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my boyfriend wants to get in a bed with me what do i say/

Well do you want to or not? Are you ready? If you have ANY doubts about it, simply don't do it until you are 100% certain.
Never be afraid to tell your other half how you feel.
Pressured sex won't be a good memory.

my underarm hairs grow really fast and i have to shave them like every day or they will be stubble and you can notice the hairs because they're dark. i really dont mind shaving them often to be honest. i'm just curious if this is normal. is it normal to shave your underarm area every day to keep it smooth and hairless or am i weird?

Most people shave them every day. Bit of a pain really! Just make sure you don't do it dry - it's a place that's easy to become irritated.
Have you tried alternate methods of hair removal?

I've had a headache for 7 days now and it really sucks. At first it was like a migraine and it calmed down to just a hurting headache pain and now it's back to a migraine and I'm so sick. I don't know why I get headaches but having one for a whole week seems excessive to me. Is this normal to have a headache for more than just 1 day or 2 days? Should I just keep taking aspirin and hope it goes away soon enough?

It's not normal. When something persists without improving for over 3 days, you need to see a doctor as soon as possible. There's so many causes for what you've described, so you need a professional to pinpoint exactly what's going on and to give you the right medicine.
Make that appointment today!
Hope you feel better soon.

I dyed my hair red the other night and it was so pretty and beautiful and shined. I was happy with it. Well, when I wash my hair I can see a bunch of red coloring coming out and going down the drain. I even ruined a white towel because the dye was running out of my hair. My hair already losing that shine and the red color but my hair color was permanent. Why won't the hair dye stay in my hair? The color just won't hold at all apparently. Why? & I'm a natural brunette if that matters?

I have the same problem. I thought it was just the brand of dye, but they all did the same thing.
I spoke to my friend who works in a salon and she explained to me that dyes you buy from a store aren't concentrated enough - if you want lasting results, get it done professionally - they use better products.

So i need some freaking sweet music. I listen to pretty much anything, so any suggestions? Thanks guys!

The Rocket Summer

www.myspace.com/therocketsummer have a gander!

heyy!
i need some romantic new love songs to dedicate to my man.I want the music style to be similar to we the kings and avril lavigne and stuff like that ^.^
thanks

The Rocket Summer - "So Much Love", "Colors"

and pretty much most things by The Rocket Summer :)

I'm feeling a little bit pissed off at two of my friends (they're not like my best friends or anything, more like really good acquaintances). I had my b-day party yesterday and they thought it would be funny to "pie me" in the face...but they didnt just do a little whipped cream or whatever the two of them got me with **two** real pies. It was a total surprise and I didnt know what to think at the time but it was funny, although more than anything just a total shock. But I was totally covered in the stuff and now the shirt I was wearing is stained and it wont come out, that was like $30 and my jeans have stains on them too that won't come out and they were really expensive too. Besides I sat at my party, where i really wanted to look good, covered in bits of pie for like 2 more hours, I mean I cleaned up but it was way too messy to clean up totally... so I looked like crap of course!

So anyway should I be pissed off or just take it for what is was supposed to be, a joke/surprise? I mean I know they weren't trying to be mean, they just wanted to be funny. Like i said it was kinda funny even for me but now that its over it kind of sucks that I am left with stained clothes plus I looked like crap for most of my party.

Thanks - Kate

Some people just don't think things through properly - they might not have meant to stain your clothes - but in all honesty, it's a little too far. I'd be pretty annoyed as well. For that night, the limelight is supposed to be just on you.. and they ruined it a bit since you didn't feel comfortable covered in pie.. Saying that though, everyone is different - some people might not care at all and think it's hilarious. Since they're not close best mates, they perhaps didn't know you would react a bit pissed off?
Since it's been and gone, don't dwell on it, let them know it wasn't your ideal idea of a joke! Tell them in a light hearted way - try not to get pissy with them, because like I said, some people just don't think things through properly. Say something like "thanks for ruining my birthday outfit!" smiling as you say so.. but y'know, make it obvious you wouldn't want it to happen again!

As for your clothes, stain remover should help. Just let it soak over night with the solution directly on the stains. Taking it to a professional could be rather pricey, so try it yourself before you seek professional help.

Yes, I know, I'm a facebook stalker. I usually stalk one guy in particular though...I feel kind of guilty about it because I know all this unnecessary information about him and we aren't exactly close. Also, I don't know how this will affect any future friendship/relationship that we may have. Sometimes I actually talk to him on facebook, but I stalk him more often than I talk to him. I heard him say that people have better things to do than stalk him (in a different context in no way directed towards me) and that just made me think "crap.I'm pathetic?"

Should I be feeling badly about this. DO YOU facebook stalk? Exactly how common is this phenomena?

It's common - I know loads of people who do it. It's just going that little extra step to keep check on a crush for example. It's not exactly anything to be embarrassed about - just don't let it become an obsession. It's fine to check someones profile every now and then, but when you're rushing home from school/work, are late because you're checking his profile etc, it will become a problem ;)
Just tone it down a bit and remember, Facebook's just a bit of fun. Don't be so harsh on yourself over it.

