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well i have this friend who is a total player and he can be a total jerk but i kissed him like 2 months ago when i first met him then i stopped talking to him but now we are friends again..anyway i want to makeout with him because hes a really good kisser and i have no one to kiss lol and it would be fun but i really dont want people to think im pathetic or something. is just making out with him gonna make people think that? at my school hes like a loser because of the girls we messes with and he USED to do drugs and parties and stuff but i would NEVER date him or anything. i just want to kiss him. what do you think? and please dont be mean!!! (link)
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That would make you no better than he is seen. People would view you as a player or worse. Then again it's not about what they think of you but what you think of yourself and whether this feels right or wrong. If you have any doubts about doing it than don't.
In my opinion it's best to establish a relationship with someone first and rules about cheating and then get into a healthy situation with kissing and intimacy. Remember if he played a lot of girls that this may not be a good idea as someone will get hurt if not cautious. That someone is likely to be you.
Also, you should try for a relationship and give him the benefit of the doubt. If you're ready to make out with someone whenever you feel like it than there's not much difference in becoming boyfriend and girlfriend and having a solid reputation and free of all potential situations for rumors.
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basically its my sophmore year in high school, and i got into an AP history class which requires a lot of writing
i really want to take my writing to the next level, or have the style of it "matured"
any tips, websites? anything would be appreciated thanks (: (link)
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You should purchase Lucille Vaughan Payne's The Lively Art of Writing. It's one of the best books out there for learning grammar, structure and style. I've been using it for over 16 years. See link http://www.amazon.com/Lively-Art-Writing-Mentor/dp/0451627121/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1220715555&sr=1-1
It may be difficult to find in bookstores but be persistent as it presents all of this to you in common language. Also of value is On Writing Well and Strunk and White's book on style. Don't pass up the idiots and dummies series on creative writing, writing in general, poetry etc. They're all helpful.
Go to a bookstore and ask the clerks for their section on writing and you'll find tons of options. If you want to write like a pro and learn the same skills reporters have the Chicago Manual of Style is the bible in America as is the CP Style Book in Canada.
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Okay so I'm 14 and a want a vibrator.
I picked out the one that I want and I have a bunch of those gift credit cards so i can buy it descretly. They ship it in a plain brown box with an unidentifiable label. What I'm worried about is if one of my parents find it, what do I say? I mean, I doubt my dad will find it because he's nearly never home, and my mom gets home later in the day, so I'll probably be getting the package. But seriously, WHAT IF SHE FINDS IT? what do i say? should i ask her about it beforehand, I mean I really really don't want to. But how would I even ask something about that? Don't tell me that I'm too young or anything, it's better than me finding the nearest manwhore eh? (link)
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These days vibrators can look like toys from a rubber ducky to a keychain and also look like lipstick or even a pen or a tiny bullet shaped device that can fit in a pocket.
They don't all look huge or even penis shaped. Most are designed to look like normal every day household items to ensure privacy. We can't give links etc but I'm sure you'll find from your own research this to be so and what's out there.
Choose a discrete one if you choose at all. The trouble is that you can't legally buy one unless 18 online at those adult toy sites. They'll verify your age and credit info most likely before shipping.
If it's mailed out (which isn't likely if they verify) in a plain box with a wrapper that doesn't identify the sender just tell them you bought cosmetics or something online. If they find it they likely won't know what it is if it doesn't look like one. And even if they did they probably would have a hard time bringing it up or asking you about it.
Believe me about one thing your parents know you are 14 and that it's pretty much universal for teens to be masturbating. They probably assume that you do. Stats wise 90% of males do and 75-80% females of all ages. Although it's embarrassing perhaps having an open and honest relationship or talk with your mother about masturbation and curiosity about adult toys will help you see that it's okay to be curious or engage in this activity.
Most parents would rather their kids masturbate than have sex I'm sure. As for hiding it a lot of them come with cases, locks etc to store them, attractive bags etc discreetly so nobody knows what they are if found. Like I said it's better to be open with your mother or an older female you trust than try to buy them online without them knowing.
