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Q: I babysit a 3 year old and she makes a lot of messes! After we complete one thing she is already on to another mess before I'm even done cleaning up the first one. Any ideas? Also if you have any fun games to do that wouldnt take long or wouldnt make a mess! that would be great! thanks!

I baby sit a 3 year old too and he understands if i tell him to help clean up he will before he moves on to the next game... 3 year olds understand things like that. They might not listen but then you have to tell them they will get a time out.
hope this helps

Q: I like this guy and he likes me back but we never have anything to talk about online. I'm sick of the usual how are u, wuts up, and hows ur summer going. There is nothing really we have in commom we dont like the same movies, music, he doesnt play sports and i do and we go to diffrent schools any ideas?

Ha I am in the exact same position... we ususally end up asking each other a bunch of random questions, it is fun and it helps us find out more about each other.

Q: [[ 13/f ]]

I think I may have some type of mental disorder, I don't think its depression. Maybe ADD/ADHD. Let me explain. I cry a LOT. I am VERY VERY sensitive. I cry over everything, sometimes it causes arguments with my mom and stepdad, because my mom often tries to defend me when my stepdad gets angry when I cry when he dissapoints me. I am super sensitive, and I'm pretty sure that its not just my hormones. This has been happening since I was about 9. I'm terrified if someone gets mad at me and I constantly apologize. This might contribute to my crying. I just don't know what's going on. I need help.

I have adhd... the last two people who gave you advice are wrong... adhd and add make you extreamly sensitive and it tends to make you cry. Also anger fear of rejection can be some things that are signs too. Ask your mom or stepdad to take you to a neurologist incase you want to get on a medicine for it. I hate being on medicine but my mom forces me to so its best if you eat something before you take it or you will get sick. Also if you skip a pill you feel like your really out of control and you wanna hurt someone but i have been pretending to take it but i actually throw it away and i am fine now.

Q: I'm 13 years old going on 14 this December. I currently have my first hole pierced in my ear. I got it done in the first grade and wore earrings for a while. Then, a few years ago, I kinda just stopped, but last week, I started up again because yet again, I'm interested in wearing earrings. I really like the idea of piercings, and I would love to get the cartilage at the top of both of my ears pierced. (how much is it? will it hurt?) I asked my mother and she said that "I don't need it there".
I tried saying things like:
"Well I know, but I didn't need my first hole either."

and she says how I don't wear earring anymore, and I tell her the truth:
"I only have a few pairs and they're bent anyway."

my sister has both her first, second, and third hole pierced, so I kinda hint in how it isn't too fair how she has 3 piercings and I only have one.

I even offer to pay for it, and clean it, and do that on my own so she doesn't have to remind me.

it's kind of convincing her .. but I really want to get it done before my birthday (December 18) and I want to get it done before school starts.

help?

Hey I got my ear pierced (first, second, and cartlidge) and i have my nose pierced... i am 16 and my mom told me i could only get my first and second holes done until im 18 and then i can get my nose done if i wanted obviously that didn't apply later... i just helped out a lot around the house and acted really mature then eventually she let me.

if she doesn't notice your hard work then you could say if you help out a lot could i get my ears pierced.

Q: I just figured out my sister does sex with small teddy bear. She uses the nose to pretend it's a dick and she does it. Is this normal? Can I help her stop if it's harmful. Help!

it wont hurt her but if she wants a vibrator for the clitoris then she could always use an electric shaver (WITHOUT THE RAZOR BLADES) or an electric tooth brush... one you don't use of course lol

Q: hi. I am a 13/f and i started my period about 6 months ago. I play soccer alot and do track in school. I have never used a tampon, only pads. My mom wont bring the subject up and i'm too nervous to ask her how to use it or if I can use them. PLEASE HELP!!!! my soccer tournament is in a few weeks and thats when my next period is supposed to come! any advice on how my mom can bring up the subject? or how i can get the nerve to talk to her about this?? should i just not tell her and just use one?? but i've never used one before and i'm nervous and dont know how to use one. PLEASE HELP!! thank you sooooo much

hey maybe your mom thinks you are fine with using pads? people aren't mind readers although some of the time we wish they were to save us from embarassment. You can suggest to your mom that you would feel more comfortable with a tampon i wouldn't use one during the tournament because it takes a little getting used to. it doesnt hurt but it feels strange and makes you feel like if you move then it might fall out but it wont

