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is there any jobs in tampa FL that is not cooking,cleaning,walking dogs,watering plants or cleaning pools also no raper's homos or people with a criminal record. (link)
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If you are concerned about being assaulted physically or sexually be sure to know self-defense. The odds someone is going to target a 13-year-old on the job in a place with others is slim.
When it comes to gay people you have to understand that 1 in 20 people in the U.S. are gay, bisexual or transgender. You likely know several people who are and don't know it.
They MUST be treated with respect under the law and not discriminated against. No matter where you go be it school or work eventually you'll meet someone who is gay or several people.
You could even be taught by people who are and not be aware of it. They also aren't interested in you in any fashion. You likely won't work with people with criminal history at your age or for them either. Anyone who has is only trying to turn their life around and aren't interested in harming you.
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i wanna do good in school but i also want to get a job so i could buy nice thing for myslef my dad said i canot get a job i want to look fresh and look like other kidz choach or guicc i am only 15 (link)
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You don't need designer labels to look well. You need to buy sensible clothing that looks good and you can get that anywhere for low prices.
If people don't treat you right because of your clothes than forget them. It may be nice to dress in brand names but not if you aren't making money. There's nothing wrong with clothes from Old Navy, Wal-Mart, GAp, Target even if you think so.
Find out your father's reasons about you not getting a job. Maybe he's concerned in your marks etc. You can get a part time job on weekends or one or two weekdays with movie theaters. They're always hiring. As long as you can balance school work with the job you're fine.
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I feel overweight and unhappy I want to be successful I'm feel like I'm getting no where I don't know where to start. I feel so lost what should I do (link)
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You never mentioned your height and weight. We could have calculated your BMI to determine where you are at and where you need to be.
Losing weight is difficult as everyone knows what they need to do but can't always follow through. You need to determine if you even are overweight or if you just think so.
Once you do your BMI you should visit your doctor and set a plan that is realistic he might refer you to a nutritionist who could come up with a plan and teach you what to eat, what not and how much in terms of portions.
As far as being unhappy goes it probably hasn't much to do with your weight. Think about what is bothering you overall and write a list out. Write down the negative thoughts you have. See your doctor for a referral to an adolescent/child psychiatrist to see if you have depression or other mood disorder issue.
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i don't think he's prude ... because he has no problem with kissing me, but i'm curious because whenever i joke around about perverted things [nothing too intense lol... just the normal jokes] he always just says 'lol' but never really talks about anything like that. i'm not asking him to be PERVERTED, but maybe it's that i need to unprude him? i don't really know, i don't want to scare him away by taking things to the next level. [i hope most of you know what i'm trying to say.]
what should i do to make him unshy but ... not scare him too much? (link)
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Perhaps he comes from a household where sexuality and any let alone crude, humorous etc. reference isn't made. It's either that or maybe even a cultural thing.
The best thing to do is tell him that you've always been allowed to talk about it, joke etc, or be a little crass. Ask if this offends him or if he feels awkward or shy or flustered. maybe he doesn't know what to make of it or your knowledge.
Find out. Let him know it's okay for him to open up and leave it at that. He's no less interested in you than before either sexually or in general. Don't worry and don't rush him. You have loads of time for him to get comfortable. BTW, is this a NEW relationship. That would explain his behavior.
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I have not had sex but I have masturbated and fatasized about sexual things. I know I have sined and I feel so completly horible about it. I wish I had never done it. I did not know it was wrong at the time though. I pray and pray about it. Ive stoped doing all of that stuff but I still have that gut feeling that Im a really bad person. I have not had sex or a first kiss or even a boyfriend. I just feel so completly horribly horrible! How do I deel with this and will God ever forgive me for all the bad things Ive done such as the masterbating, Fatasizing, listing to music with sexual lyrics, and looking at some porn? I just feel like a horrible person and that I should just die and go straight to hell for it. What should I do? (link)
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Take a deep breath! You won't be going to hell any time soon for this. Masturbation is NORMAL and pretty much UNIVERSAL with people of both sexes at your age.
There's nothing to feel guilt over either as almost everyone does it or has. Stats say that 90% of males do and 78% of females. No matter what anyone says it's not a sin and it doesn't break your bond with God. If you enjoy doing it than continue if not don't but don't sweat it you're fine.
