ends up hurt and worse off.
your best bet is to either ask him what the deal is if he still thinks about you why doesnt he want to be with you and make a proper go? or let go and move on and enjoy college with new experiences.
and to answer your question about guys liking it they love it. it means they have a girl they can practicly just get with whenever they feel like with no strings attached the ideal situation. dont subject yourself to that unless you know for sure youd be happy with just that and seeing him probably get with other girls at the same time.
Its totally up to you but thats how I feel on the whole thing,be friends just friends a couple or nothing at all but dont get involved in the tangled mess that is friends with benfits!
I hope this helped and made some sense to you :)
again sorry its a late reply,anymore questions please feel free to ask :)
Much <3
Jessie. 16/f
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