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I wrote the poem which is in one of the previous posts entitled "Everytime" . I was feeling rather depressed today , and so i wrote another poem . Tell me what you think about it ....
Bt\ , to all those who asked ,
i'm 13 going on 14 .


You

I thought that I was contented
I thought I knew you
But that was just an illusion
You took me for a fool

All this pain that I went through
Did I ever mean anything to you ?
All those times I cried
Why weren’t you by my side?

So many nights I spent ,
Sitting by the phone
Just hoping you would call
I was so alone

You told me that you loved me
But why couldn't you look me in the eye ?
I guess this was what made me see
That i was living a lie ..

You are really good and talented at writing poems. I like poems like this, when you can feel how hurt and confused the person was when they wrote it. I have writen many poems that are all happy and perfest and there is no depth to them. this is true and you should really keep writing.
By the way I have started a book or jurnal some thing on that order, that I have put all my poems in. I put my favorite quotes and short storys. it's just a nice way to keep all my poems and stuff like that.

always
advice~gurl
kat

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Everytime

Everytime you ignore me , my heart shatters
Everytime I see you with Her , I break inside
Everytime you treat me just like a little girl , I feel disappointed in you
You treat me like a game

I’ve sacrificed so much just to be seen worthy in your eyes
Why can’t you do the same ?

I can’t take it anymore ,
I try to break away ,
But I stay firmly bonded to you ,
You’re torturing me more and more each day

Everytime I smile you you ,
You just turn away ,
If you never loved me ,
Why did you have to play ?

Did you ever consider what I thought
Can’t you tell you just threw my heart away
What do you have to say for yourself
Because it’s your fault

I can’t take it anymore ,
I try to break away ,
But I stay firmly bonded to you ,
You’re torturing me more and more each day

WOW, I'm just at lost for words, this is good!
A guy did this to me, we totally flirted and got close and then whe nI told him I liked him he acted like I didn't exist. In other words he did what this guy did to you in this poem.

You have talent keep writing!
check out this website www.poetry.com
sincerely
advice~gurl

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WHAT DOES idk STAND 4

it means "I DON"T KNOW"
~kat

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No one on the face of this earth is a nobody. I've read some of your suggestions, you give pretty good advice. And you're definately not a nobody.

okay thanx but trust me I am a nobody.
~kat

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umm when u shave *down there* lol yah do u shave all of it or what..what r u suppose to do??

ahh... well it is a matter of peference but i would strongly advise against shaving it all. I'ts not that good idea because when it grows back it itches. Now maybe you won't but it doesn't feel so good when it starts to grow back.
I personaly just shave like a biki line that way you can't see any pubic hair.
Hope that helps ya
advice~gurl

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Okay anybody to answer this question would be most helpful. okay i am a 13 year old male and in my life i never had a girlfriend. to tell you the truth i kind of weigh 150 pounds. and my feet kind of stink. i want a girlfriend that is pretty but has a good personality and yet almost every girl i like i can't tell her. But the very few i tell i like them they say Eeeew.what can i do i don't want to be lonly please somone give me some advice.Pllllease i need advice!!!!!!!
P.S please answer soon as possible

Yeah I can answer this for you.
1) Your 13 your not dieing (no ofence) Why do you want a GF so badly? You have time. I am 14 I haven't hugged, kissed let alone had a BF. and I'm fine. I mean yes sometimes I kinda freak out that I haven't had a BF yet but then I relize the right guy for me hasn't come along yet.

2)It shouldn't matter how much you weigh and about your feet I know a perfect soltion. Baby Powder. I kinda have the same prob with my feet they stink ALOt but just but ababy powder in your shoes. and if you wear sandles just a LILTLE bit of the powder. that should work.

3)I wouldn't just tell a gurl that you like her. Its fine but you really should do some flirting with her to find out if she likes you. Like make a point to say hi to her when you see her. and when your talking in a group with other people make sure you take her side even if she is wrong. and if she likes you she will start to act maybe a lil different.
If you say hi to her and she looks at you and just rolls her eyes or ignores you I think you can trust that she probaly isn't intrested.

