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Q: okay so i am trying to put up a pic on the advicenators thing. I sent it from my phone to my email and now i am trying to copy and paste it to the column settings but its not working! any ideas?????

Save the picture to your computer.
Then go to Profile Settings, and upload it.

Jess♥

Q: Is that possible, because it doesn't like like a razor burn-- it has a head!

It's definitely possible.

Jess♥

Q: 17 f..
what should i wear to a taking back sunday concert? [like what kind of cloths (tee shirt? jeans? ya know)]

I think maybe you should just wear comfortable clothes. Have a TBS shirt, and and just some jeans. And whatever shoes won't be off by the end of the night. In other words, COMFY shoes :]

Jess♥

Q: Well listen, I had this great bf, but I broke with him because I was being stupid. Now when I'm basically on my knees, he won't take me back. I practically told him I love him, but that doesn't count. He really is hurting me. Should I leave him for good, or just keep hoping for him to take me back?

Well, to start off, just remember you let him go. (Duh) What I would do is just let him go. Unless you really, HONESTLY think that you're going to win him back. If he's hurting you, whether he's the one who started the whole situation or not, any guy who hurts you isn't worth it. Just think about it, would you rather keep trying to get him back, and fail? (According to how you're saying it's going) Or, would you just let go and move on? I know moving on isn't as simple as it seems, but what would you rather do?

Also, keep in mind that he's probably hurt that you broke up him [for whatever reason].

Good Luck, hun

Q: Im a 15/f and my breasts are always hurting from the nipples area the most it jus hurts i dont know why do you think there is something wrong with me?

It could be from your period. (I assume you've started your cycle) Or, like megaroni said, it could be from your bra. But no, I'm almost positive that there's nothing wrong with you.

Jess♥

Q: hey u guys. this is going to sound a little strange. i have intimate feelings about having sex with my sister. i know its wrong but i cant stop thinking about it. somebody please help me.

I don't think it's strange, because you might have something going on called intrusive thoughts. It has something to do with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), and obviously something to do with the mind. Even though sometimes OCD is usually physical, the mind can work overtime sometimes on thoughts like those. I suggest maybe talking to your doctor. Explain that you don't know why, but you have them. Therapists or counselors may be more understanding than parents or others who don't have the same thoughts. Now, I'm not a doctor, so I can't say you have OCD, but it's just a guess, because I have it. It could be just random thoughts, but the symptoms of the thoughts/feelings just seem to match the condition. Talk to someone you trust.

Jess♥

Q: I want to wish my crush happy easter, the thing is im afraid ill regret it, he lives very far away, ive had a crush on him for 4 years, we emailed regurarly for 3 years, and then i guess he lost interest in me, and now i havnt seen him online for about 6 months (i think he blocked me, dont know why) should i still wish him a hapyy easter? im afriad ill be crushed when he doesnt answer, is there any funny way of wishing someone happy easter (not too sentimental?) so he thinks im doing it as a friend and that i dont like him.. what do you think? should i?

I think that maybe just to be friendly, just start up a conversation and say
hey you :]
i just wanted to wish you a Happy Easter, I haven't talked to you in a while. Well I'll talk to you later, but have a good holiday

I honestly don't think there's anything wrong with that at all. That's just my personality coming out, haha. But something like that wouldn't mean a lot, just in a friendly way.

Good Luck!
Jess♥

Q: YEA WELL ITS TRUE BUT I DO WISH I CAN HOLD U MORE CLOSER LIKE MORE THAN A HUG OR FRIENDS U KNOW WAT I MEAN

what does this mean?

This person wants to be more than just friends.

Jess♥

Q: Ok so this is pritty personal.My mom is abusive to me sometimes,not really bad or anything like lets say on average she hits me once a month.not like crazy hard but enought to give me a mark for a day or 2(at least a couple hours)...and is (in my opinion) uncontrolably angry.My dad drinks wayyy too much as well (in my opinion again)a least once a week I hear him puking at night kus he's drunkin so much.almost ever nigh he gets drunk.Also when he's drunk he gets verbally abusave,(calles me things like bitch,ect...)....My question is-what should i do?Do they have a problem or am i just making a big deal of there problems.