Q: 13/f
its almost been a week ive been sad. and he still ignores me. i found out another reason... he thinks i like another guy, and he thinks i flirt wit' him... and its pretty much natural rightt? you flirt when you dont' know that you are... but he should've told me to change, or told me, or asked me if it was true. Instead of saying "its over." and leaving me there.. thenn some of my bestfriends is on his side, and im like "we have sides now?" and hes still ignoring me.. he looks at me.. but he doesnt takl to me, im trying to straighten things out wit him.. but he wont listen to me. its nearly impossible to get his attention. if i told my friend to tell him he'll say "so?" in a mean way. if anyone wanna know what else happened.. aim me.. i need ALOT of advice. As for it.
he seems happier than i am right now. my life is messed up at the moment, idk what to do.. im sad, im stressed out.. i cried yesterday.. i felt like crying today..
the things i wonder; if hes sad too..
if he regrets it.. [but hes hiding it.. not sure]
if he still likes me.
lemme guess you must be wondering.. "why do you even give a shit about him ?!" maybe because i still like him.. and wondering if he feels the same. i want him back at the moment. its like nothing .. or nobody can cheer me up or get my mind off of him.. HELPP ?! ADVICE.. ?!

yeah its very natural to flirt with guys even ones you don't like... if you are ever dating a guy you should never change yourself for them because that just means they aren't happy with who you are and they don't deserve you... i say you should talk to him and tell him that even if it looked like you were flirting you weren't girls just act differently around guys than the opposite sex

hope this helps

Q: Ok here's the deal, my gf has might have sun poisoning,
I need to know what are some:
1)symptoms
2)remidies
3)anything to reduce pain
is there anythig she should avoid besides sun?
I'd apreciate this as soon as possible because i dont like the idea of her in pain so i want to help. thanks in advance

Aw you are a very sweet boyfriend and i wish i had one like you.
i had sun poison before

1)oozing sores or blisters or white spots on the skin are symptoms
2)neosporin or cortizone 10 ointment works very well
3) to reduce pain i have put ice on it before also this is veryyy painful but putting salt water on the blisters it helps them dry up and heal

hope this helps!

Q: This might be kinda long and in depth i apreaciate it if you read all of it.

First of all im 19/f and my boyfriend is also 19. We'll call him J. Ok, so J and I have been together for 3 years, four next july. He treats me better than I could ever ask, and does things for me. We planned on getting married and probably having children together. The thing is over the past 2 years I've gotten really sick. I spend alot of time at hospitals and in doctors offices. Ever since six months ago, I've been on treatment for cervical cancer. It's working but the side affects are making me sicker than ever. Some days it's even hard for me to get out of bed. So what I'm getting at.. I always feel so guilty and upset about hurting him because of my sicknesses. I don't feel like a good girlfriend because I can't do some of the things he does for me. He tells me not to worry about it and it'll be worth the wait, but it isn't that simple for me. I feel like he deserves better, someone that can do things for him and make him happy. I know he isn't. I know how bad he wants kids, and now I might not be able to give him that. We don't get to do alot together and we LIVE together. It sucks so bad I don't even know what to do anymore. Any advice would mean alot to me.

Thanks

First I would like to say my prayers go out to you. Don't worry about any of that stuff... if he was really unhappy being with you then he wouldn't be with you. If he really wants to fullfill his dream of kids you can always adopt or you can save your eggs.

i hope you get better and hope both of your dreams come true!

Q: okay, basically, i have a hickey on my neck, and its big and purple

ita hot, so no turtle necks, and i dont wear collars
the cover i have isnt working at all

anyways to make it go away faster
or any other ideas on how to hide it?

these are things i do... put cold milk on it and then wash it off with an ice cube... next take a hair comb and in an down motion go over the hickey.. that will all lighten the hickey... nex put some good cover up ( i like to use Maybelline new york dream matte mousse) and since you are going in the pool or something try putting the voer up on and then use a water proof hair spray... face spray (like model in a bottle) or clear nail polish... the nail polish tends to give it a shiny look so you could then put a baby powder over the nail polish and rub it in.