Think about it everyone you know at school be them teachers or students or anyone you encounter would all be going to hell or at least confession several times a week. It's a normal and pretty much universal thing.
It doesn't need to be sexual as young children, toddlers do it for comfort or because they've discovered it feels good. You're not a bad person, boyfriends will come in due time.
As for lyrics, guess what 99.9 percent or damn close of most lyrics have something to do with sex. does that mean stop listening? All it means is that you make your own decisions about the content of the lyrics and the messages.
Fantasizing never killed anyone. That's normal and part of being a teen. As for porn it won't kill you but it's meant for adults for a reason. Stop looking at it until you are 18 at least. Pretty much you're a normal person without much to worry over.
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I have a visa citibank card...it has my name on it, but its like connected to my parents account (im 17)...is there any way i can check past charges on it, without signing into my parents account online?
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There should be a number on the back of the card to contact the bank. If not there will be on the bank's web site. Ask a customer service representative exactly what you told us. They''l tell you the policy.
I'm almost certain that the bank will not let you in either by phone or online unless you possess all the answers to the security questions protecting their account.
I would guess without hesitation that the only way you can look at the bill online is if they give you the passwords. You see, they're the primary card holders and you aren't. Although your name is on the card it's their account.
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hi all, i have a ups tracking number and it was issued to me 24 hours ago on a saturday, well the person who sent it to me said he shipped it at a local ups store, its now sunday and no ups tracking information is showing up on the website, but when i go to iship.com it does. here is the tracking number 1ZW299E60334459052 thanks and i apprechate it! (link)
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If it was issued on Saturday the package will arrive on Monday if it's 24 Hour service. Packages don't move anywhere on a Sunday. If it doesn't arrive today call UPS. In this case the tracking number wouldn't be online to check yet. It will be in their system though if you call. It may not have left their depot yet.
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i've never touched myself and im grossed out by the vagina and i don't really know how to masturbate so i don't wanna mess anything up down there by trying....i kinda want my boyfriend to finger me but i don't know if it will hurt or anything...ive tried clitoris stimulation when i was dry humping my boyfriend i guess it stimulated it? is that normal? and my other question is, is being grossed out by my own vagina normal?
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It's not normal to think your genitals are gross. Where did you get this perception of them? Were you taught by some adult (likely parents) that they were dirty or that touching them is?
The vagina is actually really interesting when it comes to body parts. First of all, it's the birth canal and secondly it's the only organ on the human body that cleans itself. There's nothing dirty about it. It's quite the opposite.
There is nothing you can do unless using sharp objects to mess yourself up down there. Masturbation is safe, normal and pretty much universal with teens of both sexes of all ages. Statistically they say it's 90% of males and 78% of females that do. However, that may be misleading as females are more discreet about doing it.
I would for now putting fingering on the back burner. It can hurt if he's rough and doesn't know what he's doing. You wouldn't be able to guide him so it could be a negative experience. You need to learn how to do this alone before letting him.
At this site it's a policy that we don't give out "how to" info on anything of sexual nature to protect minors. I'm sure if you used Internet resources or read books about sexuality that you would find info on all of this.
Sex educator Sue Johanson who has a show on The Oxygen Network called "Talk Sex" used to do lectures/sex-ed classes for teens pre-teens. She always suggested that female teens and pre-teens who are grossed out by their own genitals look at a medical diagram of them.
Then she suggested to take a mirror to see them and learn their function. It may help you see that there isn't anything gross going on 'down there".
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my boyfriend wants to finger me but i have a few questions....1. does it hurt? or what does it feel like? (i dont use tampons and dont really stick anything up there but have have my clitoris rubbed) 2. how do you properly clean the vagina so that it doesn't smell? 3. what do you do while hes fingering you? and 4. do guys like it completely shaved or with a little hair?
i know its alot of questions so id appreciate answers to any of them. thank youu (link)
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Most guys don't realize that female genitals are far more sensitive and delicate than their own. They are often rough and that's why it hurts. You need to be in control and tell him what you like. Most females prefer clitoral stimulation over penetration. It will hurt if he's just ramming his fingers hoping it satisfies you. Tell him what you enjoy and guide him.
As far as smell goes unless you have an infection you're worrying about nothing. Like the previous poster indicated trying to wash inside or clean it out leads to problems with infection.