It's driving my crazy,also i have a brother and sister alot older then me 10 and 13 years older you be exact,(i'm 14) and they have talked to me about this "problem",i still wanna "fix" it but it seems to me they'v givin up.i don't think they really care anymore and just take it.that also really bothers me.

hope you can help

No, I don't think you're overreacting at all. The thing I would do is maybe go to your school counselor and talk to them, or if you can, talk to a family member or family friend. It's important that you have an adult help you with this, because the results of abuse can turn fatal.

Good Luck

Jess♥

Q: who won the American idol?

The season isn't done for this season.

Jess♥

Q: heyyy i decided i wanted to make up a dance because well i'm bored haha. (i take dance so don't worry lol) but the problem is i have trouble remembering combinations. how can i get it better? (also reffering to remembering dances better in dance)

also what are some good songs to make dances to? either like lyrical, or hip hop-jazzish?

thankss

Well, I'm no dance expert, I'm just warning you. But some songs that get me on a roll, haha, are songs like:

-Lose Control by Ciara ft. Missy Elliot
-Get Up by Ciara
-1, 2 Step by Ciara
-Show Me The Money-Petey Pabloe
-Temperature by Sean Paul
-Break It Off by Rihanna ft. Sean Paul
-Beep by PCD
-Pump It by BEP

Anyways, when I took dance I had the same problem. What helped me is to just take it step by step and just focus in on what you're doing. It's hard at first, but the only thing you have to do seriously is work hard and concentrate. At least that's what worked for me. Now for you, something else may work better. But that's just my opinion. So, I hope I helped you somewhat.

Jess♥

Q: i love my boyfriend a lot and he loves me were doing really good. but i can tell my bf wants more he wants sex he has never forced me or anything. but he gets horny I can tell. I kinda want to do it too. But this would be my first time. Im just scarde because i think about the concequences. Like a baby.We always start kissing and when i know its too much i tell him to stop he doesnt get mad or anything he tells me he will wait until am ready.Im really happy he respects me. I love him and i want to make him happy what should i do.

Think about it. EVERYTHING. And then, if you think that it's the right time, then I think you should go ahead. But, just some things to consider:
-emotional consequences
-physical consequences
-Parental Units

So, after thinking and thinking, it's up to you. Because to be honest, every single person on this site could give you all the advice in the world, but it wouldn't matter, because we're not the ones taking the action, you know? I'm just telling you that it's a personal decision. But I don't mind answering :]

Jess♥

Q: Is it still weird that I play with Barbies? I'm 16 years old. But I just like to dress them and stuff...does any other girls my age still play with Barbies???? HELP!!

Nahh. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. It may not be the norm for any 16-year old, but no body said you had to be like everybody else. I think it's pretty good, considering what other 16-year-olds are out there doing right now. You go, giirl

Q: Ok.. So this guy wants me to go to his house after school.. should i go or not!

If you feel comfortable, go. But if he's someone that you've just met online, or he's a lot older than you, it's just common sense not to go because something dangerous could happen. But if he's just a guy from school, and you think everything would be okay, then go right ahead. But, I'd follow my gut instinct. It ususally turns out to be the right thing.

Jess♥

Q: ok bottom line..
im hanging out with 2 guys that like me. i dont like one more than the other so i dont know which one to hook up with. and the other problem is that those guys are good friends, so i don't want to break their relationship.
help is appreciated!!

Well, if you do want a relationship with one of them, go for it. (For that guy) But if you don't want to lose the friendship(s), you don't necessarily have to say yes to either of them/hook up with them, etc.

Jess♥

Q:

i know sperm dies when it touches air right? well what if my b/f masterbates and then goes to the restroom, and then comes back and fingers me? what will happen?

It's possible that you could get pregnant, if that's what you're worried about. But I don't think anything would really happen.

Jess♥

Q: what is the chance of getting pregnant with condomz?

Condoms are 98& effective.

Jess♥

Q: like is there anything to do by yourself to practice???

It sounds kind of overused, but I think it just comes naturally. I used to be worried about that kinda thing, and when the time finally came, I just went along with it and it got easier. I wouldn't worry.

Jess♥

Q: is it ok to swim with contacts in ?

Yep, you'll be fine. Just stating the obvious here, but don't open your eyes underwater. I don't think there's anything else you need to know. But also, if you jump or anything into the water, make sure your eyes are closed tight.

Jess♥

Q: Does anyone know any quick constipation remedies?

thanks

Anything with fiber. (Rasin Bran- ohh boy!)
And another one coyuld be to just use laxatives. (local drug store)

And, like ysgirl said, drink plenty of water.

Jess♥

bio

Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:

I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.

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