Q: i got lice from a friend (who didnt tell mee) we used this stuff called rid- it worked but i had so much that i thik its still kinda there...any home remedies? should i use rid again? please help! anything will do :'(

i know this sounds really gross but it works with 1 treatment... put mayonaise all over your head and put a shower cap on leave it on for about an hour then wash it out then when you are about to go to sleep put olive oil on your hair and put the shower cap back on and tie the extra flappyness with a rubber band (to suffocate the lice) then wash it out and use your rid comb

Q: next year i'm going into high school. I was totally psyched when i finally relized that this was my last year of boring old middle school and in high school I can pick my own classes. But earlier today a friend said her big sister was in highschool and she said it was terrible. They stuff the samller kids in trash cans and put books on the lids to make sure they don't get out. And they prank all the new kids by throwing eggs and water ballons at them. Is/was your hs that bad??????? thanks in advance.

no that's not true...
if kids did do that teachers would put a stop to it... i mean seriously... who is gonna bring eggs to school?

Q: I have a cut high on the bridge of my nose that will not heal because it keeps getting iritated when i exercise or my glasses rub on it a little. i really have tried everything. Liquid band, vit e. I have not sure how to get the skin strong enough not to get cut. Any ideas?

i had a baddd cut... i used neosporine (not sure if i spelled it right lol) and i cut liquid benedryl capsule and put that on it.... also coritzone 10 ointment works well... hope this helps!!!

Q: okay. i am 5'8". do you think that is too tall for some guys. the guys that are about my height. i mean. i would prefer a taller guy. but it doesnt really matter. are taller girls a turn off for guys?

heyy omg i have the same problem i am 5'8" too! Guys actually like tall girls... supposedly it's "sexy" lol i don't think it's that bad i mean, i am taller than my boyfriend just a tad and it doesn't ruin our relationship or anything

Q: today i went to the dentist and they said that i had to get it pulled. so tomorrow i am getting it pulled at 11:30 A.M. i have gotten a tooth pulled before but that was when i was 7 and it was loose but it didn't hurt and i had novicane then. this time i have novicane but this tooth is nnot loose. please can i have some advice. thx

I have had so many teeth pulled in my life (even four adult teeth) it doesn't hurt a bit you just feel a pinch from the novacaine and then a little tug and pressure but it feels cool afterwards... take advil, eat soft foods... have your parent's wait on you lol!

Q: I've had a problem for a few years with gas bloat in my stomach. Usually it happens after I eat, but not all the time. Tonight I had mexican food and about an hour after I got back home I started to bloat just below the ribs. It's finally subsiding now, but it was REALLY painful, so much that it bent me double when I tried to stand straight. It happens when I drink soda as well (which gives me painful hicups on top of that).

Does anyone have any suggestions on what might be causing this and why the gas isn't being let out quicker? I also have trouble with burping, I can feel the gas come up but then it just stops. Any help would be much apreciated!

i have the same problem but i dont know what causes it buttt gas-x and beano are mirical workers take bean-o before meals and if you still continute to bloat then take gas-x (they have this cherry flavor that is soooooo good) and it will take it all away!

Q: i know this is a stupid question but where can i find Essie nail polish? i tried looking on google but it brought me to all of these random sites, i want something like cvs or a pharmacy like that. does anyone know where i can get it and also how much do they cost

you can probably get it from sally's beauty shop they have everything!!!

Q: What is carpal tunnel? How do yu get it?

I have carpal tunnel... its stiffness in your joints and wrists... you can get it from typing or writing too much...

Q: 13 Female.
School starts in 10 day's, and I want to come back with a splash. I'm getting braces tomorrow (finally) my hair's grown and taken an adorable shape, and my boob's have gone from being a 34B to a 36C. I've done alot of shopping and my face has cleared up.

Now I want that personality to go with it. You know, friendly, outgoing, confident, cute, and flirty. I'm sick of being too loud, or too obnoxious. How do I tone myself done, to be the calmer, cooler, collected girl I am? Thanks!

I had that problem too.. my mom took me to a neurologist and they diagnosed me with ADHD [[attention defisit hyper-active disorder]] if you are ADHD you can get pills and it will calm you down and not make you so loud and obnoxious

Q: My 6 year old daughter recently started saying she wants to meet her real dad (he hasn't seen her since she was two years old except for a brief chance meeting at a friends house a two years ago.) I'm not sure what brought this on, except that I just had another baby with a different man, and he and I share custody, so maybe she's feeling a little jealous that her baby brother's dad is around but hers isn't. I'm no longer involved with my son's father, but we are civil for our child's sake so it isn't like he could be a father to her. But I need to know- do I call my daughter's father and make him have a relationship with his daughter? I don't know what to do, or what to say to her.