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i don't know what's wrong with me!! i went to a doctor and she prescribed anxiety pills (2wice! 2 different types!) but one makes me depressed and hopeless the other makes my bite on my teeth and loose control over my muscles and sleep alot... i am really depressed! and i am panicking so much but i am very bad at showing my emotions.. and because of that i rely on "Telling" it so my family thinks i am faking... but it really hurts inside! i don't know what to do anymore and the doctor is not helping... i feel so alone when there is a million people around me ! :'( (link)
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If your family isn't taking you seriously you should tell a teacher or someone you trust what the medication is or isn't doing for you. They'll approach your parents who will then have to act and get it checked out.
Also, you can call your psychiatrist 24/7 if you are having problems with your medication or feeling tense, can't sleep, feel hopeless or depressed. They need to know the medication isn't working and exactly what you are feeling at all times. It's for your own safety. Call them.
If you're losing control of your muscles and feeling the way you are feeling they need to know. You can even visit an emergency room and have them figure out what is wrong and evaluate you and your mental health.
When were you prescribed these pills? It takes 6 weeks for something to work. if they are causing the feelings you describe you have to get help pronto as no drug should cause you to lose control of your muscles or body. That's a real sign of something being very wrong. Keep telling people until they do something or call the doctor yourself or visit an ER.
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I'm not even sure if convincing is the right word to use. I'm driving three hours away to the next city over, for a little vacation and I'm apprehensive about taking my car. It's a piece of crap. And the AC doesn't work and it's been in the 90s lately. I could go on forever.
Long story short, how can I even approach my Dad about letting me borrow his car? I don't even know what to say or where to begin! (link)
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Tell him that your car has been very unreliable and that you don't think it's safe to drive it that distance. You can't convince anyone of anything.
They have to make their own decision based on what they've been presented with. I'm sure he will see your point and if e doesn't lend it to you will have another idea. Maybe you could get them to help you rent one too. Just ask--that's the only way to do this.
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I've been under an unusual amount of stress in the past month, I had to move back from Utah to Texas due to me and my best friend having issues, we are no longer friends, I had to move away from my boyfriend, and now I'm back at home with my parents, and they're going through a tough divorce right now, and my mom has been very uncooperative. In the past week or two I started to get flickering lights in my peripheral vision, and it's usually triggered whenever I'm anxious. I'm not sure if it's just from all the stress or anxiety or if it might be drug related. I have done mushrooms once, lsd once (a low dose), ecstasy twice, and I used to smoke weed regularly.
Also, my dad has been giving me low doses of Lorazapam (Ativan) to help me with my anxiety, and it usually makes "the flickers" go away, also I've started running again and when I run for longer periods of time the symptoms usually don't come back for a while. I was also prescribed pheneregan (sp?) about 2 weeks ago, and I was supposed to be taking it every few hours for a few days, but it made me feel really sore and groggy and I would sleep for a pretty long time. I managed to only take half of what was given to me so sometimes I take it at night to help me sleep, because I've been having a really hard time sleeping. (link)
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I would visit an emergency room pronto and tell them what drugs you are taking. You should not be experiencing distorted vision of any sort. That's not normal and if the medication you are on is causing it that could and is dangerous.
I doubt (I'm not an expert) that previous illegal drug use could be causing this. More importantly your father is not a doctor and should not be giving you any kind of prescription drug that is prescribed to him and not you. Go to the emergency room, take your prescriptions, pill bottles for what you're on and have them tell you what could be causing the problem.
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When did Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher get married? I don't remember seeing it in the tabloids and I really want to know about their wedding.
Was it a big wedding in a fancy location or small and secretive? Does anybody know where it actually took place at?
Did they honeymoon off somewhere in like Italy or France?
I remember when Demi Moore and Bruce Willis finally divorced back in October of 2000, I think, but I had no idea she actually remarried Aston Kutcher! Did she change her last name and become Demi Kutcher?
Thanks! (link)
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According to IMDB which is reliable 95% of the time they were married on September 25, 2005. She has not changed her performance name but may have with her legal one. Aside from that I couldn't find anything further without extensively searching.