4) just remember your cool no matter what even if the gurls don't think so. YOu sound totally sweet and nice and if gurls can't see that then they don't deserve you. Trust me I know.

Hope I helped!
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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Hey...I have a graduation dance 2morrow night..and almost every gurl is wearing a dress(inluding me)..mostly like strap ones..and well it is a 3 hour dance...I know this is a funny question...but what do u do since u will be dancing all that time..and the deodorant mite wear away? Thanks!

I totally understand! I went ot a dance and I had no idea what to do because my deodorant wore off but my friend took her deodorant WITH her and put it on when she needed too. I thought that was very cool. Thats my advice just take it with you and when you feel you need to put it on just do. and if your taking a very small purse take a mini one. they work just as good.
And have fun at the dance! so just dance and don't worry!

hope I helped! ask anytime!
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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I dont believe in God, or Satan, or heaven and hell. I think its just a story told to us to try and make us act like better people. Please comment.

I Totally understand where you are coming from because I use to be just like you. I didn't grow up in a church invioment never blessed dinner (except for holidays)didn't go to church and to find out that my mother use to be really big on church and beleiveing totally awed me. The reason I didn't beleive is that my brothers and sisters were always poking jokes at hhow weird and funny and how stupid church people were and I just thought that it wasn't true and that they were right and the rest was a lie.
When my brother left for boot camp in 2001 my mom kept saying she wanted to start church again sence I was the only one left at home. So finally in march of 2002 I had just turned 12 I went to chruch for the first time in my life. WOW what I difference it felt I was welcomed as if I had always been there it was great!!! (Me always been made fun of this was a change) I liked what they said, it just helped me.
The church I went to was the Mormon church "The Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter Day Saints" Now no I'm trying to convert you but I will let you know that there is a God and I believe that he lives That’s fine if you don't it's your choice.
You’re asking this question maybe because you feel wrong for feeling this way? I don't know but the Mormon Church has a GREAT youth program and it’s really cool. If your a gurl and your older than 12 your a Young Woman or if your a guy and older than 12 Your a Boy Scout. And on Wednesdays sometimes Tuesdays depending where you live they have mutual. Where you go to mostly enjoy yourself. its fun even if you don't beleive. trust me. now I know I probaly sound like I'm trying to convert you to my church and im not I just seen to do this if it is in the subject of spirituality.
you beleive what you want its your choice im a christain all the way but if your athiest thats fine too.
sincerly
advice~gurl
kat

P.S.
Check out this website if you want you don't have to either.
http://www.mormon.org

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Hey, its Sakura again. I need more help.

I finally found out a way to get to know the guy I like better! (Lets just call him Bob)

See, I found out that Bob was coming back before the summer is over! So, I was thinking I could ask a friend (Who just happens to be friends with one of Bob's friends) if she could invite Bob's (and her) friend to the movies and could say to his friend "Bring some friends too-like Bob."

Now this plan could work out, if only my friend wasn't friends with Bob's GF.

Now, I am trying to make it so Bob's GF doesn't go. Do you think this plan will work? How can I make it work, can you please give me some tips? Thanks! I'm sorry I'm asking a lot, but I REALLY need help! Thanks again! ~Sakura

Hey read the feed back you gave me. Sorry I didn't know your school is out already all the schools in my town don't get for a about week or so.

Hmmm... well I personaly don't think your going to get "bob" to the movies with out his GF and if you do your probaly have Bob in hot water with his GF unless she is really easy going. (Form what I know GF's are a lil' protective of their BF's) you might be able to just invite him 1 of his friends and have one ( 1 ) of your friends go to the movies that way its even or you could do more but deffenitly keep it to even. and maybe invite him like the day of that way he has less time to get to his GF. make sure if you don't want his GF around then tell him you can only invite ( some number of friends) and you can only invite him because you have already invited all that can go and you can't take it back and you have already asked you mom (or dad) if you could invite his GF and she said he would live.

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Hey, it's Sakura again! I also need help... again. lol

The guy I like... has a girlfriend. What joy. Not.

Also, he is staying in another state ALL summer and going to another school next year!

He is on my mind ALL the time. I'm sad because he's taken.