The vagina has/is doing it's job properly as a self-cleansing organ. Just remember genitals aren't supposed to smell like a rose garden. Hair is a preference issue if you have it it's normal if not and you like that it's fine. A guy needs to accept both as normal or he's too immature to be doing this.
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I am 16, female.
At age 14, I had a boyfriend, a best friend, all A's, confidence, I played volleyball and I was a cheerleader.
I am now 16, I have no best friend, no boyfriend, a B average, no confidence, and I recently had to quit all sports for 2 years due to a Spinal Disease. I'm not sure what to do anymore. My best friend and I have tried to go back to the way things were before she and I tried drugs, I quit but she took longer and we were not permitted to see each other.
I miss my life. My parents are worried sick about me because I spend all my free days laying in bed watching TV. I hate it. I used to be a fun-loving flirt that was able to bring the best out of people.
But now, I second guess my every thought, blame myself for everything, and just can't seem to find my way again.
Help, please. (link)
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You still are who you used to be or that person you think is lost forever. The only problem is you can't see it as it's buried under lack of confidence, drug problem, and lack of interest in life.
The problems in spite of the other illness you have are signs something isn't right medically and mentally. It would seem that you may have clinical depression or another mental health issue that needs to be addressed a.s.a.p so you can return to your normal life and move forward.
I know what I'm talking about as I have been in the hospital twice for mental illness and surrounding by people like you. I would bypass your family doctor as they usually know nothing about these matters and go to an emergency room. Yes, this qualifies as a medical emergency.
Have your family take you and tell the psychiatrist on call about everything you said here and then some. They will likely give you medication and monitor your progress. They'll only keep you there 72 hours if you are believed to be in crisis or someone who can bring harm to themselves, others or be harmed by others while ill.
This will be the best thing you could do for yourself. Things can only get better from it. Make sure to keep a journal or list of things bothering you so you can rattle them off to the doctor who can then tell how to proceed. Don't be scared, it's all a good thing and the only road to take. This all mental, not physical or a change of thinking. That won't do it alone.
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Typically I don't ask for advice but I just don't know what to do. My fiance doesn't want to have sex with me because he's too afraid of hurting our baby. It's very frustrating and I just don't know what I can do to change his mind.
Any advice will be helpful at this point. Thankyou in advance.
katexoanne (link)
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He can't. It's simply not possible. The baby is protected in your uterus in an amniotic sack. There's no way he'll poke it in the eye or something silly like that. He can't kill it, injure it etc. no matter how rigorous, passionate, even rough sex is.
What you need to do is talk to your ob/gyn or family doctor about your sex life being non-existent because he's terrified it will hurt the baby. Any doctor can set him straight, birthing class, good book on pregnancy. It's fine to have intercourse until the 8th month usually.
If you can get a good book on sex or pregnancy that explains this to him or use Google and find a solid resource online that's all it will take. There's even books out there for pregnant women on positions and making things easier. Get him to talk to your doctor. It should solve a lot of problems.
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well let's see i'm 14 years old and not to be conceited but i'm not ugly or fat, just really tall. i'm 59. mostly taller then EVERYONE, even most male adults. well anyways ive never been kissed once, or had one boyfriend. it sucks because my girl friends are like having sex and i've never even kissed a guy =[ ; i don't know what to do!? like honestly no guy has interest in me, well guys do if they see my myspace and flirt with me and blah but are unaware of my height and thats why i never end up hangingout with them becuase i will be taller and it'll be akward. well i don't really know what i need advice on. just i don't know, someone help? =[ (link)
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It's not your height that is holding you back. It's your confidence and belief in yourself that's the issue. Guys can get a weird vibe when they meet you and don't know how to proceed. There's tons that are interested but that puts them off.
Being 5 ft 9 doesn't have beans to do with anyone being romantically interested in you or not. They'll see you for you and or the vibe you give them and nothing else. So, drop this junk about your height and just be yourself. That's what reels them in.
Your friends are probably full of themselves or something else if you get my drift. Not all of them are having sex nor have they. They're just talking either way to sound cool. You aren't your friends and in a few years will have matured and had sex on your own terms. Those who blab a lot about this subject or experiences often haven't done a thing in that arena.
It's not a competition. You don't need to do it, be kissed, have a boyfriend by X age. A lot of people don't date or find someone until their 20s for a variety of reasons. Many just want someone mature who doesn't act like a teenager. Mind games being what they are.