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Hey all,
Ok so in my desperate search for a job this summer, I put my resume online through careerbuilder.com to see if I could find any jobs, which of course I did not for most of the summer. Up until now. Occasionally I'd get e-mails but everyplace so far has either been really out of the way or not what I'm looking for.
Well this morning I got a voicemail from a company who was interested in my resume. They want me to call back to set up an interview, but there's a few problems:
1.) I don't know what kind of job it is, the person on the phone didn't really specify. He said the name of the company, but I couldn't understand it that well and I tried searching it online but couldn't really come up with anything.
2.) If it's an office job, it's going to be pretty difficult to balance that with school starting so soon.
3.) It's in the city, which I wouldn't really be able to get to on a daily basis.
So with all that said...what is the proper protocol for this situation? Do I even bother calling the place back? Or would it be pointless to call a place for a job that I know virtually nothing about other than it's inconvienent location? And if I should call, what do I say?
Thank you in advance! (link)
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Call them and point out that someone wanted to follow up with you about your resume. Indicate that the message was rather garbled and that it took you awhile to catch the gist.
There's nothing wrong about doing that. So, when the person gets back to you this time you can ask about the company and the position and where it's located.
One thing I'll tell you is that you need to pound the pavement and go in search of a job yourself. The job sites and ones that post your resume are either money grabbers or the last place employers seem to look if at all. Keep putting your resume in around town and in the city. You can always use public transit.
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I have time warner cable, and i'm trying to program my remote to turn my tv on and off. I've had my tv for about 6 years now, and all it says on the front is KLH Digital so i'm assuming that's the brand. this is the remote i got from the cable company with my cable box: http://www.timewarnercable.com/MediaLibrary/4/50/Content%20Management/Products%20And%20Services/largeimages/DTVremote_list.jpg
i went to the channel for programming the remote control, and selected tv and it gave me a list of tv brands to choose the brand of my tv from.
the thing is, my tv brand wasn't listed. how am i supposed to program my remote to turn my tv on and off? it can control the volume and turn the cable box on and off but i don't remember how i programmed that or if i even had to.
any suggestions besides calling my cable company?
thanks.
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Why go nuts trying to do it yourself when the cable company are the experts for their universal remotes? In most cases they can help you program everything while you are on the phone in 10-20 minutes.
Tell them the model of the TV and that the instructions they gave with the remote doesn't have the set listed. There's a way to program it and you can be their techies know it.
Other than that look in the manual for TVs made by the same brand and see if their setups will get the remote to work as that's often a possibility that X TV or brand is equivalent to another model they have a code for.
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Ok, so I'm 13, I'll be 14 at the end of the year.
I shave my legs & everything.
But i really want to know if i should shave my Vagina.
It's too embarrassing to ask my friends, as i am only friends with boys.
Please someone help!
P.S with the category it's under... I didn't really know what to put it under. (link)
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You should read this article about the pros and cons of doing this. Believe it or not there is a purpose for pubic hair and you may in fact be better off keeping it. Really! It keeps out dust, makes you less suspect to infection, yeast, sweat etc. It also says in the article that the hair sends out a chemical that is actually appealing to opposite sex.
Next, you're 13-years-old. You may not like it but I think you ought to wait until you're much older for this. Really, you're no cleaner without it than you are. Also, most people do this for sexual reasons to appeal to partners. At your age you shouldn't even be thinking that.
If it's about the appearance that's fine but it's very easy screw this up if you don't know what you are doing and get razor burn. I wouldn't do it. Perhaps, if you know an older female you can trust to talk about it (embarrassing but it could help) and learn that it's not something to do yet that may help.