How can I keep in touch, I really want to get to know him better! Thanks! ~Sakura

No prob! I think I can answer this pretty well!

Well, my advice to you would be to get to know him before the school year is over if your not already friends with him. Make sure you become friends with his GF so that she likes you. Hope fully you can get on his GF's good side and maybe already have her e-mail. (that way she can't get jealous if you and her are practicallyBFF) Then tell him you would like to stay in touch with him give him your e-mail or phone number But not Postal address. (postal never works any more) now he may say that he won't be able to check his e-mail all summer which may be true but just say thats okay i just wanna stay in touch, don't want to lose the great friendship i have made with your GF and you.

I think the advice should work. But then again he do something to hurt you and just understand that I have a crush that doesn't like me and I have came to the understanding that he is crazy for not liking me. I'm cool and I don't have to have a guy tell me that I am.
So take my advice and just remember this quote that i think I already gave you but ya can here it again. *winks* "You will regret what you may do now but you will regret don't do so much more"

ask anytime for adivce! my door to advice is always open! lol

Hope I helped.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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See, the truth is that the war really got started over oil . I think that we really should be focused on O'sama Bin Ladan . We as the U.S. have a right to focus on those who are innocent and those who are a threat to us. Before we invaded Iraq, they weren't a threat to us . People just followed Bush's words and beleived him .Last month, over 96 soildiers died , and I know that in a war soldiers die it's just that people are dieing for our freedom and the U.S. government is like screw it . And I hope the commission knows that all these INVESTIGATIONS NEED TO STOP BECAUSE INVESTIGATING ONLY LET THE PROBLEMS PROCEDE . This shouldn't carry on . Oh and them prisoners in Iraq and those photo's are very wrong .How would those U.S . generals like it if we were to strip them naked for their intelligence . The question is am I to obsessed with the war . WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THE THINGS THAT I HAVE WROTE ? HOW COME OTHERS FEEL THAT THIS ISN'T A IMPORTANT ISSUE TO DISCUSS ?

A.K.K.

A TRUE AND CONCERNED CITIZEN . OR COURTNEY

NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
For starters the war did not start over the oil look around we haven't even tryed to take the Iraqi Oil during this war. You wrong!!!

I have a brother that I just took to the portland airport yesturday and he luckly is going back to Germany He just came back from Iraq and trust me you are SO wrong!!!
Now My brother is very nice guy he is a mammas boy and is always so nice and always trys to see the best in people what he has said about the iraqi kids and adults they are not nice. he says that the kids just are the worst ever! he says they want food that we give them but they just kick them when they have the chance and if one says thank yoiu they will durn around and try to steal his gun.
he says that he has no respect for the people and what they do. I would like to tell you some things that would really make you think but I don't want to write it all down.

Now about those pictures of the Iraqi prisoners I can't say much about that but turn it around and think of it this way if we had been the ones that were striped and done that to the world would have thought that we edserve that because we have so much and thats the US it doesn't matter but sence it had been US did it to the Iraqi OHMYGOSH!!! we shoud be punished and that is a crime and every thing else they could say. I'm not trying to say that ist it bad and it shouldn
t have happened but you can't center just on that.

I think that Pres. Bush is a very good Pres. and that he should be relected. I beleive what he says and I think that this war is nesseccary. I didn't think that I was with so many Antiwar believers on this site.

It will take years for that contry to start to turn around. But I think that you need to look at both sides and not just the "john kerry" way. I mean he has changed what he has said about a hondred times he is not right that man.
So to all advicenators DO NOT ELECT JOHN KERRY!!! ELECT PRESIDENT GEORGE W. BUSH!!!!!!
sincerly
advice~gurl

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I am turning 12 in October. I am about 5'1". I weigh maybe 115-120... is that bad?
PLEASE HELP!
Oh, and I'm a girl!
Thanks! Bye

Well.... me being 14 and 120 pounds and i'm about 5'7 I say that your normal for your age but if your really worried I would go your doctor and ask him.
Trust me i was doing this a coule of years ago and I weighed a lot more than I do now but in the last year I have lost about 10-20 pounds. And its not because I went on a diet either I just thined out. Now I'm not saying that your going to thin out to jsut because I did because alot of people don't thin out they stay the same or they get ---bigger---.