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i have two wiis and 1 wii fit. do i have to use the same wii every time to track progress or can i just use the cd and it will have all the user info?? (link)
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I have WII Fit and I'm pretty sure that you need to continue playing it with the ONE unit and not the other. The machine holds all the data from when you played WII FIT and your BMI, stats and progress. It can't function without the CD. So, it's SAME CD, Machine as far as I can tell.
If you put it on the second machine you'll have to start fresh from what I know. Then again it will take you no time to unlock the same games and challenges if you've been playing it a lot. I'm pretty sure all of this is so. However, I would ask THEYMOS for sure as he's the resident tech guy.
Another thing you should do is call NINTENDO at 1-800-255-3700 from the U.S. and Canada and verify what I told you or explain what you're looking to do. Press 0 for every option they give you and a techie will come on the phone.
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Ok so I am a very good girlfriend to my current boyfriend of almost six months. Im loyal, respectful, and honest...lately i just feel like our love is at a standstill. Its not getting worse but its not getting better either. What can i do to make our relationship stronger? what are some sweet things that i can do to really show my bofriend how much i love and care about him?
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"Sweet things" or tips won't help your relationship. It's stalled because you both can't seem to communicate what you feel is wrong with it or communicate openly what it is you require out of the situation and other person.
Then again you're only 6 months in. There's a natural excitement for awhile because it's brand new and then a lull. Talk to him about how you are feeling and figure out together what changes to make. Odds are all is well and you're just a tad worried. Talking honestly to him/with him can only make it better.
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& i wont be going back until january 15th! I've had my braces off since last december, and I wear my retainer every night! Will my teeth be okay? (link)
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Have you told your parents? As much as it may be a pain in the ass for them to run up there before Jan 15th they just might. You definitely need this thing in your mouth for the duration the doctor said. That's especially so if you just got those braces removed.
Your best bet is to call the dental office and explain what happened and ask what they recommend. Perhaps you can wait until the 15 and perhaps not. They'll tell you what you need to do here and deal with your parents. They need to know you left it at the Beach house and are worried over that.
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i want 2 go into acting. but i wana go 2 skool at the same time but not be homeskooled like other actresses
-is there anyway 2 go into acting & go 2 skool(not homeskool) at the same time?
-how do i start acting?
im 16 & in my sophmore year in highskool i'm thinkin bout joining drama my junior & senior year
-will i get enough experience of acting for only 2 years? (link)
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Not everyone who goes into acting needs to be home-schooled. Many child actors have tutors on set and spend only three hours a day with school work and just a few more on set.
Quite often the production likes for the kids to attend a normal school part of the day and arrive on set. When not filming kids are attending school just like you are. How do I know this? I've read about it and know several TV actors. I also work on occasion as an extra in TV and film. Family members have also worked as assistants to child/toddler/infant actors.
How do you get into acting? You need not wait until junior or senior year. Look around you and keep your ears open about community theatre groups in your area or youth theatre groups and join them.
A principal agent won't sign you because you lack professional credits. Having said that an agent who represents only kids and teens would. The best way to figure out if you really want to be in this business is to hire what they call a Background Talent Agent.
They'll put you in crowd shots in movies and TV. Then you'll see if you can handle 18 hour shoots that often have you there at 6 a.m for an 8 a.m. start. Musicals are brutal to film such as Hairspray. Often you are doing 18-20 hour days.
Also take improvisation classes or any programs geared towards young people when it comes to drama. I don't know if you are in Toronto, Chicago, Detroit or wherever but the Second City Training Center is the best for this and no I don't work or shill for them. I know based on the amount of top actors that have come out of that place from John Candy to Dan Aykroyd. www.secondcity.com
Your school's drama program will help you but won't be enough of a foundation to leap into industry. Get yourself an agent but not just any agent. Be sure they are listed on ACTRA or SAGs lists of reputable agents so you avoid heartbreak and scams.
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Ok so lately i've been thinking about my love life, i'm so confused I feel like i can't like anyone, i thought maybe i was gay, but i don't like boyss at all, or have any feelings towards them. so than why can't i like anyone? is something wrong with me? (link)
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I doubt very highly that there is a single thing wrong with you. You just haven't found someone you are attracted to for a relationship. Believe me you will.