I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

Thanks for the inbox question.

Hun, just come straight out and ask about it.
When you're in a relationship, you need to be clear with one another - don't ever be afraid to tell him something and don't hide your feelings when he's hurting you.
Don't beat around the bush, just say "someone told me about the Facebook group you made, I saw it and I'm not too happy about it"

I'm not sure whether he posted good or bad things on it, but either way, it's still not very nice of him to keep it a secret and act like nothing happened.

communication is key. If he still wants to lie about it and deny etc, perhaps you do need to reconsider your relationship, because if he can't be truthful to you, there's no trust. With no trust, there's no love.

Give him a chance to explain by letting him know you know what he posted and like I said, if he's still lying to you, I think you know the right thing to do.

Let me know how it all works out for you.

If you give head to a guy at a party while your boyfriend is not there does that mean you cheated on your boyfriend? Yeah, the guy was really hot but it's not like we had sex or anything. I didn't even let him finger me! My boyfriend is really pissed and won't talk to me now but I really can't see his reasoning or point of view. I've done this a few times before but I haven't told him about it and regret telling him this time. Do you think giving a blow job is REALLY cheating? I mean, come on...it's like...kissing...sort of...I don't see a problem.

Yes, it's cheating. You shouldn't be in a relationship right now if this is how you feel.
There's no point in stringing your boyfriend along while you're going out and getting intimate with others - you keep that for boyfriends only.

how do i make a free website for a web show

You can choose from a list of hosting sites:

If you don't want those, unfortunately, you'll have to pay.

Can I suggest something though, if you want to make a web show, do it on YouTube..? You'll be able to see how many viewers and get feedback, without wasting money on keeping the website up and running.. and if it's any good, you'll get millions of hits and fame ;) YouTube's probably the better option. :)

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

a guy i liked since the beginning of high school recently got a girlfriend. i used to think he was the cutest thing and now i just dont see it anymore. like i look at his pictures and i don't see the cutness i once saw. does this mean i'm getting over him even though i feel like i might fall for him again after i see him when school starts?

Seems that way. When people have a crush, they mostly get over them after a while.
Perhaps you just don't see him in the same way any more now he has a girlfriend. It's a good thing - Why waste your time thinking someone's cute when they have a partner anyway.. move on to someone who's single that could be a potential boyfriend for you.
Just a warning though, when school starts, you might get that niggle in the back of your head where some feelings might come back.. but it won't last long if you remind yourself he's old news and taken. :)

I lost my email account to a hacker and I wanted to get my account back since I used it for more than 10 years and have many contacts. Please give me some ideas how to get it back.

Is it hotmail? Contact them, or whoever provides your email account and explain your situation. It's happened to me a few years back, I lost all hope then they asked me a series of questions.. hey presto, I got back in to it.
Hope you'll be just as lucky.

i think it would be cute for me and my friends to decorate clear/colored shot glasses before college as like a good bye thing. does anyone know where i can get plain (cheap) shot glasses with no words on them? a store please, not a website!

thanks :)

Super markets sell them. I've even seen them in pound stores, just have a little look about.
Next time you're in a bar and you have shots, save the glasses, or ask a place if you can have them, I'm sure they have hundreds and won't miss a few.
Good luck. and nice idea!

I have been masturbating for the past year or so and but I've never really masturbated with something because I can't buy a dildo without my parents finding out. Well, I was thinking today about tampons and how they go inside you when you're on your period. Can I masturbate with a tampon? Is it dangerous to do something like that? I want to be safe so does anybody know anything about this before I try it out? And I mean using it to masturbate when you're NOT on your period.

& yes I've used tampons before during my period so I know how to put one in and everything.

It's not "dangerous" but I wouldn't really recommend it. Use something that's not made out of material, it could make you sore.

How do I write an email to Disney

These are previous answers which you should find helpful:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548417

Crap. I was going through my mom's drawers because she use to put money in there when I was a kid and I ran into this thing. I didn't know what it was at first so I picked it up and examined it.

It's her vibrator. It isn't like a dildo though so you can't blame me for not knowing what it was at first! But still! Eww!

What do I do? Should I tell her I found it? I feel weird around her now!

Lol, as you get older, you'll realize it's no big deal - many people have them.
No need to tell her you found it.. it's HER personal business, in HER personal drawer.

Keep it to yourself.. and if you're scared about what you'll find, don't go snooping ;)

is there anything in your underwear when you get your period????

...If you aren't wearing a pad or tampon, there will be blood..

what is about my future

Well, where is the question?
Feel free to private message me.

guys are always like "I LOVE P***Y" but like .. why? they dont get anything from it. but then again they like it. i doont get it

How are they not getting anything from it?! Have you ever heard of SEX?
It makes them feel good, it makes them feel good knowing the girls feeling good... there's plenty things they get from it, not just physically!

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