My advice to you is don't worry so much about your weight right now because you "almost" 12 and you have alot of growing to do.
because when i was 12 I was the shortest in my dance class and then some how now I'm the tallest.

good ways to lose weight? i personaly don't think you need a advice in this but I will answer the question all the way.
excerizing like going for a walk, eating right like in stead of chips for a snack go for a yogert and just go for more healthier ways to eat. If you really need to lose weight than dong this should do the trick!

anyways hope I answered your question to your likeing!
sincerly
advice~gurl
kat

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This really bothers me. My mother-in-law in particular does this. First of all, to those that do this, STOP IT! Nobody knows everything. Just because you know something that someone else does'nt know, that does not make you better or smarter than them. And even if you are smarter, let's say more educated, you can still be respectful when answering a question. This also applies to you advice people. I'll give you an example that happened today with my mother-in-law. She is getting her house painted and I asked her why her house had spots all over it, and she answers in this patronizing way " They have to fill in all the holes and cracks, they can't just leave it like that and slap paint on it. Well excuuuse me. I don't know anything about painting houses, and I told her that I didn't realize that's what they were doing, and she didn't have to make me feel dumb. Then she says that it was a dumb question. She is so rude and hurtful it makes me so angry. If it was me, and I knew about house-painting, and someone asked me this question I would have simply and politely stated that it was spackle to fill in the holes and cracks. I guess some people like to lord it over people even about stupid things just to make themselves feel superior. If this happens again, with her or someone else, can someone give me an example of a good comeback or tell me how to handle myself better? I ended up saying "Thanks for making me feel stupid." Which I'm sure was not the best way to respond. She didn't say anything. Smug people really bug me!

YES!!! I totally agree and understand! My grandmother is like this too and so are a lot of advicenators on here! I don't think any question is stupid if you don't know the answer.
I once asked a question about becoming a pastry chef and I got an answer that said "grow up and quit wasting our time"
I personaly think that you can't say much more to make her understand. You said right about the fact that you didn't know about painting houses. and if she didn't appalogize well i think that she is just that.
One more thing I don't think that come backs are any better. because that may make her more steamed. just do what I do and when she gives you a rude answer say thanks I didn't know that or some thing.
anyways
good question!
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kat

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how do you rate somebodie

Sorry I gave you the wrong advice! Paste this->

http://advicenators.com/faq.php?mode=answer_ranking
This should help more than the other link.

sincerely
advice~gurl

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I occasionally pop joints in my arms fingers, toes, neck, back, etc. Does this cause arthritis? I have a mild understanding of anatomy and physiology, and I know the popping sound is caused by the gaps inbetween joints, and that if you do it enough you can wear it down to the bone, but how long does something like that take. And if it does damage your joints, why do chiropractors do it?

Okay I can answer this. *Smiles*
Well I know this for a fact that it does not cause arthritis.
I pop my my fingers, all my toes, my neck and sometimes my back.
my mom says that it will cause arthritis but I found out from my brother that it is just air in between the knucals and it does not cause any such injury. I trust what my brother said because he is a dialis tech and he is training to be nurse and he knows every bone in the human body and he also had to do a paper on this.
So when anyone says this its just a old wives tale.
Hope I answered your question!
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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i wanan kiss a boy really extremly bad.. but i dont have a bf right now.. im in 8th grade dn i know im old enough to kiss and i want to know!! how do i go kiss someone? should i ksis a boy at the dance thsi friday???

Okay
You want to kiss a guy. But why? I have done this many times i WANT to kiss a guy and stuff.
now don't take this the wrong way but why kiss some guy just to "kiss" him is just plain wrong. I personaly don't even know how to kiss and don't know what its like because it hasn't happened to me yet.
If your wondering if your old enough to kiss then no your not ready. you can kiss a guy at any age but when you kiss the "Right" guy. It will a fall into place.
Just wait till the right moment and when that right moment comes everything should come.
Like you won't have to worry how to turn your head or how to stand it will just be right.