Please read this http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/710249/the_pros_and_cons_of_shaving_pubic.html
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I grew up in a small town and moved to a larger city almost four years ago. I would say I have my ducks in a row, since moving. I want to move back to a close city where I grew up at in a few years. I miss my family horribly. In four years, I still don't consider my new place, home. I am around family I love, but I miss my real family. The only problem is my son's father lives close to their. He lost visitation rights to our son because of drinking and anger-management. I feel living here gives us enough space to where he will not harass me. One of the reasons we moved is to get away from him. I have a nine year old son and I finish college in a year. Should I stay away from where I want to move or move and deal with the static? (link)
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Go where your heart says to go. Don't let anyone including him to stop you from being where you truly need to be. If you're unhappy where you are living and miss your family it's a no brainer. If he harasses you all you need to do is tell the judge.
Let him/her know that you moved away only because he scared you. They won't let him get away with that junk for long. If you don't want him around period you can get an order preventing him from contacting or visiting you. He's already unable to see the kids for his behavior.
I suggest talking to your lawyer about this and your family about wanting to move back and move on without this guy but not run anymore. If you want him permanently out of your life and your kid's lives you can do that. You'll have to demonstrate the reasons why.
He continues to victimize you and hold you and the kids hostage so you have to break free from that and do what you want to do. He can't harass you or intimidate you without it counting against him in court. Go home!
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I previously asked this question
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=546688.
Anyway, my boyfriend and i plan on having sex tomorrow, and i really want to atleast try and prevent it being so uncomfortable from the feeling of his penis hitting something a few inches into my vagina.. it really hurts!
Anyone know any ways i can perhaps help myself relax a little? (link)
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Have you tried different sexual positions to see if there is one that is more comfortable for you? There are several where the female can be in control and determine how deep penetration will be.
I can't give out descriptions or a list as that hits the grey area with the site policy about how-to info. I'm sure if you go to any bookstore or search online you'll find more information.
There are tons of books out there that you and you partner could read about positions and comfort. Maybe, just maybe it would stop the intense level of pain you are having.
Be sure when you see your doctor that you describe the pain and the problem exactly like you did for us. The more descriptive you get the easier for him/her to help you. So many people go into that office timid and not knowing how to tell them what's wrong.
My hunch is that it's Vaginismus where your vagina's muscles are tightening up with spasms that make it hard for penetration. The thing is that this is often psychological and not physical. If you have suffered trauma, sexual abuse or have fears or anxiety about anything sexual that may be the cause. You might also have a problem because of having pain once that was unbearable and then thinking it will happen over and over.
The good news is that it's treatable and there are tons of options to treat it. This article is brief but should give you some uplifting info about how to handle it. http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/001487.htm
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i was molested at 7 by a older kid who my grandmother would babysit. everytime she would to sleep he would take me and play games where i would suck him and he would finger me. im now 15 and my mom and my bff knows but my mom doesnt know the extent. i have repressed it so much and when his father died my family went to his wake and all i wanted to do was laugh. but then i saw him and went to the car and cried and mind u this is the first time i have acknowledged it. so now i have a masturbation problem and i look at porn and stuff online. i cant do this much longer i feel guilty and pray to God for me to stop but do it again i feel as if i am truly a bad person who fakes a front of happiness. inside of me there is a hidden darkness that rears it ugly head when i feel lonely or sad and have suicidal thoughts i know i would never do it cuz i hate pain but i dont think this is normal and the worst part is that when my bf touches me i feel dirty or repulsed i desperately want to serve God but i cant because of my past
sry for the rambling and bad grammar but i dont know what to do (link)
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This is all coming to the surface with this level of intensity because it can't remain buried. It's forcing you to tell your family the complete truth and seek professional help. You need a psychiatrist to help you through your depression, anger and guilt.
You have nothing at all to feel guilty over. He's the one who did this to you. Don't let him victimize you over and over by not coming clean and confronting this. You must never forget what happened but you need to have a normal life. Getting help with this to reclaim your life is the best way to go. It won't be easy but it has to be done.
Another important thing is that this individual probably has assaulted other children,girls, women and continues to do so. If you come up with his name you might (based on statutes of limitation) be able to have him charged. You can save other girls.
As far as masturbation goes it's a healthy thing not to feel guilty about unless it's constant, you avoid people, don't leave the house, and or doing it to respond to discomfort or abuse because you were taught etc.