Why don't you like the boys you know? Do you dislike how they behave? Do they seem more like little kids in their behavior than men? Maybe the immaturity of your peers turns you off.
It's possible that your sexual orientation might be gay and that you are attracted to females instead. Ask yourself how do I feel around girls? Am I attracted to them? Is this overwhelming to the point there's only an attraction to them and not males.
If you really question things you'll figure out the truth. Whether gay or straight there's nothing wrong with you. Another reason why you don't like someone or seem interested in others is that you don't want people to get close too you or inside your head yet.
All your problem breaks down to is fear, guilt and uncertainty about your sexuality. What you need to do is some serious thinking and come to terms with whatever your heart says.
You can indeed like others and will eventually but for now you have mentally shut yourself off to that. When the right person comes along that you're willing to let close you'll know that you're okay.
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i'm a 15/yo girl and when i get horny i masturbate with a back massager. i use it on my clit. i know some girls masturbate but is it normal? it seems like guys jerk off and its okay but it's weird if girls do it, is that true? (link)
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Statistically 90% of males do of all ages and 78% of females of all ages. The numbers may be higher for females but they're more discreet than males. Bottom line is that it's universal with teens and completely normal regardless of your sex.
It's normal if you do it and normal not to. There shouldn't be any guilt about it. The only time it becomes abnormal is when it's all you do and you don't engage in regular activity. It's also a problem if someone uses it for comfort because they have hidden issues, molested or abused.
If you enjoy it that's fine and it's fine if you don't. Nothing weird and or bad will happen from it.
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okay so im 17/f and sometimes i just get reallllly horny and obvouisly masterbate. this i kind of a weird subject but anyways one night i got super horny and instead of just rubbing my clit or using my fingers i used a brush to stick up me. after i did it i started thinking that maybe that was a bad idea?! if it was dirty or somehing could i get infected or something??! sorry if this was gross (link)
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It's not exactly dirty and rather common. Having said that you need to be careful. You can hurt yourself especially if an object isn't meant to be inserted there. Objects need to be clean and lack ridges or anything that can tear or cause injury.
I doubt you could get an infection but you could cause tears, bleeding etc. Make sure you never force anything even if it's designed for this purpose as you can cause injury to yourself.
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Best acting agent in chicago?
Here is a list of legit ones:
Ambassador Talent Agents
BMG Talent Group
Baker & Rowley Talent Agency, Inc.
Big Mouth Talent
Charlie's Talent Agency
DeSanti Talents Inc
E T A Inc
Encore Talent Agency, Inc.
Ford Talent Group, Inc.
Geddes Agency
Grossman & Jack Talent, Inc.
Hamilton, Shirley
Iris Talent Agency, LLC
Jennifer's Talent Unlimited Inc
Lily`s Talent Agency
Moore Creative Talent, Inc.
Naked Voices, Inc.
Stewart Talent Management
Wehmann Models/Talent, Inc. (link)
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How do you know that they are legit? Where is that verdict coming from? If they aren't listed on a SAG (Screen Actor's Guild) or ACTRA site as being so don't sign as odds are they aren't.
Also, there are many agents in Chicago who are excellent and they're harder to find or list because they don't advertise or solicit clients. They decide if you are worthy of being backed by them.
Each agent is different and specializes in certain areas. All of this depends on what you want to do modeling, acting, being an extra or principal work in film and TV. I'm telling you right now that a principal agent like half listed won't touch you as you don't have pro credits or solid amateur ones with respected non-profit theaters or graduated from a well known acting program.
What you need to do is check SAG and ACTRA for reputable agents that deal only with kids and teens. They'll get you work in productions that require kids. For a one time fee each year of about $100.00. They can only charge that amount each year because people bail very fast once they see that they're often going to 18 hour shoots.
Agents for teens/kids can charge a small fee for each year because kids and teens bail fast. NEVER pay for a portfolio, lessons or to have your photos posted on the Internet to be seen by key Hollywood people. The industry never works like that. It's a common SCAM.
Check out with ACTRA or SAG who among that list above is reputable and ask about others or who they hold in high regard or who has been reported. TAKE YOUR TIME. Don't rush into this as you need to make the right choice with your parents input. You can get screwed over otherwise as scammers know who is naive about the industry and they'll capitalize on that dream of yours.
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