Your first kiss might be a long time from now or it might happen this Friday but just don't rush it.
It will all come in due time. Trust me.
Sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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Okay, there's this guy I like. But, I'm not sure he likes me back. He isn't very nice to me around his friends, and he wasn't mean before I told him I like him. BUT I went to a sports game of his, and he kept looking at me. Is it because I was out of place or not? PLEASE HELP! Thanks for your time- Sakura (NOTE: Some evil guy told him that I liked him, and he said "Ewww." Is that true, or immaturity? But some time later I told him I liked him. Also, at the sports game, I told him 'good game' and he gave me a weird look. Is that because his friends were around?)

Sakura? is that your name? if it is it is really a pretty name.

Well here is what I think From everything you've said.
Personaly I think he likes you but is in some sort of denial. Like he does but is not sure and so he wants everyone to think that he doesn't like you. the staring part is like a huge clue to the fact that he likes you. and I thinks he is trying to hide his feelings for you.
When this "Evil" guy told him that you liked him that might have been true that he said EWWW but somehow now that he knows that you like him he is trying to fight his feelings.
With the weird look same meaning. I do think that it was because he was with his friends too.
You say that he is mean to you when his friends are around have you ever been around him when his friends or your friends are not around?

I think if he keeps up doing this I would take him aside one day ALONE and take him aways when none of his friends are around.
Ask him why he keeps giving you these stange looks and why he keeps being so mean to you. If he just says something rude or something mean.
I think you need to forget this idiot. because he seems to be just plane mean other wise.

That would be my advice to you is to take him aside one day and ask him.
Just remember this Quote that I got from MichiruKaiou "You'll regret what you may do now, but you'll regret what you don't do so much more"
So just remember that quote and tell him that when you pull him aside.

Hope I helped!!!
ask anytime for advice
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

P.S.
sorry I didn't answer this faster. (My Bro form Iraq is visiting)

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ok , lets put it this way . there is this rather sweet guy , lets call him "A" . He really likes me , problem is , I DON’T like him more than a friend . ( at least I don’t think so ) Everybody except me thinks that we would be perfect together , but the feelings ( on my side ) aren’t there , and I honestly don’t believe that I would have fun if I went out with him . Through “A” , I met this other guy called “B” . I like B a lot , and would like to tell him how I feel , but I am afraid of losing my friendship with A . On top of that , B is three years older than me , and i am not sure if he likes me , even though he HAS shown some clues such as saying he likes my hair and things like that . I have had this huge crush on B since last year , and even though i try to get over him sometimes , i really can't help it . What should i do ?

Thank you SOOOO much ,
Confused , 14 .

Well,

here is what I think.
You never know you might the best time if you went out with "A" but I thon't think that you should go out with him just because of what I say or your friends say and plus you say you don't have feelings for him then don't go out with him.

I undersatnd what your going through with guy "B".
I think that maybe you should let the romance take its own coarse with guy "B". I would start sending signals to "B" that you like him. Like smiling everytime here comes into a room and say hey!. and when you talk start touching his arm softly almost like you didn't do it. you know just FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT! Trust me if he likes you he will start to pick up on that.
I really would just wait to tell him. give it time.

Hope I helped!
Ask anytime for advice

sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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i have never been out with anyone younger than me, but i thought i would give this boy a chance. i am in year 10 and he is in year 9 i know i sound young, but im really into all that romantic stuff, like kissing (like ross and rachel do in friends)and i feel like all he wants to do is get as far as he can with me, he is really really good looking and could have virtually any girl he wanted. i was out with him and his friends and they were all watching us pull and he kept asking if we could go further,(id like to say we've been going out properly for about 3 days) i really like him but i dont think he likes me for the right reasons, what should i do?

Well are you in grade t10 and he is in grade 9 or are you AGE 10 and he is age 9?
But yes I think you shlould dump him.
advice~gurl

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IS a gigolo the same thing as a prostitute but it's a guy?

just go onto ask.com, or google. just type in "what is a gigolo?" Its so musch easier than advicenators because sometimes you really get some mixed answers on here.

sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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