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i'm 16, and not ready to have sex yet. but i want to masterbate, but feel embarresed. what are some ways to do this with out buying anything. thanks (link)
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Why would you be embarrassed over something society and physicians deem completely normal? In fact, it's pretty much universal with your age group.
The majority of your classmates and friends do it but don't talk about it. 90% of men of all ages and 70% (though it's likely more) or women of all ages do it according to stats. It's normal to do it and normal not to. It's not normal however to feel ashamed of it.
It's pretty self-explanatory when it comes to how. You don't need to buy anything either. Beyond that we cannot and I will not provide anything resembling how-to info. That kind of thing gets you banned around here and for damn good reason. We have to protect minors.
Also, info like that won't serve you well anyway. That's because every person finds something different to be pleasurable or not.
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ok so im trying to decide what to major in, for college. I am really intested in animals, and would really like to major in animal sciences such as; wildlife conservation, veterinariay med, and other related things. The problem is that I'm not very good when it comes to science. I took biology freshman year and got a B, but i have trouble in this subject and I am afraid that if I major in these topics i will struggle all through out college maybe even flunk out. This really is the only topics i am intested in... is it a hopeless cause to try and major in one one these subjects??? (link)
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Nothing is hopeless. As long as you work hard and have a passion for animals that's all you need. If you struggle with science it will be harder but you can get extra help and tutoring to help you with it.
Don't let fear keep you from doing what you love. There's no way to flunk out as long as you work hard and get help when it's needed. If you don't put the effort in or spend all your time socializing you'll flunk. If you work hard at the things you aren't good at you'll soon excel at them.
If you earned a B in biology that should show you that you do understand science and can do well in it. What you need to do is consult with the program head at the college you want to go to about your fears and concerns regarding science. They'll help you find ways to make things easier or provide resources and tutoring if a learning issue arises.
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whats a good site to see if you have any personality disorders or mental illnesses??
because i want to see if i have bipolar disorder or something like that or schizophrenia(sp) because both of those illnesses run in my family. and im just wondering.
thanks. (link)
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No website poll, questionnaire, quiz, chart, or list of symptoms can tell you whether you have any kind of illness. This is especially so of mental illness.
A psychiatrist is the only person who could diagnose you or tell you that you are at risk. Even though these illnesses run in your family they often aren't hereditary. The websites you are frequenting or books you are reading will only serve to frighten you.
There's really no problem or threat of one right now. You have nothing to worry about unless a psychiatrist tells you differently.
Signs of a problem with bipolar/ schizophrenia includes having delusions, racing thoughts, lacking a true concept of reality, constant thoughts of death, illusions of grandeur and feeling as though you control the world. Your moods will also cycle with bipolar from depression, feeling high, elated and crashing without warning.
If none of this is happening to you right now then don't worry yourself about it. Just because another family member or multiple have had problems with it doesn't mean you ever will. You don't have to accept that idea even which would be smart.
I'm sure your family knows the signs of these two illnesses to know what to do if they suspected it in anyone. For now don't worry about what ifs or any of this.
If you want to read books on it there is Bipolar for Dummies which really encompasses everything about the illness. You should also look at the Canadian and American Mental Health Association sites as they'll have lists of resources to check out.
There was and or still is a magazine called BP for Bipolar sufferers. If you look up "bipolar", "manic depression" or "schizophrenia" on Google you'll get thousands of links.
The problem is not all of them contain truth and a lot have inaccuracies. You should go on Wikipedia and punch in "celebrities who have..." and you'll see that there's a ton of well-known people with both illnesses.
Bottom line if you ever did contract either illness you'll be in the same boat as them. 1 in 4 people know of someone with a mental illness and 1 in 9 have one. If you learn about them, don't fear them and about stigma from this to help your family it will be worth having asked this question.
So, if you aren't experiencing any of the tendencies associated with the disease don't worry about it or what the future holds. In all likelihood no matter what family members have it doesn't mean you will. It's often not hereditary.
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Hi, it's the summer time and two years ago I wrote a guy a letter telling him how I feel and he responded three months later over that very summer. We talked it seemed because his friend suggested it, and his friend said he was interested, he may have been lying. We talked for a week and maybe two days. Afterwards, never again. I got back to school and I couldn't even look him in the eye. He and I both would avoid eye contact and never spoke over 10 words to one another. Now he has a girlfriend. I want him to be happy. I spent most of my summer not thinking of him, but afraid when the time came for me to return to school that the feelings would return. I saw him 4 days ago and I felt a jolt when our eyes met for a heartbeat. I'm afraid and I feel pathetic, which I am kind of. I don't want to like him. I want to be over him. But how do I handle these residual feelings that keep returning? (link)
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Remind yourself that neither of you really knew or know each other. You only spoke to him once and that was it. Tell yourself that he has no feelings for you and is with someone else. Over time if you keep telling yourself that it's not to be and will not happen you'll believe it.
The residual feelings keep coming to you because you haven't dealt with this tough enough and convinced yourself that there's no connection or future with him. If there were to be it would have been long ago had your conversations led anywhere. He's focused on her and you need to move along too as hard as it is.
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hello everybody,
tomorrow i am going to the taylor swift and rascal flatts concert and i was wondering if anybody had gone to this concert yet and knew
which songs they were for sure going to play?!
if you know, please let me know! thanks!
=] (link)
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More or less the same as this one from April 5th. Bands may add songs but they seldom take them off the list. It's always the same each gig during a tour. So, this would be be about 85-90% accurate.
Rascal Flatts set list
Tacoma Dome
April 5, 2008
Me and My Gang
Fast Cars and Freedom/ I Melt
Take Me There
I Feel Good (James Brown)
My Wish
These Days
Pieces
To Make Her Love Me
Yes I Do/ Winner at a Losing Game/ You
Joe Don Rooney Medley (American Woman, Back in Black, Sweet Home Alabama)
Stand
Feels Like Today
Fiddle solo (with snippets of Led Zeppelin’s “Kashmir,” Michael Jackson’s “Smooth Criminal”)
Backwards
God Bless the Broken Road
No Reins/ Bob That Head
What Hurts the Most
Leavin’ Kind (with snippets of Journey’s “Don’t Stop Believin’”)
Encore:
Still Feels Good
Life Is a Highway (Tom Cochrane)
Taylor Swift’s set list
I’m Only Me When I’m With You
Our Song
Teardrops on My Guitar
Should’ve Said No
A Perfectly Good Heart
Tim McGraw
Picture to Burn
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Ok so ive never been to the gyno..... im scared idk what to do or to expect..... I havent had a period in over a year and well i just dont know what to do... mine is a guy and I DONT TRUST GUYS so any advice...
Thnx Military45 (link)
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This tells you everything you need to know. It's a step by step rundown of everything that happens at an exam. http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/your_first_gynecologist_visit
It doesn't matter whether the doctor is male or female. They all act professionally and will walk through this with you before they do anything or invite your mother to watch. Even if it's a male, you can always ask for a nurse to be present. Trust me, they know how uncomfortable you feel.
They also see thousands of genitals so yours won't phase them or be seen as any different. You can also always find a female doctor and arrange an appointment if more comfortable that way.
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everythings going wrong with me and i don't know why... i keep crying uncontrollably and i cant stop. I don't to leave my room cuz i'm scared if i'm in public i'll just randomly start crying and everyone will think i'm a freak... and my eyes are all swollen from crying to much... so bascially i just sit at home all day at eat and think about how pathetic i am and cry... i want to be happy but i don't know how to make this stop. I've even thought about suicide but i couldnt do that
So basically what i'm asking for is advice on how to make me happy. Things that make you happy... blah blah blah (link)
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It sounds like you may have depression. If you are finding it difficult to leave your own room or function outside the house see a psychiatrist. In fact, this qualifies as an emergency issue with your mental health at stake.
You can and should go to an emergency room and tell them what you told us. A psychiatrist will assess you and determine how to treat your illness and get your life back on track. There's no shame or embarrassment in this so you need to be honest with adults in your life about what's going on.
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